May 2009 - we're all here! btw, does anyone know what the Hungry Cry sounds like?

[Momino]

phew! how many threads have we done since last aug?

Right, MN is really playing up here now. I wrote a post to sausagen and it's not there. I'm sure I hit the post button

Anyway. What I said is. sausagen Have you tried going for a walk or drive. That often works with crying babies. Otherwise there's always a sling. Even if cuddles don't work slings do. They're magic

DH just phoned me saying he thinks he's found a house. Bear in mind that we've extended and renovated 2 houses now, each time moving just as they're finised. So that's non-stop living on a building site for the last 10 years as DH insists on doing it all himself. Anyway the house he has seen is a 3 bedroom house with a kitchen and bathroom clearly in dire need of renewing. AAaaarghhh (to use Sausegen's words). I really really don't want that house. I want one of the ones we viewed this weekend that are nicely done up and finished and ready, so we can finally spend our spare time as a family rather than him working on the house while I'm caring for the dcs. I've told him my worries and point of view, but I have this feeling that he's going to go for it anyway. I suppose I'll know later on today. I hope he doesn't get the winning bid if he does go for it

Afternoon all,

Well DS2 had a feeding frenzy last night 5-7 and 8-10 on and off, and i was getting really cross with him at one point as he was really tired too and then i couldn't get him to settle, so ended up sleeping with him across my chest. BUT on the plus side, he didn't feed again til 4am (his longest ever sleep/gap between feeds).

I took all 3 DCs to play group this morning and it was fine really- DS2 screamed on the way there and back but just have to accept it's going to happen - didn't get my usual 3 teas and biscuits as busy feeding DS2, but DD and DS1 played nicely so it was good.

Maybe I shouldn't have though as there is swine flu confirmed at a local primary school and we all had to give our contact details in case any of the toddlers get ill so they can let us know. I won't be going to my NCT coffee mornings for a few weeks either as a sibling of one of the toddlers who goes has swine flu .

sausagen, I'll join you . only just got dd2 down for nap and dd1 on sofa but Harper started yelling again. i ignored for about 15 min to see if she'd fall back asleep as i wanted 'quiet time' myself. no such luck: couldn't ignore dd3 as yells got louder... aargh!

wish some of us lived closer so we could knock on each others' doors holding babies and bottle of wine to help each other thru cry spells .

Pula I also missed my usual coffee and biccies at toddler group today as I was feeding. A nice mum bought me a tea though but I was gasping for more by the time I got home.

Beligan Your DH sounds like mine. We have done up one house and are in the middle of our current one. I constantly have to remove tools from DD that he leaves around the place. Our vacum cleaner blew up yesterday because he was cleaning up dust from making concrete . I too wish our weekends were spent doing family things rather than me keeping DCs entertained while he tiles or some such thing.

Well I'm feeling much better today DD went straight to sleep today for her nap at 12 and is still sleeping now. I have ordered the book toddler tamer on amazon.

momino- I don't know if DS2s screams have got quieter or i have just learned to live with them as sometimes you just can't do anything about it (if you're busy with other DCs etc). Like today i had to get 3 DCs in/out of the car/across the road safely for play group so i just have to ignore DS2.

As for those feeling bad about smacking older DCs or being generally snappy- I don't have any words of wisdom, but i am struggling too . I haven't smacked DS1 (2 next week) but have lost my temper with DD (who is 4.6 and should be able to behave better) and have clipped her around the head or been overly rough with her, and feel like a terrible mum . I find it best to get out (the DCs behave better and I am less snappy) and of course, to put the older DCs in childcare 2-3 days a week

Hi All,

been a while since i posted too - today is DH first day back at work, and this morning has been hectic! DS1 now at nursery for another 1/2hr or so, and DS2 snoozing at last after feeding much of the morning. Reassuring to hear that it is not uncommon. He is sleeping good stretches at night so can't complain really.

I am in Alloa, near Stirling for the 'who's in Scotland?' question.

Our lovely cats have been peeing around the house - think it is a protest at new arrival as they don't normally do that - but one pissed against a bouquet of flowers last night, and on their bed in the corner, and i found baby's box of clothes i had in living room for changes, soaking through this morning - grrr bloody cats.

gonna search out these anita bras as i bought two more crappy saggy mothercare ones last week and sick of them already.

Belgian I used to take Cerazette, and I don't think my periods stopped. It was a long time (and 2 children) ago. But the 12 hour as opposed to 3 hour is brilliant. I'm not great with hormones though, which is why I'm in a quandry about IUD and IUS. I don't want painful periods. You don't need to have a period to have a coil fitted. They just do a pregnancy test first.

emmabemmasmom- try code PRIMA2009 instead to get 20% off at figleaves

coil I wonder why my GP wanted me to have a period while they did it then. I'd rather go straight for the coil if poss, because like you, jenn, I'm not great with hormonal treatment either. I'll see what they say. My 6 week check should be next week .

febes At least your DH is doing the tiling. In this house I'm expected to do the decorating bit, including tiling! So I've decorated nearly the whole house during dd1's naps. The last few rooms were done by a decorator, though, as I was pregnant and as you all know I had quite a bad case of SPD so couldn't do it. Because we're in a hurry to get it ready to sell DH finally got someone in to do it for us, which was lovely

My 6 week check is next Tuesday - must start taking the mini pill as things are hotting up in the bedroom department, so need to be ready for action soon . Just ordered myself a hot milk bra and briefs set of figleaves.com which can be DH's Fathers Day present from me lol. Ordered the bra in 2 different sizes as not entirely sure of my size and they do free returns as long as you send it back within 10 days.

I want to get DH a fathers day card or gift with a photo of the DCs scanned on, but it's just finding a time to take the photo- not much time left...

MN just kicked me out when i was trying to post as well.

re: DIY, we do a little bit then leave rooms unfinished since we can't find time in the weekend to do projects with 3 LOs. i'm getting tired of looking at plaster instead of finished walls.

oh and while i'm sat here (i seem to have a baby asleep with his head wedged under my chin which is making typing tricky!) I still haven't figured out the hungry cry either- i just look at my watch and if its 2.5 or 3 hours since the last feed and/or if nothing else calms him, then i assume its hunger. Sometimes he has a little feed, falls asleep then wakes up crying- i also try him on the other boob at this stage as i assume he's woken himself up to have a bit more.

Hi all. No time to catch up but bookmarking for now and be back later on (hopefully - if I can wrestle laptop off DH and balance it on my knee whilst BF baby H).
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just signing in guys. Thanks Momino for the new thread.

It was me you asked if anyone else was using formula. I had to stop BF because I was in and out of hospital and on a concoction of pills I'm using Aptamil. He's been having the blue box (first milk) but he was still hungry after 5oz, but couldn't take anymore liquid, if you get me, anymore fluid and he was just being sick, so weve just bought a box of the purple one (for hungry babies) we haven't used it yet though, still got a tiny bit of the other box left.

I managed to take DD and baby J to playgroup at the local chuldrens cetre today, so I'm very proud

Weve got to go up to Stoke hospital tomorrow. I've got my consultant appointment about my migraines and Jacob's got an appointment too, to see a plastic surgeon. He's got 3 ear tags on one ear, and one on the other, and were talking about getting them removed, we shall see though.

Jael X

Jael You're not the only one ff on here. There are some mixed feeders here as well, so don't feel bad. How are your migraines now? And how have the gall stones been? Are still equally bad or have you found what you can and can't eat?

weight loss I will join you! I was loosing weight like a fiend but now it has stopped about 5lb above my pre-preg weight. I want to drop a good stone and a half more though as I was still carrying some extra padding from DD1 God I would love to be 10 stone. Think the last time I was that was when I was 15 lol

Having a very hard day today. S has not slept more than 30 min at a time. I have been trying to feed her and she won't eat more than a few min and she suddenly won't sleep in her cot I snapped at DH (more than once) and to top it all off I was lying in bed with S trying to get her to sleep and DD came in and grabbed a huge chunk of my hair. I just reacted and reached back but I missed her bum and caught her on her lower back. I was crying and so upset as she freaked and it was a little red still feeling aweful.

It is 6pm and I already want to go to bed. I was having an ok day yesterday and now I feel like I am taking backward steps. A HV called today to check on me, but it was not one I know so I did not feel safe talking to her so i just said I was fine. She made some pissy comment when I said I have not been to the baby clinic as it is during DD's nap time. So can't wait to talk to my normal HV as I am feeling like I am getting worse...

Trying my damndest to keep on a brave face though and think of all the good.

I'll join the losing weight thread too. I've lost 2 1/2 stone so far in 6 weeks, so I don't think that's too bad. I'd love to be 10 stone too lol

Belgian In the 6 weeks since J has been born, I've had 1 proper migraine, and 3 1/2 ones, like it didn't go into a full blown migraine with numbness and loss of vision/confusion etc. We'll see what the consultant says tomorrow, he may still put me on medication.

My pain because of the gall stones never goes completely. I'm sticking to a no fat or very low fat diet, so I'm eating, pasta,pulses, chicken, new potatoes, salad, vegetables and fruit. I'm allowed a few "treats" like a muller fat free yoghurt lol I have found out that Jelly Belly's are fat free though, so that's made me

EBsmom, so sorry you're having a tough time. for what it's worth, Harper was acting just like you described for S today. EASY routine my foot, can't tell what she wants (hence the thread title). thought i'd just cracked getting her to settle for naps w/o crying but no.

don't be hard on yourself for DD; give her a cuddle and it will be better .

if your usualHV isn't back i would see your GP asap to tell how you're feeling, it's important you're healthy for you (1st) and your family (2nd).

i wish i had wiser things to say to make you feel better...

Jael - hope your appointment goes well tomorrow.

EBsMom - sending you a sneaky hug. Hope you manage to speak to your usual HV soon.

I'm starting to get some confidence and a tint bit of independence. Tomorrow I'm completely on my own with O from 8-5. I think it's about time as O is 5 weeks now. I know some of you have been coping with more than one DC on your own for some time now so I feel a bit pathetic but nevermind... I've been lucky that my mum has suprised me in how helpful she's been and I've got some good friends nearby so one of them has always popped in.

momino Thanks. Sorry you are having a baby like mine today. I swear she gets switched in the night somehow. I usually just give her the boob no matter what! Maybe I should try other things to settle her. Pats on the back work 1 out of 10 times but only as a short fix.

What do you say to your GP? I mean I know my GP and he is my whole family's...but I mean I have never told anyone other than DH and my mom (which was hard enough) that I am not holding things together. How do I tell what is basically a stranger? I mean what does he need to know and what is just rambling nonsense? Does that make sense? Just so weird talking to him when I find it hard enough just to tell DH...and I don't think I even let on to the HV how bad it is. Maybe I just think it is bad but it is normal. I don't know. I am just a very pridefull person and I find it very hard to ask for help. I cried once when asking FIL to take DD for an hour...

S just woke again after a whole 26 min of sleep. I gave her a bath and laid in bed with her until she fell asleep. I just left her in my bed though as I am terrified of waking her. DH is in there on his PS3. I told him if he wakes her I will kill him. I hope he knows I ment it.

jael Glad you are feeling a little better and managing to eat. Does not sound like you need to go on a diet with what your eating! Maybe we should all be on the gall stone diet? Hey, you could write a book and have it be the next Hollywood diet and make millions! Anything to make a smile out of a not so fun situation eh?

aaaaarrrrrRRRRHHH! MIL has landed. Within 5 mins she pissed me off by 1. Making snide comments that "She hasn't been allowed to buy anything for G" (referring to us asking her not to go overboard with presents as DC get really spoiled) 2. Scooped up G into her arms and he gave her a massive grin when I haven't even had a smile yet (I know that's not her fault, but it's not the point!!) and 3. Then over-ruled me when I said DD2 couldn't have a sticker for sitting on the toilet but didn't do anything.

This is going to be a looooong 2 days. Pass the gin bottle Saus!

And she is awake after 18 min asleep. What can I do? Do you all think something may be wrong with her? I mean after 4 weeks so big a change this suddenly seems wrong...[tearing my hair out]

Tummum - I'd be screaming too!