Due in August Thread Part 2

[Angel786]

So we've hit the limit on the previous thread so continuing here...

Welcome capecath if you send your stats, needles has kindly been perparing a list of all due dates, dd1/2/3 etc age

geekette hope you're feeling better? if it makes you laugh - (i chuckled) i saw a girl texting walk into a lapost this am (oops)!

Only 2.5 hours til my scan argh so nervous!

Nice one, Needles, yep DC2 due 15/08/12 and I am 29. DS1 is 17 months :) Been trying to get first midwife appointment but next available is only 23rd Feb!! Haha. So they're going to try find me an earlier appointment... who knows when I'll get my scan hmm... Didn't have this issue last time!

WelshLady - congrats!! Just seen your message now:) Yes it is great to be in touch with others in the same boat. Oh meant to add that we'll be at the Royal Infirmary in Edinburgh.

Welsh congrats on your engagement, so romantic!

vino you and I are having our scans on the same day! I haven't had a private scan with this DC, just going to wait till the 2nd Feb for scan at hospital. With DS I had a sneaky early scan at 8 weeks :)

Hope everyone is grand and doing well today.

Needles you must be chomping at the bit to see little one! I had a private scan at 6 weeks and one yesterday because of spotting and horrendous back pain. I can't wait to see little one again! Fingers crossed for us both :)

Am I being ridiculous and super-sensitive as pregnant?
Sorry this is really off the point

My sister is like a best friend, she is older, not had kids and unfortunately a few of her friends who have kids have acted selfishly and she has always picked up on their selfishness. However, since I have become pregnant, I have managed to upset her twice and she has tried to give me advice about eating and what I am feeling etc. I am happy for her thoughts. However, last night she was going on at me at eating things out of season and how much money I was spending on food as I am looking for fresh raspberries and blueberries etc. I don't know why I have to defend my choices as when you're pregnant you have to eat things that you can face rather than the things you might normally choose. It's getting a bit hard to talk to her as I am going through something she has not and we have less in common. I guess this is normal and all about moving into something new. Sad though as I value her as a friend but I guess I need to make new friends that have similar experiences.

Is anyone else finding a few friends or personal relationships harder? I think it might be just my hormones or just needing more support and understanding from those around me?

Sorry for a rant!

Glad to hear scans ar coming through - can't wait to hear about mine... might chase at the end of the week, if not heard x

From personal experience i have become much less tolerant of people and their opinions. Before I could just smile sweetly and let them have their say where as now I find that very difficult.
Only a woman who has experienced being pregnant would understand how they eat. A friend of mine was great when she was pregnant eating her 5 a day and what have you but im not interested unless it is stodgy and full of carbs. I can't remember the last time I ate a good meal of vegetables because I just can't face it and yes I do feel bad about that but there is just no way I could eat it, im sure you will know where im coming from. Why on earth should you have to defend how much you spend on food? To me that is ridiculous and nobody elses buisness.

Does your sister want children or has she just decided not to have them? She may just feel keen on sharing the experience with you if she has never been through it herself.

I hope you get your scan through soon! How far along are you now?

Hi vinolover
I'm just 10 weeks today and so impatient for a scan date!

Thanks for letting me know your thoughts on my dilemma, it really helps as it can feel like an uphill struggle at times

Oh I had not finished writing and managed to find a short cut key! must be careful of that one!

My sister is adamant she doesn't want kids, but I think this has come partly through leaving it quite late and her partner not wanting them. I think she means well but she seems to have a hang up on how other people spend their money and one of them is through food. Not sure if she wants to share my experience, as she seems to have been a bit frosty at times to me, which maybe me picking up on things that are not really there?!
I do feel more sensitive at the moment!

Ballinderrymum 32 DC2 08/08/2012

i've been for my scan and all is good - i am so relieved and excited!

i had such a barney with my friend when i was pregnant with DD - she was pregnant too with her DC2 and was freaking me out with her questions and why was i not going to spend the money on a moses basket when their arms could fall down the side of the cot blah blah blah (as it happened we got one only because my parents saw it a bootsale and bought it without asking me - she got annoyed that i then got one not because of the arms) another friend started telling me tmi about the labour, i was emotional and despite me asking her to stop she continued so i shouted at her in the middle of the office to just shut up and to learn when people didn't want to know things. Dont worry about it she will probably pass it off as 'your pregnant, you didn't mean it'

marmite once you get pregnant you have to grow a thicker skin. All the unwanted comments can be bordering on comical at how ridiculous they can be sometimes, and every Tom Dick and Harry wants to give their 2p worth.

Ignore them if you can... or be like me and just get into lots of rows

Oh, and it gets worse once the LO is born. Everyone has an opinion on feeding, changing, products, names etc etc etc

lovemarmite, you don't have to justify your food choices. I've been stocking up on covent garden soups and innocent smoothies in sainsburys this week as they are both half price and i really fancied them. I rarely buy the soups when not pregnant and certainly wouldn't buy innocent smoothies . I normally love salad leaves- (though am not virtuous as also love less healthy things like cakes and biscuits) , but guess what? can't stand salad leaves right now and not much interested in cakes or biscuits- can take or leave them right now. In fact last veg/salad thing i ate and enjoyed was a pea and leek side dish from Tescos finest range as part of a meal deal. I usually really like cooking- though won't cook every day but right now with the ms and tiredness am eating more convenience food which is costing more money.
I think pregnancy inevitably changes your relationship with those close to you. Your sister may also be wondering about the changes that are going to happen, especially if you are normally very close.
And i am certainly far more sensitive than usual right now.
As i've not told anyone yet (except DP) can't say how it will affect my friendships, though to be honest i am really hoping to make new friends in similar position as i think i will feel rather isolated otherwise.

agree with the unwanted comments! My mother was awful with my first but as i didn't live close to her i didn't have to hear it too often. My poor SIL gets in all the time as she and my brother live up the road and have 2 small kids. I defend her to the hilt when i'm there .

in fact dreading what Mum will say when she hears i'm pregnant- waiting until i have the all clear on baby being ok before i tackle that one.

blackcats i found when i had DD it was the best icebreaker with people - i made so many friends due to mums and tots groups, massage classes, preschool and now school, plus when they come along you have the best friend :)

ballinderrymum congrats on the scan!! great news.
oh and congrats to welshlady too!

Hey all
Think I was briefly on the previous thread.
My stats are: Loupee 26 BC1 due 3.8.2012 at the Royal Infirmary in Edinburgh
Hopefully be on more now, got my scan on Monday, hoping is will feel more real after that! Don't if anyone else feels the same way?

ah thanks ballinderry . Yes my dd and i were always so close, was just like having a friend along. Now she's all grown up and things are changing, we're still navigating those changes as she becomes an independent young woman. I felt so much younger than other mums with my first- the area we lived in generally had older first time mums, now i'll be the oldest (probably). However shall be positive as it is true its fairly easy to meet new mums if you make some effort, and luckily i look younger than i am so doubt my age will even be noticed.

Thanks everyone for your all thoughts - yeap, will have to develop a thicker skin now and seeing I've not yet got one, will have to do it soon!
Hmmm that's a whole new area - what will my mother say too! and the MIL who does definitely gets to me anyway... already had comments that I've left it too late, and they don't even know I am pregnant yet. I think if I get any abuse, I will just ignore them but I love your way of dealing with them needles and will row. :o

Congratulations on your scan today ballinderrymum
Great to hear!

You know what I'm fed up of? People TOUCHING my (lack of a) bump. Hello I'm 11 weeks I have not got one! It's not so much that I mind people putting their hands on my stomach, its more about people going OOH BUMP and me having to go OOH ITS MY PIE BABY, INDEFINITE GESTATION.

Hi Loupee! you are due the day after me in the city opposite ;)

hamncheese - oh dear the touching, I've not had this yet but have thought about this one already. I guess people mean well but I don't think I will like it. I think it's so personal and a special thing between me and my DH (it's my first, so if there were other DCs, then it would be special for them too). Not sure what can be done, apart from a big banner across saying Hands off!

I read somewhere some time ago that the Indian dress /sari's long fabric over the shoulder actually drapes over the bump to conceal the tummy area and so people cannot actually get to it. I might have to invest in one in a few months time if all goes well... failing that, look at what might work so that it's not on full show for hands!
Good luck with this too

hamncheese - just moved this side from Glasgow in October, not sure it was the best decision I made ;)
My sisters were commenting on my belly at the weekend, saying it might be twins. I was like, no I'm constipated, there's not much they could say to that!

Although you could always get something like this!
www.cafepress.com/evilgeniusstore.460560294

Hi, can I jump on?
Stats are
Glimpers (33) DC2 19/08/12 GWH Swindon.
Had booking appt last week and blood tests yesterday and got my home visit from the mw next Thursday. No scan date yet and am getting really impatient!!
Same here with the food thing, can't face chicken whereas pre-pg we had chicken 5 nights out of 7 have got a 'thing' for cereal at the moment though, and going through pints of milk

Evening all,

Just a wee self indugent one to let you all know that I had my (9 week check up) scan today and it was great. Could see tiny little arms and legs waving about!!! Was amazing. Also finally confirmed my nuchal scan is on 15th Feb and I'll be 13 weeks then. Really good to see other egg sack decreasing (though still sad about it) as well as blood clot getting smaller.

MyMIL has been the only person to have been a bit odd, but we think it's because she didn't want to get her hopes up in case the IVF didn't work. She wants NO details at all from the scans, only that they've gone ok. So that's what we'll do, but I have found it wierd. Hardly anything was said at Christmas when we were all together, but she clearly is interested in it all. Will take it all one step at a time. Nowt as queer as folk!! My mum, however, has already starting buying nappies...!

Off for macaroni and cheese from M&S. x

Could do with some advise, had a nine week scan but not been offered next scan till 20 weeks they have said can have abnormality blood test at 12/13 weeks thought would still get 12 week scan, seems so long till next scan.

congrats on all the lovely scan results x