Sharing pottt training woes - no judgement

[anotherangel2]

A safe place to rant so you keep your frustrations away from your child.

I just want to sake ‘For fuck sake DD just sit in the potty for 10 seconds for a try and then we can go out to the aquarium. It’s not that difficult just sit your arse down’.

Day 4 in the potty training house!

Day 3 - first day at nursery - wasn’t a huge success, DS had about 5 pairs of wet pants and shorts when I collected him. But nursery confirmed he hadn’t had any major accidents, just dribbles. Today - day 4 - DH has collected him and reported just one pair of slightly wet pants and the rest of the day he stayed dry! Go DS!

Poos are another matter. For as long as I can recall DS goes first thing in the morning when he wakes up and as he’s still wearing a nappy overnight and will be for a while yet, I expect, he just does it in his nappy. He did do a poo in the potty yesterday evening but how do I get him to not do it in his nappy in the morning but call me to come and get him up?

Glad to find this thread :-)

Just starting out with DD (20 months). She wanted a potty because her friend who is a little older has one so we thought we'd give it a go!

So far she's been very happy to go on the potty to wee, but only in a nappy . I'm taking this as a positive because she knows when she needs to go and knows where she's supposed to do it. I have been bribing her with nursery rhymes on YouTube to stay on the potty for 20mins after meals - so far one wee!

We're planning on going bare bottom for a few days as I can basically stay at home from tomorrow afternoon till Saturday night. I get that there will be the odd wee on the carpet (Although hoping they'll mostly happen in the garden), but what about THE OTHER??? Do I just leave her to crap on the floor???

crazychemist have you read the Oh crap book? I would strongly suggest reading it. Ultimate yes there maybe crap on the floor but ideally you will be watching your child and you will see when they start to poo and you will put them on the potty.

After over a full week being dry DD has had a couple of dribbles on in her trousers.

anotherangel I have ordered the oh crap book after seeing how often it is mentioned on this forum. So I think I'll just keep encouraging DD to sit on the potty occasionally to get her used to it, and then be more official about it next week once the book has arrived.

Carpet shampoo at the ready then!

The crap book says to hide the potty in advance but I don’t agree with that.

I would keep the potty out. Maybe order a children’s book about the potty and play with toys getting them to wee on the potty.

I would have a potty upstairs and down stairs. Those toddler toliet inserts for each toliet. Toddler steps to wash hands and helpful for legs in a good position to poo. Portable potty for out and about. It sounds expensive but soon you won’t have the cost of nappies.

I've only got one potty - downstairs as we are very rarely upstairs except when she first wakes and when I'm getting her ready for bed, and I still want to do nappy at bedtime.

Today was bare bottom day one. Four wees on the floor (all near the potty except one!), one on my lap and an HUGE poo right next to the potty..... she happily sits on the potty just AFTER weeing. Oh well, maybe better luck tomorrow! I don't quite get how anyone manages to get toddler on potty mid-stream, I don't have those kind of reflexes!

I think it depends on the amount of wee!

In future you may need to take the potty upstairs at bedtime as you will want to eventually start doing a final wee before bedtime to cut down on the ‘I need a wee’ after lights out.

I've managed to get her on a few times mid-Wee, much to my surprise. I do the Oh Crap thing of saying 'hold on, wee goes in the potty' while I dash her over, and she does seem to be able to hold on a bit, which I find amazing.

I do keep the potty v close by though.

Grr, DS has been doing amazingly well at home and nursery but today he’s gone to his GPs and I just had a call from my DM saying he’s very distressed about going on the potty and asking for a nappy. I took his potty from home so it’s not like it’s a different one. I don’t want to make it into a problem but equally don’t want him to go backwards!! I told her to put him in a pull up and try and take it off later.

Oh no, how annoying for you! It definitely gets worse out of the home environment, IME.

I'm feeling woe today. This morning she came to me and said 'I done a wee' and had in fact done so, no thought of going to the potty.

Then she managed to start to poo while I was right there and I didn't notice anything was going on (though there was a BIG fart - I'll pay more attention to those in future!). So I dashed her to the potty and some of it went in the potty but my God, it was all very messy.

And THEN, when I prompted her, she didn't want to use the little loo at the children's centre at all (we go there for stay and play), sat on their potty for a moment and said there was nothing. Fine, but then on the way home in the buggy, she announced she needed to do a wee, so I whipped out the potty, and put her on it and there was nothing happening. She sat on it for five minutes, happily chatting, while all the neighbourhood went by. Then she announced she didn't want to get in the buggy, so I think it was a dastardly ploy to get out of the buggy. (She has form for this - when she was about 18 months, she realised that if she was bored in a restaurant she just needed to tell us she'd done a poo in the nappy, cos we ALWAYS responded to that so she got a walk around the restaurant to the loo, and voila, no poo )

So - is it ok to still be having so many accidents at this point? (A week in exactly)

And how do I stop her taking the piss (no pun intended!) with pretend potty trips?! I obviously want to be responsive when she says she needs to go.

Joining in if that's ok. DD is 2 next week and anti-nappy at the moment. Done her first wee on the potty this morning. I'd be keen to just crack on but she goes to nursery 1 day a week and is in the under 2 room with no toilets or potty's so I think I need to wait until she moves room. Maybe I could ask them if I can bring her potty in. Just checking in for when we are ready. It's getting hard at home as she outright doesn't want a nappy on but I don't want to be doing it all twice if she has to wear nappies to nursery.

Welcome! Pull up a chair and have some kitchen roll.

That's annoying about your nursery. When's she due to move? If they really won't let you be flexible, then I'd hold off. All the experience on here seems to be that going in and out of nappies (apart from for sleeping) just seems to confuse them.

Thanks rain. I'm not sure when she will be moving, I will talk to her key worker tomorrow. Yes I really don't want to confuse her. I let her sit on the potty after I've taken a wet nappy off as she wants to but not actively encouraging anything yet.

I’m doing potty training this week too! Delighted to have found this.

Tried day 1 yesterday, 2 pees in a potty. Nothing so far today . This was the only thing I was dreading about having kids

My dm said he did calm down and sit on the potty in the end so fingers crossed he’ll still be doing ok by the time I pick him up.

Rain it does sound like quite a lot of accidents still after a week, I think if we were having more accidents than not after a week I’d probably wait and try again in a month or so?

dino, glad to hear he did it in the end! Perhaps not just sure how rules work in new setting?

I'm finding bare bottom day 2 insanely boring. And DD has watched more tv than is reasonable today! Don't know how else to keep her close enough to the potty to grab her in time... mostly haven't succeeded at all, definitely more going on the floor than in the pot. Oh well, maybe more luck tomorrow.

DH got a good scowl from me today. He's away for the next two and a half weeks, and when I said goodbye he said how much he was looking forward to coming home to a potty trained DD

We are back on track! All wees in the potty today, once because she asked for it, and twice because I did Oh Crap style prompts at the appropriate time.

Touching wood, obviously.

Yay to rain

Giving DD the day off and sheds back in nappies because she has an upset stomach and I couldn't face getting that on the carpet! We'll start again in a couple of days. Two steps forward, one step back....

I am joining you, if that’s ok. I read the oh crap book yesterday in one go because I suspected Dd is ready and she’s starting preschool in September. She’s 28 months.

We did Day 1 today. Ohmigawd, this child can pee like nothing else! Four accidents today, two of which were totally my fault for being lax. At least 8 pees in the potty and a couple in the “big potty”. We’ve had about a 60-70% success rate for the day, which I’m hoping isn’t too bad for the first day.

Welcome ciao! My DS is the same age as your DD, we started one week ago.

I’m getting annoyed with DS’s nursery. When DH picked him up yesterday, they’d put DS back in a nappy. I told them I wanted him in pants all day. I thought they’d be helpful in this process but at the moment they seem to be hindering it! It must be confusing for DS to be in pants in the morning and then they put a nappy on him in the afternoon - totally mixed messages 🙄 DH said he wasn’t happy and I’ll be speaking to them on Monday to emphasise we don’t want him in nappies at all except for naps. Hopefully we can really crack his “dribbling” problem over the weekend!

Hello another one to join if that's good!
Got a DS of 3 and he seems to found a loop hole in the whole potty training thing by seeing and sitting on the potty but with his pants on we're on the 3rd pair today already. Been trying to perfect potty for almost a year now 😩

Welcome super . My DD like to use the potty with nappy on...

Ciao that sounds like a brilliant start! Wish DD had that kind of success rate, mostly still going on the floor, we only get two wees in the potty each day, with lots of little sprinkles on the floor

Bare bottom again today, and we're 1 all for floor vs. Potty.

Getting a bit worried about how bori potty training days are. Usually I'd be taking DD out lots, we'd see peopleand do things. At the moment we are at home, watching lots of nursery rhymes. I'm bored stiff and it can't be good for DD either!

I found that too, crazy, and it pushed me out of the house with the potty much sooner than I'd planned. DD and I are usually out of the house a LOT and we both started to get grumpy from being inside too much.

So now I'm one of those people I swore I'd never be, with a little potty in the bottom of the buggy, whipping it out everywhere when DD needs a wee.

dino that's so annoying on your nursery part. Why did they put him in a nappy?

I spoke to DDs nursery yesterday and they are moving her to the next room first week of Sept. This is ok with me as only 6 weeks and we are on holiday for one week of that and I didn't really want to deal with accidents on holiday. At least there's a date in sight.