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April 2007 - totally knackered and non-functioning - that Caz's drier not the April mums!!!

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Northernlurker · 07/03/2009 20:09

Will this do

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StealthPolarBear · 19/03/2009 19:32

Hi NL and leaky
Very of the pizza and the last day at work!

elkiedee · 19/03/2009 19:54

Hi all

hope your last day goes well Leaky

Really manic day here with 3 different activities - bf support group, IKEA with mum and the park with dad, and lots of feeding the milk monster - I just hope it's reflected in his weight when we go to see health visitor tomorrow.

We bought D a chest of drawers - what we were looking for - but also saw lots of stuff I'd like to go back for, including quite a bargain of a cot for less than £30, as C's not going to last in his moses basket for much more than another month.

Sexonlegs · 19/03/2009 19:55

Evening ladies!!

SPB, I too pmsl at "don't lick the loo"! It is gross isn't it!?

NL, enjoy your pizza- sounds as though you have earned it today!

Leaky, have a fab last day tomorrow xx

Caz, how did you deal with your 12 year old then?

How is everyone else this fine evening?

All ok here, although B seems to have been under the weather now for a month at least. She is a real nightmare and just seems tired and run-down. Not sure what to do. I am tempted to take her to the docs, but am worried they will just laugh at me and suggest a virus. The thing is she has had no fever, just a cough.

Hey ho.

Right dinner probably stuck to the bottom of the pan, so need to fly!

runnyhabbit · 19/03/2009 21:54

AIBU - in not wanting to buy dh birthday present because he's been acting like a tosser the past few days
I know I am really Just need to vent.
Earlier in the week, he worked late. Came home, and (silly me) offered to make him pasta with bacon and mushroom cheese sauce. He went upstairs to cuddle the boys, and was still up there an hour later even though I had woken him a few times. meal did not get eaten.
When the carpet got taken up in the dining room, some gripper had been left by the patio doors - have asked dh to remove it (I've tried, and can't) W stood on it today and more
he doesn't ring tto say what time he'll be home, yet is disheartened when he walks through the door and can see nothings ready.
Today was the last straw. I had a rubbish nights sleep, so wasn't in a great mood to start with. The woman who's training me in my new dept is a patronising bag. (I am now a cost engineer and have to read technical drawings) I don't have a techincal background, but I can pick things up pretty quickly. But because I couldn't grasp a particular aspect, she was all like, well I don't know what else I can say, you've haven't got the experience etc, etc. Grrr
Anyway...rang dh on way home and asked him if he could come straight home at the end of the day, mine's been crap, need support etc. Yep, fine was the reply.

He got in at 8pm.
After I done boys tea, played with them cleaned up W face, after he had an argument with the patio (patio won) Put them to bed etc..

I can't speak to him, I don't even want to be in the same room as him
Can't even blame pmt for this either.

runnyhabbit · 19/03/2009 21:56

ps - I had made the bacon mushroom and cheese sauce from scratch at around 10pm, which is why I was so angry (in my defence)

sorry to have ranted. do feel a bit better getting it all out though.

StealthPolarBear · 19/03/2009 22:06

Oh runny it sounds as though you're really stressed Don't know what to suggest
As for the supervisor, she just sounds like a snooty cow, forget about her. I'm afraid it sounds like your DH is like mine, full of good intentions but lacking the planning/ something else to actually follow through or even let you know what's going on

elkiedee · 19/03/2009 23:16

Doesn't sound like you're being unreasonable to be upset with your (d)h - he should have said if he was too tired to be hungry rather than letting you cook for him, and not coming home when you obviously needed him, and not telling you either, is pretty crap.

Lucewheel · 20/03/2009 09:59

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elkiedee · 20/03/2009 11:47

Luce, glad to hear cousin's baby seems to be doing well, fingers crossed that that will carry on.

elkiedee · 20/03/2009 12:00

I'm a bit downhearted after a visit to the health visitor - otherwise he seems to be well but C's weight gain is still very slow - 130g in 10 days this time. At this rate I fear the hospital is going to insist on us giving him top ups again - thing is, I don't believe that even top ups will give him the weight gain they're looking for.

Our bathroom's beginning to look lovely, and they got a lot done yesterday, but haven't shown up again today - and we now have even less window than we have for over 2 weeks - it's really cold in there at night/early morning - and the new window was due to be put in today.

phdlife · 20/03/2009 12:07

are we all LOVING the just-about-to-be-two's? or is it just me?

elkiedee · 20/03/2009 12:24

phdlife, I don't think it's just you.

Actually, I do really enjoy seeing how quickly my crazy toddler is learning new things, new words etc, he's very charming and great fun, but he's also really hard work. dp actually does most of it because I'm so busy with the constant feeding, and D tends to want his daddy more than me but I also get anxious because dp tends to panic a lot and as soon as he panics he shouts. And I feel pathetic because I'm not even managing a toddler and baby full time, unlike a lot of people I know from baby groups and on here.

phdlife · 20/03/2009 12:36

thanks, elkiedee. during the day he is fab but bedtime is turning into a circus and I don't know what to do about it. he is vv attached (daddy good for playtime, not allowed to do anything else) and think he is playing up because of the gigantic bump.
but all I can think is if he's like this now how distraught is he going to have when I go away for a few days to have this baby! It is stressing me out

how old's your lo?

cazboldy · 20/03/2009 12:40

hiya.... feel for you guys xx

when are you due phd?

phdlife · 20/03/2009 12:51

17 days caz!

kinda hoping it will be earlier as don't want it to get too big but otoh so not ready

StealthPolarBear · 20/03/2009 13:01

hi everyone
Luce, glad your cousin's baby is doing well. Do they have any idea of when he'll be coming home or is it far too soon for that?
elkie, sorry you're having a hard time and worried about top ups. Might it be worth updating that thread in the feeding topic? It's so hard - I don't know if I could ignore professional advice but you want to trust your own instinct, you know your baby, and MN is backing you up...
Hi PHD - I wil admit to some low level stalking of you - nothing major but I keep wondering when you're due so do a quick search to see - I got all excited the other day as I hadn't seen your around for a little while

phdlife · 20/03/2009 13:04

just be glad it's not rl stalking, spb. you'd get a helluva shock if you saw me tonight

elkiedee · 20/03/2009 14:01

phdlife, my ds2 was born on 3 February, almost exactly a 21 month age gap.

Indith · 20/03/2009 14:25

SPB my dear foxytocin is back and has started us a shiny new meet up thread.

StealthPolarBear · 20/03/2009 15:05

thanks Indith - see you there!

Northernlurker · 20/03/2009 16:19

Ooooh Good Luck PHD with the new baby
B is quite two-ish - but also lovely as Elkie says - such good fun when she isn't throwing huge tantrums. The last week has been better though so I'm hopeful we're growing out of it a bit - and we're very lucky as one area she never fusses over is bedtime.

Elkie - DO NOT be downhearted. Anybody who knows anything about breastfed babies knows that they gain in fits and starts. The important thing is that C has plenty of wet nappies and that he does gain weight - which he is doing isn't he? The 50g per day thing was just one doctors madness imo - real life doesn't work like that - whether you are breastfeeding or bottlefeeding. If you want to top C up then do - but I don't think there is any medical need to at this point. You are doing a great job of feeding your son and he is thriving. If you do top up - you'll really be doing it to please the docs won't you? C isn't their baby - he's your joy and responsibility and you are doing a fantastic job. You do probably need to eat some chocolate though - all breastfeeding mothers have dispensation to do so as often as possible

Luce - good to hear nephew is doing ok - keep us posted. He was wee - is 600g about 1 1/2 lbs?

Home for work and need to go mow the lawn as it's a lovely day here. Pizza was good yesterday and dh is bringing steak home tonight. Tomorrow he is taking the girls shopping for my presents and I am going in to work for a few hours Really need to as I have so much to do - just need a bit of peace and quiet to crack through stuff without being disturbed...hopefully.

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Northernlurker · 20/03/2009 16:31

Elkie - just checked my girls books - B gained about 700 grams between week 2 and week 7 so average of 140 grams per week. R gained about 800 grams between week 2 and week 8 so about 135 grams per week and M gained about 700 grams in 6 weeks at the same age so 116 grams per week.

So based on my limited sample C's gain is perfectly adequate and anyway - what happens over 10 days isn't enough for them to base any conclusions on - they should be looking at longer trends - not frightening and bullying newly delivered women! GRRRRRRRH!

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oooggs · 20/03/2009 17:39

hey phd - can't wait for another new baby (yours that is)

elkie - can't talk about weight in grams - too old fashioned me

cazboldy · 20/03/2009 17:44

well said NL x

oooggs, I like good old pounds and ounces too!

Phd.... wow... if we don't "see" you any more beore he big day, can we all wish you the very best of luck! xxxx

Luce, thinking of the lo xx

SOL - don't ask

he hasn't improved.........

CaptainDippy · 20/03/2009 18:54

All the best PHD!! Looking forward to hearing the happy news!!

Glad your cousin' teeny one is fighting away Luce - continue to give us updates, am praying .....

and to your DH, RH ... bang out of order and YANBU!!!!! Hope he does some serious making up for it on Sunday!!!!!!!!!!!!

Have had mega busy day, totally shattered .......