January 2008 Shiny New Year Toddlers - Oh for a minutes peace!!

[Lilyloo]

LAT I am serious about that vow!!! It was an expensive one.

Ginge thanks for asking. Bit bored of talking about myself - surprised Simpson Lucky and JKS have ears left

Have been to see therapist again today - have made a plan of action and will start treatment...in 8 to 10 weeks!!!!! Oh well that is NHS for you. Have been warned it will not be pleasant and probably get a lot worse before it will get better . Need some courage from somewhere.

FFS H has now decided to cancel all direct debits for sky, gas, electricity etc with out telling me

Why the f**k didn't he tell me when he was here??

Has just said a few choice words to him and hung up on him, not productive I know but makes me feel better

Grrr....

Simps that is absolutely awful of him! can you afford to pay them?and if he's stopped them, has he closed the accounts? not good. v for you!!!

Madmouse - 8-10 weeks???? crikey, lucky you have support to get you by.

G - i have a ball to go to tonight (just dyed my hair, hopefully to cover the greys, lol! and done my nails) - at a local prep school, the head is an old friend of mine. Have dress & shoes sorted, need to check tights and decide on jewellery
What are you reading?

Ange - love those pics! want a water play thing near us, looks so much fun.

need to pop into town at some point for bits for the holiday but not sure how and when i'll manage it as dh taking T to a summer fete thing later and H will be asleep
may have to go on monday as i'm up on my hours anyway and there's not much on at work right now. and i hate rushing and getting stressed, would rather be able to take my time.

so, laundry today instead i think as the sun is shining

Simpson no way!!!!What has gotten into that man all of a sudden. Good for you having a shout and hanging up.

Lucky - was it you asking about sky talk?

Well i signed up this morning so hopefully they are ok

Am totally shattered (getting to be normal for me )

J had melt down just now refusing to do what I ask etc so looks like he will be in bed by 6

M always goes at 6 anyway so may get an evening to myself...

Just found out my aunt is on honours list for services to healthcare

She will get MBE

Also M just did the most horrid poo in the bath

With both Dcs in it.

Think diarrhea

Oh ~Simpson - horrid, horrid.

I'm just nipping quickly on while Sabela screams in her cot! It's been ages since she's made a fuss over going to bed, and I can't put my finger on any one thing triggering it. ALthough I did let her go to sleep on me after DH left this morning so I think that combo won't help.

She can also stand in her cot now, but she doesn't know how to get down so I think this protest could take a while.

Oh, and Ange - yes I did mean an hour a day.

She's just getting up after every time I go in.

Simspon - great about your aunt. Just AWFUL about the bills. What a swine.

Gingeme - How's yer book?

Madmouse - Just don't get me started on mental health services. The only part of the NHS I think is really in trouble.

JKS - Did you get your bits?

Lilyloo- hiding or enjoying the sunshine.

Right. Off to put her down again. I want to go out in the garden and plant some things out! Sabela - stop crying!

It takes her about 5 seconds to get up again after I put her down. I just keep on walking away after I put her down and go straight back in when she's got up. Not really sure what to do here. Just keep putting her down?

She's not crying tears - there's usually loads if she's upset.

She did 5 steps today BTW.

It's quieter up there now. Just going to take a peek.

Where's Mixedmama these days?

mixed mama busy on FB

Well done sabela on walking

Maybe she is asleep now...

Yup. All's quiet. That wasn't a very nice 20 minutes!

Off to the garden then....

LaT - M's new thing before bed is to have melt down as she is lowered in cot shouting "drink drink!!" when i know she doesn't want one iyswim.

Its just delaying tactics before sleep!!

Evening ladies.
JKS sounds lovely. Have fun
Oh Simpson just hasn't been your day has it Lovely news about your aunt.
Yey Sabela on the steps no stopping her now.
The book I'm reading is called Things I want My Daughter To Know by Elizabeth Noble. My Mum read it and gave it to me. Very good.
Had a pants evening yesterday. I wrote down my feelings on the step son / PSP situation and gave it to DH when he came in from work. Basicaly he stopped talking to me after he read it and spent the night on the sofa. Not much from him this morning either. A very strained visit to Asda. Then he went to work about half hour early. We had a text row and made a few points clear. After a good cry I was ok.
Took ds 4 and 5 to a party and it was very lovely. ds3 went out with his Grandad and had a lovely time
All is good again in the gingeme household

Glad all ok again Gingeme - sounds quite heavy.

Simpson - I was a bit freaked out but I think I did the right thing. I just kept putting her back and she seemed to get the message pretty quickly.

I am actually getting a bit wound up about the walking issue. She wants to cruise / finger walk all day long but hates (really, I must admit) me getting her to try walking by herself. She's never up for it. Neither will she pull herself up even if I try to show her and make a game. She just will not.

She's beginning to get herself into a crawling position sometimes, but she doesn't keep it at all - just goes on to her belly straight away.

She doesn't sit up by herself from lying down.

She does pull herself to kneeling in the cot (as seen last night) but she won't do ANYTHING if I'm there. I'm trying to leave her by herself more but usually she just sits (if I leave her sitting) or cruises after me (if I leave her holding something).

I'm beginning to think I might need to be told about some exercises to get her going.

It's only two weeks until she's eighteen months and she has no way of moving herself at all.

Stressy stressy LaTrucha

Oh, and don't get me started on her not trying new fruits!

Hi all

Got busy day today so just popping in

Trying to do loads of washing to get on line too.

Also must cook M'stea as she will be starving when we get back and not give me time to cook it then iyswim.

Have got J's school fete this afternoon which should be good fun as a meeting a few of the other mums for a natter while DCs run riot play.

LaT - Have you got a HV you can speak to?

M is crawling and cruising around furniture (ish) and has been trying to stand by herself for weeks, keeps practising etc but to no avail as she has not improved at all!! She can stand for about 5 seconds and thats it, she is nowhere near walking yet.

I'm very sceptical about HV but I am thinking about it. And it takes a lot for me to say it! I don't mind that she's not walking. It's that she doesn't make herself go at all - I have to get stand her up if she wants to cruise etc.

you could talk to GP instead if they are any good.

One more thought...

Does she hang out with other Dcs the dame age?

As I know M tries to copy other Los when she seems them.

She sees lots of children, both older and younger most of whom are walking and crawling but it hasn't had any impact yet!

GP probably a better option. I have a low opinion of HVs.

Afternoon ladies
Have had a lovely morning at the park. We let George walk all the time with no buggy all good except he wanted to play with every dog that walked past not that I was worried about the dogs just more what George would do the them.
LaTrucha yes a visit to your gp might be a better idea if your not keen on the health visitor. Keep us posted.
Things pretty much back to normal here now thank goodness
Right I can hear George calling from his nap.
Enjoy the sunshine

internet connection went dodgy but i sorted it out myself

G - glad all ok now

Simps - at poo in bath!

LaT - no will go tomorrow when dcs are in nursery - have extra hours done for work so can afford some time in town - hopefully will be quieter on a monday too.
i'm not much of a shopping fan.
the main thing i HAVE to find is some sandals to wear at the actual wedding. silver or coral-coloured i think.
try not to stress too much, hard i know, sure she will do it all in her own time but see a gp if you think they will lend a sympathetic ear.

We are having father's day today as we are away next week - so DH has had:
a lie-in,
tea & then a coffee in bed,
papers in bed,
chocolates & 'cards' from the boys
a back massage
and is now sleeping in the garden!
(in the shade, i keep checking) am i a good wife or what?

we've had the paddling pool out with both boys in, T now chilling with some tv and H sleeping.

i have been washing anything i can lay my hands on as it's so sunny, last lot just gone on the line. have got a growing ironing mountain for later though

happy rest of sunday afternoon everyone

Well done JKS on fixing internet and hope DH appreciates how good a wife you are

Gingeme it did sound a bit worrying - hope things truly ok now.

LaT looking at Sabela from point of view of mum-with-disabled-child:It looks like everything is working just fine - she can stand herself up in her cot if she wants to, she can work herself into a sitting position from pushing up, she can cruise and finger walk. So all the motor skills are there.I would maybe try to leave her to it more until she realises she has to move to get somewhere. We do it with Nathan. Frustration is necessary to push yourself.

What do you do when something she wants is just out of reach? We leave Nathan to it and he will get there in his own inimitable way.

I am also wondering if it is psychological - as you and Sabela have travelled a lot together and are very much used to being close together all the time - or at least she is used to it. So maybe it is a matter of leaving her to play alone more - you say she just sits but it will not stay that way!

Forgot something important: Do follow your instinct, if you feel something is wrong do go to doctor or hv