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January 2008 Shiny New Year Toddlers - Toddling, tempers and tantrums

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madmouse · 03/04/2009 20:54

ok then, thought it sounded better this way round.

hope everyone finds it!

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Lilyloo · 05/04/2009 20:54

Evening all like the new title !!

Have caught up but apols if i miss anything.

Ange at poo story!!

Simps we actually forgot to put H nappy on the night of his 3rd birthday so we never put one on again.
L was a bit younger i think but she cracked potty training really easily.
The funfair sounds great!

JKS we just bought a new trampoline on Fri too! It took a while to assemble though. It's 10 foot but the dc's love it even M had a little go with me! Have you been on i have today

LaT do you feel happier now you have leaving date ??

Mm so to hear that about work and how badly the ptsd is for you

Lucky same here with strops but L is outshining M at the minute. She has had two almighty melt downs (lasting for an hour each!!) She is so stubborn so M little ones tend to pale into insignificance!Joint account here too.

Mixedm so glad to hear your money worries seem to be improving. I know pretty much from antenatal thread things have been tough. And at dh comment to you!

Gingeme oh dear with the spitting. Sometimes i think you have exhausted every option and a tap on the hand or bum is the last resort.

Housemum did you win anything ?? Did anyone ??

We don't do the national as it always falls on H birthday. I had 10 kids here yesterday for lunch and they were great. Played on wii , table football and trampoline and then we went to pics to see monsters v aliens , it's really funny!
Thank goodness the weather was kind!
Update on spots they never really blistered so i think it must be a viral infection. She now having really runny , pale stools
And was sick yesterday but seems happier today so hopefully seeing the back of it. Def not cp though!
H loved the lego but there is loads of it , should have really held some back for xmas tbh!
Sorry JKS never answered your question on M self weaning. LaT basically when i went to the meet up she had been ill and she was bf ferociously. TBH i then started giving more milk as she was hardly eating. I never really noticed her withdrawing from the bf so never really had that 'last feed' but if she was happy to go to the bottle then i am too.
The funny thing is that now whenever she wants milk she pulls up my top but wants a bottle lol!!!!
Had a good gardening day today and did lot's of jobs and dp did his first garden cut of the year , i love the smell of fresh cut grass. Hope this nice weather lasts!!
Well mahoosive post sorry!

simpson · 06/04/2009 09:29

Morning all

Looks like being another nice day here

Meeting RL friend in local garden centre today and will then take Dcs (along with her 2) to look at fish etc after lunch....

Think I am going to brave it and try DS without nappy at night later this week.

He seems quite excited about it and will put potty in his room or he has got night light which turns into torch to get himself to loo...

Am in town on Wed so will buy reward chart (if I can find one!!)so he gets sticker when dry in morning etc.

Am also going to give him sticker for eating his tea as that is becoming a bit of a battle again...

Madmouse - just spoken to Oxford tube and I can just pay the driver on the day so will do that. Is £16 return. Will aim to be in Oxford for around midday ish....

mixedmamameansbusiness · 06/04/2009 10:23

Morning all...

Another childless day here. Missing my boys this morning. My parents are going tot turkey today for two weeks and my brother has to have an MRI scan today as he had a fit a while back and he is really scared bless him. Altho LaT he has stopped drinking completely as he is soooo scared that it might happen again if he is out drinking by himself, we have been trying for 5 yars to stop him and it took this. Hope for your bro yet. BTW how is your dad and everyone. Hope it is all going as planned.

Thanks Lily it isnt sorted but at least feels alot more relaxed so thankful for small blessings tbh.

Am waiting for the boiler people to ocme as they have to put some fluid into our new boiler or soemthing but have to leave at 12 to meet my brother. Hurry up.

BTW one of the heating men was rather cute so at least i had something nice to look at

Am off to the gym after and going to pop in and see my friend who i havent seen for ages.

Am trying to be calm about boys being away from me quite a bit at the moment as both will be at nursery after the Easter break so ILS wont see them anywhere near as much so just trying to think of it as they are getting decent time with GPs and I am getting valuable gym time. I will not freak out. Keep calm and just enjoy the me time.

Very excited about DS2 starting nursery. He will only go for the 3 days i work, but it is a FT place so if something comes up he can go in. Have comprimised with DH tho as he wasnt keen that I will ensure that DC still spend a decent amount of time with ILs and that I will TRY to make more effort to go round with them. Problem is what I dont see doesnt hurt me IYKWIM but when they will call E a different name I know it is going to really get on my nerves. But I know it will be better for everyone in the longer term if we can get on better.

Anyway... me me me as usual so sorry about that.

mixedmamameansbusiness · 06/04/2009 10:25

Lily - have tosay that sound mighty brave having 10 friends round and cinema. Did you do party bags in the end or go for the popcorn bags.

LaTrucha · 06/04/2009 12:23

Morning Ladies!

Mixedmama - sounds like you're being very level-headed! It would drive me nuts if someone deliberately called Sabela the wrong name. We're thinking of putting Sabela in a nursery some morning when we get back so I can concentrate on getting my Spanish up to scratch. I am envying your gym time too. Congratulations on your brother stopping drinking, especially if it is his decision. My brother is really scared, but he was scared at Christmas, when he really did nearly die, and it didn't stop him. As soon as he was on his own again, he started again. Now he has diabetes. It's very worrying as he has no idea how to look after himself. The reason why he ended up in hospital at Christmas was because he didn't eat for ten days (and drank and confused his medication etc...). Still, at least he seems to be trying to pull himself through on his own this time, which is what he needs. Hope there are some birghter times for you and your brother ahead.

Simpson - garden centre sounds nice. Well done for going ahead with potty training. Hope it works. Sounds like you have quite enough washing to do. Cute image of DS with torch in the middle of the night!

Lily - mmmm. That's interesting. I don't think I'm going to make any great efforts until we go home, but I might try and introduce more milk in a cup. It would be nice to stop to see if any weight comes off (me, I mean). Lots of people say that it has happened to them, and my extra weight is totally stubborn. GArdeing sounds lovely. Spring is my favourite!

Madmouse - glad to provide one

Gingeme - I am still in awe of your ability to arrange days out. Lucky boys, you have!

Lucky - glad you had a better day.

Sabela ferociously teething today. Thankfully there are lots of bodies around to help. She's been in bed with us most nights and will now settle with just DH's arm to nibble which is cute.

Dad's got his appointment with the oncologist today, so I didn't sleep very well last night. My brother is out of hospital and his friend (a psychiatrist who had him admitted in the first place) packed him off to his flat by himself. Dad was a bit but she is of the firm opinion that he has to make the effort by himself. She thinks that all we're doing is propping up his illness. It's a worry as he is now diabetic and has lost his keys and ahs to wait for the bloke next door to be in to go out to get food, but hey ho! We are all a bit relieved that the decision has been taken out of our hands.

I've finally relented and said that DH can learn to drive. We really don't have the money to run a car with our salary, but we will have some money from the sale of mum's house, so.... AM too tempted by the thought of days out in the Welsh hills. I have made DH promise not to drive to work every day, though. He gets a free bus pass and sometimes I think the only exercise he gets is walking to the bus stop!

simpson · 06/04/2009 18:05

Am feeling the worlds worst mother

Both Dcs have had total melt down this evening.

Think it is because DD slept late this afternoon so still tired and she has got tooth no. 4!!

Ds took 45 mins to eat his tea and he managed 2 small pieces of pasta in that time so said there was no pudding etc then gave 5 min warning for his tea being taken away as he was not eating, cue total tantrum like I have never seen before!! Throwing himself around room etc

I am now feeling the worst mother ever as he is saying or rather screaming he is hungry and wants yogurt etc.

I have let him get away with poor eating for too long which is my fault and have to get tough I guess but boy is it hard!!

JustKeepSwimmingInChocolate · 06/04/2009 18:25

Sympathies Simps ((hugs))

quick announcement:

H just walked properly

back later for proper catch up!

mixedmamameansbusiness · 06/04/2009 19:12

oh simps sorry about the meltdown no words of wisdom but hugs.

LaT - your bros friend is right i guess but still i hated seeing my bro sink so low. We had a very productive visit with a neurologist today who is going to write to his mental health authority and get him some support as he was shocked when he was told he only has a psycitrist (sp obv) and no care worker and finally a doctor committed to say NO alcohol with meds rather than avoid which i think it was still important for him to hear.

BIL is moving out next week and DH has asked me to please make some sort of effort and patch things up as apprently his bro feels pushed out and has informed dh mum about our living situation and feels like he has been kicked out. not really sure how to go about this as i know he feels the same about me as i do about him, but dont want things to be diffcult for DH, but he is not the most responsive person in the world. Am hoping that i can get DH to approach him so it is all 3 o us and then he can break he ice and get the cconvo movng. fingers crossed.

Lilyloo · 06/04/2009 19:46

Simps L has had two massive melt downs this week which is not at all like her but the stubborness is beyond anything i can reason with.
I am putting it down to getting ready / needing school. Hope it the same with J!

Lilyloo · 06/04/2009 19:46

Oh and well done H

simpson · 06/04/2009 19:49

Lilyloo - you might be right....

I have never seen anything like it, he was screaming so much I thought he would be sick

JKS - Well done H!!!

Gingeme · 06/04/2009 20:02

Hi ladies.
Simpson don't want to intrude but why don't you let ds just finnish and then get down so to speak. ds1 used to be exactly the same and the less fuss I made the more he ate. Go on give it a try. If he says 'no I don't want it' or 'no I'm not hungry' just say in a matter of fact voice 'ok' and leave it at that and let him leave the table. He'll be so shocked that after the second or third time hel eat a bit more. I'm sure youve heard of reverse scychology. Ha you probably know how to spell it too
Be back later stenders on now.. xx

LaTrucha · 06/04/2009 20:08

Hi guys.

Just popping in to say, I don't know how much I;m going to be around. We've just found out that my Dad's cancer is terminal. He's got about 6-9 months, a little more with chemotherapy. The first thing we're going to do is go home. I'm going to take over some of the work of selling my mum's house.

I really don't know what the next few days and months will bring. I might be on as I like chatting to you all and I might need lots of company. Then again, I might not be able to. I'm not sure.

Oh! and Mixedmama - we were in the paper because she was the first baby born in 2009 in our county.

JustKeepSwimmingInChocolate · 06/04/2009 20:30

RIght proper catch up, sorry if i've missed you:

Simps - hope you had a good dinner at your mums yesterday. any poo?! good luck with no night nappy.....

Ange - lol at crisis! i think i may have one of those every now and then

re milk: we offer H a cup of milk twice a day, morning & bedtime, sometimes he downs it, other times rejects it entirely. much prefers to drink anything out of T's cup

Mixed - lovely comment from your DH although i miss the boys when they're away, i'm still of your time off, think i need more! no gym time for me, not my thing!
No idea what to say re your BIL. i would want to be stubborn and dig my heels in but i guess you have to say something conciliatory for family harmony....good luck!

LaT - crafty things just for whenever I decide to do sticking with T. only when H is napping so far, lol! coloured feathers, googly eyes, tissue paper, etc. all v necessary for fun pictures
You are not boring us at all, just feel for you, DH & S struggling to make the best of the situation you are in.
Oh and i lost more weight with every feed i dropped, and lots more when i stopped completely.
about your brother.

G - that farm sounds fab, where was it? we have a good small one nearby & a good bigger one a bit further away. thinking of getting an annual pass to the smaller one & go there lots over the summer with picnics

Lily - loving the trampoline H loves it too, think the falling over on it gave him the confidence to try walking tbh.

JustKeepSwimmingInChocolate · 06/04/2009 20:33

Oh God, LaT - x-posted.

So sorry to hear your Dad's news x lots.

Come on here whenever you need to escape for a bit/vent/etc.
Also, the health threads might be helpful to you? or not.

You and dh have so much going on right now it must all feel like it's getting on top of you. try to stop and breathe every now and then.

All my sympathies & (((hugs))) by the dozen for you all.

Lilyloo · 06/04/2009 20:35

Oh no LaT this is just so my heart goes out to you all.
Please do keep popping in and if you need anything please do ask.
((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))

simpson · 06/04/2009 21:05

LaT - so so sorry to hear this hun

Remember we are all here for you ((hugs)) from me too....

madmouse · 06/04/2009 21:16

Oh no LaT can't believe you are now being faced by the loss of your secod parent in so short a time! .

Do as I do at the moment, post when you can and know we think about you when you can't.

Contact me at any time hon, day or night anything you need shout!

JKS yay on walking, well done Henry

Hi to everyone else. Sorry bit of a sieve.

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LuckySalem · 06/04/2009 22:18

Sorry this isn't going to be very good.

Simps - Everyone has a bad day and its going to be hard but you are doing the right thing.

JKS - WAY TO GO H

LaT - I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. Please if you need ANYTHING let us know, either on here on FB or anything. Take as much time as you need. We'll be here for you.

Got a migraine (I think) so am going to bed. Sorry.

madmouse · 06/04/2009 22:24

Thanks for the reminder Lucky, that is what i wanted to say. Simpson, way to go, hard but good. You will get there.

I learned my lesson a a few weeks ago, I was doing my usual anxious stuff about nathan not eating kept on offering him different things no effect just tantrums. My childminder has two kids and used to nanny. He refused lunch, she refused yogurt, 3pm he capitulated and ate a whole jar of lunch. needless to say doing the same here now , although he is eating well again.

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Gingeme · 06/04/2009 22:49

LaTrucha I am also sorry for your news.

simpson · 07/04/2009 08:45

Morning all

LaT - thinking of you today ((hugs))

Madmouse - DS has been slowly getting worse with eating and while I don't mind it for breakfast & lunch and do what gingeme suggested, for his tea he can sit there for over an hour, not eat anything but say he is not finished

It was starting to impact on DD has their bathtime was pushed back later & later.

Going to get sticker reward chart on Wed and although I don't necessarily want to reward him for eating all his tea (ie forcing him to eat if he is not hungry etc)I just can't bear the him sitting there for an hour playing with food etc...

Round 10 with pead today!! Got hosp appt with him at 10.45 so will see how we get on...

mixedmamameansbusiness · 07/04/2009 09:33

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mixedmamameansbusiness · 07/04/2009 10:56

Oh my withdrawn message was something i read back that didnt read back as supportive as I would have liked so removed it. Nothing exciting.

simpson · 07/04/2009 13:06

OMG am going to be sick!!!!

Have just had the worst horrific poo experience with DD ever

Grrr its the pead's fault for not putting nappy back on tight enough

Poo everywhere all down DD's leg. Ruined her trousers and tights and new top

Poo went in her hands, hair etc. When I removed clothes off her it dripped onto me (sorry TMI)

Poo on carpet too Changing mat ruined.

Is consistency of melted ice cream.....

Good news is that DD has had every test imaginable at hosp today...

Lots of blood tests which was not pleasant.
She has been tested for celiac (sp) disease, thyroid/bowel problems and allergies.