January 08 shiny new - year babies , night night sleep tight - yeah right !!

[lilyloo]

Thought as there were no objections and we were at 950 i would get us all a new thread

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you and hope you get better sleep tonight.

Oh P.S if DP needs extra sleep tell him about a thing called the sofa

lily - i feel for you really cos i'm pretty much the same
fri & sat night ds2 slept 7-5 which was lovely (tho sat i didn't get to bed till 1am cos of my walk), but last night was back to 2 feeds...
must be a mixture of growth spurt and habit i think as sometimes he has a big proper feed and other times it feels like comfort. it's so much easier to feed tho isn't it? then you are all back in bed in 10/15mins with no crying...
have decided to do controlled crying after he hits 6 mo (there is a theory that's when they are all old enough to make it through the night without a feed) AND when he is only comfort feeding.
so still lots of sleepless nights ahead i fear.

feeling really low of energy and oomph as i feel i've been ill and/or shattered for over 2 weeks now.
maybe low iron levels or something - tho i am still taking vitamin tablets.

right, enough me me me!

sorry to hear about the bad sleepers.

JKS & Lilyloo - hope tonight is better for you.

Well DD just gone to bed. DH decided he would attempt to put her down (he never does it)little madam was starving hungry but refused to feed for DH!! So I had to go do it in the end. She had 6 ozs for me so hopefully will last her a while.

DS watching Cbeebies not going to bother bathing him tonight as he hasn't done anything to get grubby because of the weather so that makes the evening a bit easier.

No playgroup for DS tomorrow (it is closed on tuesdays) if the weather is bad I think I will quietly go insane being stuck in the house...

JKS fingers crossed i have just read the no cry book and am going to give it a try.
It echoes my concerns about lack of daytime routine , naps can hamper sleep.
Also interestingly the author has 4 kids two good sleepers two bad!

It gives you a routine to follow to dissacociate the need to be nursed,fed to sleep so am going to give it a try. I just don't understand why she doesn't do this in the day , at bedtime but only in the night and it doesn't cover that.

Am also going to cut out some of the feeds. She went down at 7 and woke up 5 min ago but i just quickly settled her with dummy so am going to persevere with that until 11pm and then 3 that way am cutting out two feeds.

Wish me luck and sorry for all the non sleep posts today

JKS i think having any plan helps you to get through it !

Good luck Lilly - I'm trying to get DD to sleep now and I can still hear her crying upstairs so best go investigate.

Just had some bad news. DH phoned his sister in Ireland to ask her if she wanted to be DD's Godmother to be told that his uncle has died. It happened a couple of days ago. Very odd family for not ringing him and telling him... He can't go to the funeral now as its tomorrow.

Lucky - DS went to bed at 7.30 and he has only just dropped off now after singing "3 little monkeys jumping on the bed" VERY loudly for nearly 2 hrs!! At least he does stay in his room though.

ah well Nathan is joining in the sleeping mess. Although he did go from 2.30 to 6.30, but that made me even more groggy. It is like your body demands more the more it gets.

Still bf here to Lily, well done to us, we are on the home straight. Or is your lo 6months already? Nathan is 5m and a week and while not huge and on a very ow centile, he is pleasantly chubby and very bright.

This week we have been having a go at some solids, just to see what happened. Today he has eaten a mini rice cake and had an attempt at a piece of broccoli. He also likes dh's expensive organic vanilla yogurt, but that contains sugar

tomorrow he is finally having his second lot if jabs. always a bit scary, as we have to make sure he does not get a serious fever, as a fever spike can cause another fit. I will be glad when tomorrow is safely over , and once Nathan is his happy self again we will seriously start weaning. And once he is eating a good range of foods I will switch to bottle feeding. Kind of starting to look forward to it.

Good night everyone

simpson, sorry for ignoring you an sorry for your loss

Simpson sorry to hear about your loss. Abit off them not telling him esp as it means he's gonna miss the funeral.

Well I've decided as of today no more mush for DD - She's old enough to have proper food now so I'm going looking for some mats and how to get the highchair in the car (or a travelling one anyway) for when I go to mum's and eastbourne!!

I'm kinda scared and know DP will go nuts. Just gotta decide what to give her for breakfast now.

simpson - so sorry to hear of your loss, hard to understand why they didnt let him know sooner so he could have attended the funeral, but people have thier reasons I guess

LuckySalem - how old is your DD if you dont mind me asking? Am thinking the same thing but not sure what age they can manage solids(proper solids).

DD only just gone down - way outta routine today but guess was just one of those days. Back to it tomorrow tho.

She is 25 weeks on weds!! I'm fed up of the fuss of getting pots and she seems to like eating stuff alone (she had cucumber today while I made my dinner)

Lucky - have been reading weaning thread was very brave of you to wade in!! Was getting a bit heated there!!

My DD 23 weeks tomorrow is getting harder and harder to feed milk again. She seems bored of it. Turning head etc. Maybe not bored of milk just too nosy LOL!!

Angechica - my dad just texted me to say the tractor boys are playing Brentford in friendly on Fri eve so I am going!! First time I have seen them since heavily pg with DS. Can't wait!!

Kelix _ how old is your DD?

Mrs Bakergirl - hope you are ok?

I think its mean that they automatically jump on the girl. Yes by all means tell her it can be bad for baby but what was said was horrid in some cases (esp VS) But never mind.

I'm not having trouble getting her to drink milk, but she has cut a bottle out, Mainly cos I wait for her to tell me she's hungry before feeding her and I noticed today that she no longer has a bottle after dinner. So goes for about 5 hours without a bottle. I don't think it matters that much as she's a greedy pig and would tell me if she was hungry!!

Well DD cut a bottle out last night as she slept a mamoth (sp) 14 hrs she has not really made up for it today so I expect trouble but DH has offered to feed her in night if need be!! he has a training course tomorrow so have a loooong day with DCs. However, DD is starting to not feed for anyone else but me...

DD can go about 2.5 hrs between feeds. Feel like I am feeding her all the time.

Kind of glad DD not born in April as I think anyone weaning before 6 mths would be judged, but never mind!!

Simpson - DD is 'officially' 6 months on the 15th (next week) but she was 16 days late (born by c-section eventually after being sent home as there were no beds - long story). She is 25 weeks.

She does eat food herself, veg, toast - things like that. She enjoys it and most does go in but she does gag quite a lot, maybe twice if she eats toast (half a slice). She eats puree no problem but really enjoys feeding herself so I'm trying to do a bit of BLW and a bit of puree. She really enjoys her food!!

Kelix - DD is officially 6 months on the 16th next week but she too was nearly 2 weeks over (10 days) which is why i'm not too worried about introducing things.

Morning everyone

Special sympathies to all those with the non-sleepers! DD went from about midnight till 4 last night when we decided to try to settle her back to sleep without feeding her...but she had other ideas and I cracked at 4.30 and fed her! But we have had some successes - we've cut out the 1am/2am feed by DP rocking her back to sleep and now she doesn't usually wake up until around 3 or 4, which is much better.
But like you lilyloo, we're going to keep perservering and trying to cut out night feeds altogether...yawn

Morning all...

Not much to say here... just logging on for the day.

morning all

I hope the non sleepers were slightly better last night.

So far DS refused to wear what clothes I have laid out, refused to hold onto bannisters while coming downstairs (holding every stuffed toy he owns!!), is refusing to eat his breakfast, and keeps asking me every 5 seconds if it is raining yet!!

DD is refusing her bottle and has not fed since 5am which is a long time for her!! Giving hungry cues but then chewing teat and spitting it out.

I think it is going to be a long day...

Forgot to add good luck today Madmouse for Nathan's jabs.

hello everyone, I have been a bit of a stranger on this thread recently, not that I have ever been very good at replying to other peoples post [selfish cow]!!!

Well Ruby is fab sleeping, eating like a dream, couldn't fault her and I'm finding motherhood a breeze, however it's not all plain sailing I was diagnosed with PND yesterday, which is a relief if I'm honest. I have been having panic issues about Ruby being picked up by anyone else etc, I do everythng for her and won't let anyone else do anything, my MIL freaks me out all the time and the turning point came when she went and bought a highchair at the weekend for her house, strange I know but I had an over whelming panic that she was preparing to take Ruby from me.

There are a lot of underlying issues, my dad died in my care 2 years ago, and I am convincedpeople think I am not looking after Ruby well enough that something might happen to her. Silly really as my dad suffered with alcoholism and in my rational state I know it was his body giving in and that Ruby is definitely not in the same position!

I have a wedding to go to in August and we are planning to stay over leaving Ruby with PIL, this makes me panic because I think they won't give her back...

I probably sound mad but I am on the road to recovery, feel gutted that I have such a perfect child and I am broken, its usually women that can't bond with their baby but I have over bonded I suppose.

Anyway hope everyone is well xx

Bluebell lovely to hear from you and it must be relief to get the help you need Ruby sounds lovely.

Simson to hear of dh uncle. Hope the day get's better.

Madm good luck for today and Nathan. DD is 6 mths on 18th ! I am hoping to continue with bf as long as she wants i think.

Perapera my sympathys to you r/e non sleep persevere is my new mantra

Lucky/Kelix they sound to be doing fab with the weaning how about weetabix/ready brek for breakfast dd1 and ds used to love it.

Thanks for all support r/e sleep i can't believe my dd is no.3 and i am so unprepared for this
Well for those interested our night went like this
7 - bed
8.15 -stirred resettled with dummy
9 - stirred resettled with dummy
10.30 -dream feed when i went to bed
1.30 - stirred resettled with dummy on and off until
2.30 -feed
unsettled until 4.00
6.30-awake

So despite being bloody shattered i am quite proud we only did two feeds compared to at least 5/6. I am now determined to stick to this and hope that the wakings drop as she doesn't get offered the bf. I guess it get's worse before better.

However today she has had two really good bf's and her breakfast and a good nap of 1 hr 30 this morning on school/pre school run.

So it might just work and i feel better knowing i have plan rather than drowning in the haze of no sleep and constant grazing.

Will keep you all informed and others struggling post any ideas maybe we can all help one another

Oh and we have 50 posts left before new thread so need some naming ideas ?

bluebell - I feel for you. I was similar to this with DS1. Glad you have sought help. Remember we are always here.

Afternoon all,

Am at my mum's for rest of day so will check in when I get home

Good luck Natha!!

Title for thread? - 1 is crawling who's next? Or time for some proper dinner?