TBH I can't put myself in your position bumper or your possible one jammy. I am saved by not being able to earn enough money. But I expect I wouldn't like being away from the boys. I did work quite a lot when DS2 was little (DH was mid op-recovery then too) but it was a no-stress job (I worked in a mailing factory, I loved it. I did go back for a while but they had a new supervisor who was a bitch). I do sometimes think I could hand over comtrol of the house and the washing, and all the worrying about stuff to DH, but being a control freak I would end up doing it anyway. I used to like coming home to my dinner on the table. I think my inner man was trying to get out.
I am doing my best not to hassle DH and fight (mainly because if we so much as disagree over what day it is DS1 asks if we're getting divorced), but it is bloody hard, especially when I'm in my black mood where I think he should sod his professional pride and take whatever job he can get. But then he gets down and I have to bolster him up because he did the crap job thing with his Ex, and I have always said he loves his job so he should go with it.
So, hugs to you, hang in there, We are all due some slack,
and thank goodness we have secret santa and virgil to look forward to, and each other to keep us sane(ish).