January 08 shiny new - year babies, " Food, glorious food...there's nothing quite like it!"

[lilyloo]

Well done Filly

I'm not going back as long as DP gets his promotion by xmas which in all honesty it looks like he will. [fingers crossed]

No time to catch up but looks like Im not going back either. GOing to be a SAHM

Will have no money but never do anyway lol
DP will just have to work harder lol

Will catch up tomorrow. Bye for now

Welcome Poltesco
stick with the bf as long as you and dd are happy with it is my advice.
you have your hands full at weekends then?)

MrsMc - i'm going back beginning of nov i think - but when i say going back i only work one day a week just for a bit of adult time really. was due to return beginning of oct but that seems too close.
trying to sort out a plan for the week; think i will work mon (both boys in nursery-a drive away), ds1 carry on with tues nursery till christmas, then he will go to a nearby pre-school for tues & wed mornings. that allows me to carry on with bf group on tues mornings for a bit longer.

filly - happy belated birthday to your ds it's scary how fast they grow up isn't it? i still find it amazing that i have 2 children, let alone that one of them is 2!

mixedmama - HELLO over there hope you are having fun.

betterhalf - well done for finding it! you'l know where to start looking next time, lol.

well, ds2 SLEPT THROUGH HOORAY 7-6.
i'm so pleased as the night before he was up & i was up and down from 3-4 and 5-6. So no night feeds for 4 nights, yippee
right ds1 and dh just arrived, best go and make some tea...

hi poltesco,
welcome! i hardly ever post but always read up on what everyone else is doing - it is great to hear about other babies!

we also have lots of allergies on my side of the family - so are sticking to the 4 day rule for now. i am american and in the US they do weaning much more slowly than here anyway, so we are just erring on the side of caution. still havent given him any dairy or wheat, but will probably do those soon. (he is 7.5 mos, born Jan 4)

we are still bf as well which i think helps a lot with allergies.

i have started work 2 days a week, but am building back up to full-time by mid-sept. the first day was really hard but i am feeling optimistic. ds starts nursery today though, which i think will be harder for mummy than for him!

anyone else started nursery with their 1st born yet and how is it going?

mornin all will be popping in and out this week as dp off so hoping to have some days out with dc's. Was hoping the park/picnics etc but weather forecast pretty rotten for week.
So we going swimming today/ blackpool tower/circus tom and the zoo thurs!

JKS i can't believe how he has just stopped night time feeds and you didn't have to do cc! He must have known you meant buisness

Hi Poltesco glad you found us! Wow sounds busy in your house! My dd2 born 18th Jan! Hope you can stick around it's good company!

MrsMc we still undecided about me returning to work. Dp starts new job wk on Tue so will have to see how that works out. I can stay off unpaid until Jan!

Kelix / Lucky at stay at home mum would like to if p[ossible.

Betterhalf typical why do you always find things after you replace them!

Mixedm gald you having nice time bet it's very hot there! Just like here

Filly are you mad two parties ! Happy birthday to ds.

Horsygirl we have had dd wake up a couple of times having done a poo ! Apparantly try not to give bowel moving food for tea, fruit etc ?

LaTrucha i am attached to bf too so hoping dd wants to carry on for a while!

Have nice day all

Oh Mom banks nice to see you back

Oh and are we going with Lucky's ' keep rolling , rolling , rolling' for new thread ?

i know lily! can't quite believe it myself, keep thinking we're bound to have a bad screaming night soon...
was it me stopping offering it or did he just hit a developmental thing and not need it? who knows...

yes, rolling title good for me

hi mombanks

planning nursery for ds2 nov-time i think. my 2 boys will go together on mondays, then ds1 on tues while ds2 and i go to bf group until ds2 is 1. hope it works out ok....

Morning ladies. Welcome to our new ladies.
No chance of catching up I'm afraid I have been in bed all weekend being very poorly and sick . Its amazing how much you miss your kids when your poorly in bed. Bit better today though feel very washed out. Had a tiny bit of cereal this morning and it seems to have stayed
Dh popped out this morning and came back with a massive boquet of flowers and a card. Its out 7th wedding aniversary makes me feel a little guilty though as I havn't been able to get him anything.
Hope everyone else is well and all the lo's are growing and giggling.

Congratulations and commiserations Gingeme. I love getting flowers!

No chance to catch up properly either!
Anyone else fel like they spend their life madly dashing at the moment? I don't ever seem to stop! And I only have one baby!

Hello newbies and returners!

congratulations jks!

lilyloo / MrsMc - I know, I know. I wish I could just take my time to finish bf but realistically we have to have help if we're going to have another baby in case I'm ill whilst pregnant again. I simply couldn't move last time so will need someone to look after Sabela. Which means conceiving to a timetable as we will have some help in the first 6 months or so of next year. I don't know how I'm going to stop. I know I'm going to be sad and Sabela won't like it either. But she WILL like a little brother or sister, which is what I'm telling myself. Good lord, I'm welling up even at tht thought of stopping bf...

Got to go! Don't know how I can feel so busy! It's all this puree!

p.s. anyone else's DC not that interested in rolling? DD can do it, just doesn;t really want to. WAlking, now that's another matter

p.s. dd is going through a phase in which she likes a food one day and the next, or a few days later, won't have it. Anyone else? I'm wasting a lot of food!

Actually, is anyone finding it really tough going at the moment because I am.

Sabela still isn't sleeping at night, although it is better and bedties are easier. To try and improve her sleep, the Hv suggested snacks in between her solid meals. She won't really eat finger food so this means I am preparing her yet more puree. It's also difficult to give her all this food because I'm trying to increase her appetite during the day which doesn't happen easily, of course. ALso, I can't leave her for a second at the moment without her squawking and then screaming at me.

I love her and beign at home with her but at the moment I feel like a mouse on a wheel. She's obviously really happy (when with me!) but I'm beginning to feel like a prisoner. I haven't even had lunch today.

Any tips?

Sit down have a cup of tea, a biscuit or two and five minutes for yourself.
Right you have to remember your baby can enetertain herself at times and she will have to learn a little independance at some point. Unless she is realy screaming her head off you are allowed to ignore her. She will soon come to realise you are not at her beck and call 24/7. I learnt this once you have more than one sibling that the baby has to take a back seat every now and then. Unless she is starving,dirty or hurt you realy don't need to be stuck to her.
As for bed time. I know its a silly question but do you have a bed time routine? If so stick to it and don't waver. Again she will soon learn this is bed time weather she likes it or not.
Same with feed times and even play times.
HTH

Also do you have anyone who could take her for an hour a day or to pop round while you go out for an hour. Maybe when she is having her nap? Maybe if dh is home when its bed time ask him to do it a couple of times a week so she realises other people can do things for her too.

Thanks Gingeme - I think I am going to have to let her squawk on her playmat sometimes. As you say, if she's not really crying or something is wrong with her, she should be fine. I know she's just trying to get me back and if I continue to go back, she'll think that's fine.

Bed times are a lot better these days and we do have a routine. I'm trying to get her used to being rocked to sleep instead of fed (yes I know neither of these is ideal, but we're taking small steps!) so that DH can put her to bed.

We don't really have anyone who could sit for me or us. We're far away from both our families and old friends. We have people who have offered to sit occasionally, but that's not really what you mean, is it?

Thanks for moral support!

oh! I am starting swimming by myself today, which was part of the problem. She wouldn't go down for her nap so I could get there on time. She probably would have but I was a bit impatient. Have phoned DH and he's just going to have her a bit later.

Now, where am I going to find the energy to swim?

Gingeme was wondering where you got to , glad your feeling better and happy anniversary

LaTrucha i have read on here where someone got pg when bf and then stopped bf the current baby but both new baby and older baby picked up bf when new one born iyswim Could that be an option ?
Also agree with Gingeme. What baby activity things do you have ? Mayb e worth investing in something she can entertain hereslf in. DD wouldn't be happy lay on a play mat anymore.
Also i think you are going to wear yourself out pureeing so much.
Have you tried mashing instead a bit of what your having for evening meal ?
Have you tried breadsticks dd loves these. She also had raisins yeasterday and was very entertained trying to pick them up herself.
I know what you mean about night time we still not sleeping through but getting there. I think it's small steps but sticking to them. How is she doing not bf to sleep ? Does she have a dummy ?

Well we did swimming which was a feat in itself with 3 dc's. But dd loved it and was in the pool for 1 1/2 hours !
Change of plan for tommorrow we going to the museum of science and industry tom as we found out it's free and then off to the zoo on Wed.

ok just a quickie - we are going on holiday at the weekend and have decided that our buggy is too big to take with us really so i want to get one of those stroller type things - all recommendations welcome please as i have to buy it in the next few days

hoping holiday will give me and dh some time to relax a ltitle bit we've been quite narky with each other recently very unlike us and we have been sniping about charlie mainly him ignoring the fact that she has a good little routine which works really well which he seems to ignore. I probably need to relax a bit but really dont want a waking in the night baby ( sorry those of you who arent sleeping through)

Hi lilyloo - we've decided just to be a bit less attentive than we have been so far. I'm not sure about next toys. We've got a bouncer and I think she'll go in that for a while. I have tried pureeing meals but so far she prefers her own stuff. She did eat a sweetcorn and a pea the other day! Am branhcing out into finger foods . Have you found any breadsticks without salt, or am i being a bit precious?

The not bf to sleep s not going so well. She got wise to it. But she will let DH settle her if she wakes up once I've got her off. How's your nights these days? Are you still feeding to sleep too?

hiya ladies- went to my bf wedding on sat and guess what, I'm now on the 2 week wait!!!!!!!

Shocking behaviour but fingers crossed! Highly unlikelyas it took 2 years ttc Ruby but can dream!

Fingers crossed BLuebell.

Oh, lily - no, she won't take a dummy. They make her furious!

gingeme - congrats & poor you, hope you are feeling better now?
(dh bought me flowers today to cheer me up as i've been so up and down emotionally , and chocolate! )

LaT - thanks
yes i'm finding it tough but hoping i can blame it all on the pill. today is day 1 of no pill so hopefully in the next few days i will start to feel better.
Also i think i had similar about the same time with ds1 - it wears you down the constant responsibility and being on duty, and it sinks in that although 6 months feels like a long time, there's a lot longer to go!!
oh and yes we waste lots of food too, luckily we have a composter so don't feel too guilty about throwing it away.
hope you find the swimming energy from somewhere, not sure i could!

Lilyloo - well done on swimming with all the dcs. we really MUST get to the pool soon, poor ds2 hasn't been once yet, and i know ds1 loves it. this week i think.
Hope the museum trip goes well, and the night time is good too.

nicky - i'm the only narky one here
and i wouldn't do anything different AT ALL if baby is sleeping well and happy, then keep going, you are doing a FAB job!
no idea re light buggy but lots of threads on MN about similar.

bluebell - and good luck!!! hope the wedding was fun too did dd stay with evil cow MIL?

right, dh out tonight, so i'm off to bed early, again. everything crossed for a good 2nd night in a row.....(well need to cross everything now i'm off the pill, lol!).

Well... where the hell do I start today?

Firstly Bluebell - fingers crossed for you hun
La trucha - Yes its hellish at the mo, I don't know what to suggest to help you as I'm going through a rough patch with DD at the moment.

Right ok well, DD has a cold and is teething like mad. All the teething things i'm trying aren't working. I think she has abit of the runs aswell and the nappies i have (Lidl's) won't hold it all in but can't afford any new ones at the mo.

She's grouchy all the time, refuses to sleep in her own cot or be put down and its not just grumbling she goes into full on screaming mode straight away. I swear if DP didn't work nights it would be easier as I could leave her for a minute to see if she'll cope but the sheer volume makes it impossible.

I think i'm catching her cold too and the fact she's in our bed means i'm barely sleeping. Had about 3 hours last night.

I'm really at my wits end.

mrsmcjnr- went back to work when dd was 4wks, was able to take her with me ( i'm a nanny ). but its just not working for dd or me, so its my last day on wed really looking forward to being sahm .

momsbank- thanks for advice we've just introduced cheese no probs yet fingers crossed, i think i'll stick to the 4day rule prob best!

lillyloo- i hope you manage to have a good wk with dp. i love it when places are free

gingeme- happy anniversary and hope your feeling better so nice to get flowers

latrucha- i am also finding it abit of a struggle at the mo. dd waking in the night alot getting stuck even though she's in a sleep bag,also waking for a feed at 3-4 absolutely starving very exhausted mummy, dh seems to be able to sleep through it.

i think i'm sinking under everything that needs doing, but have come round to the fact things will get done at some point although it is hard to ignore at times. i dared to go to tesco yesterday while dd was sleeping came home to screaming dd and very stressed dh as she wouldn't take her milk from her beaker ( we've tried bottle but she just gets distressed ), but as soon as she saw me she was happy to take it funny girl!

is anyone feeling really tearful at the mo, just wondered if its to do with body changes or just exhaustion on that point i think its time for super and bed to get some sleep how much is another thing!

poltesco - I'm tearful all the time, last night when I'd woken up for the 60th time to DD kicking me in the ribs I just burst out crying....