October 08 - Ooh fancy that!

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We filled up a thread without even noticing!

Primary school outcome for dd today . They say that the emails will be sent out by 6pm (though may take longer to get through to us).

Brilliant Myjob. Is it soon? How exciting for you.
Ive got some lovely sparkly shoes you could borrow.

No Ronshar, I would never wear white to a wedding (unless I really didn't like the bride ). I saw the news....

CSWS - Well, we don't have long to wait to find out. Girl .

Myjob - DS starts JUNIOR school next year. My baby is a big boy, well, allegedly anyway.

50ft. Thats what I think too, but all the nice dresses are white this year.
Can I boast a little bit? G got level 5 in her Maths & English tests last week. Shame she has behaved like a witch at the same time.
She is def hormonal. Already, I am not ready for it. Not yet.
She asked me tonight what a sex worker was. I said it is a lady who has sex with men for money. She was very. She couldnt believe that you would want to do it for money. I agreed. Shocking

A sex worker can do other things too ronshar. I would say that someone, eg, who works on a phone sex line, or does lapdancing is still a sex worker, as they work in the sex industry, but they don't have sex with people for money. Clearly you need to bring it up again and have a more detailed conversation .

Agree that white not good for a wedding. Maybe you could buy a white one and dye it ?

Someone wore a white dress to my wedding. I didn't care at all. The dress looked nice on her. I don't see how it would affect the wedding or the bride tbh.

Ronshar - lol at the sex worker talk. I'm not prepared for that conversation. At this point in time I'd say something silly like, "I've never heard of such a thing!"

I know someone who was driving after just 2 weeks after cs.

I still couldn't sit properly until about 6 weeks and was in pain every time I went to the toilet or sat up/laid down for ages, was dizzy and achy and exhausted from low iron, so would be the same recovery time for me, I think. But I understand why normal people wouldn't want to have a cs. I'm far from normal

50ft It's actually interesting to hear that your dh does the same thing. Maybe it's not so weird. It's been bothering me of late but if it's quite normal than I'll just swallow it. Does he ever fess up to the truth? My dh won't unless he's faced with evidence that he can't refute... and even then sometimes he still tries to get away with the stupid little insignificant lie!

That baby who was murdered was at our station. DH came rushing in last night telling me to switch off the news in case the boys saw it . So shocking.
I'd already switched the news off after the question "what's a sex worker mummy?".

and now as I catch up I see ronshar was asked the same question!! i chickened out and changed the subject (but DS1 is only just 6)

I didn't see the baby story. I must have gone to bed already. How horrible. Who would murder a baby?

Me either, pistachio

Pepper, how horrible for your DH. Close proximity to a horrible crime.

CSWS I will drop G over to you so you can fully instruct her on all things sex Just you wait it wont be funny when it is P asking

Star my DH does shit like that. He thinks it is ok because it is about non important stuff. Like playing golf or smoking. He really doesnt get it when I tell him it chips away at my trust in him.

Interesting, ronshar. Thank you for sharing that!!
I was thinking that if I had posted that on MN somewhere like relationships or aibu or whatever, everyone would say "without trust you have nothing... if he lies about that, what else is he lying about?" "run for the hills"...etc. it's nice to know it happens to others. Well, it's not nice for you, so I don't think it's nice, just ... ah, you know what I mean!

Oh yes. If you had started a thread you would have a queue of forward thinking mnetters just dying to tell you to kick him out etc etc.

I have taken the position that I call him on the stuff that is important to me and just ignore the crappy childish stuff.
DH is a crap lier anyway so always get caught out. I think mostly it is his way of avoiding stuff he knows I will get shirty about. So in a way I dont blame him because I can be a harpy.

Ah Ronshar, our DH's are SOOOOO scarily similar (as are we my dear I know DH lies to me for fear of getting a verbal beating). DH lies about smoking mainly and alcohol. And he too thinks I over-react but doesn't seem to understand that ANY lies are damaging. He's just a big child that doesn't want to get in trouble but he does fess up if he's caught. The other day I was going to my mum's to help out with something and DH was looking after M. They were in the garden, I was about to leave but then remembered I didn't have my keys. I closed the front door and ducked into the dining room, just as DH scurried upstairs.... I thought so I stayed to see what he was up to. He left M in the garden on her own for about 5 mins (we have a broken back gate and a slide that M can use on her own) and then came down grabbed a fag and exited to the garden. I made my presence know at that point I can tell you. He felt soooooo stupid and guilty. Grrrr.

Yes! 2 days ago, I was about to get into the shower and dh was on his laptop in the living room. Q was sleeping on our bed still but gradually waking up. There is no bed guard on our bed so he couldn't be left alone as he's really floppy and easily falls off.

So, I told dh to go in and watch him. He didn't come and didn't come (though he said he would), so I quickly turned on the shower in anticipation of jumping in as soon as he got to the bedroom (I can still see our bed when turning on the shower). While I waited, I folded all of the laundry and tidied everything up in the bedroom, waiting for him! Finally, after about 8 minutes, I was so fed up that I turned off the shower (time is precious in the mornings when we're both getting ready to go for work and have to get Q ready for hte day as well). DH comes into the bedroom.
I said, "You said you were coming in"
He said, "I did. I was checking on him every few seconds"
I said, "no you didn't. I was in there"
he looked a bit shocked (he obv thought I had been in the shower) and said "well, I saw you in there"
then why check if he "knew" I was there??
Why lie about it?

Because he knew what I would do - which is what I did do. I got really really angry and told him off for it. He's a horrible liar. Very transparent.

That was a more significant lie because Q could have fallen off of the bed. But it made me so angry! He still denies it and says he saw me in there. I wish I hadn't said I was in there. I wish I had played along so that he would have been caught in the lie, not knowing I was in the room. grrr.

And then there was the lie about the packet of skittles. he had been to the shop with Q for a few minutes and had picked up a packet of sour skittles for himself. When he got back I asked if he had picked me up some chocolate (I had asked for it because I was craving some). So, he said he forgot. Then hid his own sweets. I knew he had them. I think he thought I'd get angry and pissed off with him for not getting me the chocolate... but I ended up getting angry and pissed off about the lie!! Then I found the empty wrapper later on and he still denied it

pointless lie

Sorry star but I have to .... but only because it sounds JUST like my DH. They're rubbish aren't they? But you're certainly not the only one who suffers from stupid DH syndrome. I have no idea what to do about it because there seems to be no reason behind it.

I have good news. I saw the consultant again today (6 monthly check-ups). It seems that my histology was done twice once by an ordinary histologist once by the guru super-histologist. The ordinary histologist concluded malignant, the super-histologist concluded benign! So they treated it as borderline although maybe it wasn't at all. The consultant also said, that if I was his wife he'd leave it alone. So, plan now is.... lose all the weight I want to then look at the state of my stomach & go from there.

Good news, 50ft So number 3, then?

Glad dh is "normal" I think perhaps my expectations are just too high.

I think it's just because we expect men to behave like us women, with common sense! The mind boggles....!

I'm off to bed. Can't wait to be climbed on, forced to get up at least once to rock and walk around, fussed at, slapped ..... oh my fav - I just love it when Q fusses, sits up, then throws himself down so his head lands with a thud on my stomach. Inevitably after this, I need to use the toilet as he's triggered my bladder or something!
Well, if I go to bed now, I have a few hours before midnight when he just won't stay in his bed anymore. I KNOW I should let him scream but I'm TIRED and he eventually just throws himself out of his bed and into ours anyway.

Fantastic news 50ft. Really, really pleased for you!

Star - I knew telling you about S's improved sleep was going to jinx it - he had a rubbish night last night. Hope you get a decent sleep tonight.

My friend's husband is always telling lies too - usually about drinking and smoking as well. Drives her absolutely .

Ronshar - I was thinking about you the other day. What was the upshot of the whole MIL birthday thing? Weren't you seeing some of the family recently. Did you ever get an apology from anyone?

Hi all. I've had a bit of a meltdown at work the other day. I just hit the wall and was completely burnt out. Had to tell the partner "my brains not working" and he sent me home. Seriously weird feeling that I couldnt read anything and make sense of it and couldnt take anything work related in that anyone was asking me. Have since been told not to work but I've said I'll stay till end of week till this major project deadline then have taken last week off (have been ordered to). Bit embarrassing but apparently two other people have also gone off this job with stress and exhaustion. Did 70 hours last weeek, 80 hours week before, 70 hours week before that and at least 50-60 hours for 3 weeks before that.

We going camping on Sat for well-earned break

Oh and to top it all off, girl went into the back of me at roundabout this morning. Pah.

Right, who else is watching Eurovision? I can't be the only fan I bet. Lots of good entries in tonight's semi-final, but not all got through - bah! I shall be supporting Denmark on Saturday - we have friends coming round to watch it with us.

I spent some of it hanging upside down off my sofa trying to encourage the baby to turn. It hasn't, so I get to do it all again tomorrow .

HMM, i am surprised it has taken you this long to burn out - that is an incredible amount of work and pressure to be under for an extended period. I seriously don't know how you have managed it!

enjoy a well desrved rest - you need to keep yourself fit and healthy and maintain your sanity!