Fab Feb 2009: when they're good they are very very good, when they're bad they're todzillas...

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New thread for us to chat about our little jekyll & hydes...

Danny is currently stood next to me rearranging my DVD collection - I will be doing a work out to charlie & lola tonight apparently, while DS1 will be watching Billy Blanks Taebo with his pre-bedtime cup of milk and DH's history docu is hiding out with Diego in the city of lost toys...

A is pantless as he won't let me put them on and is knocking down dd's block towers

We're going to the races today

I won a family pass to the family fun day at our local racecourse (by local i mean as local as anything round here so about 45 mins away). Should be fun.

littlesez.... nappies covers with poppers are great, they don't figure them out until they're at least 2

link posted in new thread now

Diego is a favourite in this house. H would be livid if S ever touched one of his DVD's

Have fun at the races Tulips, sounded very 'ladies who lunch' until you mentioned taking the kids

Sunday lunch has been cancelled - Hurrah! Our guests couldn't make it so I'm taking the kids to mums where I can sit on my bum all afternoon help her with hers instead!!

Cheers for the link Tulips - have a fab day at the races.

Hurrah for a surprise lazy sunday Spotty!

Tulips Have fun at the races.

dinky Thanks for new thread and Tulips thanks for link

Luke is now in bed, Jacob is going in a min too and then I'm going.

just quietly tiddling in the corner to mark my spot

No more babycentre for me stoopid place. I'll stick to mumsnet oops and clothnappytree

Right new thread new start, im going to be a good fab febber! Izzy had a bad day today poor love (and poor mum after a couple of todzilla moments) NOTE TO SELF, do not try to do shopping/photo kiosk/fucking anything you need to do with a grumpy overtired bubs, she will kick off!

Dinky, they do like dvd's don't they Izzy loves arranging mine too. I think you are the official thread namer [giggles] fab title as always

Tulips, I have mostly poppers but a few with aplix as my mum and MIL both have arthritis is their hands and so really struggle with poppers thanks for the link for new thread

spotty! I just sat on my bum all day (ish) not so D H got in at half 5 drunk fucking idiot, so punished him by making him chase Izzy round all day while i lay on the couch at in laws. Then i nagged him all the way home about his disgusting breath and fucking arseholeness (sorry for swearing)

SM hope you get a nice nights sleep x

MOS I know im awful! I go on loads of sites because I get lonely at night when arsewipe is at work (sounds so sad) Im ok in the day because we go out all over me and Izzy but at night im on my own

ermm...... I think littlesez needs a hobby! geek

Littlesez - it sounds like things are quite strained between you and DH at the moment. Is the elephant in the room still sex - or is it the fact that you feel like he's socialising at and through work while you're at home? Internet forums are great in giving you people to chat to when you're lonely and it is very lonely when you're at home in the evenings due to a sleeping child but please dont let it ruin a good thing. Are there any courses out there you'd like to do? Foreign languages you'd like to learn? Maybe use those hours in the evening when you're in and Izzy is sleeping to focus on those as a hobby (along side your new business). I know you're pissed off at DH for rocking in at ungodly o'clock this morning so maybe this is just a one off upset post and if so, ignore my well meaning advice.

littlesez I first signed up on this site due to lonliness and confusion on looking after a baby.
It is very difficult, especially when you're at home on your own with a sleeping child.
Lucky for me I am a lazy cow and love to lay in bed with a good book, but a hooby might be the way forward for you.
Loving dinkys suggestions of home studying or learning a language etc.
Do you have any girl friends who could come round for a few hours every now and again. I have a couple of girlies come round for a few bottles of wine sometimes when dp is on nights, and that is always lovely.

TMI alert
I'm planning on giving dp a little treat in a nit. I have some strawberry flavoured body rub There are certain things that I really hate doing, but that he obviously likes, so I need to start making an effort to meet his needs I think.
He hasn't said anything, but whilst I'm in the mood, I'd better go.

Morning. I just went straight to sleep in the end last night. haha, sorry for sharing that last night

Up at half 5 again, but that's gettting easier to do now.

Morning all..

I am back in MN land again.. Wedding went really well last week but I am so glad it is all over.. Cant believe there was so much to do at SOMEONE ELSES wedding...

I havent been able to catch up with everyones posts so sorry if I have missed anything.

DS is still hitting all the time.. Grrrrr is it a boy thing? Please tell me he will grow out of it!!! Arghhhhhhhhh

Right must get some ironing down today so will be back later!!

Oh littlesez :-(. A hobby is a good idea. I started salsacise because my H was out all the time doing his own activites whilst I was stuck in with the kids nght after night which wasn't fair. The balance maybe needs to shift a bit.

I nearly pmsl at you last night sm!

Hey bumps

shit day today which has just been made worse as I've just crashed H's car into the neighbours my first ever accident. At least it wasn't my car though

OMG spotty Glad you're ok.

Glad I made you laugh, or nearly anyway [smie]

Evening ladies. Bumps - nice to see you on and to hear the wedding went well. Yes, little boys are more aggressive and energetic than little girls - so the hitting/biting/kicking/climbing all over you will unfortunately continue - you just have to keep reinforcing the no dont do that because it hurts/you'll get hurt etc over and over and it eventually sinks in sometime before they leave home. And run them around lots in fresh air so they're too knackered to lift their arms...

Spotty - sorry to hear about the crash, hope you and kids are ok and that damage isnt too bad. Salsacise sounds fun

Had friday and today off as nanny is off for long weekend - spent half of today working on bberry as partner am doing lots of work with has fucked off to NY for the week and left me a deal from hell to complete with no partner supervision - fan fucking tastic! God only knows how am meant to get that done in my fixed hours deal. DH had day off too for a family day so took Danny to baby gym this morning which he loved then picked up DS1 from preschool and went over to Hampstead Heath to have picnic (in the suddenly grey and windy day) and play in playground and paddling pool and got home just before it started bucketing it down out there. Danny actually slept well last night (woke twice but self settled) am praying he will again for the rest of this week as with work hotting up sleep will be v thin in the ground in the dinky household as it is.. Ho hum.

Oh, here you all are!

Hi THOM - nice to see you! How are you and your lovely menfolk doing?

back from a lovely wedding weekend in dorset/somerset. a friend kindly lent us her cottage for the weekend (an amazing place with a huge garden and, as she has 3 kids, loads of toys) so my parents came down too and took our dcs to the beach on the day of the wedding so we got to spend a weekend in the country with them but without the stress of Ivor trying to climb on everything and everyone at the wedding. a perfect combo and i sometimes realise how bloody lucky i am.

however managed to get a urine infection and then a migraine today. i took ivor and i to the gp this evening, his excema is getting really bad. TMI coming up...when the gp stuck his testing stick into my urine sample he announced i had the full house! white blood cells, blood and 'all sorts of junk'. erm, nice. hopefully the abs will kick in soon.
i've also got some migraine tablets which i haven't needed for years. pissed off they're back but fingers crossed the work stresses will lift soon and the migraines will go with them!

spotty sounds like you've had a hell of a time of it. strong lady for supporting your dh now, hope it all works out well but do make sure you keep checking on your own wellbeing too.

littlesez please do try and think of something to help yourself in the evenings.

sm go for it with the saucy body butter but perhaps sooner after the boys are in bed so you can avoid falling asleep?!

dinky glad danny is getting back to normal and you can get your sleep bank filled up again. sorry to hear work is being a bit shit again, did they resolve your concerns from a couple of months back? doesn't sound like it.

hi thom!

We're all doing fine thanks. Dinky. DS1 is so grown up - has almost finished Reception and will be 5 in a couple of weeks. Mr T is hilarious and gorgeous. he's running, jumping, talking really well and obsessed with balls and wheels. Still thinks eating is a fairly pointless exercise and doesn't go to bed before 9.30pm (as I type he is here in the living room playing football with short breaks for dancing, another of his passions...) DH is really enjoying his new job though now he's not working from home he's seeing less of the boys. But we met him for lunch in half-term and his office is just round the corner from Coram's Fields so it will be nice to do that again in the summer holidays.

I'm really tired, despite getting about 7 hours sleep a night. Though I guess it is still interupted (still co-sleeping with Mr T who likes a midnight snack most nights). I'm also really edgy and hormonal and quite prone to shouting very loudly for almost no reason. I'm hoping it's the mini pill I'm on and that things will improve when I swap to an alternative next month.

Spotty sorry about the car but at least no one was hurt.

SM blimey! What did DP do to deserve that kind of treatment?

Littlesez I love to read your posts about Izzy, you sound like you're enjoying motherhood so much. Sorry you're going through a rocky patch with DP, I think we've pretty much all been there and mostly come out the other side. Having children changes so much and gves you so little time to think about that or deal with it. I'm sure the fact that DH & I were together for 15 years before we had DS1 has helped us.

Hello KBN! If you have any time off in summer hols we must meet up.

i'd love to. first half of hols are a bit hectic, one sister and nieces over from thailand and then the other sister getting married in wales but from 8 august onwards i should be free of family stuff. one weekend in the country and i'm so excited about summer coming!

thom i went on the mini pill and bloody hated it, it really did NOT agree with me. hope you cam swap soon and hope it makes a difference. i've definitely found myself being far more 'cross' than i used to be. try to convince myself it's necessary for me to be authoratitive with dd but think it's really just me being a grumpy bitch.

oh yes, forgot to say about dd. bearing in mind she's not yet 5....went to abbotsbury swwannery this weekend. the tickets have to be bought in the shop which is obviously full of all things swan. as we were walking through it dd kept showing me things she'd like. i'd told her she wasn't being bought any presents from there. about a minute after we'd left the shop 'mummy, look what i found in my pocket'. she'd pocketed a plastic swan picture . at least her conscious pricked her very quickly and she did seem pretty shaken by her own actions. my mum said i shouldn't make too big a deal out of it as she might not fess up next time. i thought the klepto tendencies were at least 10 years away! i honestly do think it was her being cheeky and realising it had gone too far. any thoughts?

I'd turn her over to the police KBN! No, I think you're mum's right; I'd downplay it. As long as she knows it was wrong and as you say she shocked herself so she's unlikely to do it again. At almost 5 they're still impulsive and she probably just got carried away by the tackiness beauty of the lovely plastic picture.

THOM nice to see you on here aww i wnat to meet up too! I will one day you know that would be so good. yeh just a rocky patch we were rock solid before Izzy and I think that helps.

dinky I could never ignore your advice, its alwys really good! part sex although its not completely gone its slower getting better after we chatted about it. And yes your spot on about me feeling like he is out but he isnt.

Hey whats baby gym? Ive put Isobella's name down for kindergym but doesnt start til she is 2. your work situation sounds very stressful maybe danny knew and let you have some sleep

SM I cannot think of any friends who would want to come round in the evening most of them have babies too you see, my mum sometimes stays after babysitting and we watch glee does that count yeh maybe I should just read in bed [giggles] any good books to suggest!

SPOTTY i dunno about the balance, I think it feels like he is out because he can have a pint after work without it being a whole night out. He goes out every wednesday night and then once a month on a SUnday. I do dancing on a monday night for an hour so feeling slightly better today.

at the car crash was everyone ok?

BUMPS, sorry if you've tred it already but every time Isobella tries to hit/kick/pulls the cats tail/poke me in the eye I hold her hand very firmly and say be gentle then show her how ot be gentle by taking her hand and stoking me (or the cat!) and saying awwww. I also do it her so she know how it feels. Sorry If you have already tried this but just thought I would share. I did it a squillion times and for now she seems to get it.

KBN what a nice time you had but poo at the docs, maybe your run down? Yes i need something to help but god knows what.

sorry i did sound sad on my post I think we will be ok, just hating him yesterday.

feeling a bit better today, thanks for advice ladies. love you all! xxx

OH MY GOSH DON'T ANYONE REPORT ME TO SOCIAL SERVICES! MY post didnt read right! I meant thta I stroke Izzy so she knows how gentle feels and not that I hit/kick/poke her in the eye! so she knows how it feels.

littlesez off to bed now as making lots of typos and needs sleep.

littlesez lol I knew exactly what you were saying. I am at the moment saying NO and making him rub the face of who ever he has hit and say "love mummy or love jessica" but it is really getting to me at the moment. Jessica has NEVER hit and I have just seen her hit him back... !!

He isn't just hitting in frustration either he will for instance, just walk up to dp or me with a smile on his face and hit us. When i am holding him and say something like "hello baby boy" he will smile and smack me in the face. I say no and he just smiles... He hits Jessica as well sometimes you can see it is in Anger when she takes something off him. The other week he cut her lip as he hit her with a toy in his hand... However he hasn't (Yet fingers crossed) ever hit anyone outside the house and is very gentle with my friends baby.

He is such a loving little boy that it is really upsetting when he does this.. He is full of cuddles and kisses but then out of the blue just lumps us...

However he does now SLEEP THROUGH THE NIGHT yippee..........