May 2009 - one year on

[Tummum]

Here you go ladies...

Quick post - G just walked! He is very pleased with himself. Yay to Momino's DD too.

yay llare well done G how exciting for him (& you too of course !)

Right, sneaking a quick post in whilst at work.

running lovely dress. Fi gives good fashion advice there. I concur with it!!

momi hope you are feeling better now. I saw your feeling like a bad mummy posts and echo what every one else said. Sounds like you deserve a bit of pampering, and yay to H's walking. Had spotted the video on FB. Bless her!

And well done to llare's G too with the walking skills!

omnom R also is averse to the word no. Screams blue murder. Its not a sign we've spoilt them is it???

Another one here loving Sherlock too. Was quite prepared to be dismissive of it, but I think they have done a fantastic job of updating it and it works really well. Disappointed LeStrade wasn't in last Sundays though. He is a bit yummy, dontcha think??

So In Laws now been here nearly 24 hours. So far, having spent all last night with them, neither of them have actually asked how I am! Now is that self centred of me? Hell, I don't fecking care! I am pg with twins FFS!!! But no, not even a how are you feeling, not a word.Not a word about the twins at all from them. At all. AIBU to expect it???? Instead we had conversations, for examply about FILs chinese friend's parents visit to the UK. Like I fecking care. Another conversation topic last night: SILs curtains. Hold the front page.

DH has had the briefest of brief conversations with them about helping out around the time of EDD, but nothing really arranged, so I will need to talk to them tonight I supppose. I don't know if I even want them here but I will need the help as my mum is away (booked before pg announcement so nothing we can do.) Oh god I have to get through tonight on my own with them (DH away). Never have I wanted a large glass of win, or 4, more!!!!

And breathe.......................

smokey & breathe.. visualize that golden light riveting topics of conversation in their defense maybe they are trying albeit badly to take your mind off being pregnant or waiting for you to broach the subject first? have to say imo yanbu though.

DS & DH should be settled in glasgow about now. I think G will be asleep soon, she got upset dropping them at the airport & we're missing them already

smokey - I think I'd feel exactly the same in your situation re your ILs lack of mentioning the twins! Maybe they're doing it for the best of intentions as Fi suggests but surely they would at least check how you were feeling?
Hope you're managing to get some time to yourself whilst they're staying.

Fi - must be v strange without your DH and DS. Hope G sleeps well for you tonight and you get a bit of chill time too!

Running - that is a gorgeous dress. Enjoy your weekend :)

Yay for Llare and Momino's walking LOs :)

Hello everyone else!

Right, off to bed for me I think (work in the morning!)

smoky I've been thinking about your comments about your in-laws. You reminded me of when I was pregnant with DS2 and it was so different to my first pregnancy when I was showered with help and comments and attention. Second time around they barely mentioned my pregnancy and I used to get quite upset about it as I thought it meant they had little interest in a 2nd grandchild. It hasn't worked out that way, luckily.

Hello ladies, just had a quick read through after being on my hols for a week. I will see how much i can remember....

febes- can't be many days til you move now - exciting.

flip- after a few mornings of 5.15 wakeups on holiday, I take my hat off to you coping with 5am every day and a DD2 who is constantly on the go and up to mischief. Can you get any me-time?

fi and momino- well done on the running. I haven't run since my 5k - i was glad i was able to do it, and I did wonder about doing more, but i would rather exercise in the gym/pool.

momino and llare - congrats on the walkers - great fun. S toddles all the time now (only crawling when really tired) and it's very cute.

york meetup- momino- if it is the 1 Sept at the races, I could come with DD as she isn't back at school until the Thursday that week.

smokey - hope the ILs show a bit more concern/interest in you/your pg soon! I would be , especially given the alternative topics of conversation!

omnom and ses and anyone else TTC. Hope things are going ok and that you get the news you want over the next few months. I don't think we'll be TTC no.4 anytime soon .

Well, I have spent a week at the seaside with my parents and sister/BIL/baby and my DH/DCs. I feel exhausted! I think because we booked the house, and invited them, they seemed to think we were responsible for arranging all the cooking, making all the cups of tea, tidying up, loading/unloading the dishwasher, putting the rubbish out etc etc . My BIL did do a bit to help, but don't think i had a single cuppa from my mum or dad all week, and when my sister did make me one, the mug was half-full .

One example of how it was was when i'd been up since 5.30am and fed the DCs breakfast, I'd made a cup of tea for me, DH and sister who were the only ones up. A few minutes later my mum emerged from her bedroom, sat at the breakfast table, helped herself to breakfast I'd laid out for her, whilst i carried on putting dirty dishes in the washer, cleaned the highchair, tidied rubbish etc, and then i sat down at the table to drink my luke warm tea. Mum glared at me, looked at the cup, and as that wasn't working, said something like "where's mine?". I refused to make her one (but my sister did). I sound really petty don't I . It didn't help that all week I had a bad cough, and i had one day where i felt really ill (might have been swine flu?) and my mum kept telling me (every time i coughed) that i should get it looked at by a doctor, talk to the pharmacist, i need to rest, i do too much, it sounds bronchial - but didn't offer to take the DCs off my hands so i could do any of the above!

On the final day, i asked my mum and dad if they might have DD and DS1 for an hour and my mum said "why?!" and my dad said "yes of course", and then said it would give us some time to "tidy round the house" . Blow that! We went for a coffee. Oh, and the best was when my mum took DHs camera to look at the photos, and tried to hand it back to DS1 who is 3, and didn't know what she was doing so wasn't ready to hold it, so it fell to the (stone floor) and the lens is broken as it was open when it fell . So just have DHs photos from his phone, hence no photos on FB. Anyway DH and I had a lovely night out whilst they babysat so we had some good times too.

pula welcome back! sounds a hard work holiday at times but great you got to spend quality time with family and a night out to yourself. so sorry about your camera too.
llare I found the same when pregnant with G.. on the whole it was only friends who'd not seen me in a while who asked how I was doing.

pula and smokey ahhhhh families hope you are both feeling more chilled now.

now for a me me me bit...
can I ask a very personal question? When everyone's AF came back how was it? Mine returned in June and I'm having a shitty time. I've just had a 2 day break after a really long AF and it's started again really heavy, am having a lot of period pain and just feel really rotten.
Am wondering whether to try and see gp this week about it?

omnom think you should go and see your GP. Can't hurt just to be checked out. Mine was fine when it came back but that was only after 4 months of BF so not really comparable.

pula families!!! Glad you managed to have a good time but it doesn't sound like you had the most relaxing time of it. And no you don't sound petty at all. And grr at the camera.

Well, I made it through the ILs visit without throttling them. Things did improve Thursday night and they did at least ask a fair few questions about the pg etc. Have come to an arrangement with MIL re help in the latter stages too. But I did have to keep my cool on Friday when I met them after work at SILs. SIL (who is lovely and who I get on really well with) has a rather boisterous dog. Anyway, R was left alone with said dog and dog bit him, leaving a puncture wound in his finger. It seems it was only a matter of a minute that R was with him, but still, there were three adults in the house at the time. R is ok thankfully and I don't suppose it will happen again, but still.....

I took myself off for some reflexology on Saturday morning for a bit of a treat for having put up with them for 3 nights.

Have been really struggling with bump today. It is so much heavier than with one. DH took both DSs off to a fair this afternoon. I just couldn't do it. The walking is becoming a bit of a challenge now. I can do about a ten to 15 minute walk but any longer than that, I have to be able to sit down. Its only going to get worse too.

Only 2 hours till Sherlock. Such a shame its the last one. Hope they do some more.

omnom wouldn't hurt to go to gp but fyiw when my af arrived unexpectedly early while we were in canada in may (only my 2nd one.. the 1st had been just 3wks before) was a truly horrendous whooshing one.. 3rd&4th were still v heavy and got cramping & felt dreadful (had to use those stick on heat pads to ease the pain).. last one was very light with no pain but dragged on for 10days. I'm hoping they'll settle down as atm they are a pita! previous to dc's i've had an op for Endometriosis so i'm kinda used to crappy af's.
smokey glad you survived the IL'S but on R's behalf his poor sore finger. I can't imagine how awkwardly heavy your bump must be atm and i hope you get the chance to sit down to lighten the load as much as you need to? wish we were closer to help lighten your load! i'm looking forward to sherlock too!

omnom- i would go see the GP to see what they say. After DD and DS1 my periods returned exactly 4 weeks after finishing BF and were a bit heavier and longer at first but settled into a regular (4-5 week) cycle. Still no period this time, but I am still BF S 2-3 times a day and on the minipill and hope it stays away as I don't miss it and have no plans for TTC.

smokey - glad that you survived the ILs visit, and am not surprised you are at the dog bite, poor R. Hope your DH continues to take the DSs out so you can have a rest, as I found it hard work when pg with S and having DD and DS1 to look after too, so with a twin pg it must be doubly hard. How many weeks are you now?

I am also looking forward to Sherlock (didn't realise it was the last one tonight ) and am catching up on mistresses which i missed whilst we were away.

thanks smokey and Fi am just so pissed off that I've only had a 2 day gap and am on my af again, esp as we are meant to be ttc- but it's really helpful to hear that you have had a similar experience of AF being all over the place Fi. I guess will talk to gp about it, if I carry on with this rate I should prob start taking some iron tablets. Think I'll get some of those heat pads tomorrow

smokey how awful about R getting bitten- you must have been very upset -I'm sure everyone will be extra careful not to leave the dog alone with children after that

omnomnomtom - I agree with the others, especially as you want to get on with ttc.
I've now had 2 periods which have both been pretty much usual ones for me. Fortunately for ttc, they came back when I cut down to 2 BFs a day.

smokey - for you! O loves our 2 dogs and they are both v soppy (although v playful!). We have never left O alone with them though as at the end of the day they are animals and you cannot guarantee what they might suddenly do out of character. I hope R has forgotten all about his experience now and that your ILs show a bit more awareness in future!
Can only imagine what you must be feeling with a twin bump. Bet the reflexology felt good :)

Pula - sounds like your holiday was good except for your family! You don't sound petty at all. Maybe they can organise another year and then wait on you!

Fi - hi! How's your NS plans coming along?

Sherlock - I'm also really looking forward to it! Hope they do another (longer!) series!

I'm now 7dpo and absolutely no symptoms to speak of. I've also had a letter from my GP about my underactive thyroid saying that my latest blood tests suggest I need to increase my dose. I've made an appointment to go and see her on 16th but poorly controlled, it can lead to problems ttc and mc :) I've increased my dose myself immediately Could also explain why I seem to have put on half a stone in the last month or so

My brother gets married in 4 weeks and I'm really struggling to find a nice outfit for O to wear. I know he'll probably have it mucky within minutes but I'd really like to find something nice and smart for him. Any ideas??!

Evening all!

omnomnomtom - agree with the others, get it checked. No other advive or experience though, sorry - still no AF here either.

smokey - I'd be mad about the dog, poor R.

pula - Holiday sounds like hard work, but some good bits.

sherlock - am a bit annoyed, we forgot it was on! Ah well, iplayer this week.

ses - have you looked in Monsoon? They have nice boys outfits.

Dh is injured, mountain biking accident! He's ok, but has hurt his back and neck quite badly, and just waiting for some xray results - it's a suspected cracked vertebra. I do feel sorr for him, but it's not good timing, we're possibly moving in two weeks time!!!! Just waiting to see if our buyer is happy with the survey. Getting v scary now!

ses i'd 2nd monsoon also mamas and papas might be worth a look.
flip oh no that's awful your poor dh will keep my fingers crossed it's not as bad as they think. good luck for the buyers surveyors too. x

oh and ses thanks for asking.. our NS plans are suddenly V exciting!! in saturday's post was a letter from Nova Scotia.. A letter of nomination for us which means we've can start filling in the forms!!! the process is long winded but this letter is a big deal and has taken a lot of phoning, email & letter writing from our side to achieve. So we're now onto step 2

hi everyone.

I'm back. Just bookmarkimk. Will catch up later.

hi belgina loved your pics on fb & looking v yummy mummy in your bikini

running i'm making use of your chocolate cake recipe for DS's birthday cake (he loves chocolate cake & mad on Star Wars atm.. I have one of these so i'm having a go at a Death Star will let you all know how it goes!

Hiya, just bookmarking for now will try to catch up properly tomorrow.

Hope the cake turns out well Fi. Happy birthday to your DS.

Hello everyone else :o

bookmarking too. quickly. toddler meltdown in progress.
hurrah for llare's G on walking!
be back later (not sure when, lots of work tonight!)

Cakes are baked.. I've never been able to successfully bake a whole sphere in one so I have to do two semis and join them together with jam.. won't show when the icing goes on Just got to wait for them to thoroughly cool before I try that bit or there'll be a meltdown here too!

Fi - wow at deathstar cake! Hope DS has a great birthday :)

Flip - your DH's accident sounds nasty. Hope he recovers quickly.

Momino - hope toddler melt down abated and that work isn't too bad or taxing.

Running, Belgina and anyone else lurking - hello!!

I've been symptom spotting here today as I woke up at 4am needing a wee. No other symptoms though so telling myself it must have been a one off!