please help. 5 wks pregnant-not planned. dp and i v v v confused...

[shatteredmumsrus]

to cut a long story shoer we have 2 boys aged 7 and 11. i have PCOS and have been on microgygon since second son was born. periods have been erratic lately and i started feeling symptons like with my 1st 2 pregnancies and so did a test which confirmed my fears. went to doctor that said it happens whilst on the pill! dp says it s unplanned we dont have to go thru with it which i agree with. there are many factors that suggest it is a bad idea for us. kids are settled and have their own room. when it is born our eldest will be starting secondary school, just moved house, moneys tight etc etc. but its soooo hard. it is our baby living inside me (only just granted -i know it is very early stages)Got an apt at BPAS today to go through abortion etc. both dp and i want to make the right decision for everybody. any advice. im 33 and he is 37. this is also a factor. he said by the time our youngest is 20 we are still young enough to enjoy it and do what we want to do. He said he would not have the same energy for this one...advice please

ths Imps xxxxx

Hi Shattered. Have been thinking about you over the last few days. How are you feeling? Have you been able to have some closure and move on to focus on your family.

A very kind doctor told me that from this experience women gain wisdom and compassion.

You made the right decision for you and for your family. A counsellor I saw said it was important to think about the whole family unit in these decisions and that's what you have done.

Hoping every day is moving you more and more towards peace and acceptance.
Cyber hug.

• have good days and bad days. Yesterday was good,thursday was crap. Todays good too. Spending a lot of time with family and dps been great. We will get there xx

Hi shattered, I've been reading this and thinking of you but didn't post before for fear of saying something stupid and upsetting you. I'm glad that you managed to come to the decision thats best for you and your family. It must be hard now because its still so raw but you know that you did what you had to do for the sake of your children, dp and yourself. I hope that will be a comfort to you as time goes on. Be kind to yourself xx