December 2007 "The one where babies walk the walk... and talk the talk"

[Arcadie]

I'm sorry - I couldn't last out. Welcome to the new thread.

I'm actually thinking about getting DD2 vaccinated against chicken pox - does anyone have experience?

Was home from work yesterday with ghastly headache vomiting shivering etc. Actually might be mild swine flu as have now had headache for 36 hours straight and only really coping by taking regular panadeine doses every 6-8 hours. Whatever it is probably picked up on plane back from Queenland last Sunday, although kids seem OK (and fingers crossed they stay that way!)

Oh Buzzy, hope you are feeling better!

DS got lucky I think with Chicken pox, apart from being rather spotty he was fine! Didn't need any calpol, or anything!

Hey all - just got back from BBQ to celebrate my BF's little boy's dedication. So lovely.... all seemed much less stressful being a guest than organising either of our 2's dedications. Maybe DC3 will get a sandwich and a glass of warm pop!

Went to Lincoln to stay with my sis on Friday night ( Saturday morning lie in ker-ching!!!!) to sort out stuff for her wedding. I am one of the bridesmaids ( will be 34ish weeks) and the 2nd bridesmaid has just announced that she's expecting too! My sis can't believe her luck that she'll look the thinnest bride in history! Have teeny little teetery shoes which are surprisingly comfy and a silver pashmina. everything else is green but beautiful.

... had to post and go help DH in garden.... but the hen do is doing my nut. Everyone seems to need chasing down and asking 5 times.... I know a week isn't long to make a decision but I would think that people could at least send an email back confirming receipt of the invitation.... NOTHING so far from over half the invitees. who'd be a bridesmaid eh!?

We're falling a long way down the list of threads, girls. Come on!

Arcadie - I hate it when people don't respond to you, especially when you are doing something nice for them. Mind you, in this country you would be lucky to get a response from anyone within a decade...."Soon come" they used to say in Jamaica, which has a similar meaning to "manana" - ie, it'll happen when it happens. I am still in a European frame of mind and not yet adjusted to St Lucia time so find it VERY frustrating!

Btw, your outfit for the wedding sounds gorgeous. Do post a pic, especially when you are wearing it at 34 weeks ;)

I am thinking of the next thread name. It should have something to do with cheekiness and naughtiness perhaps! My dd2 is adorable and hellish in equal measures. She loves to sing and dance and is a total show-off; but she also pulls her sisters hair, screams and shouts everytime we need to get her dressed into something she doesn't want to wear (especially her sunsuit) and is overly fond of the word NO.

aye, clara: i have to confess to lurking more around my an thread at present.

Arcadie how annoying! It is always the same: i always try to respond straight away because it is always such a PITA to organise. Expect last minute cancellations/ no shows too.

Thread titles:

DEC 07: The one where the naughty step is wearing out.

Dec 07: Sneaking up to the terrible twos.

urm...
must check food....

Morning all.
Am dreading today. Off to Scotland to say goodbye to dad who is going downhill fast and now wants to die. I have the added complication that his estranged sister wants to come and see him, but he's likely to refuse. I'll ask him today, but if the answers still no, I will have to call her and tell her not to come. My poor ma doesn't need it.

New thread title: tantrums? But they're not 2 yet!

Suey - I am so sorry to hear about your dad. I hope he has a peaceful end, with his family around him. Perhaps he will have a change of heart about his sister? But his and your mum's feelings must come first.

Arcadie - I feel your frustration. Has anyone else replied yet?

DS is also fond of the word "Noooooooooooooo!". Makes a change from "Car!!!" He is soooo cute the way he says it though lol

He now gets very upset if we stop playing the DVD Disney's Cars! He absolutely loves it

Suey - sorry about your dad, that must be really hard for you.

BT - Dd1 loves cars too but dd2 still obsessed with Peppa Pig. She does quite like Madagascar and Nemo though.

How about Dec 07 - No... No... No... Now they are nearly two?

Suey sorry to hear about your Dad. Hope you come up with an amicable solution with his sis.

Suey sorry about your dad and all your family complications. Love your thread title idea though

Buzzy hope you're feeling better

Clara sounds like you're starting to settle in but I guess you're an old hand at it by now. When do you feel like you've settled?

Arcadie I didn't have a hen night so my bridesmaids got off lightly but I know your frustration from having to organise the rest of the wedding. Everybody is so casual these days - RSVP-ing as a concept seems to have gone out of the window.

BT our two are very alike - DD has emerged from the pox with only a dozen spots and no itching. She was dabbed with calamine but that was the only thing needed. She was full of beans throughout, no sign of being under the weather.

Last weekend DD was demanding "I do it" whenever we tried to do something/ put something on. Think she gets her independent streak from me. She also insisted on going out for a walk in the dark and wasn't scared of it at all.

gosh suey - so sorry about your dad. What an awful thing to have to face but at least he will soon be at peace. Hope the thing with his sister doesn;t become an added trauma.

clara - lol at 'soon come' I remember that from jamaica too - you will probably have just got into the swing of Carribean time when you have to come back to the UK and everyone will be angry with you for not RSVP-ing!

arcadie - I sympathise - sent out birthday invites for DD two weeks ago and have only had one reply! Just hope the rest of them come - imagine my little baby in her party frock and no-one there

BT - my DS is also into cars and feels the need to name virtually every single one when we go out - yes we live on a main road, yes there will be a lot of cars - you'd think the utter fascination with each and every one might have been slightly muted by now...

anyone heard from OnYGo? Hope she is OK...

Sorry about your dad Suey, must be really hard

DS has an endless loop of car, car, car, BUS, car, car, bike, what's that? what's it called? car, car, blue car, cat, dog, bird.... whenever we go out. As well as yelling HELLO and BYE (whilst waving manically). And shouting "Caiela, COME ON! QUICKLY, HURRY UP" , no idea where he got that from

Arcadie hope you get RSVP's soon(you too Skid), it's very annoying trying to organise something not knowing who will come.

How are you feeling Buzzy?

Clara ds still has a shortish nap most days, sometimes it is 20-30 mins, often an hour ish, rarely longer. He now usually sleeps 10 hours at night, sometimes with a brief wake up or two. When we were at my sister's he was in a double bed with me and he obviously got used to the space because he now keeps falling out of his bed. The other night I went in and stood on his duvet then groped around for him, couldn't find him so said Douggie where are you? and he said I don't know-turned out he was under the chair

SpiralQueen I was meaning to say to you that we had the exact same thing with dd at night-I tried reducing her milk, watering it down etc so many times and she just woke more so I eventually just gave in and gave it to her. When she was 2 I told her she wasn't going to have milk at night anymore, reminded her when she had her bedtime milk then again when I tucked her in. She woke the first night and made a bit of a fuss when I said no milk, the second night she just accepted it and after 3 or 4 nights she was just sleeping through most nights. It was actually really easy in the end when all previous attempts had been quite traumatic so I think she must have been ready, plus I knew her language was developed enough for her to understand then.

Skid I'm evidentally far too hormonal to be on MN. Just the thought of your DD in her party dress all alone was enough to make tears trickle down my nose. I'll come to Oxford and celebrate with you!

Hen do is booked. OUt of a possible 19 we have 7 for the spa and a further 4 for the meal. Not too bad. DSIS is a little saddened but in fairness some of the people she invited she hasn't really spoken to much in years/ didn't know email/phone number/mobile number for some of them which makes me a little about why she was asking them in the first place. The 2 preggy bridesmaids and my cousin and DSIS will be there. That's enough for a lot of fun in my book.

I also was wondering about OnYGo and praying that things have worked out. Perhaps she's lurking still and could let us know? No pressure though - this might be a nice place for a chat not a soul bare.....

arcadie - well I must be even worse as I had to blink back the tears as I wrote that about my DD in her party frock even though I absolutely KNOW there will be enough people

Glad the hen do is sorted - I always think these things are nicer with fewer people anyway - what do they call it - oh yes more intimate

hey clairey - that is hilarious about your DS not knowing where he was - and as always I am staggered by his language - does he really say 'I don't know?' not even 'don't know'? Hope you had a nice time at your sis's house.

My DD has been so lovely with DS recently - am hoping it will extend to baby no.3 too. She reads him loads of stories and talks to him in this really sweet voice and says things like, it's ok Milo, you're just tired and grumpy, why don't you have a little sleep my gorgeous?' So cute

yes you two hormonal pregnant women, get thee to your AN threads with your tears

I also laughed at Clairey's ds, what a funny thing to happen! And very sweet. And of course terribly advanced. Clever boy. I haven't dared put dd2 in a bed yet as I don't think she would stay in it. I know I will have to take the plunge soon.

Skid, dd1 is also very sweet with dd2 and loves reading to her, helping her with things etc. Dd2 likes it to an extent but they do also fight something rotten. The naughty corner is in frequent use (almost always filled with dd2 though).

It is so hot here it's horrible. we need the weather to "break". Dh has offered to pick up dd2 from school tomorrow so I can go for a swim in the sea. I drive past some fabulous beaches on the school run, but don't get the chance to relax in the sea without my whinging dear children often enough...

Well he doesn't say the t so it's I don' know (but not dunno iyswim). He says it very expressively though.

Aw your dd sounds lovely Skid. DD is like a little mum to ds too, she brought him down a book with pictures of toys, teddies etc in it and read it to him. She said "Now it's time for you to learn some more words so you can talk properly and go to school like me". Now he wants to read the book the whole bloomin time so whatever I am doing I'm saying "that's a green train, that's a blue teddy" in answer to his constant what's that? He has no idea what colour is though which was worrying me until I reminded myself that dd was just a bit freaky knowing them so early and that they learn them at preschool if they don't already know them.

Yep Arcadie, this is always a good place to chat

NnnnnYYYYYYYARRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH!!!

Guess what?

: What arcadie?

Arcadie: My sister has just cancelled the hen do. wants to do something that more people can afford, dates that more people can make. Just not happy with how few people it'll be and has talked herself into cancelling it. Her new plan is to have everyone to her house and then go out for the night to a city 25 miles away (as opposed to the perfectly lovely city she lives in). AIBU not to be involved in the planning of the next one but just turn up and enjoy?

Or can I say to her: I'd planned a weekend that didn't revolve around getting slaughtered in a town a distance away because I have no desire to be the designated preggo driver at 2am nor do I wish to catch a cab home for 25 miles. It's no longer going to be about enjoying the day, but about "preparing for the wild night out". I just don't do wild nights out. i don't enjoy getting drunk and couldn't anyway. I hate standing in a cramped car to get a drink with music so loud you can't talk and then piling out and going to the next bar etc etc until 2am. Just so that the HOURS and HOURS and HOURS of phoning, emailing, facebooking, texting, booking, negotiating, planning are going to be binned because she's not happy with the numbers. I phoned last night and told her I was cross but that I'd get over it and that it's her day and she should do what makes her happy....... but still .

And breathe......

Arcadie - I would be furious and definitely tell her to organise it herself this time. Also, don't go if you don't fancy it, it sounds like a nightmare at the best of times let alone when you are pregnant and have two other children at home.

Clairey - my dd2 knows quite a few colours already, yellow, pink, blue, green, red, white, black, purple. Is it unusually early? I can't remember when dd1 learnt her colours, probably around this age too?

I'd be very annoyed at that too!!

Actually I am... a good friend is getting married... she was going to get married in Scotland, so DH has booked 3 days off work to attend, and the time before last she recommended a nice nearby hotel to stay at.
We hadn't gotten around to booking, and the the next time I see her, she casually mentions that the wedding is now family only .
I'm not angry at her for de-inviting us but I am annoyed that she didn't tell straight away when she knew DH had booked the time off and we were going to book the hotel. And now she is going to hold an evening do 50 miles away from where I live, she knows I cannot leave DS overnight and we have no babysitters anyway, so I said "you do realise that DH and I won't be able to go" and she said "yes".
Another of our friends is in the same predicament, she now won't be able to attend either.
I'd go on my own but I don't fancy the 100 mile round trip and I'm not going to drink anyway.

I totally understand why she has doesn't due to circumstances out of their control they have had to massively out of their control they had to downsize the wedding and they already had paid a huge deposit for the venue in Scotland. And the only way they can afford it is to limit the numbers severly. So I am being very supportive about it. But I still can't help feel very disappointed I can't go

arcadie i just wouldn't go in that case. Not in a fit of pique, but because it is highly impractical for a PG woman. She'll end up with no-one going at this rate though! Daftie.

Shame about the wedding bt. But it sounds like it wasn't something that was in her control, as you say.

I have had a horrible couple of days. I've tried to hold it together for my mum and also i dont like to get upset when i'm pg, but it was awful. My poor dad is miserable, angry, frustrated and just fading away. I said my goodbyes, told him it was ok for him to go and that we would look after mum etc, but although he was nodding and i think he understood, it didn't make him feel any better. DD was ever so cute with him, and just the memory of her saying 'bye bye grandad' brings an instant tear to my eye: she'll never know him! And i didn't tell him i was PG again cos i think that would just have been cruel. I hope he dies soon, poor bastard.

Suey - I am so sorry about your dad. Hope it happens peacefully

I am a little stressed (for those not on facebook)...Dh has fainted in AMercia getting out of a hot tub and fractured his skull and is today out of ICU, but on a ward...he is slurry, not able to remmeber things that happen whilst he has been in hospital and has some paraysis down his left hand side and keeps falling over to the right.

Oh man Cazzy ..... that's awful. How're you doing!?

Oh Cazzy - that's awful! Have the docs said what's causing the paralysis, is it just a temporary affect of the injury? Poor man - and poor you. Wishing him a quick recovery.

Suey2 - I know it isn't the same but your dd will get to know him through the memories of him you share with her.