Pregnancy post mc: Totally Grads Part 10!

[CollieandPup]

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Morning!

Thank you for the birthday wishes . Have been spoilt already! My mum got me the Cath Kidston bag I was after which is big enough for nappies too, and dh & dd got me one of daylight waking up lamps. It comes on very gradually starting about 30 mins before you need to get up. I'd told him not to get me anything!!

Blackkat I'm with you on the comments. I'm measuring big, and bump is all out front. I literally look like I have a ball shoved up my top! I don't mind my friends and family commenting, but the complete bloody stranger at an afternoon tea party yesterday was a bit rich. I came out of there steaming! She was all snooty too...... Funny how being pregnant gives people a licence to be rude .

Can't remember who asked why I can't use Arlo as a name, but it's because dh hates it! Mind you I hate his favourite. Ronnie Kray, Corbett Mitchell......

daisy you have to try the ice & music just for the picture!! But some clary sage oil would probably be good too lol.

cep glad things are calming down a bit at home, roll on ml! When do you finish?

Morning all!

harassed HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! . Gifts sound lovely! how are you today and what did you decided re GP? Hope you're ok. And yes, getting heartburn off chocolate definitely sucks!! I think I'd cry if I couldn't eat chocolate!

yrmotb how was DHs newborn suggles?! I'm v too! A little part if me is every time someone on here announces their babies arrival! But of course it's only a small part compared to the joy I feel for them! I know our time will come but sometimes I wish it would hurry up!!!

Yay to milky for adding self to list, although I'm considering banishing you now you've told me you've only gained 500g!!!

Quick phone the fire brigade...... that number of candles is a positive hazard!!

Oooh went to an engagement do yesterday afternoon, and it was afternoon tea. Well just cake, cake and more cake. It was like heaven on a plate...... I probably put on several kgs just yesterday .

collie have you tried a nice warm bath before bed? Maybe you need to get yourself a bed time routine, like babies, so that your body knows it's bed time. Are you physically comfortable? I know I'm waking due to hips/pelvis, but not much more I can do tbh.

No decision about doc, the appointment isn't until later though. I do have consultant next Tuesday, so seriously thinking of holding on until then tbh.... Can consultants sign you off?? I'm assuming so.

milky baby will take what it needs from you, so it's you that will suffer. Are you taking vits?? Was mw bothered?

Ohhh Afternoon tea engagement party..... How civilised! And yumm!!!

Baths are out as our bathroom is STILL under construction and proving a pain in the arse Part of the drain connection has cracked so we are waiting for a replacement part. It's a roll top bath that sits completely on the floor so getting under it to plumb it in is proving a nightmare for DH and he is too stubborn to calloput a plumber and admit defeat

I probably should get into a routine, although generally I've been quite regular as I'm ready for bed after 9.30 so usually go up about 10- last night was later though as I got held up at Mums and I have realised I had 2 caffeine teas which I wouldn't normally have as it's decaf only at home. It's just odd that i get to sleep, but then wake up and struggle! I was definitely uncomfotabe last night- that seems to vary but overall yes I'm not comfy. We've just bought a memory foam mattress but I'm not sure how better it is yet. And Pup just wakes up every time I do and it feels like he's having a breakdancing competition, which doesn't help much! I'm just going to have to sleep as much as I can now while I'm off, so if I'm still not sleeping I can at least get through the days when I go back to work.

I would have thought consultant coud sign you off, are you feeling up to going in this week?

What the ladies on the spd thread recommend is duvet under the sheet. We have memory foam mattress too, and I'm not convinced it's ideal for sore hips. Bug also wakes up every time I move!!! I'd love my old knackered "roll together" mattress back tbh.

Clipper do a tea designed to help you sleep . Might be worth a try.

The bathroom saga sounds like a nightmare!!

I'm not too bad today, but have slept loads over the weekend due to a bad headache. Will see how I go........ I can always self cert if necessary, but would feel better if signed off. A bit like you really! How much longer are you signed off for?

You know I think I have a box if that tea stuffed at the back of a cupboard. Do you think it's ok to drink- read mixed things about herbals.

Bathroom is nightmare but we are nearly there. I suppose its price you pay when you are too cheap to pay someone to do it DIY!

You're headache sounds awful! Gone today though? I know what you mean about wanting to be signed off. I've had the odd single day self certified as sick, and some wfh days, but just felt I needed a professional to say be off for anything more than a day or so. I've never been off for more than the odd day, or had a sick note before. My sick note (or fit note) is until a week on weds, but I'm debating going in next Monday depending on how I feel and am sleeping. I don't know why I feel the need to get back in. Why do we put work over ourselves all the time?!! I wouldn't mind but the place is falling apart at the seams and won't even be there when I've finished my mat leave so I don't know who I'm trying to impress and why I'm bothering!!!

i'm wading in with a haddock here... collie you must not go back to work before you are meant to . You have been signed off for a reason young lady and must recoup some energy ! The doc would also be cross if you went back and I think technically your work isn't supposed to let you back if you've been signed off.

You may now have some birthday cake :)

Sleeping is still not great for me but thanks for asking collie. I seem to wake up every time I move (I'm weeing less in the night now) and it's getting back to sleep that's the nightmare rather than dropping off in the first place. Also, like the pup the happymeal is having some kind of party at 2am and 5amish. This was OK when s/he was smaller but now there is less room I'm getting woken up by it.

We stayed just outside of Padstow. Watergate is lovely...

The work thing - all tied up with self-esteem? Mine is - it's been a big part of my life and I need to feel important (pathetic isn't it) and that i'll be missed!

harrassed hope that headache shifts ASAP

bigmac do you think you could be my identical twin separated at birth????

You could be right about the work thing. Work has been very important to me and I've worked hard to get where I am. I'm also a little but obsessive about my work.... Don't really tryst anyone else to do it properly.... which is absurd as there are plenty of competent people, I'm just a bit of a control freak! I think I also care way tooooo much about what people think, less about feeling important, more more about having a good reputation

The kicks are soooo much stronger now aren't they? Sometimes they take my breath away!

Ooh birthday cake

Quick update from this morning's appointment - no sweep as her head was still not engaged. She is engaging (after walks etc) but pops back out again. My anxiety levels are through the roof, and her movements are bordering on the lowest acceptable levels so they've booked me a consultant's appointment tomorrow afternoon and feel that they'll probably try and start me off.

I know its not how I planned it happening (waterbirth in my lovely MLU) but I just want her here now. I know its probably the anxiety talking, but I can't help feeling that there may be something wrong causing her to be so quiet, and I just want it over with now.

Will keep you all updated!

Hi ladies
Thanks for the new thread collie and what a great start to have such lovely news from pink. daisy hope you're doing ok and that you don't have much more time waiting.

harassed happy bday! I'm a December gal so might end up sharing mine with mini scoobs!

Well, I actually managed two nights good sleep over the weekend, not uninterrupted but I managed to get back to sleep both times so feel almost human again. Working from home today too which is nice. Generally baby is getting very ambitious with it's movements although yest and today it seemed to turn very sleepy-just the odd squirm or soft movement in response to concerned prodding from M&d! I generally prefer the acrobatics as I've got used to it and find it reassuring.

Think we might actually brave buying something for the little one this weekend, this will be the first ever purchase....eek!

Great to see milky and Layla on the list. Glad you had a great holiday bigmac hope that being back isn't too depressing-I really missed being with Dh when we got back!

Cross posts daisy- sorry to hear you're understandably feeling very anxious. I'm glad you got checked out today and it sounds like you'll be with little one very, very soon. What are you doing this aft/eve? Do you have any company for some distraction? Wishing you all the best and can't wait to hear your news x

daisy a super ((hug)) for you. Completely understand your anxiety and also that you just want her here... in a few days time you won't even think about this last week and how it's been. And you can't beat yourself up about the type of birth you have, all any of us can do is make a wishlist and then roll with what comes... we'll all be thinking of you and excitedly waiting for news xx

collie yes, there does seem to be a separated at birth thing going on here! You're right about the reputation thing, I also want to be perceived well by colleagues and am with you on the control freak front :)

I think with colleagues the majority don't give a hoot about what any of us are up to now and especially so when 'normally' we are massively high achievers . Unless they are total wankers they will all want what's best for us and the wee ones and to just get through their own working days.

Breath away is right. It's still good though isn't it :) I've also had some uncomfortable head or bum pokes (I assume) out of the side of my abdomen which made me go cross-eyed and get a bit weirded out. geesh.

Thank you so much - massive ((hugs)) all round xxx

Am fine this afternoon, feel much better now something's actually being done, and am working through a list of jobs to get done before tomorrow's appointment. And had better pack my bags properly too

daisy can understand you being so anxious. hope consultant will be helpful tomorrow.

daisy the low movements must be hugely worrying and your anxiety is totally understandable. As bigmac says we can only do our best with the birth and if daisybean is not cooperating and there as risk of leaving her in until she's ready then a supported delivery is the best thing. The whole point is to have a happy healthy baby at this journey, and I think sometimes people get too hung up on the birth and what we are told it should be like how it goes, when actually it's just one more step to the real goal.

Good luck tomorrow, do you think they'll do anything there and then?

oh Daisy sorry you're feeling stressed but I'm glad that you are getting things sorted. As you say, the type of birth doesn't really matter, just think about all those Daisybean snuggles you'll be having soon.

mac and collie I know what you mean about not trusting other people to do your work properly, I'm still going in 3 days a week even though I'm signed off and am sending emails etc constantly. They arent supposed to let you in work if your signed off for insurance reasons (so I've been sneaking in the back door :)) I'm not sleeping either.

izzy and harassed I love all of the names you have chosen, boo to DHs for vetoing some - who do they think they are!

Blackkat people are sooooo annoying with their bump touching and size comments!

milky and laylas congrats for getting on the list.

Scooby happy shopping :) 'tis a very scary step!

I've got another growth scan this afternoon so fx she has grown by an acceptable amount over the past 2 weeks.

helloooo to everyone I've missed!

daisy sorry it's not quite following Plan A and daisybean's not cooperating, but most important thing is getting her here safely and in a few days you won't care about how she got out. Best of luck with the appt tomorrow, hope all goes well and you're having newborn snuggles before long

velvet good luck with the scan - someone needs to tell these pesky babies to play ball a bit before one of us has a heart attack!

collie thanks for posting on my thread (and thanks to everyone who's commented here) still seems to be no general consensus so maybe we'll just have to see what suits on the day. At least we have some girls names we like - boys are proving trickier!

And you and harassed (happy birthday btw!) make sure you don't rush back to work - no one will thank you for it and it's not the most important thing right now!

Happy birthday harassed! I hope you are being spooky rotten and waited on hand and foot!

daisy Please don't get too bogged down in birth details. It sounds like you are approaching it in a very flexible way, and obviously baby's safety is the most important thing. Even if you had gone into labour naturally there is no guarantee that you would have got the natural midwife led that you wished for. And the end is nearly in sight! How excellent.

Wave to everyone. On phone so no massive catch up

DAisy huge hugs and lots of luck being wished your way. Please don't stress, you have to just let things flow from now on. Concentrate on the end result, a beautiful baby. It won't be long now.

I am posting now in a relatively normal state after a hellish couple of nights. DS has had a nasty bug and a really high temperature and he'll only let me look after him in those situations despite DH being great and offering to sleep on the floor by his bed. DS in the end was in with me who was having to administer sips of water every couple of minutes and getting pushed gradually out of the bed as a very hot little boy tried to snuggle up to me. Thankfully he's a little better today and hopefully tonight will be better still but we've spent today watching cbeebies and I managed to sleep beside him on and off all day.

Got my first antinatal class tomorrow, a kind of labour workshop. NHS not NCT. Can't believe it is only 5 weeks to go, bring it on!

Ooh, happy birthday Harassed, nice sounding pressies.

blackkat I was at a wedding on Saturday and was told by a lady "I've just found out you're pregnant, no wonder you look so knackered!". And there was me thinking I had done quite a good job on my make-up!! Agree with harrassed, I don't know why people think it's okay to be rude to pregnant women!

Happy Birthday harrassed sounds like you are being spoiled, deservedly so! I was taking pregnacare, but haven't had time to order the next batch yet. I am still taking Vitamin D though. The MW looked a bit concerned, and told me to start snacking if I don't feel up to eating a proper meal. I'm managing one meal a day at the moment, so I'm trying to increase this. My uterus is well above my belly button, so she wasn't concerned about that.

collie Don't worry, I have another 15 weeks or so to put the weight on! I've eaten quite alot today, just hoping I don't get a heartburn attack tonight now! Sorry about your lack of sleep - I started drinking horlicks after a warm bath towards the end of pregnancy with my DD. But I didn't have this pelvis and back pain then!

velvet hope the scan went well!

I had my penultimate session with my miscarriage counsellor today. I think I have come a long way over the past few months with her. I can finally sort of accept that I'm having a baby!

Is anyone else having weird nightmares? I am having really strange nightmares about assassins trying to hunt me down, and I have to be on the run all the time. It's like I'm in a movie about Russian spies or something! Infact, I watched Spooks today on Iplayer, and I realised how similar my dreams are to that!

Milky I hear you. I've had nobody patting my bump or anything like that this time, but everyone and I mean everyone says how tired I look and how they're worrying about me. I think I've aged 10 years.

No weird nightmares by the way, but really vivid dreams. I think it is because I never get a deep sleep because I'm turning over all the time due to pelvis and leg ache. Thankfully on that front DS didn't wake at all last night for the first time in weeks so had a relatively good sleep. Only my own aching body to contend with.

milky I'm having lots of strange dreams too - all spy/lara croft type dreams. In some of them, the bad guys are trying to steal my baby!

Irene glad you got some sleep at last

Scan was all good - miniV has put on 1lb 8oz in 2 weeks! I didn't think that was possible. All measurements now "normal" except for fundal height so ultrasound woman said I'm obviously hiding her somewhere. I just hope she doesnt continue to put on weight at that rate now!

Morning all

Hope all are well? Glad you got a good night sleep irene as it makes such a difference.

velvet how did you get on yesterday? I've got a haddock with your name on it for going back to work when you are not supposed to but am giving you special dispensation. For now...

milky I'm so glad you've found the counselling productive. Like irene i'm dreaming vividly but not necessarily having nightmares. And what a cow at your wedding. Telling anyone they look knackered is a really low thing to do, let alone when you're up the duff. I'm sure you looked lovely.

I'm feeling really blue today. A mixture of hormones, too much to do and grim things to do at work and feeling a bit under the weather. I fear that this may end in tears and snot bubbles later.

Good news is that MrB is not being made redundant and can work in London. A massive relief but means that he will be out of the house from 7-7 each day which is very different to what we've been used to for ages (we car share into work as we work in the same town and get to have a good natter on the way home). I'm a cancerian so fear change, especially to my shell home environment :) So, he continues to look for another job...

Onto nicer things... owl, pink, wombat and the other recently popped ladies - if you're lurking, how are you and the little one's doing?

x-posts, great news velvet! And here is a with a haddock for working when you shouldn't be :)