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The 12 week wait - Would anyone like to join me?

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Danilou22 · 27/10/2010 11:26

Hello,

This may be a bit early as I know a lot can happen this early on but thought I would tentively see if there is anyone else in the same situation. Hmm

I found out I am 4 weeks pregnant this weekend. I am trying not to get too excited as it is so early but am finding it hard not to be! Blush

We have told my mum but have decided not to tell anyone else yet hence the reason I am here as I am desperate to talk about it.

Would anyone else like to join me on the 12 week wait and share feelings and experiences?

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highheelsandequations · 02/12/2010 20:25

impatient I'm 8+3 and still not throwing up. Boobs hurt (and enormous) and exhausted and having some queasiness plus about 3 episodes of wretching but mostly just been feeling a little icky. Scan confirmed everything okay though (still difficult to believe there's actually something there even though I have the photographic evidence!) I so don't worry about lack of symptoms! My mum told me she had no sickness at all but was just very tired.

highheelsandequations · 02/12/2010 20:28

JimmyChoo every time I feel fine I start panicking. Spent 10 mins yesterday almost i tears convinced that my breasts weren't sore anymore! Counting the hours till 12 weeks nevermind the days Xmas Grin

dizzy55 · 02/12/2010 20:50

I am so worried, currently 7+6. Have got all the symptoms, and feeling very poorly. but worried as did spot for an hour or two at 4 weeks. scan not for another 4 weeks. Its a long old wait. We have already had to completely change our lives around re living arrangements (as are living in seperate cities). I am not enjoying this.

dizzy55 · 02/12/2010 20:51

I have also had good and bad days (though not had a good day for two weeks).

highheelsandequations · 02/12/2010 21:18

dizzy if you've had spotting you should be able to get an early scan. Ask your GP to refer you to your nearest EPU. I've had spotting the past couple of days but scan today showed everything okay Xmas Smile

wickedwitchofwaterloo · 02/12/2010 21:21

Hey everyone, sorry this has taken so long to say but have been in a bit of a funny place this week... Anyway, thanks so much for all your kind words [smilies]

Hope to be back on this thread one day and hope you are all well and progressing nicely x

dizzy55 · 02/12/2010 21:21

thank you. I told the midwife last week and she merely raised an eyebrow when I said it was after a yoga class.

Darnthetum · 02/12/2010 21:30

Oh Wickedwitch I am so sorry. I hope to see you on here one day too.

I found out this morning, dp is finding out tomorrow, and am finding it hard to go to bed so that tomorrow can arrive. I have a LOOOOOOOOONG wait ahead of me to get to 12 weeks, and need to move countries too!

waterplate · 03/12/2010 21:18

Wickedwitch best of luck for ttc or whatever path you choose to take. Thinking of you, I've been there.

I have made it to 6+2 which is when I MC last time round (July) but have had a massive scare...mainly in my mind, as it turns out! I don't have any symptoms beyond tiredness and weeing a lot, and I'm paranoid anyway after the MC in the summer. So two nights ago when I had the TINIEST spot of brown blood I panicked and did a (cheapo off the internet) pg test. This was SO faint that I decided my hormone levels were going down, so did another test, and next morning another, and convinced myself I was having another miscarriage.

So, went to the doctor today and felt a bit of an idiot trying to explain through my tears that no, there was no real bleeding, and no, no cramping....just some very faintly positive tests and one tiny drop of blood.

She was very understanding though clearly a bit bemused...upshot is the hospital will ring early next week with an appointment for an early scan, but there is no real reason for me to be panicking! She did say that after a first MC it is normal to be like this though. I left it very late to report the last MC as I was trying to be brave and I didn't want to leave it that late again (my over-calmness last time resulted in a 5 day delay in getting a scan when it WAS bad news).

Got home tonight, did a different brand of test, clear positive. I feel like an NHS timewaster (but am not going to turn down the chance of the scan either...still feeling very worried about it all going wrong again!)

Clearly, I'm an idiot.

Would really like some symptoms though...I agree with those who are worrying about this, it makes it hard to be sure all is well (though clearly if and when I do get horribly sick I will be furious with myself for saying that!)

How is everyone else feeling today?? Sorry to hear about all the hungover/sick/long-distance relationship sufferers :(

waterplate · 04/12/2010 07:40

OK so I'm not an idiot/NHS timewaster - woke up this morning to bleeding and cramps so it DOES look like bad news. It's weird as DH and I actually feel less gutted second time round, though obviously we're really sad to miss out yet again. (sorry to those who have also read this on the due July 2011 thread).

Anyway, off to ring the doctor and get the whole miserable process sorted out. GOOD LUCK to all of you for happy pregnancies and hopefully I'll be back and "enjoying" the 12 week wait soon.

girlsyearapart · 04/12/2010 08:02

Hi waterplate just wanted to crash into your thread to wish you luck for the coming days.
Also to prepare you for the fact that as it's the weekend they may make you wait until Monday to confirm whether or not you are m/c ing.
I had lots of bleeding with dd3 went in to a and e on a Saturday morning where they said yes most prob a mc but had to wait until Monday for a scan.
Luckily for me it was good news but longest wait of my life.
Your hospital may be different though. Good luck

ImpatientCat · 04/12/2010 10:45

waterplate: sorry to hear you are expecting bad news. Want to say "stay positive", but I guess it's probably wise to be prepared for the worst. Good luck with it, and hope you're back on this thread soon!

waterplate · 04/12/2010 19:43

Seems like definitely bad news this time but mumsnet has been a lifesaver as I know I'm not alone and can get great real life advice! Good luck with the 12 week wait everyone :)

(have just had rare meat with blue cheese sauce and red wine...helps in the short term!!)

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Danilou22 · 04/12/2010 21:53

I am so sorry to hear that Waterplate Sad

I am having good days and bad days with sickness and tiredness at the moment, I do feel better though.

I had a bit of a worry as am now nearly 11weeks and did yet another Blush cheap test on thursday and the line was fainter than it has been before and I convinced myself I was going to start bleeding, I have however read that hormone levels do drop a little as the placenter takes over so I hopeing that is it!! Has anyone else had this?

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wickedwitchofwaterloo · 04/12/2010 22:07

waterplate - thank you for your kind words and I am so sorry to hear your news, thinking of you too Sad

we'll get there x

wheresmytractor · 05/12/2010 15:50

Hi can i join you too? Just found out number 3 is on the way!:) Not exactly planned but we are happy. This will be our last so gonna try and enjoy every bit. Not told a soul yet except hubby, but my inlaws are bound to guess when i'm not drinking wine at christmas!

BrownB · 06/12/2010 08:05

Hi there. Sorry for your loss Waterplate. Am very anxious about having another miscarriage too. Am 6 weeks gone with my first, and had a miscarriage last year. We then tried for 13 months to get pregnant again... and here I am. No symptoms to speak of, except for the BFP, sore nipples and being tired. And I'm imagining every twinge and ache I feel in my tummy is potentially terminal. 12 weeks seems like a very very long time.

So - am currently on holiday, and haven't seen the doctor yet. Moved house two weeks before I left to go on hols, and got the BFP 4 days before we boarded. Was simply not possible to register with a new GP and get checked out before we flew away. I guessed that I'm not missing much with the first appointment, but would like at least to be on the ultrasound list, and perhaps wrangle an early scan? Anyway - good luck to all, and am looking forward to hearing any tips or suggestions for things like sore nipples. Wink

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Danilou22 · 06/12/2010 20:52

Welcome to the newcomers. I can't imagine how you must be feeling BrownB I am expecting every twinge to mean the worst and I have not even had a miscarriage! The tears have set in today! I have cried at everything and everyone!
A week tomorrow and I will be going for my scan I am getting so nervous and worried that I am imagining it all or that something is wrong! I can't believe it is only a week a way but can't wait for it to be over too!

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BrownB · 07/12/2010 06:15

Oh man. You mean the tears (and bitchiness my OH tells me...) are symptoms too? Okay - maybe I'm notching up enough on the symptom front after all! Wink

JimmyChoo17 · 07/12/2010 20:04

Eughhhh anyone else had the headaches kick in yet? Avoiding paracetemol. Am actually wondering if I drink too much water.....how many glasses you girls drinking a day?

My sickness returned for a day but nausea still there...headache makes it worse!

natmay27 · 08/12/2010 13:41

Jimmychoo i drink just over a litre of water throughout the course of the day and even with tiger balm and the odd paracetemol headaches are still the bain of my life! everyday i pretty much have one! :(

JimmyChoo17 · 08/12/2010 20:56

natmay27 - they are a nightmare arent they! Drinking does alleviate it but not enough :-/

MAnaged to get thru a meeting today with a pounding head and was heaving in the lift out of work...was very glad no one was there with me I couldnt stop! Now I just want to be sick...

Morning sickness needs to be renamed to just Sickness!

Come on pregnancy glow :)

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Danilou22 · 09/12/2010 21:10

I had headaches really early on but they stopped after about a week. It is just sick sick and more sick for me! I aqm 12 weeks on Tuesday so hope I wake up and it has all stopped! (then I will worry something is wrong!)

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IfAtFirstUDontSucceed · 09/12/2010 21:56

Hi all, I would like to join in! Sorry in advance about the lack of paragraphs-dodgy keyboard! {waves to the familiar names that have been hanging round the conception threads}. A bit of back round: DH & I have been TTC no.1 for 3 years. Early M/C in March at 5 weeks, and got my current BFP 2 weeks ago, so am now at the beginning of my 7th week. So far, I've had horrendously sore & swollen boobs, am shattered (actually, being up at this time is quite unusual), and my appetite has plummeted but no sickness yet - here's hoping that I get away without it :) All I want to know is how to get through the next few weeks without panicking at every twinge, moist sensation Blush or a "good day"? Grin Good luck to you all xx

badkitty · 09/12/2010 22:36

Hi - just an update, went for early scan today and saw a little heart beating away! She said I was 6+2 so due around August 2 next year, everything looking just as it should be at the moment - couldn't believe we saw the heartbeat, really pleased!