The All New Fresh and Sensitve February 2005 Thread

[Hazellnut]

Right-ho here we are - hope you've all found it ...... let the new thread commence....

I know what you mean about lack of attention Fruitful..I feed DS2 around 7 ish and then he gets dumped (sounds harsh but true!) under play gym whilst i sort out breakfast and getting DS1 dressed and then all bundled into car for nursery run...then back home for nap..then another feed and so it goes on...it is hard to find the time to just enjoys the smiles!

you should have seen his hands!!!! they were caked. I just left him to suck most of it off and then chucked him in the bath!

tipex.. i started back on sunday. Just doing one day a week at the mo, 6 hours. But might stretch to a MOnday afternoon and a wednesday too. It was better than I thought it would be going back.. but then it isn't full time, and DP was looking after Linus... I think i'd be soooooo scared if i had to leave him at nursery...

I used to work as a mothers help, and babysat most of the kids in our village... and i used to think "what's the problem, i can look after them just fine"... but it's SOOOOOOOO different when it's your baby and you have to leave them. No-one knows them like you do... no-one knows that his angry cry means he is tired, or that he likes his cheek stroked before he goes to sleep, or that he likes you to just sit and talk to him... it's so weird!

fruitful... like you i had planned to put off weaning as long as possible. But Linus started waking up 3 or 4 times every night... and crying after feeds but didn't want more milk! He is SO much more contented now, definitely happier in himself. He wakes at 5am-ish.. but isn't interested in a feed, he'll go back to sleep. Think he just wakes out of habit now!
how come you've been advised no more kids? would you like more?

and hadn't noticed the david duchovny likeness... until now!!!! LOL

Starlover, I think I have a good chance of making it to 6 months without weaning - he'll only be 20 weeks officially then. And he only weighs 12lbs now. We'll see.

I was hoping for 4 kids but now I've got 2 I'm not so sure! When they did the cs this time, the scar from my first cs had started to split open - they could see the placenta through it. The consultant said she thought the pg would only have lasted a couple more weeks before I had a scar rupture. And I was only 34 weeks. So probably a good job that I had a bleed from the placenta. There is no way of knowing what would happen next time. They can't tell how strong a scar is on ultrasound.

oh fruitful... that sounds nasty!!!! My friends aunt has to have caesareans due to weird cervix problems... after 2 they told her to never have any more... but she went on to have 2 more!!! Luckily she was ok, although I think she now has 2 scars because they couldn't keep opening the same one (might even be 3)

do you think you'd risk it if you really wanted another?

hazellnut - have answered you on the nappy board (quite enthusiastically i think )

wow futurity at that feed!! i'm not as patient as you, think i would have packed it in ages before that! was he feeding the whole time, or comfort sucking?? roo had better not get any ideas like that...!
just gave away the emergency tin of sma that i had in the house for, well, emergencies...so it's breastmilk or nothing from now on. had kept it since he was born, but hoping now never to need it
sorry fruitful to hear abt yr section scar & no more babes...2 is a nice number tho, don't you think?? i'd def like another, but wd prob stop at 2 i think (dh def only wants 2).
how did you find going to work starlover?? cd you think abt anything but linus the whole time??! if i pop out on my own, eg to the shops, i can enjoy it for abt 40 mins...then my mind wanders...then i'm just not happy til i get back to little roo! how did you find your nature babies stuffy nappy?? mine's quite good, tho i prefer the popper one to velcro & neither is as good as my fuzzi (my 1 lonely fuzzi - sob...banned from buying more nappies, even tho i SO want a wonderoo). have to make do with making my own

goodnight mummies & babes...sleep tight everyone!

roosmum... work was not too bad. Although i phoned home at lunch time and dp had gone out! so couldn't check up on them! It was alright really, and it was lovely to come home and see his little face light up! (ds not dp) lol

whispers i have just ordered a wonderoo! and a frog print fuzzi!

I don't like my nature babies... it tends to wick quite a lot I find... put him in it overnight a couple of nights ago as my fuzzis were all in the wash and he woke up rather damp! I was thinking of selling it.. £3.50 if you're interested? it's blue gingham

ohhh, sorry to hear abt nature babies nappy, roo has one on right now (asleep), stuffed with big terry...it's the only one i dare leave him in overnight for no leaks, funny how they're different on all babies??? def prefer popper one tho. as for wonderoo....just complained abt my wonderoolessness to dh....replies that i don't need one as i have a fully blown wonder-roo asleep upstairs! (which is where i shd be - sleepy!) so no new nappies for me what colour did you get?? you'll have to post how it goes.
xxx

& thanks for bargain offer on nappy, but i am totally, utterly, completely banned from more nappies (says dh sitting next to me!)
he reckons i spent £70 on nappies & nappy-making equipment the other week
surely not.....

how strange... i wonder if it's the fabric the gingham one is made of? I usually put Linus in a slinki minki over night with a terry square in. Or a fuzzi with 2 inserts.

I have spent about £15 on nappy stuff so far! So, doing ok LOL...

Will update on the wonderoo when it gets here!

and big AWWWWWWWWWWWWW at your wonder-roo!!!!

roosmum: he was feeding the whole time as he has never really sucked just for comfort and also everytime I tried to stop i would stroke the side of his face and he would start rooting around again! Thankfully he slept through last night though so lets hope today is better!

oooooh hello, been very busy here! well, the results are still not back from the docs so i still don't know if i'm pregnant - don't feel it anymore though. i would be sad about the lack of time i would get to spend with leon on his own but happy not to have to decide wqhen to try again!

starlover - linus is such a gorgeous one! i'm gonna buy some rusks for leon today - he will love making a mess, & i love them too , so you've gone back to work? what do you do that enables you to go back one day a week? i'm hoping to stay of until october (in my dreams, we'll see how the money goes!)

fruitful - i'm sorry to here about the problems with your scar - i hope i wasn't insensitive talking about how many i want, i don't even know really if i can cope with one yet! two is a lovely number and there is always adoption? this is something my dp and i are thinking of if we think we can cope with more then two

roosmum - cannot believe you've thrown away that emergency tin of sma - mine makes me feel good just being there!

angeliz - amelia sounds so pretty with her black bob - leon has really long hair and its amazing how everyone comments on it, i want it to be really long but i think thee will come a day when i have to chop it off, or people will think he's a girl - or maybe thats a good thing

futurity - wow for the mega-feed! sounds like ds2 is really having a growth spurt - that must be so hard when you're trying to look after 2, well done you!

well - i'm in a bit of a pickle, leon had his first cold yesterday & is also feeding constantly, has started waking up through the night again , also i think i can feel a tooth
my dp & i went out last night & left him with my sister (she's a mum) and he slept all evening (v.unusual, but slept a lot during the day yesterday also) & didn't want any milk; he finally woke at 12.30am & fed and then twice more in the night. he has a new cry, like a 'i'm in pain' cry
so i don't know whether he's teething, has a cold or needs more food? or all 3!
help? from a v.tired lady

We're all on tenterhooks here gossifer !! I know someone who got pregnant when her ds was 3 months old and he is now 2 1/2 and she is due to have her third in September !! WOW !! Sorry to hear about Leon being unwell - have you tried the usual teething gel etc ?? or calpol ? I am wary of using it myself without knwoing that you really need to and so far have managed to avoid it so far but if he's really unwell then it may help him... hope he's feeling better soon...

I guess the whole having 2, not giving number 2 as much attention is inevitable but I guess number 2 can get a bit more attention once number 1 is at school or something - I am the 3rd of 3 within 5 years (if you're with me) and I never felt like I missed out on attention !

As for going back to work - am not sure I will for a while ... Was always hoping to take a year off but dh works really long hours (often 70+ hours a week) so don't think it would really work very well so who knows ! We'll have to see how it goes... If I'm honest though its probably cos I hated my job so its a good excuse !!

its negative! gosh, feeling v.relieved - would have been 10 weeks gone if i was - imagine!

hazelnut - i'm the same as you - i have some calpol here but i'm loath to use it because i dn't really know whats wrong, thinking of trying some baby rice later to see if that helps with the sleeping

i can't believe how much your dh works! that must be so hard for you, i used to do a job like that and i was so exhausted all the time - big cuddles going out to you

Glad you're relieved its negative !! perhaps in a couple of months time eh?!!

As for DH - Sometimes its fine, I'm quite used to it and some weeks, like this week it is fine as he's just finished a big project so is home earlier and taking a long weekend but when he's been doing it a while it does get a bit much... we've said we'll give it a bit longer and decide whether to do something completely different as he feels he really misses out on dd. But then it does give me a good excuse not to go back to work

Phew Gossifer! Its hard enuf with a 3-yr gap, I cannot imagine how people with 1-yr gaps cope. Harder than having twins even as they have different needs. How's your lo today? When they've got a cold they do want to feed all the time (sore throat I guess). You could try a bit of boiled water in a bottle maybe? Or a half-dose of calpol - if he goes all smiley again afterwards you'll know he was in pain. I guess I'm fairly liberal with the calpol but then I take paracetamol myself at the drop of a hat.

Hazellnut - I really feel for you with your dh working long hours. Dh leaves before we get up in the morning but he's usually back by 6:45 - we go to the station to get him cos by that point we need a quick car journey! Then I hand the kids over and head for Mumsnet...

ooooh, gossifer....glad you're pleased with a -ve.
still remember stone cold shock of finding out roo was on the way! think 2nd 1 wd be less of a shock (i think...), tho prob not if it were now!! wd like time with roo, & also have slight hopes of finishing phd before having no.2.
sorry that leon is becoming a night owl, roo slept badly 2 nights runnning last wk, but was then back to sleeping fine. he's 19wks today & i'm hoping we can\stay away from babyrice for a while longer...it's there ready tho, just in case.
LOL fruitful at "head for MN" - me too i guess! provides much needed distraction & change of mental scenery!
xxx

I was just starting to think that we would move ds into his own room in a couple of weeks time when we get back from holiday, and now the baby monitors have gone on the blink. Grrr. Not convinced I wouldn't sleep through him crying without them. (I'd never have slept through dd crying but I've got better at ignoring my children ).

DD moved into her own room at 3 weeks cos I just wasn't getting any sleep. DS has lasted longer cos he is quieter. Also he is very sicky and I often had to leap out of bed and get him upright when he was throwing up. That seems to be better now though. But moving him will be the first stage of him not being my ickle baby any more...

Tipex - you're right about how you can cope better with the babes waking when they are first born - then you are ready for it and also know they can't help it but when they have slept through quite happily for a while and then start waking you know they could do it .... ah well, am beginning to get used to it again I think !! Have given dd 2 solidy meals today so will see if that helps !!

My job is an accountant - snore !! I actually trained to do heritage management stuff but a series of accidents happened which ended up with me then training to be an accountant.... This baby malarky might be a way though of combining the two eventually ! Roosmum whats your phd in ??

As for own rooms, dd went into a different room at 3 weeks . She was so noisy and we would end up jumping out of bed to her and waking her up thinking she was awake so she went into the room next to ours at 3 weeks. We then moved into her room which is further away (not that far though) at about 10 weeks I think. I do have the monitor right by my ear and if I wake and can't hear her on the monitor am in her room checking her !!

hazellnet - i'm an eng lit person (eighteenth century women's writing) & have done a year of phd, tho not v. successfully as was pg & wanted mostly to sleep! wd love to be able to get back into it now i feel like myself again, tho can't see myself EVER having the time...

roo is still in with us...dh & i agree that we secretly don't want him to go into his own room, so am clutching to 6 months recommendation. plus i prefer to just pick him up from virtually beside me when he wants a feed at 4am! i guess he'll finally go into his room (which is the reason we moved house when i was 8 mths pg!) at abt 6 mths...

Roosmum, that sounds far more interesting than accountancy.. but am impressed by a phd.. I got as far as an MA but didn't have the discipline to do any more study (apart from the accountancy qualification but I got paid to that !!)... Mind you, I don't find I have time to read at all now let alone do a phd ! Mind you, I probably could if I got off MN !

hello alllllllllll!!!

still working on sleep training linus at the moment. He wakes at 5am and just moans til his dummy is shoved back in then sleeps til 7.30ish.

He went into his room a few weeks ago because he outgrew his crib!!! WE couldn't fit his big cot in our room so he had to move. It's quite nice actually! although i have further to go on that 5am wake-up!

I am VERY excited because I got my free nappies today! Our council were giving away starter packs worth £100 and i never got round to claiming mine. But sent off for it the other day, and even though Linus is over 4 months (the cut off) they sent it to me!!!

I have 5 Sandys (motherease) and 5 MEOS and 2 wraps.
I am so chuffed they let me have one!

hi All... MORE nappies SL ?? Your house must be full of them !!

Was on the phone saying to my mum that dd wasn't rolling yet and a friend's baby, who is a day younger, was and she must have heard me cos she almost rolled on her play mat.. didn't quite get there but was heading in the right direction.. was very exciting !!

OK - Am blowing DD's anonymity - have just scanned in a photo a friend took which I love for dh for his fathers day pressie and thought I'd post it on here for you all to see.... if you're interested !!