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The 12 week wait - Would anyone like to join me?

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Danilou22 · 27/10/2010 11:26

Hello,

This may be a bit early as I know a lot can happen this early on but thought I would tentively see if there is anyone else in the same situation. Hmm

I found out I am 4 weeks pregnant this weekend. I am trying not to get too excited as it is so early but am finding it hard not to be! Blush

We have told my mum but have decided not to tell anyone else yet hence the reason I am here as I am desperate to talk about it.

Would anyone else like to join me on the 12 week wait and share feelings and experiences?

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aliwally · 03/11/2010 12:51

Hi - May I join you? I'm 4 weeks and 4 days today! It's my 8th pregnancy with 7 mc's already behind me, I'm 41 and very very scared. I also want to be able to enjoy it and get excited, so this is the perfect place to do it "in secret". Thank you for the thread. Just want to get to the end of December safely this time.

aliwally · 03/11/2010 12:52

Sorry daimbardiva - just saw your post. I do know all too well how you're feeling. All the best for Friday. Stay as positive as you can..... x

futuramamma · 03/11/2010 14:15

Hi everyone,
I am 7/8 weeks pregnant and I am completely confused by the feelings creeping up inside me, all the questions I have and the lack of support I have been getting from my GP. She barely checked my pulse and my weight..and my first apointment with the midwife will not be until the 15th December! I am shocked I am not even getting a first proper visit with an ostetrician or a blood test. Is this normal? I am so confused...also we have not told anyone yet and it is so difficult not having anyone I can ask for help. My partner is over the moon, but I alternate very happy thoughts to worries about my future career, being able to be a good mum, and also other very shallow thoughts about how fat I will become (I am naturally curvy but i keep fit with lots of exercise) and how long it will take for me to loose the weight. I know these are shallow thoughts and I feel bad for thinking these things but is such a rollercoaster of emotion for me right now. I hope I am not the only one who feels this way..

jasmine51 · 03/11/2010 15:45

futuramamma is this your first pg? If so, gps dont seem very interested. Even after 4 mcs mine isnt exactly a support. However your mw appointment does seem a long way away - do you know what the policy is in your area? Here it is registation at 10 wks and not a day earlier so my first apt is Nov 17th (I am 8 wks tomorrow)
Your random thoughts are completely normal - a mass of what ifs, terror, excitement etc...and I bet they change every day...if not every hour. Try not to get too hung up on the future thoughts, you dont know how things will pan out so stop dwelling on it or you will tie yourself up in knots. re the fat thing - listen to your body and give it what it wants, just be sensible and remember you dont need to 'eat for two'. Take exercise if you can but dont force it. Best advice - stay on MN and ask any questions you want, blow off steam or cry...everyone here is really helpful and funny most of the time so come and join in this weird ride that is pg!

futuramamma · 03/11/2010 16:11

jasmine51 thanks for your kind reply ..which actually made me teary! but in a good way.Yes this is my first pg. I live in Hackney, East London so I guess MW have quite a lot of business considering the amount of people living in a city like London. I will call the mw helpline and ask few questions. And I will definetelly stick around ...I have learned so much already by reading just few MN pages. The "eat for two" thing is definetely something to avoid..although lately I have been craving all sorts of savoury foods..but I try to resist or just have a little bite, to keep the craving at bay.

highheelsandequations · 03/11/2010 16:43

So sorry for what you're going through daimbardiva, sending hugs and best wishes for Friday xx

wolfcubEm83 · 03/11/2010 16:54

Hi, can i join in please?
Im due end of june, currently 6+3 (i think) with my first and terrified! Big shock to us but my OH is soooo happy, he keeps asking me to do tests just so he can see the red lines develop and feel all smug because his manhood works Grin Im also very happy too but i wont let it sink in until ive had my first scan.

Got my 1st mw appointment next wednesday so im lookng forwards to that and my only pg symptom is boob pain and today ive had a huge craving for asparagus, not sure what all thats about Confused
Ive not told anyone except my uni tutor (im a 27 year old student retraining after redundancy - talk about bad timing)and thats only because i work with xrays and have to by law and im not going to tell anyone else until i cant get away with it anymore!

Finding this thread a great support and am glad i can be part of it x

JBrd · 03/11/2010 18:10

My 12-week wait is now over - had my 1st scan today!

It was so lovely - just lay down, and within seconds the sonographer had the baby on the screen! I could have watched it all morning, it was very wriggly, moving around - just not in the position the sonographer wanted it to be in, bless. She had to do lots of justling my tummy about and moving the bed to get it right for the measurements.
All is there - heartbeat, arms and legs, eyes (altough half the time we just had to believe her, these images are not very straightforward), and it was moving around so much. Got all emotional seeing it...

And the nuchal measurement was fine, which is a big big relief. Still need to wait for the blood results, but am feeling a lot less worried already.

It's such a reality check - now I definitively know I have not been imagining things!

squirrel007 · 03/11/2010 23:46

Hi all! Can I join this thread? I've just found out I'm pg, and reckon I'm a little over 5 weeks. I'm mostly in denial and don't quite believe it's happening, but I guess once the news sinks in I'll start feeling scared and excited and everything else too :) Not many symptoms yet, mainly just tiredness, but I'm sure that'll change!

catherineps · 04/11/2010 09:26

Congrats JBrd! And fingers crossed for you daimbardiva - someone on the Jue in June thread had bleeding and has now seen her baby and heartbeat on a scan so don't give up hope yet!

MissGigggles · 04/11/2010 10:43

Hi

Just found out last week that im preganant (am 9 weeks now) went to the docs on friday, but still havent heard anything from the midwife - its my first preganancy so not sure whether to call the surgery to check/chase it up?

its very exciting, but at the same time im so scared at every little twinge i get. I told my mum last night so now i have someone to talk to about things, but its lovely to have support on here too

G x

aliwally · 04/11/2010 15:09

congrats JBrd - that's a lovely story! I guess these 12 will weeks just drag for everyone, and we'll all feel different things along the way, but I'm sure we'll experience one or all of the following at some point: anxiety, excitement, madness, tearfulness, cravings, greed(!), regret, fear of failing as a mum, fear of it going wrong, anger with the medical profession, confusion, bewilderment, overwhelming joy, frustration that we can't tell anyone at all, and, the bragging from the men in our lives that their "boys can swim"!!!! Hoorah for everyone on this thread and it's great we're in it together.

mentality · 04/11/2010 16:56

Hi girls,

Long story (won't bore you with the details) but appears I'm 3-4 weeks pregnant. Will have next scan in about 8 days time as I thought I was a month ahead of myself.

Fingers crossed. I hope its all good.

This is hopefully my 4th. Have 3 boys under 5.

M

jewel2000 · 04/11/2010 19:17

Hi all

Just found out at the weekend that I'm 5 weeks pregnant. V excited obv but going crazy not being able to tell anyone. Have an early scan at 7 weeks as was on clomid so am going to desperately try and hold it in until then, all being ok we might then tell my mum etc.

Am really not looking forward to going to dinner party this weekend and having to come up with reasons for not drinking, plus (and I feel very guilty about this) I wouldn't mind a cheeky glass of wine or two!

Apart from being excited I am also totally paranoid that something is going to go wrong. I almost feel like even thinking about it is tempting fate, let alone writing on this thread! Hope I'm not alone in this!

The last few days have gone at a snail's pace, I can't imagine how long it will be until 12 weeks! Can anyone actually say it passed quicker than they thought it would? Hope so!

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Danilou22 · 05/11/2010 20:43

Evening ladies, I am writing from my bed trying not to be sick (yuk this pregnancy thing is so not glamorous!!)

But I am excited as I got my scan date through today Smile the 15th December how can I make it go faster????

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LDNlady · 06/11/2010 10:52

Danilou22 I KNOW!! My scan is due on 29th Nov and I keep asking if it's time yet! (hubby going nuts at me):o I work in a clinic where we do scans on people's hearts and the girl who does them offered to do a sneaky scan at 10 weeks so not sure if I should take her up on the offer. Mind you, I don't know if I can even wait another week and a half!!! :)

laurastar · 06/11/2010 10:54

Hi Everyone.

9 weeks today with my second pregnancy.

Jewel 2000, you are totally not alone with the paranoia thing. I also feel it's tempting fate to even think about it, really wasn't sure whether to write or not!

Had a scan a couple of weeks ago as was having bad cramps and they found twins! really worried since then as it's much higher risk and I was a twin but my mum mc my twin at about 8 weeks. I also had mc a few years ago. Am having another scan tomorrow as saw mw yesterday and mentioned that i hadn't been feeling sick that day and she got me booked in for a scan straight away! That has made me more paranoid and tomorrow can't come soon enough! x

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argylesocks · 06/11/2010 12:15

jewel2000 i can thankfully say that it has passed quicker than I thought it would. I have my mw appointment on Monday and the scan on the 22nd. Last month it seemed it would take years and now its around the corner!

Does anyone know how to find the June thread? I've heard of this mysterious thread but I never seem to see it.

I never thought I'd want to go see a doctor so badly but I cant wait for this scan!!!

Every time I feel slightly better I freak out like if I don't feel like death, something must be horribly wrong!

catherineps · 06/11/2010 12:39

Hi argylesocks, it's called Jue in June part 3

bananarama05 · 06/11/2010 13:23

Glad I'm not alone with find MW's not overly enthusiastic!

I'm 10 weeks today, had my booking appointment at 7 wks and came out assuming I would get my scan date through the post but then my friend who has just had her 2nd mentioned she had to book hers.

Thought I'd ring my MW just to double check I didn't need to do anything, had to leave a message (hiding in my car at work at lunchtime Wink ) and was back in when she called me back so she had to leave me a message. I don't know if I misunderstood but she was very to the point and said I will get a letter in the post, she wouldn't expect me to have heard at 9 weeks and I should know between 12 and 14 weeks...at my booking apt I was told my scan could be anytime from 11+3 so I'm really worried I won't get any notice now and my other half won't be able to come with me.

sigh ah well at least I don't feel like I'm going to be sick every 2 minutes this week on a positive note, hope you're all feeling good today Smile

argylesocks · 06/11/2010 14:56

thanks catherineps, I found it!

nicolamumof3 · 06/11/2010 17:27

oooh can i join please! I've just found out im just 4weeks pg with dc4 and scared to death waiting to get to 12weeks!

highheelsandequations · 06/11/2010 21:00

Have (very) early scan this Wed, nervous and excited at once. Still not feeling very sick yet and wishing I were but I am knackered and my boobs are agony so at least I have some symptoms, which is reassuring! Is anyone else still POAS regularly, just to check?!?

SofaKitten · 06/11/2010 21:20

Well last time I posted I was worrying about nausea going away - no more worries on that score!
I'm sooooo ill and knackered. No idea how I've coped with work this week - I've barely moved from the sofa today... how on earth will I cope with work next week? I am now 7 weeks and it's getting worse daily....