Pregnancy post mc: Totally's grads continued part 7

[StickThemWithThePointyEnd]

New fred!

did the super moon bring any babies last night?

Thanks Loopy I'll have a look at those

Yep- apologies for thread killing.

tis ok :o

I just didn't think you'd like to have me whinging anymore, especially because I whinged enough on the bookface already.

winge away, what was I like in the last few days?

loopy I'll be checking out those wraps too...I get the feeling this little one will be permanently in a sling this summer as I run around after DS!

ivy...whinging is as expected at the end of pregnancy as freakouts are in the beginning! Please please come and whinge away...we'll all be doing the same when we get to term!

lia how are you settling into life with a newborn again?! Hope you're enjoying it, and she's mostly behaving herself.

Welcome eggy and emz, lovely to see you here. Tis a great place to share this journey.

I love that you have a spreadsheet for your holiday packing tunnocks!! Am slightly of your clearly organised brain...I always wish I was, but never quite manage to achieve it!

I had a bit of a teary day yesterday... DH asked if I ever thought that we could've had a four month old baby now cue lots of tears from me. Bless him. He doesn't speak about it much, so was actually kinda nice to hear that he does still think about it. We found out at the 12 week scan last year at the end of May, so it's been playing on my mind that it's coming up to a year. At least I know he'll understand if I get a bit teary again when it comes up.

All better today, sun is shining, DS in a great mood... only 5 weeks left of work, with most of the weeks taken up with bank holidays or annual leave...so life is really pretty good

Hope everyone else enjoyed the weekend... always goes quiet on here at the weekends!

Northern I really like my Calin bleu, it's very light and cool. I'm looking for a second wrap to give me more options and am following Loopy's advice (thanks) on my own thread on the matter. I will say that I got black thinking it would go with everything and wish I'd gone for something lighter, but that's just a personal thing.

Hello all... I am lying on the floor trying to make the activity mat even more entertaining... how my Monday mornings have changed!

What another beautiful day :) Amazing how the sun shining makes everything seem better.

ivy hope you ok today, no matter what, not long now.

apples :) at 5 wks laft at work. I need a job, something I can do from home that fits round 6 kids... . I make nappy cakes for baby gifts but can't afford to advertise so not really going anywhere with that. Catch 22 really. Ho hum.

tmt :) at you and activity mat.

I have a moby in red, I get on with it, and I know it'lll last for ages. I got red so it would ust look jolly.

loops we are doing well, lady P has her restless time and cluster feeding in the mornings so not completely ideal as it means I'm tied to the sofa until about 11 ish. Will be more managable when kids back at school next week cos when I've dropped last one at half 9, it means I've got until 12.30 free to just concentrate on her. Looking forward to that.

Dh keeps saying to me, no more babies, I wish he'd shut up. :( I promised when we tried for this one it would be our last, he was slightly less enthusiastic than me to start with. I did promise, I feel differently now, I really though I would feel finished when I'd had this one but I don't. However, I promised so I must stick to it. I feel very sad about it though and can't think about it without crying at the moment so him kleep going on abpout it doesn't help. I have to get to that point in my own time, him repeating himself won't help.

Same goes for the birth, I need to come to terms with it in my time, I am working on the don't think/talk about it and in time it will become a distant memory that doesn't matter so much. (I hope).

Have good day all, my 5 minutes peace is shattered, Lady P sqwaking (sp) from sitting room. :)

fecking full moon, no baby, but a toddler who didn't want to sleep all night.
A MIL who has invited herself round today but not given a time (I can't be arsed to tidy the house, but the kitchen is a right state)
A stupid, rude bitch customer on ebay
Heartburn.

It's going to be a fan-fucking-tastic day.

ivy would mil be up for taking said probably tired and grumpy adorable grandchild out for an hour while you relax? Or get her started on the kitchen ?

Morning all x

Just a bit of a slight eek from me. So am 38 weeks today, and had a mw appt on Friday and it appears Mini Cliq is still not engaged - which concerned the mw as, and I quote, "that feels like a very bulky baby and you're not a very big lady".

I've been instructed to spend the week crawling back and forth (always nice wheen you've not actually finished for maternity leave yet) and she's going to see me again next Monday - if the baby still isn't engaged, then I have to be referred to the consultant for a scan and to "discuss options". Eeeeeeeek.

x

oh that would be lovely. can't see her agreeing to scrubbing my kitchen, though (it's actually only a "load" of washing up, probably the same amount a normal family generates in a day - 4 plates, a bunch of glasses, 2 trays and a pan), but it seems like a massive mountain to climb.

DS is actually being rather cheerful, it's me who is grumpy, tearful and tired. you know they say that animals look for a dark place somewhere to curl up in and give birth undisturbed? I need one of those right now. not even necessarily to give birth in, just to hide until my head is in a better place...

oh ivy what a rubbish start to the week. I agree with lia...get her fulfilling those grandmother duties! Do you have any chocolate to hand?? Sounds like you need some. I hope your day picks up.

and you're still working at 38 weeks viv! You're a braver lady than I! I work from home and thought 37 weeks was doing well Hope baby engages before next week, they do like to keep us on our toes these little ones don't they!

lia I manage a website...kinda fell into it not long before I got pregnant with DS. Has been wonderful as I work from home and just have to fit my hours whenever I can, and therefore no need for a childminder/nursery etc. Although is a lot harder now, and I will be getting childcare when I go back next year. I hope you manage to find something that suits.... and I feel for you with DH saying "no more babies". It's not what you need to hear right now. I hope you're doing okay.

DS is playing in the garden this morning so I'm busy playing on mumsnet working!

viv is this your 1st baby?

ivy very true about needing a safe place to birth. I couldn't labour until my dh and dd sorted out their issues. Seriously if she will take ds out for you, you could curl up somewhere, have a little cry, and just doze or watch crap tv.

but she wants to come over so we can listen to her whinge about her life.

god, I'm even annoying myself.

oh ivy! I do not envy you in the slightest!!

ivy oh dear. Feel for you lovey. Fake a bad headache, say "im just gonna pop upstairs and lie down for half an hour", (choc and trashy mag in pocket) then bugger off upstairs and leave her to entertain ds, (or he with her and cbbebbies)

viv I see not your 1st, this is when mw annoy us as doulas, (you have this to come ivy) when they genaralise with their "oh thats a big head etc etc" they are guessing, Ok they are making an educated guess, but they are still estimating by feeling. 2nd and subsequent babies often pop in and out of the pelvis. When I had my sweep on the Tuesday, mw said, not at all favourable although head is 3/5th engaged, doesn't feel free so can't see it coming out of pelvis. Cue labour on th thurs night, baby completely free and not at all engaged, so free that when my waters went I had to lie down as they were concerned about prolse and had to scan me to find position of baby she was so high in the uterus. Please try not to feel alarnmed and take whet she says with a pinch of salt to a certain extent. (obviously if you have had previous concerns about pelvis size etc, or had trouble birthing ds(?) then that would be different.

hth. x

lia - it is my first!

I think she's concerned as I've been on the top percentile for growth all along - and when we had the 20 week scan, the baby was measuring as though he/she was 22 weeks, so I think everything combined has made her cautious.

As you know, my sis is also a midwife and she had a good feel on Saturday and is less concerned than the one I saw on Fri. However, she did say in terms of size that while it doesn't feel massive now, she might start to have concerns if I go majorly overdue...

My mistake, Had wriggly baby on lap when I checked the list.

good to have your sis reassuring you then, a bit of balance.

A my scans Lady P was measuring top end of centiles all along, at 36 wks they had her as 8lb 11ozs, so we wre expecting a ten pounder, thats usual for us, dc5 was 9lb 5 born at 37 wks.

when P was born, at 41+4 she was.... yep, 8lb 11ozs!! :)

That's what my sis keeps telling me - the number of times she's seen women get called in for early induction / caesarians because of worries of a big baby, then he/she arrives and they're in the 7-8lb range.

TBH - I'm not drastically worried at this stage as after everything I've been through, I just want the baby out and healthy. And if that means deviating off plan, then so be it. I think I'm just a bit "eeeeek" as it means things are real and on the horizon and and and and....

Viv yey for 38 weeks, good that your sis has been reassuring! you are only petite, but you are absolutely right, two of my friends had sections at 38 weeks due to big babies, but they werent anywhere near that on arrival.

Ivy sorry things arent progressing yet,.. hope you are ok x

Lia not done yet?!?!?! WOW :) similar here, DH informed me after this one arrives he wanted to get a vasectomy.. Tosser! No discussion, no nothing.. he can bugger off!!! Great to hear ladyP is doing fabulously :)

apples the anniversaries are hard hon, hope you are feeling less teary today x My 12 monther is actually the weekend this baby is due... so am glad of that, and hoping that i will be a little distracted

Well,.. this baby is so totally low in my pelvis its kicking my fanjo... would someone please talk to me about Pelvic pain? I am getting ache in my groin pdown one side, plus last night i was trying to brush the kitchen floor and i was getting quite a lot of low down pelvic pain - should i be worried and what can i do? I have been getting tons of great movement, but its very very low down. (Same with DS!) When i need to poo [TMI ] its really quite painful across the lower abdomen, almost like bowel is pushing against it... maybe its just my wierd shaped body..dunno! Am absolutely exhausted, cannot sleep, cannot get comfy even with tons of pillows, have a monster week this week with meetings/travel and prep, have a cold and covered in spots....... BUT the sun is shining and on thursday i go down to Poole with DS to stay with DH for 10 whole days ..... now... just got to get organised!!!! Cant wait to get my feet up and not have any crappy work

YEY to mat leave MOO and yey to only a few weeks left Apples , i really need to make a decision about when mine starts.....

nicks I can't remember if you said before that you had SPD? I get the stabby pains really low down, usually blame that on the baby, but the pelvic pain.. hmm.. my spd is mainly in the middle of my pubic bone and radiates all around the pelvic outlet and into my hips/down my legs/up my back. the middle of my pelvic bone also clicks.

lia I hear ya on the generalising.. our midwives here are pretty good about that and often say "there is no point in guessing".. but I'm sure there are plenty of them who still do it.

viv the thing with CPD is that it's quite rare, and usually babies are born before they become too big for your pelvis :)

house is presentable now, can someone talk to me about apple and rhubarb cake? have some that needs using, but not sure what to do with it..

Could you use it as the bottom half of a trifle?

Nix - ouch! I'm getting quite a lot of kicks now - visible from the outside too - but no pelvic pain as yet, am sure it will come sooner or later as my hips are bloody awful anyway and always have been. Hope MiniNix moves to a more sensible location very soon.

Ivy your MIL is clearly barking mad. You have all my sympathy. I think I'd be tempted to lock the door and run away from the house if I knew she was threatening a visit, you are very tolerant.

I've been for my 25 week doc's appt today - Owlet is still in there with little heart thudding away, I am measuring roughly right for dates and all is well. Tis always very, very nice to hear that. Next appt in 3 weeks - they're starting to get closer together now, eek!

ivy do you have apples and rhubarb to use up, or cake to use up? If it's apples and rhubarb, I would definitely make a big old crumble yum yum! If cake then I agree, trifle probably the way to go.

Have just eaten 2 packets of Chewits mmmmmm