Pregnancy post mc: Totally's grads continued part 5...

[SamanthaB123]

Our new thread to take us through the Chrisnas season. Pull up a chair, grab a mince pie and join us for support in pregnancy post miscarriage. All welcome!

welcome alibobster - this is a great thread

magic your allowed to have some nerves.. we all had that.. as you said how great that you are at 24 weeks that's a great milestone to reach.. you are right to go to GP just in case of uti etc.

louise hope you have a better day today

no news here, MW appt later this afternoon, got checked by MW friend though yesterday and baby def still head down which is great news but not engaged yet.. so basically i've got ages yet which just kind of panics me a litle.. i'd love little baby to make it's safe arrival soon but ultimately it doesn't matter i know i know. Will be interested to see what mw thinks though this afternoon

have a good day all xx

Hi Magic, sorry that you are having a wobble. Don't forget that you are stuffed full of hormones that will cause you to be up and down. My ante-natal teacher said that being pregnant is the equivalent to taking 150 contraceptive pills a day. It's no wonder you feel wobbly from time to time! How are the babies - are they both a good size already? Don't forget too that their position will have an impact on your bladder. As they shift about it will alieviate pressure. Is it worth wearing s pad so that if there is any leaking you can get it checked out easily? Keep smiling hun, you've two gorgeous babies in there and it won't be long until you snuggling them.

Thanks ladies, Sam wow 150 contraceptive pills! I am already all hammocked up (since 14 weeks) as taking progesterone (pessaries) as a precaution because of what happened with DD2. This has on occasion caused me to have a mini panic because of the side effects . Scan last week was fine, babies are on scale (but the smaller end) for a singleton. Good luck with m/w this afternoon Happy. Alibobster good that you have a scan booked already. Hang in there :)

magic hi. Can I ask what you re having the progesterone pessaries for? Excuse me being mosey but for me forearmed is forewarned so I can be totally on top of everything for georgies brother or sister.

Not surprising you re worried... Think that's quite normal after experiencing a previous loss.

Welcome to Alibobster! Not surprised you're scared, but for now you are pregnant - channel those positive thoughts! :) I think everyone on here knows how you feel - it's not easy is it?

Waves to everyone else!

Well, I've bought my first maternity clothes!!! Starting to feel more real now, like a 'proper' pregnant person (but still feel like an impostor half the time). Was really surprised to see how crap most of the ranges are in the shops - so cheap looking and boring!!! Did find some ok stuff in Topshop though, plus a bargain £10 dress in the New Look sale :)

Can anyone tell me what happened at their 16 week scan? I thought you got to listen to the heartbeat, but a friend who went for hers yesterday said she just got weighed and measured...

Hi Louise nose away, this is the best place to get all the info. I am under a second trimester loss consultant who specialises in infection as I ended with chorioamnionitis with DD2. (I had subchorionic bleed which wasn't picked up & waters broke @ 17weeks. DD hung on until 21 weeks but then the infection set in and I lost lots of blood etc). He drew up a plan of care for me before I fell pregnant again which included:-

Clotting/Lupus testing (I think all these tests are listed on m/c association website now)
Full GUM screen at 10 weeks (Including GBS and BV)
Fortnightly cervical scans (for measurements to be taken) from 12-22 weeks
400mg Progesterone daily 14-34 weeks

All of the above are precautionary.

I also have a bereavement midwife and I have her mobile number and can contact her at any time.

Please ask anything else louise if you need. x

Thanks I see. My consultant has said , next time ,

Hvs for gbs in the first trimester

Twice weekly preganyl injections up to 13 weeks at epu and 2 weekly scans up to same.

2 weekly scans from 28 weeks onwards.

Section at 37/38 weeks.

Aspirin asap.

I had the aspirin and preganyl with Georgie for a placebo effect I too, have had my clotting and checks for lupus most recently post Georgie. Will mention pessaries to consultant on next visit. Will also be asking for regular scans in 2 nd trimester and to continue with high vag swabs. Surprised they re still swabbing you for bv as only normally increases risk of mc in first trimester but good they re doing all they can.

My bereavement supper midwife was totally crap only turned up once . 2 nd time we drove 150 miles to cone home to see her and she forgot to turn up !!!

She seems to prefer you to go to her support group which as I posted we did. my counselling is only 8 sessions so think when i next get pg I ll have to re- refer myself back for same.

It almost feels to me that we ve had to loose Georgie to obtain all this medical input , though we had brilliant care just not as much with Georgie, to get there and that makes me feel like we ve had to sacrifice her ina way.

Hi Tiger - My 16 week appointment was last week. The MW did a urine test and took my blood pressure, and then went through the results of the bloods that were taken at my booking in appointment. I declined to have further bloods taken as tests for abnormalities, as I had a nuchal just before 12 weeks. After that, she used the doppler to find the baby's heartbeat and then I was on my way. Only took 10 minutes, so very quick indeed.

alba - No, i don't think we're going to find out the sex of the baby. This might sound a bit weird but after having lost Gracie, I don't want to spend 20 weeks brooding or thinking "if it's a girl, it's not the girl we should have had", or "if it's a boy, it feels weird because we should have had a girl". All I know is that I won't care what he or she is, when he or she finally arrives!

louise - glad to hear you've had a couple of good days, interspersed with the low ones. You're doing so well x

alibobs - welcome to our lovely home. There's nothing I think any of us can say which will make you worry less over the next few weeks, but we do all understand as I think we've all been there :)

samantha - sounds like you and Ruby are doing brilliantly. I love your midnight marathon posts!

To everyone else, hi. Hope the ladies at the top of the list (I'm looking at YOU, UpDuffy, and YOU, HappyGirl!) aren't getting too impatient. Sending you lots of 'push' vibes.

Love to all
xxxx

Arh just re- read your message magic you ve only been swabbed once. Gum clinic ?? I could have done that for you magic !!!! ha ha. Seeing as that's my job as a sister at a gum clinic so I can have high vag swabs every day if need be!!!

Thanks magic xx

ps Tiger - I've also relented and bought my first maternity clothes. Two Isabella Oliver dresses off eBay and a pair of maternity jeans. God love DH - for our first wedding anniversary last week, he gave me cash (ie. paper!) to go and spend on maternity clothes.

Magic - I know you have had (and having) cervical length scans, which I hope are reassuring for you. Some units are participating in a study looking at fetal fibronectin from a cervical swab, do you know if your unit is part of it? Just wondered if it was worth asking as it might put your mind at rest a bit more.

Viv - hope those lovely dresses are generous, I've outgrown my maternity wear which is the most depressing thing ever!!! Trackie bottoms are so not a good look!

I'm very excited as my entonox has arrived!! All ready for the big day now.

Love to all

Viv great you got your maternity clothes ..i got a few bits from isabella O too and they still fit now as they were super stretchy!

Louise glad you have a programme of care set out for next time.. really hope to be hearing about your next time soon!

Magic how are you feeling today? hope you feel a bit more confident..

Malteser great you are all set!

MW appt was grand, just all seems so far away though, bit surprised it's 42 weeks they would induce me as i'd read a few times they should check the waters at 41 weeks but we'll see. No point in me worrying about that yet. I feel full of energy today - ready for baby arrival!

xx

panic over, been to gp, wee wee fine just pressure on me poor old bladder from spiderbabies. Suggested I sit with my knees up tonight as this will take the pressure off (and then probably give me backache!). I think I need to man up as fuck knows what it is gonna be like later on!

Malteser how exciting! I would be tempted to have a quick snort mind you I bet it is locked somehow??? I have heard about the fetal fibronectin through Tommy's and I did see lots of information up at the hospital last week, might enquire but I think because they know(ish) what happened with DD I may not qualify.

Oooo exciting all you girlies with new clothes, I am going to be wearing a sack in the new year.

Sounds like a good plan of care Louise. I know what you mean about getting all the extra care, the things you have to go through to get it. about your b m/w. My counsellor was great but she was just so very busy however she did fit me in once when I was having a real tough day. Hang in there, promise it does get better x

did any of you see this thread? Have a look at the link
make way for baby

Quick message for louise - did you get my personal message???

Sorry, ladies - as you were. still trying to join you all but still not preg since my last MC in June.

I'll be on this thread soon if I can. Just wanted to have a sneaky chat with louise.

Bye for now. Look after those babies. XXX

Evening ladies, just wanted to say thank you for the lovely welcome on the last thread...and sorry I disappeared! I've been away and feeling very nervous so have just been reading in the background. Got my scan on monday when I should be almost 12 weeks so hopefully if that's good news i'll be a little more chatty!
Good luck to those at the top...and will hopefully 'meet' you all properly next week.

hippy yes I got your message . ta. I messages you back.

Going to bed as very depressed tonight. Went shopping earlier it's horrible as all I see everywhere are babies . In the shops loads of baby clothes I would be buying for Georgie and instead I was buying myself clothes I don t need for the sake of something to do. Soo fed up with all this I should be buying Georgie clothes and nice Xmas stuff now. This is so fuc*g sh**. Wish I could go to sleep and not wake up. Can t explain to you all how horrible this is I feel like screaming my head off in the middle of town keep thinking. " I m sure this must be a nightmare I m sure I m going to wake up in a minute And be forever grateful Georgie is here " but no this nightmare is my shitty real life.

Oh Louise I'm so sorry... I think we all wish there was something real we could do, but know that you can come here and vent any time.

Welcome Alibobs, nothing makes those nerves go away, but this is a great spot for handholding and answers to those questions you don't feel like you can ask anyone else.

And appleblossoms good luck for Monday, only a few more days to wait now so fingers crossed for you.

SamB am very much enjoying your nighttime posts... I'm staying til the end of term if I can, 17th December and 37 1/2 weeks... I think I might be crazy. I'd just really like the Christmas holidays not to count as ML.

Thanks everyone for the birthday wishes, I had a lovely day, the only thing I didn't get that I really wanted was sleep... oh my gosh it's killing me spending half the night awake (I know, I know... wait til bambino arrives). I just want one really solid night. Oh well, worth it in the end I know!

Have a fab day, I've got some birthday Terry's All Gold to pass around if you like!

i've been lurking keeping an eye on you ladies, but my mobile doesn't let me update so I've not been able to post.

louise although my loss was different to yours i can relate to the feelings you describe, and i'm really thinking of you today. I'm not sure I ever really noticed babies and pregnant women before my mc, but for me it can still feel like a real physical kick in the stomach. Stay strong if you can xxxx

welcome alibobster and really good luck for the next 7 weeks. keeping everything crossed for you. i'm not sure i have any advice for how to cope with the waiting, but being on this thread will help.

appleblossoms my 12 week scan is on Tuesday, the day after yours. Really good luck - I keep telling myself the stats are in our favour, but its much harder having been on the wrong end of similar stats before. Have you been counting down the days? I don't know how I will cope at work on the day - my scan's in the afternoon.

Loopy special prize for remembering how many days I have left to my scan. I feel very cared for on this thread. I will update when its done.

I had to relent and purchase some stretchy waistband trousers over the weekend! Its a slippery slope. I've put on weight through the bucket-loads of food I've been eating and nothing is comfortable any more. Looking forward to investing in some proper maternity wear at some point.

love to everyone else, sorry not to namecheck you all!

Thank you ladies for all your kind words of support, it means a lot xxx

Hi all,
Viv thanks for letting me know about your 16 week appt. I'm more excited now, hoping they'll let me hear the heart beat! Are the Isabella Oliver things fab? Aww, sweet about your DH :)

Apple and Crochet- I know what you mean - waiting for the 12 week scan is awful isn't it? I'd completely convinced myself that there would be nothing there before I had mine.

Happy belated Birthday Toomuch (helps self to chocolates).

Louise, you're being so brave. You're right it is shit and so unfair when Georgie should be with you. Awful when all you can see when you go out is babies or pregnant women. Horrible. :(

Hi all, iphone broken hence no late night posting. Think it's on the mend now though. Normal service to be resumed sometime after midnight and will namecheck then. Oh and Ruby has put on 8oz this week - that's the weight of a good steak . Must have had something to do with all that feeding...

just quicklu bookmarking.
hugs to everyone, special squeeze for louise.

I'm exhausted, tummy still very tender. salmonella sucks.
and my essay sadly didn't write itself.

Ok, deep breaths - I'm finally going to take the plunge girls. Next time someone is doing the list can you add me before I chicken out?

Caribou - baby #2 (DD, 3yrs) 15+1 weeks. EDD 18th May. Next scan 5th Jan

For those that don't know me I was on here breifly in July until my 2nd MMC was discovered - I was Moofold back then. Looking forward to catching up with you properly and hanging with my pals from the TTC after MC thread.

Louise been thinking about you lots. I hope you have more of those good days soon.

Unbuffy I can't believe you're next, I still remember you getting your BFP!!

I'm off before I lose my bottle!