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November 08 - Say it LOUD.......We're shades of GINGER and PROUD :0)

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LackaDAISYcal · 11/02/2009 21:06

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Dozymare · 14/02/2009 11:22

And as for "another baby" although I tell everyone I am done, secretly, I wouldn't mind if I fell again!

ChocOrange05 · 14/02/2009 12:25

Nice to see your "whatever" is MN Dozy!!

Happy Valentines Day all - we usually celebrate it as its a nice excuse but don't go out as its ridiculously expensive and usually make a nice meal in. Having said that tonight we are going out - my parents are coming to stay tonight and said they would babysit, just a coincidence its valentines though so DH and I are going to the local pub for some nice food and drinks - and hopefully it won't be overpriced!

LadyBuzz how are you today? Did you and DH have a chance to talk. I hope you can resolve things and sending you lots of hugs. x

Daisy gallstones sound horrid - and non-stop contractions must be horrendous. Hugs to you too and I hope they get better / get rid (??) soon.

Obs I know what you mean about the huge love thing - I have realised I am now totally and utterly in love with my M which is amazing but scary. Yesterday I had a dream that he got lost and I couldn't find him and when I did find him I burst into tears and when I woke up from the dream I was still sobbing for ages - love is the most amazing feeling but also the scariest.

M is a lovely lovely boy and GF-lite is really working for us. Yesterday he came into bed with me at 7am and fed then he stayed there gurgling to himself while I dozed until 9am then I turned out the lights and we had his 9-10am nap together - it was so lovely. I have decided that while he is still little and cuddly I am going to do the 7am breastfeed in my bed with him - and some days get us both undressed to do skin to skin, better make the most of it while I still can.

Have a good day everyone.

PS - where are the valentines smileys??

Ceebee74 · 14/02/2009 12:54

Afternoon all - Happy Valentines Day to you all!

I didn't get anything but we had already agreed that in advance so hardly a surprise I don't do Valentines Day tbh!!

Daisy how are you feeling today?

Obs I haven't really felt that huge love with Sam - I think it has crept up on me gradually iyswim.

Dozy what a lovely day you are having and very of the lie-in until 10.45!!

As for the DC's personalities, DS1 is a very sunny, happy little boy, although he can be very stroppy but, like Dozys DS1, it is over really quickly. He is also VERY headstrong and already picks his own clothes out (at 2.7) and will not be budged from his choice - he also has to pick what glass he has, what plate he has, what nappy he has etc etc. He also cannot sit still (actually Dozy, I think your DS1 and mine are very similar). His natural demeanour is definitely happy though and always has been.

Sam, on the other hand, seems to be a very serious little boy so a complete contrast. I know it is probably a little early to really tell but you have to really work hard for his smiles - although they are well worth it when they come! I am sure DS1 was much more smiley and happy than Sam is - Sam isn't grumpy or upset as he is generally a very undemanding baby - just serious iyswim.

Well we had our first experience (well DH did, I was at the gym!) of DS1 taking off his own nappy and smearing poo around - not deliberately (I hope) but he decided he wanted to wee on the potty, DH was in another room getting dressed so DS1 took off his own nappy and put it down. Unfortunately he had had a poo so DH came back in to our bedroom and found poo all over our quilt so I now have to go and change the bedding - great!! He really is ready for potty training but I am SO putting it off - someone come and give me a kick up the backside please!!

Wow that was an essay!! DH has taken the boys to MIL for the afternoon

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LadyBuzz · 14/02/2009 17:03

Hi all, Sorry I posted and dissapeared yesterday. I'm fine thanks everyone for asking.
Things are not good here, DH is very very unhappy with me - needless to say we are not celebrating valentines day , did get a lovely card off DS1 from Nursery though . - Anyhoo sorry to go off on 1!
We are at crisis point now, I need to get my head straight and work out one way or the other what I really really want deep down. My head is a mess at the moment and I'm very confused TBH. We are going to get through tomorrow and then talk after that about what to do going forward. Thanks for all of your support I will keep you updated.

Have been very busy today cooking and preparing stuff for tomorrow, I'm knackered!
Looking forward to it though despite what is going on. Tomorrow is about Jay and we have to be happy for his sake!

Daisy sorry to hear you are still poorly, hope you feel better soon

*Merry how sweet of your sis to send you the roses, what a lovely thought.

Sorry if I have missed anybody, hope everyone is having a lovely day.

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Oblomov · 14/02/2009 17:56

Hana your posts are very odd today. All 3 of them.
I took quite alot from AK and HTT. I assume we could all learn something from these 2 books.

chocolategal · 14/02/2009 19:27

happy valentines everyone

Just a quick post while DH is putting my wee man to bed then we are going to watch a film.

Hope you have a good day tomorrow ladyb and you work something out on monday that you are happy with.
Also daisy hope your pain is easing off

Anything in particular in that leaflet? I haven't seen it either.

LoveaDAISYcal · 14/02/2009 19:44

unicef leaflet

Still in a lot of discomfort here and wondering whether to go to OOH doc or A&E. I ate some snacky things earlier and I can feel things getting painful again. My Valentine's meal is going to consist of some boiled potatoes

chocolategal · 14/02/2009 19:56

thanks daisy, I had actually just googled it. I just wondered if there was any different info in it but I had read most of that already.
Daisy, it sounds like your pain is getting worse rather than better. For peace of mind I'd call OOH doc.

MonkeyMargot · 14/02/2009 20:18

Oh dear LoveADaisy (like new V-name!) Poor you - you really should get yourself checked out. Though A&E on a sat. night is not a fun place to be.

Obs at your overwhelming love for your M. Totally with you on that - it's absolutely amazing, and nothing compares. I feel so blessed to have such a happy little girl who is always so pleased to see me first thing in the morning! the best feeling ever.
merry that is so lovely of your sis sending you flowers.

dozy your DH sounds fantastic. What a trooper!

I got a card, but still cooked dinner even though I hinted at DH it would be nice if he cooked for a change. He did bake a cake today though.

Happy V-day all and love and positive marriage vibes to ladyB.xxx

barbareebaa · 14/02/2009 20:49

Happy Valentines day all!

Got my little Valentine registered today - William James Valentine made official on Valentines day

Thanks for the link to the leaflet - bit worried about the 'don't sleep on the sofa' bit as this is where we do all the naps W is on a breastfeeding pillow on my lap, I sit up but lean back, W feeds and falls asleep then I close my eyes too - don't do deep sleep so maybe is o.k.?

Nothing special happening here today, just having a wee glass before teatime.

BTW got a friend coming to stay for a couple of days next week was wondering if I have wine how much would I be allowed. Haven't been tipsy yet - is it ok to be tipsy??

MerryMarigold · 14/02/2009 21:40

Just wrote a longish post and it all got lost when it went to post it. How odd! It said 'page cannot be found'! Oh well...not sure it was hugely interesting anyway.

Happy Valentines.

Daisy, hope things improve for you.

Hana, what is an un-mumsnetty hug?

LB, sorry have missed your post, will go and look for it.

MerryMarigold · 14/02/2009 21:45

Oh no LB, I hope it can work out...hope dh is just reacting and it can be talked through etc. Maybe this can be a turning point. Lots of hugs and we're here if you need a rant.

MerryMarigold · 14/02/2009 22:04

Just read an Alfie Kohn article on praise. My head is done in! Something I do strongly feel is that our parents (just 1 generation ago) did not have all the pressure we have to bring kids up 'perfectly' - and they didn't do a bad job, did they? Ok, so I may not be emotionally perfect but a lot of that is the result of mistakes I have made in my own life (nothing to do with my parents). I was occasionally smacked, I was given smarties when I weed in a potty. I don't think these affected me negatively. My Mum is emotionally shut down - now that did affect me, but it's not something she could have read a book about and changed.

It's amazing what a huge industry 'parenting' has become in the past 25 years or so (I do agree with the Observer woman in this, although I don't think she was writing about 'deeper theories', more buggies and whatnot, but to me it is the same).

Anyway, discuss (if you want!).

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Oblomov · 14/02/2009 22:36

Totally don't understand what the leaflet has to do with choc taking M into her bed for a cuddle.
Highlight of my life, is my boys jumping into my bed for a cuddle.

Oblomov · 14/02/2009 22:39

Hana, are you allright ?
There are loads and loads of hugs on this thread. Most loving thread I've ever seen.
I am totally flumuxed by your posts.
Are you sure you are o.k. ?

PinkyMinxy · 14/02/2009 23:12

hi all. bit squiffy. poor Imi. had a lovely evening out though.
merrym I know what you mean, about the guff about 'damaging' children- though obv. I have been damaged to an extent,I think that is hopefully a less usual circumstance.
I take it more as trying a differeny aproach.
Both dh and I have worked in situations where normal rules of discilpiine/motivation have failed for whatever reason, and this is where the alternative approaches come in. the age ranges for the techniques we have been educated in are quite different- think young offenders,NCH etc. but I've found the 'unconditional' approach has worked well with my DC. There are some interesting threads about it on here, teachers and such who have found the approaches useful.

I guess part of it for me is that i don't want the voices of my parents to come out of my mouth, but I don't consider the ideas to be all that extreme, in practice. but then you know my views on parenting 'dogma' already . as oblomov said, there'suseful stuff in there.

Sorry for ramble.

daisy sweetheart, have you gone to the hosp, soundslike you are in a lot of pain.x

PinkyMinxy · 14/02/2009 23:15

and LB big hugs to you. I hope you and your dh can work through this together.xx

tegan · 15/02/2009 07:52

Hello all just book marking for future reference.

Hope you are all well, catch up soon girlies

tegan · 15/02/2009 08:00

Loving the ginger theme as you can see Owen is definately of the ginger kind

tegan · 15/02/2009 08:01

Sorry ballsed it uo lets try again

Owen

Rosa · 15/02/2009 08:59

I agree this is a very hugs and supporting thread Hana I hope you manage to get some rest.
LAcks are you ok ...pain sounds terrible ?
I normally get flowers ( and I did ) on Valentines as it is my birthday in a few days and our wedding anniversary so one bunch does all three
Its Carnival here so must go as dd1 being a bee!!