January 2009- Help! A toddler ate my baby!

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I told you it was a lame title.....

elkie but hang in there. the biopsy may come back benign as books says

Elkie, try to stay positive, I know its hard and completely understand your fear. As the others have said, there is every chance that the biopsy will be benign, but if not bowel cancer is eminently treatable these days.

My fil was diagnosed with bowel cancer in 2002, had surgical excision and a course of chemo (which to be honest didn't really affect him all that much) and has had the all clear at every check up ever since. He is fitter and healther now than he has ever been and will probably outlive us all the way he's going.

Am, sending you plenty of very unmnetty ((hugs)) and positive vibes.

Lenni, or anyone who has the time or energy to read a humungous angst ridden post.

I have started a thread here about the problems we have had with ds1 the past couple of weeks. I started it more because I needed to get it out and vent than because I expected anyone to actually read it all the way through, but some unmn hugs would be very much appreciated at the moment. It feels very much like a curl up in a ball and never come out from under the duvet again night tonight.

oh no elk - take carex

oh mm it must be such a hard time for you i read your thread take care i am here if you want to chat

Thanks Tink.

Elki, hope you are ok, and that your mum's results come back benign. I lost my Mum to bowel cancer when DD was a baby, however when she was diagnosed it was quite advanced and had spread. The treatments, even in the last year or so have massively improved and it is a completely fightable disease. So sending you lots of positive vibes and hoping the biopsy results are good news.

Right Moose I am off to read your thread.

Had a really nice lunch with some old friends yeaterday, then when we got home I felt really queasy and have spent the last 12 hurs being sick. Grrrrrrr. No one else is ill so don't know what caused it, we all ate the same food. But I am super disappointed as a friend was coming to babysit for DH and I tonight for the first time in months andmonths....so we were actually going to go out, have a few drinks, go see a band...but now I feel totally rubbish and only fit for the sofa. At least I'm thinner for allt he puking (Have been eating a lot of 'comfort' choclate of late!)

Oh dear, sorry to hear your news Elkie

HKZ- sorry you are not off out tonight, that sounded fun and just what you needed. Hope the sickness goes away soon.

The pus has finally stopped draining from DD's ear and she feel better today so we are risking her staying at Nanny's (we will stay over too because of DS being the milk monster still!) and we are actually off out to the cinema and out for a few drinks after........eeek, what will I wear??? And more importantly, what will we talk about????

HKZ, thanks for your support on the other thread. Its really kind of you to take time out to offer advice about my problems when you are so overwhelmed yourself.

Sorry you are sick. Ds2 has been throwing up all day today. He can't even keep water down and has only left his bed once, when dh carried him to the toilet. He looks really ghastly, so pale with big dark circles under his eyes - like a little ghost. We've set dd's baby monitor up in his room so that we can keep an ear out for him and he can call us if he gets upset or needs anything and we're taking it in turns to check on him.

I too have eaten far too much comfort chocolate recently. In fact I have gained back half a stone of the weight I lost thanks to my gallstones. I am living in fear of another gallstone attack these days, what with all the fat consumption I've been indulging in. Unfortunately this doesn't seem to be putting me off eating the stuff.

Pat, glad dd's ear is starting to heal up and she is feeling a bit better. That must have been so painful for her. Enjoy your evening out.

Moose, funnily enough I am studying the legal obligations of a school and how they must meet SEN of thier pupils....so can link you to some documents if the school carry on being slack.

Is Ds2 feeling any better? I am feeling ok now, still can't eat anything though.

Pat, poor DD, glad her ear is on the mend. Have a good night out tonight. What are you going to see? I have a list of films as long as my arm that I'd like to see, bu tthe last time I wentto the cinema was...oh....nearly 3 years ago...just before DD was born!

Oh this is weird HKZ, talking to you on two threads at the same time.

Ds2 hasn't been sick for an hour or so now, but is very tearful and weak. He's better than this morning though. I was quite worried at one point because he was cold to touch and very lethargic.

Aren't kids strange? He just burst out crying because he wanted an omelette but we said he couldn't have one!

Both boys are tucked up hopefully for the night now so we will have to see how he goes overnight.

Good to hear you are feeling better. Hope you are able to eat something soon.

I am thinking about begging dh to go to the shop and buy me some chocolate, but I know he's going to say no as he's already been to the shop once today and I've eaten all the chocolate he bought me last night. I can't go - I'm in my pj's! [double blush]

Elkie so sorry to hear about you mum. I guess all you can do is be positive until you get the results. Def sending you some .
HKZ have posted on your other thread but rubbish news. More rubbish to hear that your night out is cancelled as I am sure you and dh needed it. Hope you are cuddling up on the sofa as I type.
Moose get dh to that shop now! Sound s like you are in desperate need.
A bit down in the dumps here but all a bit trivial compared to everyone else. Got some funny moles which I have been referred to have checked, am bleeding mid cycle again and s been waking up for what feels like every night of his life. Dh played rugby today and has been gone since 6am and not back until midnight and hate being a single parent at the weekend as somehow it feels worse.

Gumps, its not trivial at all. I'm sure your moles will turn out to be fine, best to get these things checked out though and its good that your dr is on the ball.

I sympathise with the weird cycles as well. I've only had one period so far, but have had god awful cramps for the last couple of days, as if I'm about the get another humdinger. Totally unfair, as it wouldn't be anywhere near due yet under normal circumstances. Blooming hormones, they don't half mess us about.

Also, its tough spending hours and hours on your own with the dcs, especially when you are already exhausted from lack of sleep. It always makes me feel really sorry for myself if I don't get some adult company and support at at least some point during the day.

Sounds like you could do with some chocolate therapy as well. ((hugs))

Thanks Moose. Think cycle all over the place is making me feel quite hormonal. actually had a really nice day with the dcs but it is bloody hard work all day long on your own. I really take my hat off to single parents.
Got an indian waiting for me downstairs which will be joined by some vino and no doubt choc so will probably bounce back in a bit full of joy!
Really at a loss with S though. Have cc for a week to no effect and I stopped it last night and went in and slept in his cot with him Dh not impressed with me and wants to go back to cc but I think a week is more than enough?

I haven't looked recently, but it could be developmental. I seem to recall a lot of the babies are doing it at the moment. I know dd is. What I wouldn't give for just one decent night's sleep. I am a total zombie, as both boys were good sleepers at this age, so I've never had to deal with this before.

Dd is still in our room by my side of the bed and is talking, crying and even laughing in her sleep as well, so I'm not even getting any sleep while she's asleep. We desperately need to sort her room out, but its not looking likely any time soon.

I don't know a lot about cc, but would think you are right, if you aren't making headway after a week it might best to try a different approach.

Gumps - I've had a couple of moles removed that were a little odd, both tested fine and the one that was lasered off hasn't even marked, I had to have a larger one cut out and that has scarred but it was really deep [ick] rooted [heave] so they had to cut quite deep. DH is probably going to have to have a couple lasered off as he has just been referred for two on his back. I think as long as they are treated quickly it isn't usually an issue.

Elkie - I hope your Mum's biopsy brings good news. My Uncle had bowel cancer diagnosed about 3 years ago. He had an op at about this time of year and did the Great North Run in September (ish) time the same year. He is in his mid sixties. It took a couple of years for him to fully recover his strength as they removed quite a large section of his intestine but he is totally healthy now and no recurrance.

I've been a weekend widow this weekend too so totally understand weekends being worse.

HKZ - Really sorry you were messed around with J. So cruel when you had gone through all the emotional preparation. Really hope it you get an MRI date quickly. Hope you are feeling better tomorrow.

Pat/MissJ/Books/Dog - Don't think I am going to make it down there this week. Still not heard from my Mum and just realised we need to pay for our holiday this week so prob going to be broke until the end of the month. Sorry to be a pain.

Gumps - have you seen GP about mid cycle bleeding?

No as it has only been two cycles since coming off the pill so thought I would wait and see what happened. Last month was so messed up and my period was about 2 weeks late so no idea what is going on. TMI alert so look away if squeemish but bleed is brown rather than red and a bit dischargy iyswim.
Bit going back to gp as only just been with moles. Only went as had a tag under my arm that kept catching on my bra and bleeding. She said thats fine but that mole above it looks a bit worrying. She then checked the rest of the moles on my body and found 3 more she didn't like the look of.
Seems like its a bit miserable all round.
What can we do to cheer ourselves up?

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Nah Gumps! I'll stick with me chocolate. Tis very loyal and doesn't mind one bit that I have baby sick and snot on my pj top and my hair desperately needs washing.

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