Afternoon all,
Been offline for a couple of days - one of DP's best friends died unexpectedly on Sunday, they think of a brain haemorrhage. He was only 39 and has DDs of 3 and 18 months. It's horrible . How his poor wife will cope I really don't know. Anyway, I know some of us on here are having a hard time at the moment but the fact is we are all extremely lucky and should try to enjoy every day, even the exhausting ones...
Loved the stats, ZJ, you clever old thing. You and Bisou have got those tidy sorts of minds that I wish I had...mine is like an overstuffed sock drawer.
Anyway - good to see some folk we haven't heard from for a bit, PIngu, Nolda, Hatty!
Great birth story, Simmo. Is that the last one now? What a shame.
Kim, are you feeling any better? And Turnip - what happened with the mastitis - did it just settle down? I haven't yet read Wife in the North - sounds good but a bit close to home! I'd better not read it until I feel settled, in case it incites me to pack up my little red and white spotted hankie and toddle back to the Big Smoke.
Poison - have you found a place to move to on April 1 or are you winging it? How are you feeling about that?
Arti - any luck with any of the teats? You can't stay in the for the next year, my dear. I HOPE you find one that works. I wish I could offer more practical suggestions...
Kayz - I hope you are feeling better. Stuff what your MiL thinks, quite frankly. You have done your best, my dear girl. I wasn't breastfed so much as a drop and I am not thick or allergy ridden or sickly or any of the other things. I know it is probably extremely irritating when people say this and I don't want to get on anyone's wick, especially those who are busting an absolute gut to give their babies the best start in life (especially as I am formula feeding), but...I guess I am just echoing others who have said that we are ALL too quick to heap blame on ourselves for every tiny thing.
And guilt, especially misplaced guilt, is just a flipping waste. It is the most senseless, useless emotion ever (with the possible exception of jealousy). Chuck the guilt away y'all. BIN IT. All our babies are adored and what better start in life is that? Lecture over
Oh, and Cat - I'd like to squirt your craniologist with a waterpistol. Telling a stressed mother of a baby with colic that the child is traumatised? For Pete's sake, what an idiot. DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF FOR THE COLIC. It's horrible and I really feel for you, but none of it's your flamin' fault and I think saying stuff like that is bound to be anxiety inducing. Grrr.
My Mum always tells me I was nearly a battered baby as I cried until I was two, pretty much non-stop. I very nearly sent her over the edge but after that, I was a jolly little thing. Weird, isn't it? There's a book by Oliver James (don't normally hold with such stuff but I did read this one a while back) called 'They *uck You Up' (ha!) and it's all about how your treatment as a child from 6 months to the age of 3 hardwires your emotions. I don't think I am going to be stinting on the cuddles ever, let me put it that way
SL - still haven't sorted out the contraception. Now my periods are back I REALLY have to sort this now. If I get pregnant again really quickly it will just be so embarrassing, aside from the practical. medical, emotional and financial ramifications...
Oh, and Jump - I reckon you should go out on Saturday night and have yourself a slap up meal. If she cries when you're out, what can people expect...