March 09 - there is no snooze button on a baby that needs milk.....!

[meep]

over here ladies

That's kind Laumiere, but we have one. Unfortunately, he arches his back in it and shoves his bits against the front - I'm worried he'll do himself irreparable damage(!) Thank you, though.

Yarnie The 'nursing strikes' as you call them happened with both of my first two and I actually took it as a sign of them naturally weaning themselves off me and just not being interested anymore. I should point out I had started weaning them on to solids and were on top up bottles by this point too, but they both stopped pretty much through their choosing at 6 months. I tried to keep feeding them, but when they just kept chewing and arsing about, I stopped. Just a thought? I'm sure there will be others who have fed for a year or longer who maybe went through a phase of this, so I really don't know.

Right, am going to see what everyone's been up to, but don't think I'll manage more than two weeks worth!

Yarnie - sorry things aren't so good at the moment. Hope it soon passes...

Maybe this will give you (and everyone) a laugh. I am so pleased I gave up breastfeeding last weekend as two nights ago I poured boiling water down myself and scalded my left boob . Thankfully most of the damage is to my hand (and not really that bad) but my boob is bright red and skin beginning to peel - urggghhh. But what timing ! A week or so earlier and it could have been so much more painful !!

L has her first settling in at the leisure centre creche tomorrow so no going back on the exercise plan here !!

and we're off to the seaside this weekend for DH's birthday. For those who remember - last year on his birthday he got out of hospital after being v. seriously ill so its something of a muted celebration !

Wheely OMG! That sounds horrendous! Hope you are ok. I do remember your DH being v. ill, can't believe that's a year already! What was it he was ill with again?

Boobz Sorry you didn't get the result you were hoping for. I'm a firm believer these things will happen when they are meant to. (Even if it doesn't feel like it at them time: Me. ) And also, loving the film!

Corgi I feel so bad for you as you really seem to have your work cut out for you with your wee man. Hope things will settle for you both soon. He obviously just loves his mammy!

Mdavza Glad it was just a tooth. Teething does make them notoriously snotty, grizzly and can upset their stomach (also Meep) as the acidity levels change, hence much pukage and sore bums.

Grinning OMG, what a shame for your friend. I agree with everyone else tho. She needs to get out. He obviously has lots of issues he needs help with, but threatening suicide is no reason to stay with someone. Even if he did succeed, she should realise that it would be because he's mentally unbalanced and not because of her. Easy for me to say tho. Poor woman. All that prep for getting married and she's had nothing but hell since.

And OMG at the gimp mask! WTF?? So either, he is giving it to your DH with the thought is HIS head about YOUR DH using it on YOU (which is a grim thought) OR he is giving it to your DH with the thought of your DH using it. Either way, WHY WHY WHY is he thinking any of these things??? Unless of course he is just an arse who thought it was a 'funny joke.' Erugh. What a creep. Your DH should tell him to stick it where the sun don't shine.

Meep Hey. Re: weaning, I was always told to start weaning at lunch time and then work it up to, lunch, breakfast then tea. HB has been on three meals and 4 bottles of 8oz for a good wee while now. But I have been spoon feeding him since 4.5 months and giving him little things in his hand to try like mini rice cakes etc. I actually haven't tried any of those pouches yet but may have a wee look. I have always just done this: chop veg, fruit or whatever -> steam in microwave -> handblend or mill -> Happy Boab! It actually sounds more laborious than it is. It only takes a few mins and I occasionally end up with enough to last til the next day or freeze, but generally just make it up as I go along. So far he's not refused anything. Apart from the front door!

Sometimes blending in a little apple to things that are a bit strong/dull/bitter can work wonders and it's amazing how many things you can add it to. I also add baby rice to bulk stuff up if I need to. Having said that, I have mashed fish and potato (but you can't blend tatties as it turns to glue cos of the starch) or whatever we have sometimes been having for tea if it's not too strong.

Well, that's 'Slick's Weaning Round-Up'

Tomorrow - Pooing in cots. And sticking hands in pooey nappies. And them getting stuck.

(See, now you all wished I'd stayed away...)

Slick I forgot to say that your post about your LO being afraid of the front door really cheered me up! How completely random!

I have noticed that Spike freaks out at decorative plasterwork(!) The cinema we go to and a pub we sometimes have lunch at, both have rococco plasterwork swags on the ceiling and as soon as Spike spots them, he howls!

We should compile a list of the odd things are babies are scared of!

Is anyone still up?

Things gone from bad to worse with my friends. We saw them tonight at the pub, I was talking to her to find out what she wants to do (seemed to be trying to keep up normal pretence by coming with him).

Got a phone call when we got home to say her H drove her into the middle of nowhere, crashed the car, has beaten her and taken the car keys and gone running into the fields.

My dh is on his way over there now. I have told him he must get her to call the police.

Honestly, you couldn't make this up it's so awful. Now I'm sat here with tantruming baby, tea going cold in the oven and scared sick something is going to happen to my dh if he runs into her H.

I hope she's ok and that the H doesn't get back to her before dh finds her.

Am still up - just. OMG.

Are you in contact with her? Your DH should just get her and get the hell back home. Defo call the police.

He REEEEEEAAALLLY needs help. The H.

Thank Christ they don't have any kids.

Thanks Slick

Just spoken to my dh and her. Her H has beaten her, she's ok and my dh is with her and the police are on the way. Apparently the H is sitting at the end of her road and they're going to pick him up.

What a mess. I've just said to her that this has to be the end of it. I think she will be spending the day here tomorrow so I can look after her.

The worst of it is that she was apologising to me for the trouble she's causing!

She's too old for kids. I must admit, I'm so glad there isn't a lo involved. It'd make me want to do very bad things to him... well, worse than I do now for hurting her.

She will be - she'll be so used to thinking things are her fault. It's always the way when you are with someone controlling. He really sounds like he needs assessment and medication. I was surprised he got out so quickly from hospital before. I don't think jail is the answer here, but I reckon the police will call for a psychiatrist pretty quickly on this one. What a nightmare. Am glad your friend has friends like you and your DH.

2 and a half hours ago this man was trying to chat to me in the pub as if nothing was happening (I was trying to ignore him) and then goes and does this.

Tis always the way with nutters. Sorry, not very p.c. Just out of interest when you were talking to your friend about what she was going to do, in the pub, what did she say?

That's very kind of you Slick.

I'm so glad there's someone here to talk to. I'm stuck 30 miles away from what's happening and not knowing what's going on. The H is already seeng a therapist after the suicide attempt. He only saw her two days ago.

I told her she should end it. He told the therapist on Tuesday that he gets his kicks out of being deceitful (the contacting/meeting other women behind her back). And yet she was talking about going on holiday with him!

Oh dear. How old are they both, and how long have they been together?

He was also not acting in an odd way. He was talking to Amy, trying to get her to smile etc. It was very uncomfortable having him there knowing what he'd done, but it isn't my place to call him a rude name or say what I think to him.

However, this may change if I ever see him again.

I think they've been together 3 years. She's late 40's and he's early 50's.

I don't know why I asked about age, I guess it just helps get a picture. I bet you felt very uncomfortable with him round Amy.

I have to go to bed am afraid as really shattered, but will post in morning to see how you are getting on and how you friend is. I hope you get some sleep tonight, I'm guessing if your friend is coming back to yours, it'll be a late one. Hope Amy sleeps well for you then. Oh stress, stress, stress.....

Sorry to abandon you mid-chat!

I appreciate you being there when I posted. Thanks Slick.

Yes, it was horrible having him near A, and I held on to her to he couldn't pick her up. She has now conked out on the sofa, so I'm just waiting up for dh to come home at some time before dawn!

We'll see what tomorrow brings. If I don't post it'll be because I have company, but I will update when I can.

Thanks again. Nighty night

Night.

Quick update - dh got home at 2.15 and we got to bed at 3. The police caught H, but bailed him. He has broken her nose and bruised one side of her face. They wouldn't consider getting him sectioned as they said he seemed normal! My dh warned them that letting H stay in a hotel last night was a bad idea as he may try suicide, but they weren't interested.

I think I'll be seeing her today, but quite what to say I don't know.

Anyway, huge thanks to Slick for helping me keep a bit of sanity last night.

It's back to finding bits of apple and banana puree in every crevice today

God Grinning - I can't believe the police thought that seemed like 'normal' behaviour. They obviously just can't be bothered with him. I hope she gets out now. I can't believe he broke her nose. Hope she's ok. No probs at all for last night. That's what we're all here for. xx