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Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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Sharing pottt training woes - no judgement

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anotherangel2 · 27/06/2018 10:02

A safe place to rant so you keep your frustrations away from your child.

I just want to sake ‘For fuck sake DD just sit in the potty for 10 seconds for a try and then we can go out to the aquarium. It’s not that difficult just sit your arse down’.

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Coldhandscoldheart · 01/07/2018 09:12

@thenewaveragebear1983 would heavy bribery work?

Aren’t pull ups supposed to be like nappies? We’re just using a nappy at night & for naps (when I remember).

thenewaveragebear1983 · 01/07/2018 09:23

Cold nope, he is far to smart for that. Apparently he hates stickers because stickers are ‘scary bad dreams’

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anotherangel2 · 01/07/2018 09:32

Our first trip out was a walk around the block with the porter potty and a million spare trousers.

The On Crap books suggests potty starting potty training on a bank holiday weekend and if possible take a days holiday after it so you get four days in a row at home.

Yesterday was good out and about. DD happily had a wee on toilet when we went out and had a wee on the big girl toilet when we were at the park. She refused the potty or toilet in the afternoon and had a wee on the garden. She knew it was coming and I think she just fancied it. I strongly suspect if we were out and about or with other people she would have used the potty instead.

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anotherangel2 · 01/07/2018 09:33

Pull up are slightly less absorbant I think but unless your child have a particularly heavy nappy over night I think they are fine.

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BigusBumus · 01/07/2018 09:43

thenewaveragebear1983 My DS1 was 3.5yrs and was exactly like your son. Everyone said, "Be patient, he'll get there....", but my patience was wearing extremely thin as in the end I thought he was perfectly capable and just doing it on purpose / being awkward.

One day I asked him if he needed a poo and he said no. He almost immediately went behind the dining room curtain (I was in the room), opened his legs wide and stood and did a poo whilst looking at me, almost in defiance. He was fully clothed. I'm afraid I lost my rag a bit, shouted at him and made him put his dirty pants and clothes in the washing machine and sat him on the naughty step, crying.

He never wet or dirtied himself again.

I'm not advocating this by the way!! I just got to the end of my tether but it turned out he WAS perfectly able to stay clean after all. They are all different.

BigusBumus · 01/07/2018 09:46

DS2 in contrast took his own nappy off at 22 months saying "no nappy" and never had one single accident. He never used a potty, sat on the edge of the loo and stood up for wee's like his older brothers.

They are all teenagers now and all I wish now is that they would take their eyes off their phones and look where they are aiming! Lol.

thenewaveragebear1983 · 01/07/2018 10:42

Bigus the problem I’m having is I know he can do it if he would only let me take his nappy off. He just won’t go without a nappy!! I feel like we need those few days of accidents and he’ll begin to get the the potty, but currently there’s no chance of an accident as he is stubbornly hanging on to his pampers!

Anyone else had this? Most people I know of have had it the other way- child desperate to wear pants but then having accidents all the time.

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anotherangel2 · 01/07/2018 10:52

My DD is 25 months and every morning she wants another nappy on but I take it off despite her crying. It sounds cruel but previously she would disappear pull down her trousers, take off her nappy and use the potty. I strongly suspect she would be 6 and in nappies if I waited in the mornings until she was ready to take it off.

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Rainatnight · 01/07/2018 18:00

I'm starting this Thursday. Placemarking so I can check back in when I hit bumps in the road. Good luck to all the potty trainers!

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anotherangel2 · 02/07/2018 13:13

Day 10 yesterday and every wee was in a potty or a toilet!

Pooing was a nightmare yesterday. DH went off message on Saturday and let her have a nappy for nap time and she promptly pooped in it. So on Sunday she thought she would pooed in her nappy at nap time but I would not let her a nappy. She spent 45 mins going back and forth between the potty and the toilet until she had a poo on the potty.

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Coldhandscoldheart · 02/07/2018 13:34

Yay anotherlittleangel2

Rubyslippers7780 · 02/07/2018 16:34

Well done everyone. We had one poo in potty but one in pants!
My stress is going on holiday next monday... do we keep trying if he's not there yet? I know it's a week away but how quickly can you trust them?? We've just stayed around the house for 5 days and he's no where near reliable...

Coldhandscoldheart · 02/07/2018 21:54

@anotherangel2 i think I would have lost the plot at about 15miinutes!
Currently she’s squeezing out a wee as a diversionary tactic (I’m 90% certain) at bedtime, although she has a nappy on.
I’m ashamed to say the second time she said she wanted, I said no.

We went to the beach yesterday which went quite well (apart from the short diversion to a&e 🙄) a wee in the potty & one on the loo - I had to hold her so she didn’t fall in!).

Today a bit mixed, one wet at nursery, but she’s very tired.

Coldhandscoldheart · 02/07/2018 21:58

@Rubyslippers7780 Do you think he could understand a nappy just for travelling? Or a pull up, so you can still take him to the loo, but it’s less of an issue if you don’t / can’t make it?
I think mine does understand when I have said this nappy’s just for in the car.

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anotherangel2 · 02/07/2018 22:20

Rubyslippers7780 that is a tough one!

Coldhandscoldheart I am verybused to bedroom shegians of the the sleep avoider. DD has always been a nightmare at going to sleep. Tonight I was very firm before bath time that there would be no good after bath time so she would need to eat supper if she was hungry. There was not complaint of a ‘grumbly tummy’ or a ‘fully tummy’ but lots of I need a wee and I weed in my nappy and need a new nappy. A new one tonight was a fake cough followed by ‘I nearly have a cough. I need a drink’. I told she has to wait until morning.

All wee today in the potty and toilet and she happily pooped in the potty today. But hours to go to sleep again.

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Coldhandscoldheart · 03/07/2018 05:58

It’s one of the things I didn’t realise, I thought bedtime mucking about didn’t happen til they were, I dunno, four? Five? Older than two and a half anyway. DD2 keeps waking at night & I don’t have the patience just now, I’m a very grumpy mummy.

thenewaveragebear1983 · 03/07/2018 07:08

Could you get some of the pull ups training pants that have race cars on? Y’know, special ‘car pants’ that everyone wears on long journeys, that definitely aren’t nappies?

When we trained our older Ds, we switched to night time pull ups with a different design as we’d told him that there were no nappies left for big boys now there was a new baby. He seemed to buy this...!!

BertrandRussell · 03/07/2018 07:15

I think that if potty training is causing you or your child the slightest hint of worry or stress you should go back to nappies and try again in a month's time. The ideal time is when your child says "mummy, [or daddy if you've played your cards right] I don't want to wear nappies any more" so can be handed a pair of pants and pointed towards the loo.

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anotherangel2 · 03/07/2018 09:31

BertrandRussell my DD was pulling her trousers down, taking her nappy off and using the potty for wees and one poo. She was also frequently refusing nappies but at times she was still upset and wanted to poo in the potty but a couple of days later she was fine pooing the potty. I genuinely think that DD would not be 100% comfortable with potty/toilet until she had the chance to experience them and be comfortable repeatedly using them. Most children learn by pushing their boundaries of comfort. It is through pushing boundaries that people develop confidence.

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Coldhandscoldheart · 04/07/2018 19:45

I’m really not sure what to do. Three accidents today, two at nursery, one was at pick up. She didn’t seem to have noticed or care that she was wet.
I don’t know whether to just go back to nappies for a bit. Supposed to be away for the weekend.
I asked her if she wanted to go back to nappies and she said no. Arg.

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anotherangel2 · 04/07/2018 19:59

Coldhandscoldheart two accidents is not many. How long have you been potty training for?

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Coldhandscoldheart · 04/07/2018 20:01

I think it’s been a week. And it’s at least that many every day.

Coldhandscoldheart · 04/07/2018 20:02

It seems to be getting worse.

BertrandRussell · 04/07/2018 20:06

I would honestly go back to nappies and try again in a month.

TillyMint81 · 04/07/2018 20:08

I tried him at 2 1/2 when his sisters were both 'done'
Nope.
He's three next month and we started last Monday. He's pretty good for wees but I have to catch him mid poop or he will go in his pants. A couple of weeks back I had the pleasure of whipping down his pants (I'd been putting them on him in the house) and somehow accidentally catching a large turd in my hand. It was some sort of reflex action. They worst part is I had the potty in my other hand to put behind him whilst simultaneously pulling down his pants but my brain thought 'oo, quick, grab that' Blush

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