December 2007 - Oh what fun, they are almost ONE!

[Caz10]

OK here we are ladies!

Well the feeding side of things was far far easier second time round, and I had no pain at all whereas with dd I'd been in agony.

As for the rest, well I won't comment, you all know ds hasn't been the easiest of babies!

hello all
hey BT - hope you are feeling better. Sound like you are doing the right things.

poor DD has the vomiting bug. up all night saturday and still not eating today. poor mite.

this time last year... well i was sure DD would have come as mum was 3 weeks early with her first. Sadly she had other ideas! Due 6th december, arrived 21st. On 8th december i went to a christmas party and stood up for 2 hours!

wizz - next time?? something you want to tell us?

for me, dealing with the baby 2nd time round much easier, she probably cried as much but this time i knew she would grow out of it so i didn't stress.

breastfeeding, i'm afraid, was if anything worse 2nd time round. probably because i thought it would come easier but of course different baby and all that. my advice would be get hold of a really good bf'ing counsellor for advice before the baby comes and in the first few days - don't assume that because you have done it before it will be easy 2nd time round (although you might be one of the lucky ones).

i am loving the idea of a christmas "themed" 1st birthday while she is too young to care what we do. mulled wine and mince pies all round it will be on thursday, as well as a caterpillar chocolate cake (which her big sister will enjoy at least) (ok and me too).

get me, posting twice on the same day. i am a bit bored and fireman sam seems to be doing my job at the moment....

Clara - Good old Fireman Sam .

Ahem, with regards to the other point of yours, chance to try would be a fine thing. We have been a family of tiredness and bug after bug lately. DH has had 2 colds and D&V in the last month. I have had D&V episodes weirdly on and off for a month and one cold. DS has had D&V and one cold. Hopefully soon DH and I will be feeling well at teh same time. .

I'm still feeling very down atm, just feel unhappy and DH keeps asking me why and I can't explain it.
My stomach feels all tied up in knots and I am feeling panicky about the fact I am not at work.
Most of yesterday I felt on the edge of tears as well.
I was even tearing up on Saturday morning when I was our NCT AGM!
I keep thinking that everyone at work hates me because they probably think I'm just not wanting to work rather than I am ill.
I was supposed to be seeing a friend today but she has had to cancel due to family issues, and I'm feeling crap about that as well.
I sent my boss an email he hasn't rung or replied to my email so I have no idea ow he has taken it. I guess he is waiting for me to ring after I have seen the GP tomorrow.
One of my best friends has just lost his dad as well, and his fiancee's mum is in hospital after having a mini-stroke - she found out when she tried to ring her mum's work to tell her mum that her fiance's dad had been rushed into hospital. So obviously they are in a state of shock & grief and so I keep thinking tat I shouldn't be feeling this bad when other people are a lot worse off than me.

Sorry about the negative post.

Oh goodness Bouncing, I just want to come over and give you a hug. But you wouldn't thank me for that because then I'd give you a horrid cold on top of all your woes.

Thank goodess you will be seeing the doc tomorrow because you can't go on like this can you. At least your DH is trying to understand, but it is not something that outsiders can understand because most of what looms so large to you at the moment would usually be something you could brush off easily. Happily I have never suffered from depression apart from baby blues days which for me were bad enough, but my mother has had to have ADs before and she has a tendency towards it and I have a good friend who had it very badly and sadly died last year. I know it is horrible and I do feel for you. You may feel a bit empty inside, but you are still in there, and hopefully with the help of your doctor you will soon find yourself again.

I am rambling on and probably giving rotten advice so I am sorry for that. Stop thinking about work, you are off sick for a reason. Forget what they think of you, just concentrate on yourself until you can see a little more clearly. They are most likely just concerned about you. And good luck for tomorrow and don't leave your GP until s/he know's just how bad you feel and does something about it.

Tanks Wizz. I was on AD's a few years about... again related to work. I need to check which AD's I can take while breastfeeding.

Lots of women do take ads whilst breastfeeding so I'm sure your doc can prescribe you some.

ARGGGHHHHHHHHHHH!!

Had some bad news about some friends last weekend details here.

Now I've had another message from another friend, her dad's been suspended from his job as a school IT technician, apparently he grabbed a boy by the collar and is now up on charges of assault. My friend is really upset, he was only 2mth away from retirement and is now looking like he'll lose his job and his pension. I'm just so surprised as he has always struck me as so mild mannered so it does make me wonder what on earth this boy did to provoke him.

Arcadie/Caz - things like this never end well do they? I suppose at the end of the day he is the adult so should know better. Just wish I could offer my friend some hope

Sorry BT

So sorry to hear about your friends BT

I hope things start improving for you soon

I've been diagnosed with depression
Been given some AD's (lofepramine) and advised to make an appointment at the local drop in centre.
The GP did asked me if I would give up bfing but I refused. She originally tried to give me citolpram but had to change to the above when I asked her if it was safe while bfing. Just found a paper which suggested what she had given me is the preferred tricyclic antidepressant for use in nursing mothers so am relieved as I was worried tbh. I want to control my depression but not at the risk of affecting my baby's health.

Oh BT. But better to be diagnosed and doing something about it than not I reckon. Hopefully the AD's will kick in soon and you'll be able to start enjoying life and your ds again. I know they won't help with al the external stresses and pressure you are going through but as Suey said they should help you to cope better with it.

My baby boy is ONE [waaaaah] [waaaaaah]. I feel really sad about it . Didn't really have the same feelings when dd turned one as I was already pregnant with ds by then but ds is my baby!

Bouncing so sad about your friends.

I hope the ADs help you. I'm glad you managed to get some that let you continue to feed your little one. Let's hope you feel better soon. [hugs and support vibes coming your way]

Clairey, I found DS's birthday really odd. Just couldn't stop thinking about the birth and hospital. Have got over it now, probably because I can't think about anything except snot. Am totally sick of illness, DH and I have always been pretty strong and never got much but we've been floored for about a month with various things and we're heartily sick of it.

Wizz I found we have had bug after bug for the past few winters. DD's first winter she had D&V a few times, then cold after cold. Last year it was more me who was ill with the DC having colds non stop and this year we have just been snot city! Can imagine how sick of illness you are, especially as it is affecting all of you. You are probably run down from not being able to recuperate properly due to having ds to look after-I know I am.

read this if you fancy a giggle at my expense!

Hello everyone

So sorry to hear that you are having a hard time, BT. Hope the ADs kick in soon. I'm sure that once they do you'll be able to see things more clearly.

Clairey - I bet your DH felt bad about that locking you in. You must have felt a bit panicky!

DD and I were at a mum and baby group Christmas party this morning. She got a present from Santa and wasn't too scared! Some of the other kids were bursting in to tears when they had to collect their pressie! She was waving and pointing and trying to say 'Santa'

This time last year I was one day overdue and probably thinking of having another hot curry followed by pineapple for dinner!

Good one Clairey.

Louise, good on your DD, very grown up to try to say Santa. I haven't even mentioned Santa to DS yet. All he knows about Christmas is there is a glittery lit up tree in teh corner that he can attempt to destroy.

Clairey - LOL at you daft DH glad you were able to get hold of him!!
Louise - how clever of your dd My mum is going to take ds to see Santa weekend after next!
Wizz - haven't put the tree up yet going to put it up tomorrow if I can get it down out of the garage. DS will also be trying to pull it down...
I'm seriously thinking of freccycling my big tree and looking for a much smaller one...

BT - glad you've been to see gp, I was on lofepramine when had PND with ds1 and still bfeeding, I haven't noticed any ill affects for him and main thing was it allowed me to carry on, at the time I felt like it was the only positive thing I was doing, lofepramine for me took about a week to kick in and then a few weeks of things getting slightly better each day so go easy on yourself still, rest and give things a chance to balance out x x sorry to hear about your friends too x

crapping myself about starting work next week, at the moment I'm convinced my childminder will let me down, its her first and last week of having the boys and I'm worried she'll just tell me she's sick... also not totally convinced the work nursery is best one for boys, its lovely but has some cons, I guess all of them do...

BT so sorry to hear things have not been good - but you are taking positive action - well done!

I felt a bit weird yesterday on dd's birthday too....missed her being a baby iyswim....but still not ready for another! Do you think parents of babies that sleep well have their 2nd babies sooner?!!

Hi everyone thanks for all your good wishes, it means a lot to me that I have you guys to talk to, especially those of you who have been where I am before.

Insy - thanks for the reassurance on the lofepramine, that is really helpful. I'm sure your childminder will be fine - at the end of the day she is providing you with a service which you are paying for and it is up to her to provide a good service because her reputation is at stake. But I can understand your nervousness! Best of luck with your return to work, think of all the gossip you'll be able to catch up on.

Well I handed my notice in yesterday, got to pop in next week to take back my work mobile and have a chat with my boss - and pick up DH's xmas present which I had delivered to work!

Feel somewhat better for having done that but very nervous. Will need to find some work in the new year but need to establish my official leaving date.

Good on you BT for handing in your notice, that must be a weight off your mind. Hope it goes well next week.

Caz - sleep is for wimps anyway.

caz10 - if we're anything to go by they definetly do

BT - worried about cm as she's changing jobs so she's probably not that worried about her reputation anymore well done about deciding about work - good timing to do it before xmas too, another thing not to stress about over the christmas break

BT - just read about your friend's Dad. Was having a think about it. dunno if you are in a position to give advice or just friendly comfort but if the former then.... always go to the unions ( if he's in one) admit mistake, say sorry, promise not to do again. Plead extenuating circumstances and long career of impeccable conduct. Pray that they'll put him on early retirement rather than scapegoating him. HTH but prob not....

Imogen's 1st birthday today. Slightly surreal as I've been at work all day and have seen ehr for about 15 mins so far but hopefully a nice evening ahead.