May 2008. The FML's and the TT's (terrible twos)...here they come!

[Lucky2010]

Hi girls, thought the old thread was in need of a spring clean, plus, I'm sure if my memory serves me right, one of us had our May-due baby in March (Macoco???) so someone is 2 soon....!

Hi ladies,
How is everyone?

Had a bad day yesterday. Managed to lock DS in the car with the keys inside. He cried and cried and cried while I was trying to sort something out. Banged on the window and cried Mama! for ages. Awful. Some nice workmen tried picking the lock for me but didn't work. Cue smashing driver side window with a hammer and total hysterics from DS (strapped in the back). Then had an hour's drive home with no window and now sitting in a cafe near the repair place while they fix it. I have a horrible heavy period and I'm knackered. Moan, whinge, grumble, complain.
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Pipoca that sounds awful. I hope you are both ok. Must've been dreadful.

Got a very busy day here. Dp's birthday on Sunday. Not very impressed that I have to share Mother's Day!

We are going to Poole for the weekend. Dd is obsessed with boats so we're staying overlooking the harbour.

Has anyone heard from HM?

PIpoca - Poor you (and DS)... that must've been dreadful for you both to go through. Glad you are both OK.

MM - How is your dad nowadays? Hope you have a lovely time in Poole.

Nothing of interest happening here. The kids and I have settled into a good routine which involves me going to bed with them. Mimi has given up sleeping in her own room all together and just sleeps with me, and haribo spends as little time as possible in his own bed.

For those of you not on FB, I've had an interesting week, trying to ascertain whether I am actually married - DH and I were married in the Wynn by a Mose Henney (who married Jordan and her latest chap) and there was a lot of gossip that he actually didn't have a licence... anyway, it seems that the marriage IS valid (but only because we THOUGHT we were getting married!) Well, that's Vegas for you!

Hope you are all well. I'm feeling a bit right now - spent a week up with my family recently and sort of realising just how much the kids and I are missing out on. We hardly see a soul around here and I can really see why the kids are so clingy / attached to me... they rarely spend time with any other adult. I'm just totally fed up spending my time here.

HM x

MM have fun in Poole, whitecliff has a good playground near the harbour and there's one at sandbanks car park.

Had a good week skiing although had a bout of d&v so confined to my bed for one day. Not something I usually get, not fun with DS1 asking me 'why are you coughing Mummy?'

Off home tomorrow, I at last have an iPhone so can check out MN.

HM I hope spirits lift soon x

Weekend has started badly with dp still out from lunchtime and not making it home for the dinner I cooked to start our weekend. Hey ho. He'll be hungover tomorrow so more solo parenting. I do sometimes wonder what these men would do if we went out for an hour and came back ten hours later drunk. . Thanks for playground heads up BWC

Off to bed now. Dd up at 5 so am knackered!

HM hope stuff is brighter soon and thanks for asking about my dad. He's much better thank you and back at work next week .

Happy Mothers' Day FMLs. X

Hope you've all had a good Mother's Day, I'm still waiting for my card

Happy Mothers day from me too!!

I've had such a lovely day. Got breakfast in bed, DH changed nappies and fed the kids... Then I got a gorgeous bunch of flowers, taken out for a wonderful lunch and presented with a beautiful photo of Haribo and Mimi and then...

OK, none of that happened. Had you there, though, didn't I?

Mothers day hasn't even been mentioned here and it's strictly business as usual! But, I suspected as much and took matters into my own hands - so I have amazing casts of Haribo and Mimi's hands and I made a card with Haribo at his messy play group last week!

Hope you are all well!

MM - Hope your weekend improved!

BWC - Hope you get a card before the end of the day!!

HM xxx

Hello

Back from a wonderful few days in Poole (when we finally got there ) in the lovely sunshine eating well, rolling in the sand and generally chilling out together.

HM I'm sorry you didn't get spoilt rotten on Mother's Day. I did start reading your post and think finally her dh has seen the light. I'm glad you had organised a special present for yourself. I got some lovely flowers (though dd had eaten a few of the heads by the time I got them) and a charm for my bracelet I got when dd was born and get a star charm for every special occasion. I also bought myself some new wellies for jumping in puddles (with dd of course!)

Dp celebrated his birthday on Sunday so we shared the day which was actually quite nice. Meant we all had pressies and a reason to celebrate.

Bayiu how are you doing? I have totally forgotten when your new job was due to start?

LM has the getting out of bed stopped?

Dd has started to wake up at about 5 every day for ten minutes and then go back to sleep until 6 when she is up for the day. Anyone have any tried and tested tips to help me get another hour out of her sleep time?

I can't believe how quickly the time has gone and how big dd is. She said this morning "me want egg dip dip please" when I asked what she wanted for breakfast. It only feels like yesterday she was sitting in her bumboo gurgling at me. I love it though - this age is so brilliant. I spend most of my day smiling at her and the things she does. (well, sometimes I do get a bit annoyed!)

MM Pleased you saw Poole at it's best, I love living here and it was lovely to be back at the weeekend. I often drive the long way home to see the sea, it's so calming.

DS2 is especially cute too at the moment, loads of words now, he mastered hello while we were away. And everything he does know is just Dada.

I did get a card eventually yesterday. My first Mother's Day I realised how good mursery is, his handmade one from there was all I got. DH no good at romance/special days, but has his other uses!

Back at work now, and my boss is away so can't get the password for the WIFI for my iphone .Thankfully practice manager is working in the surgery today so I get use the desk top.

MM - YOu are right - it IS a brilliant age!

And isn't it brilliant to see the sun!! We've been out for hours this morning here - it is so gorgeous!

Haribo loves to play football (or, more accurately, chase a football around!!), Doof gets a good run around and I get a lovely cuppa!!

Can I ask all the FML's - have any of you started to consider schools yet? Haribo (and Mimi) have their names down at our local prep school, but I'm getting more and more sure it's not the right school for Haribo (it's set in the centre of the town with limited access to playing fields - the boys have to walk across town to the playing fields... DSDs go there, but the girls school is situated slightly out of the town so this is not an issue for them...)

I have this feeling that Haribo will be happier in a more rural / semi rural setting... Just wondering if anyone else was thinking about schools?

HM x

Hi
Happy belated Mothers Day ladies!

Hope everyone is well and happy.

Its been a bit metal round here lately. Mums 60th birthday is by with, we got her a Spa Day and took her out for dinner. Dads 60th isnt until June but we got him tickets to see Paul McCartney at Hampden(amazingly its on Fathers Day, the day after his bday!). The only way we could stop dad from trying to get tickets himself was to let them think that we are sending them away that weekend! mum is constantly trying to get hints about where they are going [evil laugh smiley]

I agree that this is truely an amazing age. I love watching dd concentrate when she tries to get dressed. She's getting pretty good at it too. The other day she raided the cupboard and came out wearing pj's on top of the set she already had on then put on her little silver party shoes!
Dd's language is fairly coming on too, and she's just had a growth spurt so now her trousers all fit properly in the leg and long sleeve tops are like 3/4 sleeves instead. Where is the Spring??

HM Iv said all along that If I was still living in this area when I had kids that they would go to the village school where I went. Its a pretty small school/village so they are always happy for kids from the surrounding area to come. The school population has always been around about 50 pupils. Im hoping to get her into the nursery in the village where I currently live (3.5miles from my home village) when she turns 3yo. Long term plan is to move back home but I doubt that will happen before she starts school.

Sho x

pipoca your car problem sounds like a nightmare...poor you!!

HM I too read your Mother's Day post and nearly choked on my tea....if only it were true as it's the least you deserve.
My girls will hopefully go to one of the local catholic schools. DD1 is already at the nursery and we have applied for actual school. We're pleased with the school so far.

MM the getting out of bed is much better thanks. She tends to only do it at her daytime nap now, and I find that if I just ignore her, she eventually gets back into either her, her sisters, or our bed! She's much better at night.

I had a bit of hassle from DH's family last week re FB. Remember I blocked them from seeing stuff on my profile cos I was fed up of their comments? Well, they worked it out cos DH's cousin and his wife are very close to us so I kept them on it, and sisters and cousins got talking and it transpired that they could see my profile but the rest of them couldn't , so they removed me as a friend!!!!!!!! Bit harsh I thought!! I felt awful last week, just the thought of them all sitting around gossiping about me and slagging me off then agreeing to remove me...... I know I brought it all on myself but I'm just not comfortable having them as friends, esp MIL. Anyway, they are all now back on there, but I am easing off the whole FB cos it's got me in 'trouble' a couple of times now .

I am loving working in the new premises. It's all lovely and posh and new and so quiet and calm compared to the hospital. Very very happy at work and so glad I didn't make the jump to private cos it def would have been the wrong thing to do!!

My Mother's day was lovely, I was with my Mum (and MIL at the end of the day) I got a lovely mug with a mosaic of photos on it of pics of me 'being a mummy'....on a trampoline with DD1, in the sea with DD2, pregnant with DD2, etc etc. It's lovely!

Best be off, DH on his way home and wants some 'sofa time'.

LM xxx

OK.. FML, I need your advice...

I've thought about name changing, but I need advice from those who know my situation!

I'm finding life draining at the moment. The kids are just full on all the time.

DH is going to be away for a few months yet.

I'm thinking of renting a small place near my parents so that I would be close to friends and family.

Plus points:

1. Loads of supprt
2. Still see DH as much as I currently do
3. Much nicer life

DOwnsides:

1. DH won't like it
2. More expense
3. Parents will get used to it

What would YOU do (if you were me).

Thanks Girls.

Haribo not well at the moment, so feeling housebound :-(

Harimo I would say definetley go for it as I think you need to be close to family at the moment with two small kids. It will get easier when they are bigger, but will it put too much strain on your and DH relationship?

hm I would do it if you can find something suitable. Your DH hasn't got a clue how hard it is for you during the week, but it sounds like you need to do what's right for you.

HM I'd go for it and rent somewhere. The only real reason you've given not to is that your dh won't like it. He will get over it. You're not moving out, you're going to spend time elsewhere as he does. The point about your parents getting used to it can be turned into a positive. They will get to spend lovely, intensive time with your LOs. When you then move away again they'll be so much better equipped for babysitting, knowing what your LOs are asking for etc. and will have spent wonderful time with them nearby. My mum's relationship with dd is far closer than with any of her other grandparents because we she sees dd all the time, at night, in the morning etc.

I spend quite a lot of time at my mum's. Dp's job means he is out a few times a week and though he comes home it is late and he stinks of booze. I prefer to be somewhere calm, have a nice meal with my mum and make use of the time iyswim. I know some people we know wonder what dd makes of it but it is totally normal for her. Her home is our house where we spend most of our time but we have a room at my mum's with clothes and toys etc where we stay once or twice a week. My mum gets the best of both worlds - her beloved granddaughter with her a few nights a week and then a break!

There are practical downsides, mainly things like having to lug things backwards and forwards and always forgetting something. Sometimes I feel like a nomad and just want to stop rushing about and I find I miss my home but I really value spending so much time with my mum. Not many people get to do that.

I think it is the right thing for you to do but even if I didn't your "much nicer life" point would've convinced me.

At the very least, when you and dh are together you'll have different, new things to talk about and your LOs wil benefit from a happier mummy with some proper support and love.

If you've got the money spend it. These times with our babies, and parents, won't come back. You deserve to be happy every day.

Just trying out my new name (BWC)

Love 'you deserve to be happy everyday', I wholeheartedly agree.

Oh, and off for cocktails tonight! Going to go and put on some make up before getting boys from nursery or I get distracted with shouts of 'duddle!' (cuddle)

Willabywallaby - Hope you enjoyed your cocktails! Lucky you!!

Thanks for the advice, girls. DH and I have been talking about it and he is really positive about it. I can't understand why I haven't thought of it before.

For the first time, DH has admitted that it is hard being here all week on my own. There are just so many positives and I can't think of a single negative now that I know DH is OK with the plan!

Haven't felt this happy in ages!!

How are you all? Been quiet here recently!!

That's great news HM
We got our school admissions results for DS1 today, good job we have his name down for a private school, he didn't get in to any of the 3 we put down. One being our catchment school.

Hi girls, just catching up as I've been in Portugal for a week with my Dad Best bit was having DH around every day.

No mothers day treats though, hmmph.

Good news HM I'd say definitely go for it and I'm glad it looks like you're going to. Do you own your current house? Maybe in time you could all move up and keep somewhere smaller where you are now as I know your SDDs live nearby?

Willabywallaby How rubbish not to get any of your choices!

I have been thinking a bit about schools mostly because there is NO WAY I want DS to go to school where we live now (quite nice street but borders on rough part of town). I went to the local shops the other day at school out time which isn't when I usually go and I actually had a little cry (Ok, hormones!). The number of kids queuing with their parents at 'bargain booze' and in one short walk I overheard FIVE parents swearing AT their children . I don't think kids should live in a vacuum but there is no way I want DS anywhere near people who think that's an appropriate way to talk to a child. At least we rent so moving is easier. Hoping to move to a better area early next year (would move sooner but lease up in October which isn't great timing!) Sorrry, total rant. DS will go to state school but not this one!

New job starts Thursday and unfortunately have my scan appt on the Friday, very very awkward. Am going to have to tell them now instead of waiting a few weeks til they know me as I'd prefer. Hopefully they'll be fine I just feel a bit crappy about it. I've tried to change my scan but as I already changed one due to Portugal trip they won't let me put it back any longer (I'll be 13wks+1). Nevermind, very excited about having a scan and seeing who's in there!

Oh yes and totally agree that time with parents is imprtant, MM your arrangement sounds great. I really wish my mum was closer and she pines like mad for DS!

Quick post, just read and got to get dinner out of oven....

HM great idea, sounds fab. Go for it.

DD2 unwell, been asleep all day (sickness bug).

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LM

hm I totally agree with all the fml's, I think the move will give you a better quality of live. Like my sis-il always says, 'happiness is healthiness' iykwim

baiyu good luck with your new job
willabywallaby love the new name

I just bought a new, bigger car today, was getting fed up with dd constantly getting her mucky feet all over the back of the passenger seat and I also need more boot space now that I need to lugg all our brownie stuff to the meetings every week (we meet in a school and there is no storage). Pick it up on Tuesday morning

Well dp is at work, dd is asleep and my New Moon dvd arrived yday so im gonna go pop on the kettle and make some pop corn!

hope everyone is well and allthe poorly bubba's are feeling better soon
Sho x