July 2006 - bring on those tantrums!

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New thread now we're all mums of 2yr olds!

Hi all,

Sorry I havn't been around. Just getting back to normal after a hectic w/end. Have stacks of laundry/ironing.

On top of that Sujay has not been well. He's been throwing up since Sunday. Not often, just once a day, but it's still taking a lot out of him. Bless him, he looks as if he doesn't have the energy ATM.
He's been asking for food, some he manages to keep down. Just when I think he's on the mend, he throws up again.

Then DH has got a Marathon w/end planned. He wants to go up to Bolton to see MIL. He just does not understand that we should not be going if kids are so ill. GRRR!

Sorry about all that girls. Hope you are all well.

HC - Hang on in there!

Spin - Good for Roshi!!.

See you all soon. My washing machine has finished. Time to do some more ironing.

Bye

SK

Ugh skay, sympathies with the sicky bug. Hope things are all better very soon.

spin-is Roshi just tired? Bit of a life change for her.

Having a particularly sicky day today but luckily the girls are going to my mum and dad's tomorrow until Sunday. Then at MIL's the weekend after. Am 8 weeks today so hopefully ever closer to that 12 week mark.

Love to all, sure I'll feel more human one day.

HC
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spin-when I first took Emma to nursery I said she had to leave elephant at home. After a week I agreed he could stay in her rucksack but she ended up dragging one of the staff to her rucksack to get him out and he stayed with her every nursery visit until she left to go to big school. We had to look for him at leaving time as she used to lose him as she was busy playing.

Big wave to all.

HC
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Happy Birthday Rhinestone! Have a lovely day.

HC
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Happy Birthday Rhinestone!! Hope you get a chance to do something nice.

HC, hope you're feeling good!? Hang in there lady!

Spin, Roshi will be fine, it's only her second week. Took Mimi the whole term to stop crying! And now she more or less hates me, so enjoy it while you still can!

Of course she doesn't hate me, I know, but she does always ask for Daddy now and kicks me away. Last night she seemed to be in pain of some sort, and came in our bed really early - kept waking up and screaming. At about 5 am she screamed that she wanted to go on the potty, so I took her and she did a wee! Then she wanted her breakfast, but I made her go back to bed and sleep a bit more. DH and I are both wrecked. We thought she was sorted at night time and so started to relax, but last night was a blast for the past to be sure.

DH came into town on Wednesday and I showed them all my mozzies (not impressed!) and then we went to see the Dinosaurs at the NHM. We only had to queue for about 35 minutes, so it wasn't as long as some people predicted, and then they ran around it in about the same time. The best bit of course was the realistic moving T Rex!!
Back on the tube, and between Sloane Square and Victoria, Joey announced to the whole carriage that he needed a wee, so DH and I were 'calmly' reassuring him to wait til the next stop!! Some other mums were looking at us and smiling, clearly, they'd been there!! The train of course kept stopping and starting and it seemed to take about a year and a half to get to Victoria, when we did we legged it in the opposite direction to everyone else and found a little corner on the platform! He did really well to tell us and hold it I thought! I didn't feel at all guilty for degrading the beautiful tube station!!

I had them both at home yesterday whilst DH went to work, and I dunno what was up with me, I kept shouting at them and getting very irritated and ended up crying cos I knew they weren't to blame I just felt so bad. Mimi threw a few tantrums alright but nothing unusual. I just felt really crap and couldn't really deal with them. Poor little things. Lucky they have a great daddy.

Anyway ladies, feel all better today, so not to worry! Really enjoyed my Pilates class earlier, so glad I went!!

Right so, have a lovely weekend, everyone

They have a great mummy too Annie. You are so tired my dear so no wonder you feel a tad down. Emma only wanted daddy from a very early age which was very hard to deal with. It is only recently that she allows me to put her to bed or rather she has no choice as DH always at work when it is their bedtime. Sophie on the other hand still wants me most of the time. Wonder how long it will last. BTW I would have been most interested in your mossies. Take care you.

HC
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Thanks HC, words of wisdom. Feeling much better now anyway.

Hi all!

Happy Birthday Rhinestone - have a great day! And belated b-day wishes for Bloss! Hope the burn is better...

Bit behind so forgive me if I miss anything/anyone...

Hope you're feeling a bit better HC, hang in there sweetie!

Of course Roshi is gonna miss you Spin - it's a big change for her. Can't believe my little man will start big school in Sept...! (though to be honest, won't be much different from nursery where they try and teach them English and stuff really early - poor Ry's already on a loser there ;-)

Hi everyone else - Skay, Annie, Flick, Bead (how's the bump), Pixel (how's the web design stuff going btw?) and anyone I've missed...

I now understand why people generally do the honeymoon business prior to kids... Madeira was paradise but Ry was a right pita! I think he was expecting to see his grandparents when we went to the airport - so it was all a major disappointment to be stuck with us! We stayed in a spa hotel set in a botanical garden - was amazing. But it was tantrum city with the boy. V hard work. Oh well...! Quite a relief to get him back to nursery this week and have some time to ourselves (we get 15 days extra holiday as a honeymoon which is handy!).

Anyway, enough babbling. Hope you're all good.

Hugs Impy xxx

Hey everyone - just checking in as the thread has dropped off my threads

Spin the novelty has probably worn off for R now when she realises that she has to go every week...but she will get used to it and what a treat for you to have all that time as 'me' time

Annie you are not a crap parent, as HC said, just very tired! When I am at home with Josh all day by myself I seem to spend at least 50% of the time shouting at him or telling him to stop doing whatever mischief he is doing - gets very wearing after a while! And well done to Joey for holding onto his wee

HC how are you feeling? Are you just sicky or tired aswell? Over halfway to the magical 12 week marknow so hang in there eh?

Impy sorry the honeymoon wasn't great - am soon realising that our little toddlers go through phases of PITAness so I guess Ry was just in one of those! 15 extra days?? Is that a standard thing in Spain? How lovely and a little bit

Belated Happy Birthday to Rhinestone- hope your 2 lovely lo's are doing well

Hi to everyone else!

Everything great here at the moment Josh seems to have come out of his PITAness and is lovely to have around again! His aggression towards Sam seems to have stopped (touch wood) and he is playing much more by himself - building train tracks, taking his trains to the park and feeding Sam pretend sausage rolls (double ). Sam is a complete angel - very laidback although a little bit grumpy at times (Josh was always such a happy baby that Sam is probably completely normal but we never experienced it). He goes to bed upstairs now at 7.15pm and we literally don't hear a peep out of him until we wake him up in the morning at 7ish - as far as I can remember he has yet to cry in the night at all (clearly he saves it all for the daytime ).

Hope everyone is having a lovely weekend. This thread is nearly full so ideas needed for a new thread title.

HC
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o'h annie you're not a crap mum at all - jacob is exactly the same and when he wants to be a real PITA puts his hand up and says "mummy go away"

not much else to say really except hang on in there HC and hi to everyone else that i've missed saying hi to recently.

I too spend a large proportion of my day yelling at jacob when i have them all day - sophie is on holiday till wednesday and last friday was the first day i had looked after them both all day on my own for ages - without jacob being at nursery all day - needless to say we had a huge long playdate in the morning and then went out to the park for a large proportion of the afternoon

Hello everyone,

Happy Belated Birthday Rhinestone!

Spin - Chilt swallowed his Tooth!!! Was he ill after?

Annie - You are not a Bad parent. We all have the "Off" days. . Good that you feel better now.

Bloss - How's the kitchen coming along?

Impy - Totally with you with kids being a PITA. Personally I am SOOOO glad the kids have gone back to school today. Then Kavya was invited round to a freinds to play. (Only round the corner.) PEACE. AHHHHHH!

Got to go my laundry is piling up. AGAIN!

Bye

SK

Help me out here ladies

Sophie has developed a phobia about weeing in her nappy so wants it changing every time (well actually, she thinks she is pooing when she wees). Got the potty out and said wees and poos need to go in the potty. She then kept taking her nappy off after every wee then I just popped in the kitchen after putting a clean nappy on to get lunch and she came in to say she had done a wee on the floor. When I looked she had pooed all over the carpet. What do I do next as I really don't feel up to cleaning poo and wee off the carpet. Was going to start in April with taking her nappy off when my MS should have eased somewhat. She said she doesn't want to use the potty or toilet and kept crying saying both hurt her bottom. Help !

Hope all OK.

HC
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hmm it is a tricky one JC, you are at the in-between stage where they know they don't want to do it in their napppy but haven't really twigged to do it in the potty. All I can suggest is the usual MASSIVE praise if it gets anywhere near potty, or even if she just wants to sit on it and do noting. Have Emma sit on it too if she will, get Sophie's fave toys to "do a wee and a poo on the potty" etc. Failing that get DH to always clear it up!

Happy belated birthday to Rhiney!

Skay, washing is the torment of my life, APART FROM while I am here at my M&D's as it is one of the few jobs she can still do without getting distracted half way through, albeit painstakingly slowly. She has washed and dried everythng I put in the wash within about 3 hours! Fantastic! I needn't have brought so many clothes with us...

Yes still at my parents, probably until at least the weekend. The Kitchen is looking fantastic though, lights are in, and I went and had a play with my new fridge in the garage today, huge and silve and American with ice and water dispenser on the front, yay!

Busy weekend, went to stay with SIL Saturday night till SUnday lunchtime, then boys had a birthday party Sunday avo. Toby managed to puke up all over himself and the car seat as we pulled into the drive at M&D's, cue Dad saying "Do you really have to stimulate the children quite so much?" Have decide to stay in all this weekend and not do anything with the kids to demonstrate to him why we go out so much. He has clearly not spent a day at home with two small children for a long time (if ever, he was a pilot and was away for large stretches of our childhoods - no wonder my mum has gone bats)

Went swimming this morning, going again tomorrow, am on a major fitness drive.

Bloss

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thankyou Impy re Burn enquiry, it is better, although still not completely healed and has scarred alot. Crazy!

HC not JC! I am bats too clearly!

Thanks Bloss. Yes, I was going to try the training at Easter when Emma is off school so that she can help. I admit I was very cross with her pooing on the carpet-not her fault really. DH always at work so can't leave it festering for him to clean up.

Not sure why Tobes was sick but surely nothing to do with weekend activities.

HC
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HC - if you read my post on the other thread you will see I am having simiar problems with Josh re potty training. He may be ready but I didn't really want to start until a bit later either. Yesterday, when he decided he didn't want to wear a nappy, I put him in underpants so at least they caught the poo rather than it go everywhere - pretty disgusting to clean but better than the carpet I guess. Would Sophie prefer to be in knickers than a nappy do you think?

Bloss - your kitchen sounds gorgeous - am v .

Josh has been in a very 'contrary' mood these last couple of days - hoping it is because he is ill!! Just little things like drinking out of Sam's bottle/pinching Sam's dummy (he has never done either before since Sam was born 3 months ago) and just not listening to anything! He also started sulking this afternoon at soft play - he has never done that before so god only knows where he learnt how to do it but it was hilarious - full on back-to-me, arms-crossed, bottom lip stuck out, type sulk - he soon stopped when he realised I had biscuits

cb i hate to tell you but it's a phase not just because josh is ill.....we have had the same thing with jacob for 3 months now - see following conversation:

me: jacob would you like a banana?
Jacob: nothing
me: repeat above
Jacob: nothing
me: repeat above
Jaocb: nothing
me: do you want a banana, do you want a banana, do you want a banana before i throw them all out of the window
Jacob: still nothing
me: do you want a banana or there is nothing else to eat, ever
jacob: looking at me like i have just that minute started talking, ok a banana...

repeat the above 30 times a day when he might just be ignoring me 90% of the time and the rest he's looking like I'm talking urdu

and add that onto dh's ever impending depression about possibly losing his job because the whole farking world is in recession and he could quite possibly lose his job and it's no wonder i have started sinking a bottle of wine a night. and i'm not particularly proud of it either.

but that's nothing to do with jacob's ignoring me phase [cb]

HC difficult one for you - also i read something that kids are notoriously difficult with toilet training when there is change going on - could sophie be picking up on you heading towards 12 weeks? forgive me if i'm being less than tactful, am having to correct all typing as have polished bottle of pinot this evening - took 3 goes to not type pinto there

i shoud go

see you all tomorrow when am in better frame of mind

flick-crikey, will DH lose his job? Any chance of redundancy? He has a highly qualified job doesn't he so will he be able to find something similar? No wonder you feel like drinking to forget. Will the mover to HK be still on? Em and Sophie have no idea I am PG I just think Sophie is finding her feet and being plain awkward. She is at MIL's today so she can deal with it.

FIL is here though with the hedge cutter man so will be demanding tea, coffee and food all of which make me bleugh.

How is your poo situation today Ceebee?

Hope all OK.

HC
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