November 08 - Say it LOUD.......We're shades of GINGER and PROUD :0)

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Monkey cross-posts

Evening all, have had a fairly busy weekend, no time to post anything, although have been reading periodically. In fact, my 9yo DS said to me this evening "mum, you're always on the computer, I think you are addicted to mumsnet" . hmm, I think he has me sussed!

Have to go get something to eat, just got them all in bed (phew) Here's to a good week everyone! (and well done lacks on the pumping front - hope your week is very successful)

I'm still mourning my old life 5 years later.... now, WTF is going on in Lost - anyone???

Ceebee tis amazing how men are happy to sit back and wait for food to be delivered to them. Hmm. Does yours ever do the cooking now? I wouldn't mind, but mine is self-employed and has plenty of time to do it. Still, he is a good Dad so mustn't grumble.

LOL at Sam not letting go of Octopussy!

Trying to catch up on 2 days of posts! [tired smile emotion]
sausage - Sorry to hear about your dad. I cant begin to imagine what that must have felt like then and now.
obs - my obsession with telling DH what I have done I think is my attempt at getting praise or even nice attention. Told DH i'm not a freak now and it is normal to list things as a few of you ladies do it. He replied "I bet they dont list what they have bought for the food shop and list what we have got in to pick what i want for tea for me to respond 'food isnt it'".
lacks - sorry to hear your sad stories about mum and dad. But also a nice thing that bumble has your dads name in there. YAY for next thursdays op. Soon be done and dusted.
twinkle - at your weekend booked away. But as I think me and DH could really do with "alone time" to help get us back on track but also get our strength back. but just dont think it is possible and even though my mum and dad had DS while me and DH went away dont like asking them to have a toddler and a baby. Both are easy to look after and in bed by 7pm but A wakes up once still in the night. ALSO can relate to mental and physical (and emotional) exhaustion.
pinky - Sorry about FIL. WOW you are such a selfless person.
merry - sorry to hear about your DH potential redundancy. If it did happen I think he should take the op to train in something he wants to do and stuff his parents.
dozymare - your war and peace on life BC and AC is spot on.

Sorry but not got the strength to post anything about me after reading and trying to respond to 2 days post. PHEW. Or maybe I have a boring life if I take DS and A out of the equation.

Monkey my DH doesn't do any of the cooking as his cooking skills are VERY limited. Don't get me wrong, since we have been together we have always had a clear division of household duties which we are both very happy with (I do cooking, washing and ironing and DH does the cleaning, hoovering and washing up/loading dishwasher) and DH definitely does more than his fair share and has not even tried to escape his duties even while I am on maternity leave so I can't really complain. It would just have been nice to have been cut a little bit of slack in those early days - even if he just went out and got a takeaway occasionally without me nagging him about it.

chocolategal - we tried the bumbo on display in john lewis! i was unconvinced but 2 separate customers came up and complimented us on our lovely boy while he was sitting in it and DP was sold! i know that doesn't really make sense, but he will say yes to anything where M is concerned!

monkey it's nelsons teetha and it's currently 3 for 2 at boots. i'm not sure you need 3 packets, but i split it with a friend.

DP and i were together for 7.5 years before M was born - and i cooked dinner that whole time. he claimed he couldn't cook but of course, when i refused to cook after M was born he suddenly developed a few skills and even takes pride in his achievements! now we split it about 50/50.

Dozy don't out any Lost storylines please - we are a couple of episodes behind. I LOVE sky plus!!

Monkey I am really pleased you got to go to your neighbours service, it must have been very emotional. I know what you mean about leaving the LO - I had my haircut today round the corner and I felt so light walking without a pram!

I have bought a jumperoo off eBay - £42 and can collect it locally to DH's work, bargain I think!

Merry I am not religious but if I was I would definitely see the twins as a sign that you are a great mum - I am always so impressed with people who cope with more than one child - let alone a toddler AND 2 babies!

Ah - my old life - I love M to bits but what I wouldn't give to pop him back inside me now and again!

Right - got to go feed my little man as DH is out tonight - I am looking forward to a big cuddle. Night all. x

Thank you all for the messages of welcome...I'm sorry I've not managed to do a catch up on the early part of this thread...you guys move quickly...but i'll try and keep up from here on in...

I recognise alot of names, but in general am pretty rubbish at knowing where we have 'met', please forgive me that!.

Lacka I do remember you, you were v helpful and yes I got a P&T...I love it, and so do the bubs! Londonbuggy it's not a basinette as such, but I have moved squidge from the flat on the back baby position to the toddler chair in the P&T...she loves it, though poor poppet doesn't get much of a view!

ellielou02 I understand where you are coming from with the 'lifes just too perfect' sentiment...although my life's far from perfect (i'll probably be complaining soon enough lol) I look at my family and get scared...

Lolabella remember you clearly...seem to recal that we were in competition and YOU won lol...don't worry I won't hold a grudge! Little boy right?

jumperoo looking to buy one and you guys seem to be experts...where has them for the best price?

Oh and I just want to share my excitement...DH works in Saudi and Squidge was born here (Saudi)...I'm coming back to the UK with DS (nearly 3 - Monkey) and Squidge at the end of this month...it'll be her first time in the UK...can't wait

monkey, just a quick response to your questions......yes, it's Nelsons Teetha. Or, if you go to Boots they do their own brand ones which are about 50p cheaper. the homeopathic bit of them is chamomilia.

re the cup thing; she should probably be ably to manage a cup now. Try a doidy cup. They are good as they can see into the cup and that the liquid is coming so it isn't a huge surprise that makes them gag and choke. I think that's the theory anyway!

re weaning and milk feeds, if you are feeding on demand then just keep doing that ; food is more about new tastes and textures till around a year. If doing BLW she will be sharing your mealtimes, or if pureeing, or if she is in bed before you eat of an evening, Hipp do a quite useful timing chart.

Oh and just had to ask...are all Nov babies ginger?
Squidge has mid-dark brown hair, but in the sun it gets an odd red/auburn sheen, very unusual...MIL is convinced she's gonna be ginger lol

Morning.
Can't keep up. MerryM assumed I was having fun in RL (whats that then ?) but I wasn't. I was spring cleaning. Yes. Including cleaning those bl88dy venetian blinds.
But I have some good news. M slept through last night 7-7.
But mainly, We are ....... back in the saddle. Hoorah. God it was SOOOOOOO good. On the living room floor. ha ha.
Dh said, "that was so good, lets hope I don't have to wait a year for the next one" and I thought silly man. its not a year. but then I realised with M being 5 months old .... it could well be.
Poor dh. That poor poor man.
must make sure its not so long next time
Love Dozys post.
welcome UmSami

Just catching up but Obs can I join the desert island party too???

Quick update:
J and I went to my parents at the weekend and had a lovely few days, so nice to have some help. We are moving next weekend so am hiring a 'man and van' to get J's stuff down there. Flat still for sale if anyone wants one

J's hair still long and hippy-like, just the same as when he was born! Mine is falling out in handfuls....

Hana - try Long & Lean or Curvy bootcut from Gap - they're my favourite jeans! Not quite the same size as I was, but getting there again and refusing to give them away just yet

Hi to everyone else, let me catch up and then post some more

xx

Hi autumnlady, hope move goes well. Must feel quite 'cleansing'. Are you moving with parents, near them? Or somewhere totally different?

Hi Umsami. My sister works in Abu Dhabi and is pregnant - been there 5 years or so. They are probably (pleeeeeeeeease) coming back here for good in the summer. Very excited bout that as I wasn't gonna be able to see my little niece/ nephew till he/ she was 6 months old. Are you pleased to be coming back to a place that doesn't require aircon? Or worried about the weather?

Obs, the blinds sound like fun! OK, the living room floor sounds like fun, anyway...

Lacks, hope you are feeling ok about Thurs. Dh will be fine. Will be a good lesson to him in how YOU cope! You have so much invaluable practical advice for everyone - think you are everyone's Mum/ HV/ BFC on here!

MonkeyM, took me a long time to feel ok about being a Mum, hence the up and down days... It comes when it's ready to! You are fantastic, exposing her to loads of people and experiences (dinner parties aged 3 months!), and def don't feel guilty for time off - it feels so freeing doesn't it?

My dh never ever cooks either. I like cooking. (I'm making parsnip soup at the moment cos Asda had loads of old ones going cheap!). He does all the washing up though.

Have a nice Monday everyone.

Hi MM, i'm moving in with my parents for a while then as soon as all the financials are sorted and the flat is sold, J and I will move somewhere nearby. It is quite cleansing but tinged with sadness as have lived in teh flat for 8 years and will miss it. New chapter and all that

Can I have a good parsnip soup receipe please MM as LOVE it and can't find a decent one anywhere!
xx

Helllloooooo!!

I have no idea how many full threads I have missed, but I kind of got really busy with 3 kids and just had to try and cut back on MN time. I am hoping that life will settle down a little (or I am getting better at typing with babe in arms)so I can at least try and read every day and participate more often.

I have no idea what is going on with anyone. Any BFP's yet? LOL! I see there is some discussion about weaning ect. I say to each their own. We won't be starting until at least 6 months with our family history of allergies ect.

We are doing ok. Ds1 is great, he's quite a help (nearly 8) and LOVES Zack. Ds2 is quite the handful right now, not being naughty as such, but is not really dry or clean and he's nearly 5. Then he started hair twirlling and is now pretty much bald in the back of his head. Add this on top of his other things and the fact that twice this week he has fallen asleep in the day without being in the car (he has heart problems), makes me a bit of a worried mama. Zack is a good boy, but demanding. He doesn't like to be put down much and gets bored easily. He's growing like the proverbial weed, was 4 months on Saturday.

We are going out for the evening on Wednesday to see Snow Patrol and it will be the first time I have left Zack. I am actually sad about it but am sure I will be ok once I get to the concert itself. I started pumping this morning so I will have enough milk for 2 bottles. Then next week I will need to pump some more as am having dental surgery under a GA (not pumping because of the GA, but because I won't be discharged until after lunch and Z feeds at around 10am & 1pm, so best leave enough for dh to give him a bottle or 2. I discussed it with dh & we both agreed that even if I feel crap after having all 4 wisdom teeth out, it will be easier on me to just breastfeed him as pumping is much more fiddly.

Right, Zack is now trying to "help" and it's taking much longer to type, so will leave it there.

Oh, Z is not ginger, but does have a ginger hue, especially where his cradle cap can be seen through his hair, lol!

MM Soup sounds delicious, so wish I was a better cook, just the basics me!!

Daisy - wow thats an impressive amount to have expressed in a short space of time! how often are you expressing?

I have made doc appointment, sick of struggling, legs and hips are agony, back aches lots two When will it go is the question!

And Obs, 7-7 all them times it was a mare, we went til 4. And in the lounge Don't tell us you were admiring your blinds !

Sorry for typos NAK!

Oh Autumn hope parents will look after you well. x

you lot are all such good music giggers! i knew who the killers were but i have not been to a gig since.............er...........the pogues 2.5 years ago (cutting edge of the music scene y'know , and before that it was a lot longer.

daisy/hana - the doidy cup looks good. we are persevering with the closer to nature bottles but it is hard work. sometimes she just screams and screams. soetimes she will kind of get some milk out but its tiny amounts - more by accident than because she is actually sucking properly. we may end up going srtaight to cup at this rate. have got theatre tickets on wed but seriously not sure about leaving her. (although tis SIL babysitting who is great with her and wld persevere to mae sure she got fed by hook/crook.

merry/monkey (and others) thanks for letting me know i am not alone or a bad mum for feeling this way occasionally. i may yet even relax into enjoying being at home and doing "nothing" (whch is actually a lot)

obs you lucky thing! I am wistfully still waiting for me and dh to "re-engage" Their are issues

*vbab8 i totally list evrything i have done in the day lest it goes unappreciated! I have this terrible notion i have to account for every minute because he is paying for it.

me "so then i dusted the skirting boards"
DH "you dont have to do that"
me "but i ran out of pledge"
DH "its OK"
me " so went to the shop to get more and they had pork mince on offer"
DH "i dont expect you to do these things"
me " so i decided to make chilli and then i forgot about the skirtibng boards so sorry i didnt finish them in the end."
DH

The crazy thing is that he doesnt expect me to do things but he does get annoyed if i do something more creative/fun (like cooking or baking) when therewere other more boring chores that i have avoided.....aaah men, cant live with 'em, can't kill 'em.

We are on such a rollercoaster - thismorning divorce was on the cards but disaster has been averted.....for now.

I had a letter from my HV today inviting me to a weaning discussion group next week so will pop along to that.

Henry today is being the non-sleeping boy, half an hour he has slept today. Went to town and wheeled him around for hours with him grumbling about being in his pram, cue a couple of helpful comments by ppl The only place he was happy was in starbucks where he could sit up and look around for an hour. He didnt want any food until 5 minutes after we left starbucks so run into mothercare to feed him then cue from right evil looks from Henry to me Even 45 minutes in his jumperoo hasnt tired him out, hes now just grumbling in his cot.

Merry everytime we are having a bad time me or DH will always say 'well imagine if it was twins' I dont know how yoou manage - its differcult enough with one

ok little one complaining gotta go

coolkat, it's taken me a week to get that lot. When I was in pain last week, there was nothing coming out at all but since Friday I'm back to getting about 3 fl ozs in the morning and about 4 in the evening.

re your hips....is your stomach OK? I only ask because I have a separation of the abdominal muscle]] and that cause problems with core stability leading to backache etc. You should see your doc about referral to the post natal physios. This website tells you how to check for it

weird thing happened there.....only half my post appeared and then it wouldn't let me post again. when i clicked add message nothing happened and when I scriolled down the thread it stopped on a post, and not the add message bit...wierd.

last one should have said Hi to heartmum, nice to see you again.

and thanks Merry for your lovely words . DH thinks I should retrain as a nurse or HV or something of that ilk, but I think I'm a bit long in the tooth for it! I'm hoping to start my BFC course in earnest soon though.

Am at the Doc's tomorrow so will get her to check!

Mum even said 'are you sure your not pregnant again!' Er yes pretty sure thanks mum, still not had a period and been using precautions

I am seeing Physio but she seems to concentrate on my knackered Pelvic floor muscles again!

See I am ready for the knackers yard!

Daisy you were born to be a BF counsellor. It is your ROLE in life. I am sure all others on this thread will agree.
Welcome back Heart2mum. I often ask about you.