Pregnancy post mc: Totally's grads continued part 5...

[SamanthaB123]

Our new thread to take us through the Chrisnas season. Pull up a chair, grab a mince pie and join us for support in pregnancy post miscarriage. All welcome!

Not great news. Dr saw a sac and small fetal pole but no heartbeat. He wasn't helpful at all though and didn't even say how far on I measured and he didn't really give any clear or definate information. I was in such of a state I didn't ask the right questions. When I asked him if it was a bad outcome he said ' Well you might surprise us, people do sometimes,not often right enough'

I have resigned myself to the fact that is going to be miscarriage no. 4 and I'll just have to deal with it. My heart is broken and I don't think I a can ttc anymore

How far along do you think you should be Alibobs? My first scan at 6 weeks showed no heartbeat, but at 8 weeks it was all there.

Alibobs I am sorry things aren't so positive. Are you sure of your dates?

Welcome Lotta and congratulations. What dates are you confused about?

Toomuch I am glad to hear all ok and am very sorry to hear about your friend. Please take care and try not to worry xx

MUCHO snow coming down again tonight, somehow I don't think I am going to get to my hospital appointment for 9am..............schools still closed and DH gone into work tonight so he can stay at home tomorrow, well that's if he manages to get home later!! I need this snow to stop as I need my shopping delivery to come on Friday!! I am starving and just found some microwave popcorn at the back of the cupboard, am willing to share..........

< Magic hopes Buffs is near the finish line......>

Magic8 if it's dated from the date of my lmp then it's correct.

Muser I should be 6 wks 3 days

At 6+3 I really wouldn't give up hope. Honestly I wouldn't. I read about this incessantly before my 6 week scan as I wanted to know what to expect. What people saw at 5 and 6 weeks seemed to vary a lot in all the things I read. Some people saw heartbeats, some didn't but were still having successful pregnancies.

Things change day to day at that point. I know you must be worried and I can't promise it will be ok. But please don't give up hope.

Thanks Muser.

The way the doctor spoke today more or less said that it wasn't looking good and of course there's always a chance but it was unlikely. DH was with me as well and he too agreed that the prognosis was bleak, so I knew I wasn't overreacting and twisiting his words. I know they can never give guarantees however I was visibly very upset and he did nothing to alleviate any fears.

Having read some posts on here it appears to be very common that a lot of women have nothing shown on a scan and then go on to see a hb the following week. Whilst I still don't truly believe my pregnancy will have a good outcome,given my history, it's always good to have some hope.

I have done all my crying and screaming today so I'll be prepared on Wednesday whatever the outcome x

He sounds awful Ali, not really the kind of doctor you want in this situation as well. Are you meant to go back for another scan to see if things are progressing? Did he give you a copy of your notes, maybe you could get a second opinion from someone qualified?

I will be crossing everything for you in any case. Best of luck. x

Ali I agree with Muser. Nothing is certain but please don't give up all hope. Are you being rescanned on next Wed?

I am only 6+1 but think it's bad news - had one tiny little spot last night which sent me into a panic so this morning did two tests and they're only the faintest positives in the world. I think my HCG levels must have fallen so I'm just waiting for more obvious signs of MC now. Absolutely gutted. Luckily this time we haven't told anyone at all (with my first pg I had told my mum and a couple of friends, foolish naive thing that I was!) and when I mc at six weeks it was horrible having to tell them all.

Alibobs I am thinking of you too, sounds like we're at a very similar stage, and I am hoping that all will turn out well for you. If only the phrase worked the other way "Where there's hope, there's life".

AppleB, CrochetC and Lotta to appease my list pedantry would you mind confirming if these are your first bambinos or how many other children you have? Thanks

PS Lotta Clareanna's date is an Actual due date not Estimated as her bun is coming out of the oven a wee bit early if that's what confused you.

Thursday

Unbuffy - baby#2 (1 DD) - 40 wks+5 EDD 27th November
HappyGirl - baby#1 39+1 wks EDD 8th December
Zayja - baby#1 38+5 wks EDD 11th December
Goodluckbear - baby#1 37+5 wks EDD 18th December
Malteser1981 - baby#1 37+5 wks EDD 18th December
Gilda - baby#1 36+5 wks EDD 25th December
BunnyBaby - baby#3 36+5 wks EDD 25th December
sparklyrainbow - baby#1 36 wks EDD 30th December
AlbaDeTamble - baby#2 (1DS, 3yrs) 35+3 wks EDD 3rd January. Next scan Dec 2nd
toomuchteaching - baby#1 35+1 wks EDD 5th January
Redheadgal - baby#1 34+6 wks EDD 6th January
diggingforvictory - baby#4 (DS 1) 33+5 wks EDD 15th January
WestYorkshireGirl - baby#1 33+3 wks EDD 18th January
Dorcas111 - baby#1 31+6 wks EDD 28th January
Ba8y1 - baby#1 30+6 wks EDD 4th February
Clareanna - baby#2 (1DS) 29+6 wks ADD 3rd Feb
Lotta123 - baby#? 29+6 wks EDD 10th Feb
Muser - baby#1 27+4 wks EDD 27th Feb
Northerngoldilocks - baby#1 24+6 wks EDD 18 March
Magic8ballhastheanswers - babies#3&4 24+2 wks EDD 20th March
Lia - baby#6 24+1 wks EDD 23rd March
Hopefully - baby#2 22+6 wks EDD 2nd April
stuffedmk - baby#2 22+4 wks EDD 4th April
Osch - Baby#3 21+4 wks EDD 10th April
Ivysedai - baby#2 20 wks EDD 21st April
PenguinsMummy - baby#3 20 wks EDD 21st April
VivClicquot - baby#1 18+1 wks EDD 4th May
Loopymumsy - baby#4 18 wks EDD 5th May
Tigerbear - baby#1 16+3 wks EDD 14th May
Caribou - baby #2 (DD, 3yrs) 16+1 wks EDD 18th May. Next scan 5th Jan
appleblossoms - baby#? 12+5 wks EDD 11th June
crochetcircle - baby#? 12+5 EDD 11th June
Wobblewatcher - baby#2 10+2 wks EDD 27th June
Inbetweener - baby#3 7+4 wks EDD 17th July

emmywoo- about 7 weeks
Purplehibiscus - nearly 6 weeks

The babies are arriving! Huge congratulations to:
Totally with daughter Faith Juliet, 9lb5oz born Tuesday 16th February 2010
Amyboo with son Matthew James, 4.714kg (10lb3oz) born Tuesday 30th March 2010
Hoops with son Benjamin Scott, 7lb4oz born Friday 2nd April 2010
Memorylapse with daughter Olivia, born Friday 16th April 2010
Jacanne with daughter Lotta Eliza, 8lbs 5oz born 20th April 2010
Becky78 with son Thomas Christopher born 22nd May, 9lb 1oz
Meita with son Ianto born 23 August, 7lbs 4
Boodleboot with daughter Alice Elizabeth born 10 Sep - 8lbs 2oz
LeeWT with son Andrew Anthony born 28th Sept 7lbs 14oz
TFLS with son Charlie born on 30th September, 6lbs 8oz
SamB with daughter Ruby Mae born 19th October, 7lbs 10oz
Effilump with son Arlen born 16th October, 8lbs
Sarahlou8 with daughter Emily Isabella born 21st October, 7lb8oz

In our thoughts and prayers:
Louise with daughter Georgie born asleep on 10th October

We share the pain and mourn the loss with:
Jollster, Cheepz, Freezing, BarrenBrook, MsJL, LadyBee, Banana87, BatteryHen and HairyTriangle

Alibobs sorry your doc was so unhelpful, keeping fingers firmly crossed for you. You too Waterplate. It's such a horrid time waiting to see, but it ain't over till The Fat Lady Sings (and our thread's very own TFLS had a gorgeous baby boy so there is hope!)

I think Buffy's in labour! see her other thread. It is so exciting!

Waterplate, hope everything is ok xxx

Alibobs and Waterplate, my heart goes out to you both. I know what a horrible time it is waiting until the next scan - really hope things work out for you.

I had my 16 week MW appt today and got a bit of a fright. The MW asked if I could feel anything yet, which I can't - not even the wee bubbles. She then got the doppler out but said she could only hear my HB. However, she did hear fetal movement. I almost had a heart attack but then I remembered seeing something in my notes that the sonographer wrote about my placenta and asked the MW to check.

Turns out I have an anterior placenta, which is like a cushion between my stomach and the baby. The only reason I knew anything about this was because I remembered it happening to 8s too. The MW reckons it will take longer than normal to feel movement because of this, so trying to be rational and not worry about this!

As I said on FB.....Keep calm and carry on Moo xxx

Cariboo - I'm not sure whether your midwife said the right things to you...16 weeks is early to feel movements and she should have checked your notes to see where your placenta was. Generally with subsequent pregnancies movements are recognised earlier - however with my 3rd baby and an anterior placenta I didn't feel much at all until 22 weeks and there weren't regular movements until 24 weeks. You really shouldn't worry at this stage.

moo my MW couldn't hear a HB at 16weeks due to anterior placenta too. If you're really getting freaked out ask them for a scan. I had a bit of a bleed at 16 weeks, and as MW couldn't hear HB (which I knew would be unlikely) I got a scan to check all was OK.

alibob and waterplate fingers crossed for both of you - the waiting is awful - we're all here with you x

COME ON THE BUFFY!!!!

I am a bit was called by Doc this morning to make an appt to discuss my 28 week blood results... Bullied the receptionist into telling me why, turns out I'm a bit anaemic. I was pretty sure I was from 16 weeks onwards, but thought i was getting better / more energy! looks like I might need the dreaded ferritin after all...
just hope it doen'st stop her from signing my safe to fly certificate as we go on sunday!

oooh santas!

Moo i couldn't feel anything til 18 weeks.. it's def still quite early on to feel things.. that was definitely a fright for you, you poor thing. HOpe you are okay

clareanna hope you get that fly certificate!

unbuffy looking forward to hearing ur great news!

I soooo would love baby happy-girl to arrive tomorrow as we have family coming at the weekend so would be perfect timing but we'll see. No real signs at all today no contractions so I'm guessing it won't be making an appearance today or tomorrow.

Checking in and what a mixed lot of news here today! On tenterhooks for great news from unbuffy... and lovely to read the good scan news...

Moof it's so lovely to see you here but so sorry you're having a bit of a scare... good that the midwife could hear the movements though, hopefully that's reassurance for you?

Anyone seen any news from LittleMiss? we both joined the other thread about the same time and I was really pleased when I saw her bfp news recently, then she disappeared... I do hope all is well, must be 12 weeks by now...?

Waterplate and Alibobs those early weeks are so scary and early scans can be so ambiguous, and some pg test lines are never very dark no matter how much pregnancy hormone is there. Do try to assume the best if you possibly can, because if your little ones are still just fine in there, which I hope they are, they need you to stay positive for them...

Clareanna hope you don't have to go on the dreaded iron tablets... I got away with lots of spatone and it has worked wonders, started floradix too (who said it tasted great ?? I have to wash it down with a big glass of water!). Hope you get that fit to fly and have a fabulous holiday -- the rest and relaxation will be such a boost too.

Bit stressful here, it's snowed, loads, I can't get to work... Tuesday was ok, but I left the office at 3.30, just to be on the safe side, to discover when I got to London Bridge that journeycheck hadn't been entirely truthful about train running times... it then took just over 4 hours to get home. Can't fault the lovely people on hugely overcrowded trains who made sure I got in, and got a seat, but it was no fun... a few times it looked like we wouldn't make it home, trees down, frozen points... then there was the difficulty of squeezing through 3 packed carriages to find a loo (can't go for 4 hrs at 8 mths pg!)... it felt so good eventually to be home.

Since then, no trains, so I'm working remotely for my last 3 days before mat leave -- final handovers by phone/email/chat is not so easy, despite my having crammed in as much as possible last week once I'd seen the weather forecast........ so.... I'm going to have to go in for a few hours next week once the trains are running again - but it won't be a full day and it will be nice to be able to say goodbye for a while to everyone in person.

And now, just to make matters worse, our roof has started leaking. Happened with January's snow and we spent a fortune fixing the damage and getting work done on the roof so it wouldn't happen again ... it's been dripping away into my lovely spare room that's taking shape as a lovely nursery, or was... thankfully not as bad as in January, and DH has been busy trying to clear frozen drains and pipes and minimise the damage, but it's really upset me. Last time it happened (albeit much worse) I was 7 weeks pg, running round like an idiot trying to move furniture, find buckets, towels, dry out carpets and bedding.... and the next day ended up at the EPU with awful cramps. Was told all was well, but we lost our little one days later (MMC, found out a month later). So it's all come flooding back to me and I just feel rather tearful.

I think I need to go and lie down and listen to my hypnotherapy and get a bit more ommmmm and zen like.

Bring on the good news please buffs

curious co-incidence -- just popped into the 6th form common room and there's a post from LittleMiss this evening! First in ages! 11+6 and all well, so that's made me smile

Hey Ladies

Thought I'd pop over here as alba kindly pointed me in the right direction. Nice to see so many of you here!

I'll hold off popping myself on the list until I have the 12wk scan out the way if you don't mind. Have a booking appointment Sat am. Like so many others on here I'm still a little apprehensive at this stage.

Happy Friday! Love to all x

Morning all...very scared this morning I had some bleeding (post sex ) it was red, and then turned to brown spotting. Got an appointment at the EPU tomorrow morning...so just trying not to panic until then. I'm trying to convince myself it'll be fine...but you know how it is!

Gi1da this is dc 2 for me.

moo I had an anterior placenta with DS and didn't feel movements until well past 20 weeks...so I wouldn't worry about the movements for a long time yet.

Any news on buffy? I could do with some good news this morning!

Still no news from buffs but very exciting as no news must be good news, hey?

Hi Lotta, water and littlemiss and thinking of everyone less than 12 weeks, remember it well (think I crossed off every day to make the time go quicker ).
Apple don?t panic, it?s likely to be non-baby related if after sex isn?t it- no expert but sure I?ve read about cervical erosion and stuff? Anyway, hope everything?s ok.

Moo hope you?ve been able to relax a bit. Agree midwives can start you panicking. My best friend didn?t feel movement until 23 weeks so I think you?ve got ages!

Loopy take it DD2 is excited then?

In sparkly news, I?m completely fed up now with being huge, so uncomfortable and think I will be giving birth to a kangaroo- had scan yesterday and kickster seems to have massive feet (sonographer commented ) which he spent most of last night ramming into my ribs. I am actually huge, measured 39 weeks yesterday and midwife wants me to have a growth scan (the scan yesterday was part of the university research project I?m taking part in and despite request from mw they refused point blank to do the necessary measurements, AND they cover up the part of the ultrasound screen that shows them!). So I?ll have to trek into Cambridge again.... Anyway he seems quite happy in there which I suppose is the main thing. If he is big though, any ideas what happens?

Waves to everyone else and hope everyone?s staying warm and avoiding the ice x