November 2008 - The Birthdays thread.

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As we will still be on this when the first birthdays roll round.

I'll try and find the list to remind us all.

right, off to watch telly; will catch up properly tomorrow.

Phee sounds like you are having a hard time of it. ANd there is no shmae in it, lovey, you would be suprised how many people have times of living on beans on toast.

We had a patch with no money coming in and it was hard, even without children.

DH's parents had an awful time for a while when he was little, too. His dad was a prof but when they froze uni salaries in the 70's he had to go around mending people's shoes to make ends meet- tough times but they got through it.

I've noticed a local clothes shop wants someone over Christmas and I have to say I'm tempted, but don't know if it will just make a mess of tax credits. Am ebaying like mad, though! It's amazing what you find round the house- I just made 45 quid on some unused ink cartridges we had left over from my old printer!

ceebee hope you had a good time shopping- I'm not sure the odd trip to the shops is so bad- it's not the same as a full day at work, is it?

And Drswife I would let you husband chose between pool or being wrinkly- no way you should be doing all that yourself. But Yay on the walking and the cooking!

Mimi slept really well last night but the other two kept getting up so I STILL got no sleep..GRRRRZZZZZ

x

Cricri, any more news? Mine had a 24-ecg fitted today and has apparently had his chest shaved. He is mortified. Now, has anyone else come across a children's book called "Vincent the Vain" about a very camp gorilla who loses his chest hair? Unfortunately for DH we have this on loan from the library and the whole family LOVES it, especially my stepmum. Oh dear.

Phee, that's hard work, sorry to hear you're having a difficult time. I do remember having a bad patch a while ago when I regularly decided between bus fare and lunch - eat and walk or starve and travel? It was horrible.

My DH is crap at housework periodically, Drswife, but usually only when he brings home a new fancy woman gadget. He has a new phone and a new PS3 at the moment and I am finding it hard to get more than a grunt out of him.

Daisy, did your buggies breed? You should separate them out before you end up knee deep in teeny-weeny prams... You'll have to find homes for them all.

I am bored. Can you tell?

Have just twigged that you are pg again, Phee - crikey and no wonder at the mo you are having trouble thinking about the new baby. Let me know if you want to meet up for a rant, I think I'm in your neck of the woods.

Good news ladies, DH is on his way home I'll know more once he gets back but the MRI and MRA scans were both fine hence he's been discharged. The doctors still aren't sure if he had a TIA or not. He needs to go back as an outpatient for a few more tests but again I'll know more later. Main thing is it wasn't a full blown stroke. Thanks for all your support, it means a lot
Phee Sorry you're having such a tough time of it atm Good luck with the car boot sale and please offload as much as you need to on here, we can listen even if some of us can't do much more than that due to distance etc.
Rutho Lol at Vincent the Vain But I do hope it's nothing serious with your DH. Such a worry these men aren't they
Drswife Agree with the others re ironing and cooking. Or you could try a sex strike and perhaps then he'd get the message? Just a thought Lovely to hear about the cruiser shoes. E is still nowhere near walking. You sound very organised for DD's birthday too. E is going to her first birthday party tomorrow though, one of the NCT group. Now DH is coming home we can go; it was looking unlikely earlier this afternoon!
Hope everyone else is OK.

crici I am so so please your DH is on his way home. My dad had a "catastrophic" heart attack and stroke in May and was right as rain within a week and amazed everyone. Hopefully your DH hasnt had a TIA but when he goes back, the aftercare and tests are extensive. hope he has a full recovery.

phee I can totally imagine that feeling of not being able to bond with the new baby. I found it very hard with DD and she is PFB. You already have so much on your plate so please dont feel bad about it. We're all here to sound off to.

rutho absolutely wetting myself at vincent the vain and passing the book around!

daisy have you ever owned the leebrus abc design Zoom? Its me that is not doing much to prevent baby no.2 and i currently have a bugaboo cham and now ive fallen in love with the zoom. tell me you have had one and that it is as fab as i hope. I too love buggies, just never had the chance to buy lots!

hmmm DH seems to be being a dick because i havent had sex for more than a week as you may recall i had coldsores on mouth and throat. so i didnt want to ahem partake in any activity. I cooked a fruit and cinnamon tealoaf for the freezer, i also made a quiche but I ate that for tea and I made some goats cheese and red onion tartlets but they came out rubbish so i need to start them again. I know I sound organised but i learned my lesson from having dd 4 weeks before xmas. So now I always work a month in hand with any organising. hence birthday is sorted in october. I am a nutcase.

I am with you daisy
"want to shout at them sometimes"....erm it's a from me.
DD (3yrs) is a nightmare at the moment!
She has been an independant little bugger for long enough 'no mummy, my do it!' 'I don't want to' etc etc
But recently she has started screaming. Could be over anything.
But it is incredibly frustrating.
DD and I are so good with our communication normally, but when she starts up this screaming, she just won't stop and she won't tell me why she is screaming.
So I get wound up, she gets more wound up. I shout, so she screams some more, so I shout.........round and round it goes until I am at the smacking level. It is just horrid to be at such odds with my PFB baby.

We were at the swimming pool in Sunday when she was kicking off in the showers (she is normally a dream in the showers) This time she was fussing that the water/soap was in her eyes, I was taking too much shower etc.
Then she wouldn't get out.
I tried the 'right, I am off' but she remained where she was, unmoved by my departure.
I had to haul her out, so the screaming began.
It continued all the way through getting dressed!!
I was mortified/desperate to stop her.
I am sorry to say I stooped to a smack and just cannot get beyond the guilt and the certain knowledge that the whole changing room heard it all

Oh lordy, where did all that come from
I only meant to make a wee post.

I really only came on to tease docswife cos she went from talking about coldsores stopping her from 'participating' straight to what goodies she had cooked. It took me a moment to look for the connection, only to realise there wasn't one. haha

Morning all,

phee sorry to hear you are having problems, it must make it all seem so much worse with all those hormones. Keep your chin up. Good luck with the boot sale. And offload as much as you like.

drswife aww new shoes, I remember DS1 getting his I was so proud!

daisy I was chuckling smugly at you saying Bumble had learned to climb the stairs, only to find 2 days later J can do itg too - that will teach me! I found him stood on the bottom level of DS1s garage yesterday - Bad baby

twink DS1 does that to me, he followed me all the way thropugh town screaming cause he wanted in the pushchair - I only had the single with me - I was mortified and people kept tutting at me

cricri good news about DH, hopefully he tests will all be clear. Must be lovely to have him home with you.

rutho hope your DH is ok too.

ceebee do you have to do light walking for your recovery? If so then a change of scenery round mothercare will be good for you . You may well feel fine but like pinky said its hardly the same as a full day at work.

I have sent invites to the 2 people who didn't appear to be on the FB group just incase the link didn't work!

That is it exactly phee My mum sas not to worry, people understand. But you know that they are listening/looking and judging. Thinking, Why doesn't she get that child under control?
Are the more I am conscious that they are listening, so get wound up and desperate to make the noise stop.
It is just the screaming. Shouting and making scenes, no bother, but screaming?

Anyway, sorry so selfish of me. phee I am so sorry for what you are going through
DH and I have also been there. We each had to be running 2 jobs at one point, just to make ends meet. We hardly saw one another, it nearly did us in.
At mo, we should be seriously struggling. Because there was a fatality at DHs work last month, he has not been allowed on site. Sounds good to have a month off work, paid. But DH and I rely on his Overtime to make ends meet, no overtime means not enough money. I nearly had him back at his old pub job just so we had enough. Luckily FIL said he would make up the difference in the wage so we will be ok. Good thing I have no pride in accepting a hand out.
But my sitution is not as scary as your what with another LO on the way
Thinking of you.

cricri scary! So glad your DH is gonna be ok.
My Bro was put through the mill a while back. They told him he ahd a weak heart and sent him for all sorts of tests. He kept telling them, there is nothing wrong with me, I am as fit as a horse ( he really is. He loves his sport and is into all the healthy eating lark. He should do a degree in it. Whats it called agan, food phsycology or somat) Anyway his heart was either slow or fast. One or tuther it is cos of all his excersie, but they wouldn't have any of it. He was ill, the were sure. Stoopid

Hmm, what else have I missed.........

No phee I meant ladybuzz
Oops.

hi everyone
Finding it harder to keep up with you all as am knackered in the evenings and have to keep my eyes on DS all day he really is into everything!
ladyb like your J, he has found the stairs and has learned to climb! A bottom stair gate needed me thinks!
cricri so glad your DH is home and hopefully nothing too serious going on.
ceebee DO NOT feel gulity about not being back at work, you are still recovering and if you feel good then thats a bonus. Shop and lunch to your hearts content.
Hi to rutho nice to have you back
well done on the crawling fudge daisy has your BJCM arrived yet??
phee feel free to moan as much as you like here if it helps, will look for you on fb.

Ive missed lots to will just say hello to everyone else

Just finished second week at week. Feel really miserable. Thought I would be enjoying it more. Mind you my manager keeps drip feeding me work. His father died, which is sad.
We were all struggling to get the 2010 budget in and I started corporation tax calculations.
I asked for a task list only to be told it wasn't possible. My full leave maternity cover is permanaent. She hasn't spoken to me in the two weeks since I arrived - she sits next to me and I haven't heard her speak in 2 weeks. She made a complaint about a comment I made to the bloke who sits next to me and has complained about the noise, since my return.
All in all, not good. It is a shame I love it and the wit of the people is so good, because really I should be looking on websites for a new job, but can't bring myself to.
Dh and I seem to be like flatmates. Civil. jokey and jolly. But a closeness and lovingness seems to be missing.

This all sounds really sad, doesn't it ?
Ds2 is crying at nursery and miserable with teething.
Christ, anything else wrong ?
We are organising a curry. And christmas lunch at work. Yippeeeeee. Off to collect ds1 from school in a minute. His reading is fantastic. He is into batman. He said I looked beautiful, in my thigh high black boots that I wore with a dress to work today.
Don't worry about me, I have made myself feel better, by looking at myself ( ie the boots) in the mirror, - I can see myself sat her typing and I look GOOOOOOOODDDDDDD - ha ha.
Thats better, isn't it ?

Anyone else with a good joke and a laff to lift the spirits ??
For cricri's dh, peniless phee and all others who are struggling ?

hi everyone,
phee sorry things are not great at the mo, try not to stress for Xmas b/days etc people will understand I hope you dh gets something soon x
cricri glad your dh is ok,he doesnt suffer migraines does he I know its a silly thing to ask but sometimes the symptoms can mimmick TIA and be very scary.
rutho hope you dh is ok.
drswife My DH gets upset when I fall asleep if he is wanting action and spends the next morning huffing
twinks dont worry your not the only one we all get wound up by the dc
ceebee dont feel bad enjoy
lb did I read right you are off the pill oh exciting
pinky are you going to go for the job?
chocgal loved you fb photo
obs you and your DH are just busy just now you will get it back, just make sure he sees you in your black boots
We have been paiting today dh goes away on monday but am ok got a few things to keep me busy ie ellie and millie and my nappy thing and work, oh and got started reading twighlight (sp?) its brill anyone read it?

Wow, I thought this thread was quieter than when we were all ante-natal!

Cricri, I am so glad that your DH is on his way home, you'll feel better for seeing him, I hope none of the tests they plan to do as follow-up show anything nasty, and that he doesn't have another episode.

Phee, I'm sorry you're having such a hard time, we are finding the end of the money comes well before the end of the month too

Sorry work is being so pants Ob, how can she not talk to you for 2weeks when you're sat next to her?

Daisy and Ellie, you sound to be doing so well at your nappies, I seem to have stalled a bit after a small burst of activity

The kids eventually stalled the other night, I am now trying to minimise DSs naps - which feels like punishing me - I Want MY Nap! He got up at 5 this morning and he and DH were almost wrestling in our bed to get him to lie down quietly until 6

Hi all,

Just catching up, supposed to be marking, organising DH birthday meal out, hanging out laundry etc... But I stopped by to say hi and, well, here I still am.

Cricri, good news on your DH. I think mine has the same thing going on, and several people have suggested it may be a pain-free migraine. Weird, but less alarming, eh? Fingers crossed for both our fellers.

Obs, I sympathise as my boss is in a snit with me, largely because I organised something to my convenience, not hers. She can pants. Rah.

Drswife, how can he demand all that and sex? The beast. I have told mine repeatedly that I will be more up for it if I am not slaving all day over a hot ironing board/washing machine/belt sander/stove/weapons-grade plutonium smelter/delete as applicable while he smashes imaginary computer adversaries to dust. It's terrible to see sweet lovin' as another household chore but there it is on the list, no?

Fin said "shoe" this morning. Bless! I shall train him in the right ways - his next word WILL be "handbag".

Got to go, not done my work at all.

Hi all

Well i am trying to get O to go to sleep on his own which is working in the evening but not in the night
Also i have severe septic tonsilitis (which i have never had in my life) it is so painful and really hard trying to sort O and be ill

Cricri so glad your DH is coming home.

Obs am marvelling at your sexy workwear!My workwear generally incorporates some dungarees and a leather apron, sometimes some steelies, but usually birkies, occaisionally just to sex it up a bit I'll put on some leather gauntlets!!

Tegan hope you are ok sounds like you are really poorly.

Ellieloooetc I think I may have Christmas covered with ebay and the NCT sale- I am up to a few hundred pounds on ebay already, so I may have had a reprieve!

love to all

Afternoon all

obs your maternity cover sounds a tad weird Fancy not speaking to you for 2 weeks when you sit next to her Is she like that with everyone else?? Sorry work is so sh*t not what you need when you were looking forward to going back. At least you still have your thigh-high boots....

Tegan hope you are better soon Nowt worse than looking after a baby when you feel so terrible yourself.

Cricri so glad your DH is ok and home again Really hope the tests come back negative and it is 'just one of those things' (yours too Rutho) Yorky I remember when DS1 dropped his naps - twas awful as I suddenly had all these extra hours in the day to fill without any space/time for myself!!

Had a crap night last night as DS1 had a tantrum for 30 minutes at 1.30 because me and DH refused to get up and give him a drink/tuck him in etc etc - his getting up has got a bit out of hand so decided to put a stop to it. Of course Hamster chose the same night to wake up at 3, 4 and 5 and wouldn't settle again which is completely unlike him (I don't think he had such a bad night's sleep even as a newborn). Anyway, am knackered now but got a hair appointment this afternoon so that should perk me up a bit.

Plus am having my first takeaway in 6 months tonight Breaking myself back in gently with a chicken kebab but am so looking forward to it.

bloody hell pinky, I'd no idea making baby blankets was so dangerous .

On that note do you have any boy blankets made up already? I'd like to send one to my friend in Canada.

I am soooooo tired; didn't stop until after 2 last night, that's three late ngihts in a row and I'm off out tonight to see the Ukelele Orchestra of GB. will struggle to stay awake I'm sure.

Yes the BJCM arrived and I love it. It's already done the school run twice, one handed while I hold DD's hand and was just fine. Won't get rid of the P&T just yet though even though DH is pushing for me to sell it; it'll be handy on the days when it's raining!

Lol Daisy I generally do that in my pjamas! But I guess you're right- I'd never reallly thought of that as a job per se but I guess it is.

I have 1 fishie and a 2dZoo on the shelf I think.

Ceebee congratulations on the takeaway!

Back laterx

Oh Ceebee I am having a take away with 2 friends when they get here. I am so hungry!

Read lots and forgot it all

Hope your ok Phee. X

I am still not feeling 100%.

DH never here at the min and he is off next week so we have made a late booking into Butlins hotel down south for 2 nights.

Gotta go back later. X

Lol I cracked and have just eaten an entire pizza and half a garlic bread - not sure that counts as breaking myself back in gently Clearly my stomach has not shrunk in the 9 months I have been dieting as I don't even feel full!!

Coolkat enjoy your takeaway and your time away - sounds like it might be just what you need.

Pinky, will email you tomorrow

This just proves too many people on this thread do their MNing at work!

Where is everyone? I send DH with DCs to MILs to get a quiet afternoon and no-one around to chat to.

Daisy we're coming to my parents for 1st half of half term

I'm here Yorky

We're off up to Scotland for the half term week unfortunately.

Met jaunita at the NCT sale this afternoon and had a bit of a catch up waiting in the queue. P is looking fab and it was good to see them both. She is lurking but not getting the chance to post though!

Hi everyone, just checking in. Spent a couple of nights in the hospital this week with dd1. She had another bad asthma attack but is much better now.

Am I too late for the secret santa now?