Pregnancy post mc: Totally Grads Part 11!

[digitalgirl]

Welcoming all those pregnant after miscarriage who need hand-holding, a place to moan, share happy news or just lurk.

It will happen for us this time.

link to part 10

I know! Has it been over two years?? I think I started charting after my second mc. So pleased its going well for you. How is your eldest taking to the little brother? F is 11 weeks tomorrow and is such an easy going baby compared to his big brother, am loving every minute of it.

Yep, I think 2 years sounds about right.

My eldest is loving being a big brother but is showing some signs that he's 'adjusting' if you know what I mean. He's developed a nervous habit thing with his eyes and he's very emotional at the moment when he never has been before. It's been hard watching him struggle when he's always been such a steady, sensible child but we're just trying to be as patient as we can and are hoping it's a phase that he'll grow out of soon.

We've got a big party planned for his 5th b'day in a few weeks so
we're trying to get him involved in planning that as a distraction too.
Gah! Parenting is exhausting!

Seriously? 11 weeks? Where on earth has that time gone?!

Is there a grads thread? Cerys totally has her days and nights mixed up, yawn!! I am finding myself re- living her labour over and over for some reason it was all a whirl and I keep wondering If I did the wrong thing bit having a vbac

OK had my booking appointment for c section yesterday - it is on Monday and as you say Pie the anaesthetist terrified me, I am now so scared it is untrue! Baby is still breech which is why they are doing the section but as I have excess fluid going into labour naturally could be really dangerous as the cord could come out. Either way I am pretty terrified and would rather be asleep through the whole thing!! Pie - what happened to you and why did you end up with a normal birth?

Sorry if my post was confusing! I didn't end up with a VBAC but another EMCS! Stupid iPad predictive text!

I was booked in for a section on the 21st but went into labour in the early hours of the 18th at about midnight, 3am came round and they were getting very fast and painful so went to the hospital and they said I was fully dilated!! No wonder I was in agony!! If my waters had broken they said it would have to be a VBAC but thankfully they hadn't But they said it would Be much safer to deliver vaginally because the baby was already low down but was back to back so would have to be turned. I was in so much pain I really couldn't think straight, it was ten times more painful than with DS but they said that was because I had gone to fully dilated so quickly. I eventually got a spinal (oh the sweet relief) and taken into theatre where we went through the options. As I had had an awful forceps experience with DS Ending in EMCS I definitely wanted to avoid that again and they couldn't guarantee that they wouldn't have to use them, they were going to turn baby manually as she was back to back and see how that went but I said no so they agreed to do a section. It was a bit more sketchy though as they had to pull her back up because she was so low down!

When they showed us it was a girl we were in shock as had been convinced it was a boy the whole way through! Cerys Eilidh weighed 7lbs13.5oz at 38+4 compared to her brother who was 7lb 4.5oz at 40+5.

I totally forgot about the scary anaesthetist when I got in there though I think they isn't tell you all the really scary stuff because they had to, I just wish mine hadn't been so serious about it all. Thankfully the one that did my spinal was lovely and also quite cute!!

For some reason I never asked what to do if I went into labour before my planned section date and now I wish I had!

Don't worry confu3ed, you will be fine on Monday, I wish I hadn't fretted so much! X

Oh my goodness pie, that sounds like a very traumatic experience, and one that I fear given that with dd (who was back to back, with her head in a bad position, I was in so much pain) I went into labour naturally at 38+6, and my section is booked for 39 this time. I saw the counselling mw yesterday and finally got to see my notes (a labelling error was why they went AWOL!) and discovered that her discharge summary was wrong - it clearly states that she was brow presentation do that is what I always believed, but in fact whilst she was in a poor position (back to back, with her head to the side and her neck straight not flexed) had my pelvis been bigger I probably could have eventually delivered her naturally (after a 4 hour 2nd stage though I'd had enough!), so the use of a ventouse was justified, even though I'd said I didn't want it (interestingly my mw had recorded this but the medical staff hadn't ). Given my history of a quick, straightforward first stage (waters went just before midnight, fully dilated by 8am) the counsellor has said to carefully consider what I want if I go into labour before my section - she's under the impression that a well positioned baby could be born vaginally within a few hours. I am now terrified as I really don't want a vbac - they thought dd was well positioned until I'd been pushing for several hours, and I just can't go through that again . Luckily at the moment this baby is breech, but that could change. I have this massive fear that like you I'll labour quickly and get into hospital to be pressurised into it. You shouldn't regret your decision - in your shoes I think I'd have done the same, our situations sound very similar - traumatic first births have a huge effect I think, and back to back bloody hurts! Would you consider seeing a counsellor? I wish I'd done it sooner to be honest, but no one ever offered .

I look forward to your news on Monday confused . Less than a week to go, how exciting!

Wow Pie that sounds really traumatic, and a really fast progression. How is the recovery now as it sounds like you really went through it and pulling her back sounds painful! Did it just feel like pulling?

Glad that you forget all the scary stuff, but it does sound like you had loads going on. What I am scared of is that as I will not be in labour I will freak out when I have the epidural and in theatre as I am a big baby when it comes to these things. I needed diazepam to have a wisdom tooth removed! And the aneasthetist who looked about 18 said that he doesnt believe in giving any meds to calm you down...he has obviously not had a patient like me before!

Amandine fingers crossed your last till your section date, I literally had to fight to get mine before 39 weeks which seemed insane as they said that its dangerous for me to go into labour with the amount of fluid I have! My baby has been breech for a while now, did they offer to turn yours. I said no straight away to that as I have heard awful stories from friends and family where it ended in an emergency C section anyway after distressing both mother and baby.

She could well turn by herself, I think that breech isn't 'diagnosed' until 36 weeks. I want her to stay as she is though - a head under the ribs is a small price to pay for a guaranteed cs! I will definitely avoid all the recommended positions to get a baby to turn, I'm too scared to even sit on my ball even though it's so comfy

You know amandine I hadn't considered a counsellor before but it might be worth it. Our birth experiences sound very similar as DS was also back to back, 36hr labour, tried to turn him / pull him out with forceps 3 times but failed so EMCS. DS was really badly bruised and traumatised by the forceps, he hated anybody touching his head and cried all the time. I ended up taking him to see a cranial osteopath who was amazing and really worked wonders.

Am finding the recovery from this CS harder as have 2.6yr old DS as well so less able to just sit and do nothing! Cerys also hates her crib so have ended up having her in bed beside me half the night and I'm so scared about SIDS. I never had DS in with me at all but its all very different this time around.

I didn't feel them pulling her up during the CS but I've been googling (why oh why) about how bad it is if they have to do that, I really must stop it!

amandine can you push for an earlier CS date? I hadn't thought DD would come early as DS was late but if he had been born before 39 weeks I would have been concerned that no.2 would do the same. Do you live far from the hospital? I would make sure your wishes are clear on your birth notes and at the first sign of a contraction you phone and tell them you are on your way.

I did feel a bit pressurised to go down the VBAC route by the consultant but I kept reminding myself what happened to DS and also the pain I was in was really really scaring me, I was freaking out like a banshee from One Born Every Minute! They said the decision would be mine and that they could only make recommendations based on the current situation.

confu3ed some rescue remedy might help? I had that packed in my hospital bag as was also worried about going into theatre.

I can also recommend this book
www.amazon.co.uk/Caesarean-Birth-Positive-Approach-Preparation/dp/0956848001/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1340736967&sr=8-3

It's written in my notes that I don't want an instrumental delivery this time. They won't do a section before 39 weeks because of the risk of respiratory distress. Luckily I'm literally 5 minutes from the hospital (I could walk there if necessary!) if I get any signs.

That's a relief being so close! We are only 30 mins but I was screaming at DP to go through the red lights!!

Amandine - They re-scanned me at 37 weeks to see the position and as he is still breech they booked me in. The sonographer did say that although some turn it is unlikely the later on you are. My baby has been in a funny position for months...makes for an interesting bump though ;) I was also told that they would not do teh section before 39 weeks but as they had also told me that going into labour would be dangerous and I am likely to go into early labour due to excess fluid I managed to persuade them to do it at 38.5 weeks.

Pie thank you for the rescue remedy tip, will be giving that a go. Also someone mentioned arnica tablets to assist healing, were you told to take them? I bet it is hard relaxing with a small child. I am worried about my DD but she is almost 13! Not so much that I have to do things for her anymore but she is a teenager and they are a constant mental stress as she deliberately winds me up lots! I am hoping that the baby will keep her occupied and she will want to help but I guess we will have to wait and see. How are you feeling now?

I have been taking arnica tablets, I mentioned this at this hospital and to community midwives and they said that it would help. I'm not taking the painkillers any more, the only time I really feel it is at night when I have to get up to feed. Cerys is still refusing to sleep in her crib and will only sleep next to me in our bed, I don't have a huge problem with it but it does worry me! She sleeps really well there though and will do a 5hr stretch but it does mean DP and I end up sharing half the bed as she has the other half. I am really anxious about bed sharing though and would rather I didn't do it but it's that or risk her waking up DS with her crying in the crib. We have tried all sorts like making a sheet out of my nightie, putting a hot water bottle in it etc but to no avail so far! Am i stressing too much about it and should just let her sleep there for the next few weeks?

confused I saw my mw this morning, the baby is still breech (a head under the ribs is a joy isn't it? ) but she said that as I'm booked in for a section anyway they won't scan me again to confirm it. I was hoping for a bonus one! Enjoy your last weekend of relative freedom !

Pie I can't really advise about bed sharing sorry...we were really lucky with dd, she was mostly pretty good at settling in her crib.

Hello Ladies, hope everyone is well, and that confused is cuddling her brand new baby now!

Had my 28 week appointment today, all seems to be well. My blood pressure was a little high at 23 weeks, but it was only 100/60 today. I think it was rushing around, having to walk a mile to the appointment last time that did it. Baby is head down now- I thought it was, as I've been feeling a lot of kicks under my ribs on the right side. I measured bang-on for dates today, so next time some 'well-meaning' person at work tells me how huge I am, I can gladly tell them that according to my midwife, I'm a normal example of a woman at 28 weeks pregnant, and not some freak of nature.

Got a physio appointment for my SPD tomorrow, it's a group session, so not exactly sure what it'll entail. On Saturday, my midwife is coming to my house to go through my forms for home birth. Last time, the midwife didn't do that until 34 weeks, so I was surprised that this one (a different midwife) wants to do it at 29 weeks. She must just be super-organised!

Monday 2nd July

Confu3ed - baby #2, 38+5 EDD 12th July - waiting for info!
abbypumpkin - baby #2, 36+3 EDD 28th July
Lollopybear - baby boy, 32+3 EDD 12 August
AmandinePoulain - baby girl - 32 Weeks
Loup23 - baby #1 - 31+2 EDD 1 September
Moominsummermadness 28+4 EDD 20th September.
funchum8am - 28+4 weeks, EDD 20th Sept

All these gorgeous babies have arrived in the last year! Huge congratulations to:
urbanlolly - with daughter born Tuesday 19th July, 8lb 3oz.
Nickster - with son Corey born Tuesday 2nd August
Tiggersreturn - with sons born Saturday 13th August, 5lb 2oz and 3lb 13oz
Owlbooty - With son Robin born 18th August 8lb 13oz
PrettyVacant - baby girl born Tuesday 23rd August
OrangeGloss ? with son, Huw born Thursday 1st September
Wombat - baby born Sunday 11th September
Emoo - baby girl born 13 September
PinkFondantFancy - with daughter Persephone Amelia, born 16 September
ALovelyBunchofCoconuts - with son Thomas James, born 22nd September 8lb 12 oz
MamaPower - with daughter, born 24th September
Daisybell - with daughter Philippa Alice, born 26th September
Velvetcu ? with daughter Eva Lily, born 18th October
Tunnocksteacake ? with daughter Esther Joy, born 19th October
Hotnspicyonions - with son Max Lewis, born 28th October
Hils74 with son Archie Dylan, born born 28th October
MummyAbroad - with son Max, born 1st November
IreneHeron - with son Joe, born 3rd November.
Katherine2008 - with son Teddy, born 5th November
CEP - with son Alexander George, born 10th November
Collie with son Isaac Thomas, born 21 November 8lb 7oz
LaraMi - details TBC
Wombatinwaiting - with son Jack Albert born 29th November 8lb 8oz
Izzy - with daughter Catherine Hope, born 4th December
Bigmacandhappymeal - with daughter, born 5th December 7lb 11ozs
Dooscooby - with daughter, born 16th December
Freezingmyarseoff - with son Charlie Thomas, born 18th December 4lb 12oz
Minnie74 -with son Max Gabriel George, born 19th December 7lb 14oz
Blackkat - with daughter, born 20th December, 8lb 10 oz
Sunchild77 - with daughter, born 30th Dec, 8lb 12 oz
Harassedandherbug - baby #4 details TBC
Milkyways - with son born on 9th January, 6lbs 5 oz
Youremindmeofthebabe - son born on 19th January 8lb 2oz
Laylasmummy -Son, Jacob, born on 21st Jan, 7 lb 3.5 oz
Hairy - daughter, Matilda Erin (Tilly) born 4.32am 22 January 2012
Purpletoes - son, Eoin Laurence, born 15th Feb, 7lbs 5oz
Stitchinline - daughter, Alice, born Friday 2 March 2012 weighing 7lb 10oz
Biscuitsandtea - son, Ethan Thomas, born 8th March 2012, weighing 8 lbs 4 oz.
Shellshock7 - son, Harrison Matthew, born 16th March, weighing 8lb 8.5oz
LAF - son, Maxwell Andrew, born 22nd March, weighing 9lbs 8 oz
LILI80 - son, Aiden James, born 2 April, weighing 8lbs 8oz
DigitalGirl - son, Franco, born 9 April, weighing 8lbs 12oz
KatAndKit - Son, Max, Born 14 April, weighing 8lb
Dachs - Daughter, Camellia born 16th April, weighing 7lb 7oz
LadyMaybe - daughter, Rosalind Eliza, born Sunday 22nd April, weighing 7lb 8oz
googietheegg #1 GIRL, 7lb 7oz, 11.05.12 (39+2)
KnitterNotTwitter - girl, Caroline Elizabeth, born 19th May, weighing 10lb 3oz
mousebacon - boy, Oliver, born 8th June
LimeFlower-son, 7th June, weighing 7lb 11oz
Twittwooo- daughter, Edith born 13th June, weighing 9lb 1.5oz
Piemistress- daughter, Cerys born 18th June

In our thoughts and prayers:
Louise whose daughter Georgie was born asleep on 10th October
Dachs whose babies Alexander and Felicia who left the world asleep on 21st May
Magic8ballhastheanswers who leaves behind her beautiful little girl, the spiderbabies and DH. Blessed are those of us that had the privilege of knowing you.

We share the pain and and mourn the loss with:
Cheepz, MsJL and Boodleboot

Just popping on to say hope today went well confu3ed and you weren't too nervous beforehand, hope you are cuddled up with babba and some tea and toast x

Just to quickly let you know ladies that things haven't worked out this time. We had a scan last week which confirmed a mmc. It was twins too, but one had barely developed. Had an erpc today and currently feel o.k.

Onwards and upwards, I suppose.

So sorry Daisy. Thinking of you. xx

just popping in to say that Sebastian Jude was born yesterday under c section weighing 6lbs 1oz. He is laying next to me now. 3years of ttc 2 miscarriages and finally i have my happy ending :0)
The birth was pretty traumatic but no matter now.

daisy so sorry to hear your sad news, please look after yourself, hugs xx

confu3ed congratulations on the arrival of Sebastian! I take it the planned section didnt go too smoothly? Let us know (when you feel up to it!) x

Congratulations confused , enjoy the cuddles!

I am pooped. I did my last full shift on Monday night and I'm still getting over it I think! And I'm sick of this rain!

Congratulations confused! Glad to hear your news.

amandine, bet you're relieved to have done your last full shift. when do you finish altogether? I've come home from work- spd is terrible at the moment. group physio wasn't brilliant, was just given advice that i already knew! i have to give it 2 weeks of trying the exercises etc, then if still in a lot of pain, will be allowed to phone for a one to one session. the woman stressed that resources are limited, so can only have more help if strictly necessary. i understand this, but i will now feel guilty if i do have to call them! Dd3 is off with a sick bug today, so i'm not going to get any rest!