Fab Feb 2009: when they're good they are very very good, when they're bad they're todzillas...

[dinkystinky]

New thread for us to chat about our little jekyll & hydes...

Danny is currently stood next to me rearranging my DVD collection - I will be doing a work out to charlie & lola tonight apparently, while DS1 will be watching Billy Blanks Taebo with his pre-bedtime cup of milk and DH's history docu is hiding out with Diego in the city of lost toys...

Well done bumps that's great news. Are you able to tell us exactly what the job is? Did you tell us before and I missed it? Any details at all?

FWIW, when I think about one day getting into a role that i will surely see lots of upsetting things, I also worry about how I will emotionally cope, but I think the realistic view is that you can only do so much to help people, but the point of you taking this kind of job is just to try to make a difference somewhere and to challenge the system iyswim.

I'm sure you will do fab in your new job. Congratulations

Yes it is care in community work.. I will be helping disabled and old people who are struggling day to day, to be able to stay at home rather than have to go into homes... I will also be helping with respite care so that the full time cares of the people get a break too....

Sounds good bumps a worthwhile job.
You will overcome the emoption by knowing what a difference you will be making to these people's lives

One of the guys we saw yesterday was only 17 and had been in a horrific car accident that had left him paralised from the neck down... I could have cried when he was talking to me as he was so strong and clever, yet he couldn't even wipe his own bum.. This is what I need to get a grip with... (as well as the naked body bit!!! )

Yay for everyone!!! SM for your great interviews and good day with the boys, bumps for your new job and Dinks for getting a bit of time back!

Emotional hurdles are hard bumps & sm but you do getused to them pretty quickly. I was 19 when I started working with young offenders and it took me a while to get my head round some of the stuff like sex offences/high end violence/child offences - I remember once going home and being physically sick but (unfortunately) it eventually becomes just another part of the job. Not that your job is going to be like that bumps, I hope you get what I mean!!!

Good luck SM sounds like you're on a roll! Dinky hope you enjoy your family time and that you get a bit of R and R.

I'm flat out tidying the house as we have houseguests arriving from Paris tonight. Easier said than done when Meredith won't let go of my legs. She's got a bit of a temp and she's never clingy like this, so I really hope that she's not going to be poorly. I'm over my ear-infection, and will be taking my last two antibiotics today, just in time for a few drinks tonight! However, (TMI) after washing, drying and ironing all the bedlinen yesterday and climbing into a lovely freshly made bed last night, I woke up this morning to find my period had started. YUK. Luckily the weather is still lovely so all the sheets when straight in the machine and are now drying on the line.

Anyone else got nice plans for the weekend?

Hi Mrsy

Clingy baby over here too. Just slept for 3 hours and has fallen straight back over on me which he never does. think something illness must be on the way. Enjoy your time with your weekend guests. Im going to a school fete tomorrow then gardening on Sunday as its supposed to be kind of glorious.

more behavioural issues I could really do with some advice as Im at the end of my tether with the little ratbag!

Evening all. Spotty - sending you huge hugs. Have posted on your thread to keep it bumped in active conversations.

MrsY - glad you're better and hope M is ok. Have a great time with your friends.

Have had today off too and taken myself off for a massage and facial this afternoon (as the boys had a pre-arranged playdate) which was bliss. Off to leaving BBQ for my sister and her boyf tomorrow (they're going travelling around south america for 6 months) after the boys swimming then strawberry picking and a 5 year olds birthday party on Sunday. And I have Monday off for my 7 year wedding anniversary - we're going to go out for a nice lunch in central london, without kids, to celebrate.

@dinky in response to: "KBN, MS, Swampster and THOM - q about the older kids. DS1 is now 4 and all of a sudden has started having the most almighty tantrums (hes normally a chilled chappy) which are even worse than Danny's. Am putting it down to a developmental stage and hormones but did you go through this and if so, what helped you get your kid through it?"

[hollow laugh]

DS2 is four and I'm not quite sure what to do with him.

DS1 was a monster from birth to four when he suddenly became the most considerate chap you could wish to meet - sometimes.

I think four is one of those developmental stages where boys get a huge testosterone surge and start behaving even more like cavemen.

Spotty, had a look at your thread and I'm afraid I have another [hollow laugh] for you. Hope you can hang in there until he turns... five?

Swampster- am pretty sure Danny is going to be like your DS2. Its just a real shock with DS1 as he's always been a pretty placid, easygoing child. Oh well, will hang on in for 5 - and if he is being all caveman like at least he'll enjoy our survival britain camping weekend at the end of July where he'll learn to forage, skin rabbits etc.

I am comforted that I am not alone.

MrsY I came on today too. I hate being on my period in this weather, even though I use tampons (or pom-poms if you speak to Jacob ) I just feel so manky!
Luke is a clingy child too. Can be very anoying always having a small child wrapped around your legs can't it? I never had this with jacob, he has always been very independent and never really seem bothered by me, but Luke, OMG.
spotty Will pop onto that link in a mo.

We had a lovely day at the local splash park. There are some lovely pics of the boys on my fb wall. If you do have a look, please ignore the pics of me looking like an elephant!

Interview went ok. I'll find out on thursday if I've got the job or not. Not too hopeful tbh. But all good experience anyway.

ME TOO! an hour ago! Are we all synching our body clocks???? Moon cup is the way forward. Was grossed out several years ago but started using them before I fell pg with Harry and haven't look back. Saved me a freakin FORTUNE!!! Any tampons (mice) and towels ('mices trump-o-leens') i've had lying around in the bathroom cupboard end up opened and chucked down the toilet by my lovely boys anyway!!!!

Thankyou all for the input on my other thread x

hello all,
well done on the job bumps and SM fingers crossed for your other interview.

All a bit odd here, part of me can't wait to get out of here next week but I know I will miss my mates here and am slightly worried about DD as 10+ weeks is a long time and I'm worried how she will cope.

A bit gloomy here too, found out yesterday that another friend of DH's died on Thursday. He left here around 6 months ago and then in January was dx with cancer and died yesterday. Also another friend here has a 14 year old son dx with cancer. Really doesn't sound good, apparently its in his organs and bones. I'm not a medical person but I'm pretty sure when it gets in your bones there is not much you can do. so very sad and unfair.

Am desperately trying to tie up loose ends here. Have one of DH's friends who I'm doing legal work coming after work tonight to go through his financial papers and hopefully it won't take long as have so much to do. Am also desperately trying to finish my counselling assignment. Done pretty much everything apart from a write up of an observed interview. Not able to do the 'real thing' here but they say just observing an interaction on tv/dvd will suffice.
Spent around 4 hours yesterday watching dvds and didn't find anything suitable and getting desperate now. Have a nanny coming in half an hour and will then have 2 clear hours before client turns up to find something and write a summary of my observations. Just found some australian soap which might have something suitable, they all seem quite stressed and drama queens so hopefully there will be a 'helping' incident if that makes sense.

watch this space...................

Hope everyone is doing ok and enjoying the weekend. What is the weather like by the way? Need to do my packing later, did one case yesterday and need to sort the rest later/tomorrow

spotty I want a mooncup, am just a bit nervous about it.

mos Hope you get everything done in a stress-free manor and can't wait to see you and everyone else at some point over the summer

I've just dyed my hair. It's kind of a deep red/brown now, but looks ok. Dp isn't sure he likes it, but I don't really care about that

Everyone else is asleep right now. There is not a chance of me taking the boys out when it's 80 degrees.
I hate this heat. God, I am such a miserable cow.
i will be spending the weekend packing and cleaning ready for our holiday monday

my period still hasn't appeared will be opting for mooncup when it does i think. can't stand the feel of tampons anymore and pads are fucking vile... prefer to sit on an old towel than stick on of those in my knickers!

gotta run without replying, just wanted to mark my place... kids have a birthday party to attend, joint arty for a brother and sister, same classes as my older two.

speaking of classes.... dd has finished her first year at school.... we're officially on summer holidays [eek]

SM 80 degrees, I'd better pack my winter woolies then Its cooled down a bit the last few days, only around 44 degrees now, was around 49+ last week. Not sure what that works out on the other chart but pretty damm hot. over 100 I think.

Finished my assignment! About 2 hours ago I decided f* it! Its now or never (or September) so locked myself in study and got on with it and have just emailed it off. Not sure its up to the standard of the last few assigments I did (which the tutor said were some of the best she'd ever seen) but you know what, I don't care!

SM why in the name of god/allah are you cleaning to go on holiday on Monday?

right, will go and do a bit of packing now. Not really too much more of mine to do. we are off to Florida in Oct (via UK) so I'm taking quite a few of my clothes back to the UK and will just leave them there when I come back in September and will just pick them up on my way out in October. Am fed up wtih packing and unpacking.

In fact, I'm not sure I want to know.
Anyway, I still haven't got my periods back after H. Is that normal?

Good luck with the packing SM and MOS. Spotty - hope DS1 is being a little less challenging today. I find DS1's behaviour (and Danny's too for that matter) rapidly deteriorates when they're tired - I take it he's past day time naps (DS1 has only just started dropping his ) but does he have a few quiet times during the day in his room or downstairs with a blanket playing sleeping lions? Maybe try making him a den in a corner of the room he can have quiet time in? Might help in the afternoons and the classic pre-bedtime witching/whinging hour.

Mooncups - never tried them. I'm a pad girl am afraid - and yes, Danny loves toddling around with them if I am fool enough to leave them in grabbing distance. I swear he's gone through another growth spurt recently as things that used to be out of grabbing distance for Danny suddenly are finding their way into his sticky little mitts

mos I like to come back to a nice clean home so I tend to clean us out of it iyswim. I am one of those that gets everyone out the door and then mops my way through the flat on the way out!
I also change the bedsheets on the morning we go away so they are nice and clean when we get back.
I am such a loser aren't I!?

My neighbour will be coming in to feed the cats whilst we are gone too.

This is such a joke, I told dp I'd go to the shops in the evening when it starts to cool down a bit. He decided half a hour ago that we should go now, I told him I couodn't possibly leave the house without a shower and some make-up and I said I'd get ready. Bear in mind I had to shower and get dressed, do my face and then dress the boys. Before jumping in shower I got the phone t pay the credit card off and dp starts moaning about me not getting ready.
He had to get dressed.
I am sat here waiting for him to ge ready now. He is such a PITA.
I don't know why I couldn't just go on my own after the boys were in bed.

Ooh weirdy! I came on this morning and dusted the mooncup off. Second period since DS3. I'd keep breastfeeding for ever if it would keep periods at bay.

After DS2 my periods came back really quickly. I went to the doctor because I didn't understand why I was bleeding again so soon - thought it was connected to the birth - lochia revisited. "I think you'll find it is your period." "But I'm breastfeeding!"

I love my mooncup but find it difficult to get it out.

tampons really gross me out and pads are a bit yucky.

KBN - am watching a repeat of grand designs with your mates on.

Swampy - am still mixfeeding DS2 and my periods came back with a vengeance literally as soon as I stopped exclusively feeding him. I have to admit the getting out would be my concern with mooncups - will stick to my yucky pads with wings for the time being. How is DS3 nowadays - less of a clingon?

Danny has been a teething grizzly bunny from hell today. He is also officially a nutjob (we will be changing the N in his initials to this by deed poll). We had a trip to Toys R Us this morning to buy a small child and garden appropriate paddling pool (as opposed to the 2 virtually unused ones we have in our loft which will be going on Ebay shortly...) and then swimming this afternoon followed by kids playing in paddling pool in garden - left it up while they had their dinner and straight after dinner they went to the garden to eat icecreams for pudding (its a privilege of summer in the dinky household) and Danny decided to dive head first into the paddling pool fully dressed. He was outraged at being cold and wet. Second day in a row he's done this (did it after dinner at play date yesterday). I blame DH's genes. However both he and DS1 ate pretty spicy chicken fajitas for dinner which my genes take fully credit for.

swampy that's what worries me, not being able to get it out and trimming the stem. What if I put it in wrong and cut the stem too far?
I try to use tampons in the day and pads through the night. I really hate pads.

Lol dinky if we can handle face to face meetings after talk of vaginal discharge, piles, constipation, general bowel movements, rips tears and stiches plus styling the lady garden in time for labour, we can hack seeing each other knowing who has what preference to feminine products (can't wink from the blackberry)

Speaking of water, Luke is getting better and better with it and even giggles in the shower now!

Just off to bed now but so hot doubt I'll sleep :-(