November 08 - Say it LOUD.......We're shades of GINGER and PROUD :0)

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Woohoo! I am knitting cables!!
I have never been able to do that!!
So proud

vbab I had implants for years. Since I went to college. The first one, my lovely friend told me, looked like borg implant. As if the aliens had tagged me for further research!! Cos it was five sticks, just under my skin, that fanned out. I was told that they would not be seen, but maybe I have skinny arms cos they were pretty easy to spot.
I used to love getting folk to run their finger over them just to see their faces

The next one was much better though. It was only one and you could hardly see it and only just feel it.
It stopped all my periods. Bonus!!
And didn't give me any reaction. I only took it out because the first was in for nearly 4 years, I felt that was enough.
The next was, well in advance but, to clear my system ready to start TTC DD.

Only not getting it this time cos DH getting the snip and says not to mess with my system anymore.
Ah bless

Wow daisy a nearly rolling bumble!
J's favourite place is laid out on the floor but he is not really making any moves yet.
Talking though! He wakes up in the morn and wants to talk. He tries to wake me up, when I close my eyes, by gurgling louder then smiling at me! So cute

Morning. So much chat. Like Pinkglows sensory class idea. Impressed at huge christening. We do need to get ds2 catholic baptism thingy sorted.
Barbs did I tell you how I lost my milk with ds1 ? HV weighed him. Told me he had lost weight. I was so upset/paranoid/over-anxious that my milk disappeared overnight, from the shock. If I had been a MN'er then, I would have realised that I could have got my supply back. But I did not know that then. End of bf for me and ds1.
Next week, went to weigh. Tuned out her scales had been wrong the week before.
BUT, irrespective of the wrong scales ( sounds like Wallace and Gromitts the wrong trousers, doesn't it ) the moral of the story is :
as first time mums, we worry too much about getting them weighed/ graphs/ are they normal/ are they doing this doing that when they should be etc etc.. It is a minor blip and prob doesn't mean anything . forget it.
I have only weighed ds2 a few times. with ds1 I was there every week.

Let it go. Forget it. Do not worry.

Maybe I should confirm.
One off weight loss means nothing. Consistent regular weigh loss, needs checking.

QUick morning hello from another ( phew) sunny and cold day . Minirosas cough is heavier and we have a decongestant to put in a nebuliser thing- They use them loads here basically with salt solution to help ease the mucus. When we are in the Uk we just head for the beach .
I have my check this pm and have no idea what they will advise for me being over 40 ( done my stint on the pill )Minirosas weight increase was slight last time I went couldn't make it this tues so fingers crossed for next week .
MMM great news for your neighbours hope it all works out well.

Morning all

Monkey so for your neighbours and glad you have managed to start socialising with them again. (And I agree about Damian Lewis...yum!)

Obs at your story about bf DS1 - bloody HV eh?? Like you, with DS1 I was at the clinic every week - with Sam I am managing about once a month Sam is definitely a SNC!!

Vbab I am hoping to get the implant aswell but I am finding it really hard to actually get an appointment to have it done. Here, they only do it at FPC which is on a Wednesday evening - but DH is away most Wed evenings and there is no way I am dragging 2 children out late in the evening to have it done...so condoms at the mo for us but DH keeps whinging. I am thinking it would be easier to just go back on the pill but I really don't want to as I know that I am much more likely to forget to take it now. If it makes you feel better, my GP did say that, in his opinion, the implant is by far the best and most reliable contraception and they are encouraging more people to have it (but as DH says, why are they making it so bloody difficult to have it done???) Also regards your DS, I have noticed DS1's bad behaviour comes in phases - even when nothing seems to have changed. I have also noticed that his behaviour definitely gets worse when he is ill or about to get ill so maybe that is it?

Pinky I will let you know about next Tuesday - my mum sent me a text last night saying she wanted to come over with my aunty who hasn't seen Sam yet but not sure what day.

Sorry me post coming up.
DH is leaving me, found a text on my phone to old friend this morning.
He is leaving me on Monday after we have our farce christening. Don't blame him really i'm an arse.

LB OMG I am so sorry I really don't know what to say - maybe he just needs some time to think about things and will still agree to counselling - even if it is for the boys sake? (And why was he checking your phone anyway??) And you are not an arse - please don't put yourself down adn take all the blame for this - it takes 2 to make a relationship. I know this is very un-MN but {{{{{hugs}}}}} to you!

LadyBuzz
You are not an arse. Do NOT put yourself donwn like that.

He sent you a text. Why would someone send such a thing?

I am so so sorry to hear this. I hope you can sort things through with each other if that is what you want, but please don't take 'blamee' for it.

So sorry.
x

oh I see. sorry. Got mixed up about the text thing there.

Really, I think your contact with this old friend is more a symptom of issues in you relationship than a reason to hang the whole breakdown of a relationship on. I don't think you should take all the blame on yourself for this.

LadyBuzz, so sorry to hear that - is there any way things can get sorted? Could you still go to the counselling? Would DH still be prepared to do this? Maybe his reaction is just a spur of the moment kind of thing, and maybe he might still be willing to work things out when he thinks about it for a while. But is that still what you want too?

Oh LadyBuzz, i am so sorry to hear this.
Is your dh very traditional re fidelity etc. I mean is the fact that you text old friend enough for it to be over, for him ?
Oh you nicken-poopy !!!
Big hugs.

Oh LadyB...surely your DH has just reacted badly, finding the text from your old friend. It's never, ever too late to work a way forward though. Seriously, I nearly threw my marriage away 2 years ago.
Give your DH the space he needs before trying to talk to him again maybe? Had you started the counselling yet? As pinky says, your going to your old friend is a symptom, not a cause. Means you need to talk to someone. Oh dear. I really hope you can find a way of starting over here.

barbs - re. weight gain/loss, Obs is spot-on. In any scientific based study, you would look at "one-off" results as exactly those, one-offs. And not a measure of the overall picture.
And I forgot, but my LO, who is a chubster at 15 lbs (12 week old girl), during week 11 only gained 2 ounces, whereas normally she's gaining 10. The next week she gained 12 - so there you go! Do not worry.

barbs/monkey I was going to say I only evr got DS weighed once a month- and unless there is a real reason to be worried, I think this gives a more accurate picture than once a week. Imi has been weighed twice since she came home .

ceebee don't worry about the TC thing, really. We can do it another time.

Lady Buzz - You say You are an arse .....why in heavens name are you ?? Can you not try and sit and discuss things through as suggested maybe get some help - I hope whatever happens it is what you want ...we are all here for you me posts and all !

WHilst feeding M Rosa I asked what the doc said about her slight temp connected with this cough to calpol after 38degrees ? he said he forgot to tell him ..Honestly sometimes I wonder !

OMG, LB, big hugs. You poor thing. Can't believe DH has been looking through your phone - sounds like he has overreacted to me. You are NOT an arse.

Sorry for me post coming up but I am now a bit worried as I have a really sharp pain down the left hand side of what I presume is my uterus. I am not sure if it is period pains or not but am going to take paracetamol and have a hot bath and see if they go away but I am still having weird spotty bleeding, not a period. Anyone know if this is normal or a bad sign or what?

Oo, Fin is squeaking at me, gotta go .

ladybuzz, hope you can work it out - or not - whatever is right for you both. my BIL is going through a separation at the moment and has set up a support network of 4 people who he speaks to every day - helps him keep his perspective and stay calm and rationale in a very emotional situation. really works for him - might be something you could do?

barbs, on orange juice - M is the same if i drink too much OJ - or even apple juice - but especially citrus. i had a shocking cold last week and couldn't even have honey & lemon! he can't take too much chilli or garlic either. strange because i ate and drank everything without an issue when i was pregnant!

Nope, it was Womans Hour on the radio, via the baby monitor .

Barbs, I am to be denied all citrus until Fin is weaned! I SO miss grapefruit. But for some reason a massive spicy curry is okay. Double .

Right, off for my lovely bath.

Ladybuzz Oh lordy - so sorry - you must be feeling incredibly shocked. Perhaps there is still a chance you can both put things right (if you want to) once your dh has had some time Agree with the others - you mustn't take the blame, there are 2 of you in the marriage. Massive hugs to you xx

Rutho Think you should get checked over with the pains just to make sure it's nowt to worry about..Hope you're enjoying your bath

thanks for replys re: orange/ citrus. Is tthere anything else I should avoid - PLEASE do not say chocolate as I will have to cry - am eating a huge bar of Dairy Milk a day Just wondering whether caffeine is affecting his sleeping (have 1 coffee a day a.m and then afore mentioned choc over the course of the day)

ooh also - thanks for reassurances about milk supply - so sorry obs that you went through loss of milk with ds1 - that must have been awful.
And also thanks for reassurances about weight (lack of) gain. Tbh if I hadn't had him weighed I would not have thought there was anything up - he doesn't look underweight.

I cannot beeeelieeeeve W is sleeping in pram unheard of. Infact am going to check him

fast asleep!
Suppose I had better do something like clean bathroom.
or dust something.

Bit better after bath - just like being pg again! If I didn't have the coil (and the bleeding) I'd be worried .

Barbs, what Lacks said - I get a better yield if I have porridge for brekkie. I have caffeine and no problems but my mate's baby won't allow milk, caffeine, citrus, lots of sugar... this list is pretty comprehensive. mine is a big solid ball of a baby and tough as old boots so he just wimps out at citrus. Bless.

Barb, sit down woman. Relax. Ha ha.
I too have big pile of ironing and should not be MN'ing.
I was going to cook curry,today, for valentines , but dh says lets order in. Hoorah. He said 'lets get the boys to bed, then we'll order fom 'spicy cottage'. Oh fabarooney.
Whats the bet that this will be the night that ds2 is up till midnight ?
We are low key on valentines. Just do a card. Dh is fab for the other 364 days, so i think roses for £30 is a bit of a con.
What 'plans' do you guys have.

hi everyone

LB so sorry you are going through this just now, agree with everyone else you are not an arse, keep posting.

rutho glad the bath helped a bit, is this kind of thing to be expected with the coil?

barbs enjoy your "me" time, the dusting can wait!!
obs we are 'low key' on valentines too, usually go out for a meal and thats normally it but this year it will be takeaway. i am happy with that actually.
hana we are having E christened 1st march, we are having 2 godparents. my best friend who is an amazing support to me and i feel truely blessed to have her in my life and feel lucky that she can be involved in my DS life too. i have a sister and i think everyone assumed she would be godmother but i feel she already had a role as an aunt IYSWIM. The godfather is my BIL who again means a lot to me, i spend quite a bit of time with him and is a friend as well as BIL.

Went to the strictly live tour show last night and had a fabby time

obs, no plans here for valentines day, although DP has surprised me previously with gifts...personally not a big fan of forced celebrations - even keep my birthday as low key as possible!

just wondering if any other LOs are getting or have had the BCG vaccination? It is recommended where we live and we got it yesterday after some debate (when we got M's 8 week jabs in Australia the doctor expressed surprise that it's recommended anywhere in UK still - it's no longer done in Aus...but London GP argued that there are occasionally outbreaks here and that since we travel a lot - especially to SE Asia - it's worth it...) Anyhoo...M is sleeping a lot today - MUCH more than usual. Is this a reaction to BCG? Although he did eat loads yesterday (before jab) so could be just normal growth spurt thing...

No plans for Valentines day here either - we have agreed not to even bother with cards the old romantics that we are We have been together too long now I think for romance

London no idea about the BCG - sorry! I have never even heard about it being given to children but maybe it is specific to the area?