June09: First birthdays coming up, we're on the move!

[June2009]

Happy Mother's day Juners ;)

HI all

Just a quick hello, things are a bit hectic here at the mo as dh is still out of action. Even doing really small things like the washing up or giving Isobel her breakfast plays his back up and pouts him in bed for a few hours. I just want it to be better so he can start playing with the girls again, look after them for an hour in the mornings (so I can have a lay in!) I is being really off with him, she wont go to him for cuddles at the mo, its like she is rejecting him and she used to be such a daddy's girl I think she's really picking up on the fact that he isnt picking her up and playing with her like normal. He has an appointment for 23rd august with the spinal surgeon to see if he needs another operation. Its such a long time away and if he does it was a 6month wait for his last operation, arrr i want my normal life back!

Sorry ladies for moaning on, I hope you are all well

Gauchita - you seem to have a lot of interesting toddler groups near you. ours are usually just freeplay (although the girls do enjoy that) Hope you get some more work soon

June - pleased to hear C is now walking! clever girl!

Vene - glad you had a good holiday. I feel sad for dd1 that she is starting a new school (which seems lovely) but it isnt attached to her nursery at all so she will lose all her good nursery friends and have to start again.

bigcar - sorry you are having troubles with the school still, nearly the summer break!

mrsmc - hoipe you are feeling better this week and having a better time of it

Hi to everyone I've missed

afternon all

veetian, your holiday sounds great! Hopefully the other parents at school were just a little more reserved then usual given the circumstances? This whole starting school thing is a real potential stress pit isn't?!

gauchita, have you got a date for your test yet? Never heard the word nesh before, guess it's a regional thing? Hope all the form filling pays off and you get some more work.

june, your mil is a nightmare, who'd think it ok to walk in and wake the baby up!!!! Good on C with her walking, how fantastic. Have you seen the octopus on the news, it's backing Spain to win, we will see

strawberry, does she have another swimsuit she could wear underneath or possibly a tshirt underneath. E seems to be the opposite, he's always hot and sweaty, this weather is horrible for him.

llynnn, your poor dh, hope they get something sorted for him, 6 months is a long time to wait. I know it's no help but dd3 got really funny with dh when he broke his wrist. I'm definitely looking forward to the end of term, will be lovely Although knowing our luck after all this sun, we'll get 6 weeks of rain

a friend at one of dd3s groups had her baby this week, he weighed in at a healthy 10 lb 14 ozs [eye watering]! Mum and baby doing well

waves to all

it would seem Paul the octopus was right

waves to all

hi all? Its quiet rouns here? Hope you are all having fun

Bigacr - ouch 10lb 14!! poor lady!

sorry if i scared everyone away with my rant last time!! things are seeming less stressful at the mo, dh's back is a tiny bit better so back to thinking positive....

heya!

Maybe everybody's on virgin internet and like me did not have any internet access this weekend! what a drag, it's sad to say but I really missed it, kept wanting to look things up 9recipes, trip to france, buying contact lenses etc etc etc).

bigcar I hadn't heard about the octopus, I saw it on the final night though how funny :D I wish we were in Spain then ;)

mrsmc did you get any of the football atmosphere where you are? when are you swapping house? it sounds lovely, I'll have to rack my brains to find someone we could potentially swap with!

lynn hope things are better for you and dh's back.
gauchita when is your test? what does dh think about the book?

I have started packing for france today, venetian first we're going up north for a do and then down towards "Vendee" (north west) countryside & seaside. Really looking forward to it now.

sam Do you go to a special baby pool? They're heated more than normal from what I understand, very interested to know if you find a solution as I really want to sign C up to tinyswimmers.

Training/diet is going well, I've lost half a stone so far, the trainer is making me work very hard which is good.

Since asking mil again to give us a quick phonecall before turning up she has complained to sil that "she needs an appointment to see her grand-daughter now". .
She has not called or come over since.
I was going to text her to say to come before we leave but I'm not going to bother now.

Ta-ta for now!

Hi all!

June, you made me giggle Tigger (from Winnie Poo) says all the time "TTFN! Ta ta for now!" I watch that quite a bit thanks to M A bit jealous of your trip, I must say... nah, just joking, hope you have a great great time. DH is a slow reader, unfortunately, so he's only on page 40 atm Your MIL and mine have a few traits in common What you mentioned in your post is exactly what she said time and time again over the phone to DH - and everyone else who would listen - when we went there. No boundaries awareness whatsoever. Well done on the weight-loss front! Glad things are going well at the gym and you're enjoying the workout, despite the pain

Bigcar, oh the squid... they wanted to make him "ceviche" all around the world How odd, though, right? He was right all along! Hope DD's school is not giving you too much of a headache these days. Are they already off school now? Would that be for summer hols? How long do they last? In Argentina they're in Dec-Jan-Feb (summertime over there). Wowsers, that's a big baby!

Llynn, glad to hear DH's back is a bit better at least, that must be a relief. Has I's rash gone now? Hope she's all better now.

Strawberry, sorry to hear about your friend, she's lucky to have a friend like you supporting her in this hard time.

Allsheep, hope the move went well and you have internet connection soon

Hi to all Juners!

No test date yet, thanks to my tiny screw-up. I have to wait for them to do the refund (supposedly tomorrow) and then book a new one. I'm feeling a bit $%&?£&£ though, I just had a look online at how much my insurance would be, mother of Christ it's sooooooooooooooooo expensive!!! Ugh! All this effort (and expensive process!) to have to pay 800-odd pounds a year in insurance I'm going to make a few phone calls tomorrow and see if I can get any cheaper quotes. I tried confused.com et al but they're not quoting me right, they're giving me fully comprehensive quotes when I specifically asked for third party only, for example... bl*dy confusing, no pun intended

Waves to all!

afternoon all

llynnn, don't worry, no problem, good to hear things are slightly better

strawberry, maybe it's the time of the year for big babies, for once my lot seem tiny Hope your friend is ok.

june, fantastic on the weight loss front, very impressive! Your mil is clearly bonkers, no she doesn't need an appointment, just the good manners to call first as you work from home, not unreasonable at all.

gauchita, your mil sounds horrendous too. I'm starting to feel rather glad I've one that's less than interested! The dcs break up next friday, so just over a week left of relative peace not doing the school run will be bliss! They get about 6 weeks off give or take a couple of days, E will absolutely love having them all home, might stop him from eating all the earth in the pot plant, still a favourite!

allsheep, how's the move and job hunt going?

E has his hearing test tomorrow, should be fun, I'm getting a little fed up with having him tested regularly just for them to do nothing, seems a waste given the trek over to the hospital. Wouldn't be so bad if it was the local hospital, at least that's only 10 minutes away. We also have the fun of the gp tomorrow morning to get his chest reviewed again and the blood test results. I'm assuming the bloods are ok already as they normally ring if not, so not a worry really.

we also have dd3s meeting thursday morning, why does everything always come at once?!

waves to all

Hi everyone!

I'm back online, woop! Excuse me for not being able to catch up, two months is too far for me to read!

Having a bit of a sad time at the moment... my uncle died of cancer on Friday. He has been ill for 5 years now, and never once has he let it stop him from doing anything he wants. He has always been so so strong, to the extent that he drove himself to the hospital last Monday for an operation. The cancer really had taken over all his body and he had kidney failure amongst other things, but he still didnt think it would beat him. He had an operation on Wednesday, but it didn't go very well. We all got called to the hospital on Friday about 10am because the Drs thought those were his last moments. He carried on fighting though, but sadly his body gave up about 2am Saturday morning. We are a big family, and we were all there with him (at one point there was 20 of us in the room, 11 with him when he died). We all stayed with him, chatting and laughing until about 4.30am, which was nice. It was a relief in the end to see his suffering over, his last day was really awful, and upsetting to watch.

Anyway, sorry for that depressing post, but I was really close to him, so its a bit strange at the moment. We all knew his cancer was terminal, and we all knew it was ravaging his body, but he was still so strong, mentally and (outwardly) physically, that I suppose we just thought that day would never come

I'm glad to be back online now, and look forward to keeping up to date with you all, and the adventures of our 1 yr old LOs!!!

xxx

hi girls,
sorry for the lack of posting, not a lot to report here.
whenskies sorry about your uncle. How was C's party? Hope it went well
bigcar how was E's hearing test/chest check/bloods
gauchita any improvements on the insurance quotes? hope you find something more reasonable soon
june great going with the gym and weight loss. How is the packing for France?
sam have you seen the neoprene wetsuit material swimming costumes at mothercare?a few of the babies in our swim class wear them over their swimsuits for extra warmth
venetian holiday sounds gorgeous!How was the school meeting? Yes, it was crazy doing the trip home, but not sure when we wil be able to go next- esp with this one on the way!
mrsmc have there been some crazy celebrations round you? Well done spain! When do you leave for scotland? How are things with DH?
lynnn your DD1 is great!

well girls, feeling a bit sorry for myself today. The midwives at the GP are snowed under as two have gone on maternity leave and backfill not adequately organised. Little chance of seeing the same one twice and my 16 week appt will now be at 20 weeks. I know it doesn't matter, this isn;t my first but I do feel for the first timers out there who are getting this crappy service. I think I was so spoilt with A- group midwife practice, only 4 of them, got to know them all and ended up with my named midwife delivering A. Have a 'research' scan this week, will get a 3d picture of the baby, which is v exciting.

DS1 was born and died 2 years ago next week and I am feeling very fragile. Very few people here know about him and so I don't feel like I can just suddenly blurt out his story. I would like to do something to remember him next week but not sure what. MAybe get some of those sky laterns and let them go in the garden?

Sorry to be such a misery today. Like so many of you, I find the juners such a good support and I am sorry to offload all this crap on you all. Thanks for reading.

Hi Snow

C's party went well thank you, if not a bit hectic. I have a close friend in a similar situation to you. She has a 15 week old DD now, but 2 years ago on the 10th of July, she lost her two baby twin boys. They both died at 33 weeks because she had an undetected blood disorder, so she was scanned every month with her DD, and had her by CS at 36 weeks. She lets off a balloon each for them, and lets a lantern off at Christmas. She also goes to see their place at the crematorium, although she knows that they are with her, and not there. She is very open and talks about it a lot, and I know she gets a lot of support from SANDS. She is on my facebook, and I know she would be more than happy to talk if you wanted someone to speak to who you didn't know? I know that she was petrified throughout the whole time she was pregnant with her DD, but having her DD was probably the best thing for her. Hope you feel better soon x

That's a beautiful idea snowwombat - maybe attach a poem or something you write from the heart.

I lost a little one at 12 weeks into pregnancy and had a little burial (with a poem I wrote) into a big pot in the garden, onto which I planted a NZ fern. The sad thing was it died in the terrible frost this last winter and I had to empty the pot a couple of weeks ago, in order to plant a new fern. It was hard to do gracefully, but I found a fragment of the poem, a bit of the ribbon, and the tiny plastic bag with the foetus. It didn't feel as bad as I thought it would and in a very strange way was almost like saying hello to an old friend. God bless.

Hi all!

Snow, I second the ideas the other Juners have mentioned. I've heard people release balloons, write/read poems in memory of the babies they lost. I've also heard SANDS is very good, yes. This must be a hard week for you, I send you a gentle (((hug))). Hope things get better at the GP practice. Aw, very exciting indeed to be able to get 3D pics of the baby. Be kind to yourself, Snow, and do come and chat if you need to vent a bit.

Venetian, so sorry the fern didn't survive last winter, it was a harsh one with all the snow. Glad to hear you're planting another one and that the process has not been as bad/upsetting for you.

Skies, Sorry to hear about your uncle. I saw your FB status messages but didn't want to ask too much as you were clearly upset about something. ((hug))

Bigcar, hope E's bloods and hearing test went well. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow morning sending good vibes for DD3's school meeting.

Waves to all!

hey snow grief is such a difficult thing to deal with, I can't imagine how hard this is for you, it's all so recent. It takes a long time to process that emotion, you have to allow whatever feeling comes to just be and be kind to yourself. You never forget, it just gets a little bit easier with time.

whenskies glad you're back online, so sorry to hear about your uncle mum died of cancer too, it's a horrid disease.

Vene just wanted to say hello I hope the fern grows better.

bigcar how did the test go?

gauchita I hope you find a better insurance quote. Can your dh drive? Iirc it was cheaper for us to insurance dh on the car and me as a second driver than it was the other way round.

I have to go finish packing, lots of things to do and very little time left.
We'll have an internet connection on and off so I'm sure I'll be popping in at least to keep up with the post while we're in France!

Hi all!

June, I think you've left by now Hope you have a great time, enjoy!

Snow, how are you? Thinking of you xxx

Hi to all Juners!

Crazy week here, on all fronts!

I got some work (yay for that of course) but while I was working on the document the programme I normally use decided to stop working. Long story short I ended up buying one of the programmes, a cheaper version from the same company, but it was different (because it's new) so I didn't know how to use it! I now laugh but I felt like crying. I felt so unprofessional and I had a 36h deadline! I obv talked to the agency and told them what was happening. The lady was lovely and very sympathetic and understanding. I felt so embarrassed. The worst thing is this was the first time I had worked for them!! I managed to deliver the job early and everything but argh!

One a better note, DH bought me a car!!! I'm over the moon AND terrified at the same time I can't wait to pass my test now I get it at the end of the month so still shopping for insurance

Hope you have a lovely weekend, ladies!

Waves to all

Oh, I forgot!!

M is officially walking now. Actually she's been walking since Monday last week but I kept forgetting to share it here She's unstoppable, goes everywhere and anywhere!

hiya everyone sorry yet again for being a stranger just back from holiday so will hopefully catch up over the weekend just want to let you all know that i haven't fallen off the face of the earth
x

Hey girls why do I never find the time to talk these days? all fine here, Aaliyah still not sleeping - yawn x

June ? how did it go with the nutritionist? You are doing so well with your weight loss I have put some back on can feel it in my clothes. Great news on the walking are you in France now? Your MIL is just out of this world We house swap on 5/8 for 2 weeks though we are away for 3 wks.

Bigcar ? have DSIL staying at mo so DH is being a bit better, I just find his mood fluctuates so much I just don?t know what I am going to get

Venetianred ? great to hear that you got lots of sleep on holiday sorry to hear your fern died

Gauchita ? that treasure and adventure activity sounded great but wow what a mess! Never heard ?nesh? either. Congrats on M walking!

Sam ? I?m ok thanks hon, nothing a few hours of sleep couldn?t resolve how warm is the pool you are taking Lizzie into?

llynnn ? your poor DH with his back and you having to pick up the slack.

Whenskiesarehrey ? sorry to hear of your loss hon and your poor, poor friend losing her twin boys

Snowwombat ? lovely idea about the sky lanterns. I lit candles in the church for my lost baby.

Hey Laura

Such exciting news for Bunnymother on FB! Have you all seen it??

Hi MrsMc- what are bunnymother's initials? I forget who is who sometimes!! The house swap sounds great!

Gauchita- what car did you get? Bet you were glad you met the deadline in the end?! I wouldn't worry about what the company thought of you, they probably really appreciated you keeping up communication with them, and you still met the deadline- sounds v professional to me! Congrats to M on officially walking C is still a way from that yet though, I should make the most of it!

June- it is a cruel disease isnt it. So sorry about your mum. I think that is one of the most sad things about it, there are very very few people in this world who can say they don't know someone close to them who has had cancer

Nice to hear from you Laura, although I keep up to date with the things through facebook obviously!

Just got back from Next sale, woop! Got nothing for me, but C and DP did pretty well out of it, especially seeing as neither of them were there, and therefore didn't have to stand in queues, and be bashed about the shop by women on a mission! It does make me laugh the poor men trapsing around after their wife/ girlfiend, carrying hundreds of clothes... one poor boy kept saying to his mum 'can we go home now mum, I'm bored and hungry and I hate this shop' poor thing!

Hello to everyone else, I hope you all have nice weekends. I have a work football tournament tomorrow- me and one other girl are the other girls there, all the rest are men. I love playing against men !

lynn - thanks for the kind words about school. Is your dh on full paid leave while he isn't well?

gauchita - it sounds immensely stressful. The fact you got it in early even after having difficulties should say a lot about your reliability and commitment. Mila walking - fantastic.

whenskies - sorry to hear about your uncle. I'm so lucky to have lost so few people close to me but I worry the next 10 years might be very very different.

bigcar - thanks for your nice message.

june - well done on the weight loss. I have big problems with my weight at the moment - serious case of emotional overeating due to current stresses.

sam - sorry to hear about your friends breaking up. I love that my children have a dad who lives in the same house (even if he can be a real burk at times), and strangely/nicely we do truly love each other regardless of all else. You poor dear friend must feel so vulnerable and frightened. I do hope she gets help from all the lovely charities and services out there that help people in her circumstances.

I wish the summer sales happened after nursery/schools closed - I seem to have too much going on and miss them. I did get to John Lewis to get some new shoes for F but the only ones that looked good and fitted him where not on sale - AAGGGHHH.

We went to the school ball of our DD's new school - and sat at a table with other parents of new starters. They were all nice so that was reassuring.

Received the news yesterday that DH will lose his job some time in the next year - for political reasons not performance issues - as he has worked his socks off and done amazing things - but a certain % of workforce has to be axed and his current projects are coming to an end so is a bit 'surplus to requirement'.

A bit of a wierd time so we are going to move our wedding by a year and have it next year. Too much to think about right now and want to keep all our savings intact until we know what is happening. Have just decided and I don't have the heart to break it to some friends who have made special travel plans so they can be there - HELP!!! I feel sick inside.

Hi all!

Vene, so sorry to hear the news. We've been there a few times with DH's past jobs and it's hard, you feel so vulnerable and even though you have money saved and plan ahead responsibly it's a grey cloud and you can't help but worry, I know. (((Hug))) Postponing the wedding sounds sensible, as even if you try and keep it within a budget, it still means spending quite a bit of money. I can't think of any ideas to help you breaking the news to your friends, no idea how these things work... if they have travel insurance will that help at all? Or if they have open tickets maybe they could move the date for later? Sorry if I'm not being too much of a help, Vene. ((hug)) Glad to hear the event at DD's school was reassuring for you.

Skies, enjoy the match today, sounds like fun. Hope the weather there is better than here It's a tiny Toyota Aygo. I get it at the end of the month.

Mrsmc, I think I saw on FB you were going out on a girls' night the other day Hope you had fun! Fingers crossed for A to start sleeping a bit better soon.

Laura, hi!

Quiet weekend over here. Crazy weather, though, we go from rain and cold wind one minute to blazing sun the next

Waves to all!

morning girls,
thanks so much for your comforting words. Means alot to me.

vene so sorry about DH's job, that is sooo stressful. Moving the wedding sounds like a good plan. I am sure your friends will understand. If they can't change their travel plans maybe you can have a short, (cheap) break together and they will see more of you compared with the wedding anyway.
Glad the new school parents were nice.
Sorry about the fern, will you get another one? There was an article about what fern's are best to grow in the UK in the times, the weekend before last.
gauchita Wow! about the car and miss M's walking!Are you getting to grips with the new software? What a challenge! I should working ATM but I am on here procrastinating.
mrsmc glad DH a little better with a visitor to keep him in check. Not long till your trip! How is A doing?? Oh, and is bunny pregnant?? I'm not on facebook.
straws lovely to hear from you!I don't think our shoebox flat in oxon would be much of a swap for anyone but we are hoping to camp in wales for a week in sept. Just need to decide where!We spent plenty of time in north wales so it might be the gower
lynnnn how things in your house? Any improvements with DH's back?
bigcar how is E, how have all the tests gone?Thinking of you with holidays approaching! Have you made lots of plans?
june happy holiday!!

Ok, must get some work done