Right ladies ? time to catch up! DD had one nap today and has been up since 11 so went out in about 3 seconds on the boob at 6.30 ? and dh is at choir, so it?s my chance to sit and MN for a good hour without any guilt whatsoever!
Spot ? lovely to hear from you and hurrah for T?s chunky monkiness Good luck with the move to Brighton
Veggie Amsterdam! Yay! How massively exciting. Hope the family visit went ok in the end. Am v impressed with your story about your dh?s birthday ?present? Does that mean ds2 is out of his amby now (have probably missed this event ). Your comment about missing ds1 when he goes to school is really poignant as my dad showed me a letter my mum had sent to one of her mates (this friend sent back a whole batch of stuff after she died) and one of them said she was really sad that i was about to start school, ?just when they start getting to be a real person you want to spend time with, they get sent off to school?.
ZJ hurrah for clapping, dd will have one flat hand and one fist so it?s the right idea but doesn?t make any noise. How is the one afternoon at nursery going? Lovely to have a bit of time to yourself! Hope the boobs are ok, does the morning feed help to calm things down a bit?
WG darling is it possible to look to the long term, if it?s a 6 week plan do you feel confident that by the end of it Madam will be sleeping longer? Sooo wish we could all come and help in shifts. re your mum and cancer, hope you?re feeling ok about things now. It was very odd for me in France as our friends? little girl is just about the age I was when my mum died, hard to describe how it made me feel really but all the more amazed at my dad for coping with me and bro on his own. Really hope you get a better night and work goes well tomorrow, will be sending you a virtual elevenses tea and cake.
Arti sounds like you managed to rescue your hols from the depths. Turkish is a pretty unusual language to speak, how so? The new nanny seems to be a bit of a star, sounds like dd2 has the old separation anxiety thang going on.
Trace crikey to the mammoth vaccination sesh! I loved your description of P at nursery, sounds like she is getting absolutely brilliantly.
Daisy golly what a shock about your nan, she and your granddad sound absolutely wonderful people, keeping them both in my prayers. is your dh still on the sofa...? There was a month or so when I was in our room with dd and dh was in the spare room. And then of course she had our room all to herself
Effie hope ds2 is all better, poor lamb.
ladyT Veggie is as ever very wise with the work = identity thing. It?s so common for people to ask ?and what do you do? (and actually dh does it a lot, it annoys me ) as if our whole persona is tied up with the work we do outside of our homes. The whole idea that being a SAHM is only a passing thing before you go back to a 'real' job and not as important as being an employee is bobbins frankly, it?s very much work but of a different kind to what most people are used to. Crikey, don?t we all know that?!
Everyone re the relationships thing, it?s such a massive change that none of us could really be prepared for it. The lack of time for ?us?, the obsession with baby (all I ever talk about seems to be what dd is going it eat/wear/do and what she?s been up to), the difficulty of finding a bit of time to just be a couple again. And perhaps it?s hard for our oh?s to understand, because most of them have been working most of the time so have that other identity whereas we?ve been spending so much time being mothers as our first activity and the full time duty that brings. Those of you who are on dc2, are you looking on and nodding sagely because it?s just always like that when the first baby arrives?
MoM good news about the childminder, how do you think things will go with your parents across? How fabulous of them to do that
Oh and trace/MoM re flow (ahem) I?ve only had one very light period earlier this month, really hope it doesn?t mean pregnant as a) we?re finding life complex enough with one and b) well it would be a small scale miracle...
Urbane you did make me laugh with ds saying giraffe before mummy... Really sorry about the nanny, they must be like gold dust so fingers crossed for finding someone suitable.
Kiwi/Mom the long day in childcare ? we?re wondering the same tbh as dd will need to be dropped at the childminder at about 8.45 and I won?t be able to fetch her before about 5.45 if I leave work on the dot (and become one of those mums everyone sighs over ). Dh won?t be able to do any pickups as he works late on Friday and Thursdays usually over-run anyway so it?s going to be quite hard.
Well not much to report from us. DD has gradually been getting back used to her own room, sleeping pretty well though the bedtime routine is a bit iffy in that she's so keen on crawling that getting her to sit still for a nappy and clothes is horrid, she yells blue murder, and then the only way to get her calm enough for bed is boob. Which is fine, except that I've had 4 nights I think since she was born when I've not been here at bedtime, and three of those I've had to boob her to sleep anyway (sigh). So we're hoping that at some point we'll be able to wean her off needing the boob and onto coping with some other way of getting to sleepyville. She sleeps ok once she's out (sorry) but getting her there can be pretty tough - ecpet of course tonight because she'd been awake for 7.5 hours .
Other than that she's being pretty lovely at the moment - crawling all over, cruising a lot, climbing the stairs at a rate of knots and I still haven't got a stairgate [bad mother]. Details of return to work still up in the air, I go back on the payroll start of Nov and have all this leave to use but need to be back for the big 6-monthly project which starts in Jan. So not quite sure yet how it will all pan out.