August 2007- The one where we miss our plonkable babies! They're licking the pram wheels as we type...

[JamesAndTheGiantBanana]

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TT-good to here everything is going well with you and thats fantastic on the first steps. my lo has only just started pulling himself up. its so cute hes got these wee skinny legs that can just about hold him up and hes still tiny.

gill- hope you get whatever you hope for hun, ill keep my fingers crossed for you. at your stuck up aunt and lol at your response

helibee- bless callum missing his daddy.

violetsmile- its could be related but they want to check that hes not aspirating as hes coughing with his feeds like it is going into his lungs. hopefully they get it sorted all these chest infections cant be good for him. i really feel for you with the bad nights. it messes up yourwhole day when you dont get enough sleep. i ended up sleeping in the boys room last night to save me running up and down the stairs every 2 hours just for lo to take a 1/4 of a bottle and the go into fits of coughing.

james - did you look anymore into getting the coil? i would really recomend it. im a big woose when it comes to scary things but it was easier than getting a smear and AF in nearly non existent

ds2 has been really clingy and gurney lately along with ds3. i really cant wait until this phase is over. ds1 has started inviting tom dick and harry into the garden to play lol today there was 8 little boys in running about and all around ds1s age but not a parent in sight. they just let their kids run wild in this estate. ive got a date for the first visit on fostercare, the 6th but me and dp have taken another turn. he was saying last night that he feels hard done by and all his mates this and all his mates that. im really happy with the way things are going, my kids are great, im studdying something i find interesting and i have plans to keep me going. he has nothing. no plans, no hobby and he hates his job. he said that when i try to make conversation he switches off because he couldnt be bothered listening to me.so he wants to take a break but hes to scared to even do that.i feel like hes came in and messed up all my hopes and shit on my 'everythings great' feeling. how selfish i know.

sorry if that was long

Tasha

It sounds like he jealous of the fact that you have plans and your life is becoming reality where as his life is just coasting along and everyone else's life is better.

The person who can make a change on his is him. If he is bored with his job what can he do to improve/change it.

Sorry that not much help i know but try not to let him drag you down.

yeh weve been over that and hes applied for other jobs bbut when it comes to the crunch he stays in his safe environment. i cant think of anything else i can say to him thats going to motivate him to do something. were just going in circles. i think a break would do us both good as then mabe we will both see how much we actually love eachother ... or not. he said he was afraid to take a break incase he likes the freedom too much.

anyways, i better get this assignment started done.

Tasha,

sorry your DP is spoiling your good mood. He really needs to get himself out of this rut - no one else can do it for him. If he's unhappy with his life then he needs to be the one to change it. My DH went through the same with his job last year and sent me an email announcing he'd just quit as he was so fed up with it. he's now working for himself and is much happier even though he's not making as much money.

Hi TT - nice to see you back. Now that your back at work for a while we expect you to be on here regularly!

I've got my leaving drinks tonight - which I really don't want to go to (is that odd?). I'm perfectly happy to go to other people's leaving parties but I've always hated my own for some strange reason.

We've had a couple of bad nights sleep here as well as poor Caitlin has a horrible cold and cough which seems to get 10 times worse as soon as she lays down. I've tried propping her up on a pillow but she thinks its a game and just rolls off it! 2 nights ago she coughed so much she made herself sick at midnight but that did the trick of clearing all the horrid mucus off her chest and after i stipped off her growbag she fell asleep instantly and I didn't hear from her again until 6.30am. Last night was not too bad and although she coughed alot in her sleep I only had to get up once to her in the night to pop her dummy in.

We've finally bitten the bullet and signed her up with a baby modelling agency and so we shall see if she gets any work. I think she's beautiful lets hope lots of casting directors think so too!

hi folks - just a quick hello - i am keeping up to date with everyone just dont seem to have much time to post but hello to you all.

everything is good here - will try and get back on properly later but spending every evening doing kilts just now, and work has been really busy so not much time.

although not posting am sympathising/laughing where appropriate to all your posts, but will try and join in a bit more next week.

Hello. Ds is still falling asleep in the car and sleeping through til morning but the last 2 nights he has been up several times for his dummy. Dh has been very good sorting him out but he is so tired I will have to be on duty all weekend. Mum said he's not been having afternoon naps. I've suggested to her to put the cot up upstairs but she can't bear listening to her grandchildren cry so I doubt she would use it.

Managed to get ds' 1 year check during my holiday. I sent my hv a letter. It was actually opened by the unhelpful person I spoke to before. She was a bit off with me but sorted it out for me so I don't have to take any time off work. Not sure why she couldn't have done that when I phoned up before

Tasha - Hope your dp figures out what he wants to do. It's not fair to treat you like that when you do such a great job bringing up his children. Agree with lizzie that he probably feels a bit jealous/left behind. When my dad did an OU degree years ago my mum was worried that he'd meet loads of more interesting people and leave her.

Hersetta - did you have fun at your leaving drinks? Hope Caitlin feels better soon. Fingers crossed that she gets lots of work.

Glad the business is taking off conker. Don't work too hard.

Hi all, sorry haven't been on for a while, been very busy with an ever mobile and mischeif making Joseph!

Things here are going well, he's still not eating much with baby lead weaning but seems to be steadily putting on weight so not too concerned. He weight 25lbs so he's not small! I sometimes think he just gets bored of eating and would rather be off playing, he can't sit still for more than 2 mins before he's struggling to be off again!

Tasha, sorr yoyur dp is being like this. I wonder if there is a lot of truth in what people have sggested about your life getting on track and him feeling left out maybe?? It's not fair to treat you like this though, not when you have the boys and your course to deal with, it must be very very hard.

I see a lot of us are having relationship issues. Knickers and Violet, me and dh are going through the same thing. We do adore eachother and have always been best friends but sometimes it does seem hard to be nice to dh when he is expecting sex and I've been running round after Joe all day (and all bloody night lately !) As much as I love being a mummy I do think it has had a bad effect upon our relationship, I'm just hoping that gets easier as ds is more able to make sense of things and we are able to get more done for our selves but maybe I'm being idealistic and a tad optimistic! I think we have just come to realise that this year has been very hard with ds being very high needs and grumpy for the first 9 months. It was a bit like walking on egg shells in our house and I was constantly taking it out on dh. Anyway, things are steadily improving although no sign of my sex drive, much to dh's disapproval!

Hersetta, poor Caitlin, hope her cold gets better soon. I'm sure she'll do very well with the modelling, she is very very pretty. I know all mums think their babies are good looking but I honestly don't think anyone would have wanted to see my ds's grumpy face scowling at them in an advert! He is so handsome and has got beautiful eyes but all the faffing around for proffessional photos and unwanted attention would have him in tears in no time! Miserable so and so! Mind you, he has dramatically improved since crawling, he is rather smiley now but is still very clingy but I guess that's normal at this age.

Tasha, hope ds chest infection is better soon, it must be putting more pressure on you which isn't good. I'm sorry he seems to get a lot of chest infections, poor wee lad has gone through a lot as it is. He is so handsome though, he looks so cheeky!

Right better go I hear an awake baby

Hi All

hersetta - good luck with the baby modeling. i'm sure your cutie Caitlin will get some jobs. My friends sister's daughter used to get tonns of work, but found the auditions waits long and tiring.

Gill- hope you get your AF, I would love another too, but it's a real catch 22, sometimes i think it's just way too soon. I find the 2 i have hard enough, unless they are being adorable and good. not often enough.

Tash - maybe ds3 just takes after you in the weight, your quite tiny arn't you? I used to worry and worry about ds1 but he really never will be more than underweight, he has plenty or energy so he must be healthy, I just watch that he doesn't slip any more underweight. Dp was like it all his life too.
maybe your dp needs to take a leaf from you, and get a new intrest or hobby?

LL is going great- finally sleeping really well. i think it being winter here means we all want to just stay in bed, normallly we aren't up till 8;30am which I LOVE.
He is really expressing himself pointing and trying to talk, the other night i was trying to feed him some bits of chicken but he wasn't having it and really whiny and wanted to get out of highchair. Finally got him out and he grabbed a chicken drumstick and ate it cave man style ala Dad, LOL he knows what he wants.

LL wants the keyboard now-mmmm bye--hope everyone a good weekend.

Hi all - i had a very nice time at my leaving drinks on Thursday. Got home at around 12.15am so not too bad. Was up with Caitlin at 7.30 and didn't have a hangover which was a right result.

We had a very nice weekend which included our first 1st birthday party from our NCT group - can't beleive they are about to turn 1 actually!!. All the babies were very well behaved although Caitlin let me down slightly by doing an explosive poo just as we were leaving which required a full change of clothes!

Cailtin s much better although she still has a touch of a cough and a runny nose but it's not stopping her sleeping and I haven't heard as much as a loud sigh out of her for the last two nights.

MeandmyJoe - hopefully Caitlin will take to modelling well as she loves having her photo taken. She is a right little madam as soon as she sees a camera and smiles away at it like a mad thing.

Hope everyone is well and had a great weekend in the sunshine.

Hey Hersetta, glad the leaving drinks were enjoyable and you weren't got up in the middle of the night ! I'm afraid I've not read all the months of previous posts, but was wondering where you were off to workwise?

Any news on the AF front Gill ?

Just checked out Caitlin's picture when I was adding a new one of Pads on and she's such a sweetie !! Hope she gets some work. Paddy hasn't so far as we've been asked to go and be seen but always been on bloomin' holiday at the time so it's obviously not meant to be !

Hi TT - hope everything is going well with your pregnancy.

I start my new job on 18th August - it's at a brokers in Broadgate so much more convinient as my trains go into Liverpool Street so i can be in the office within a minute so no more having to catch the horrible tube.

Thanks for your comment about CCaitlin - she certainly knows it though and really plays up to people when she knows she is being looked at. Paddy is a cutie too!

Oooooh Gill any news????

Really ? DH works in Broadgate for a 4 letter brokers beginning with I if this rings any bells. Will you still be doing the same sort of job though ? Am laughing about Caitlin playing up. Pads is the same. If someone takes his fancy in the supermarket or wherever, he's started doing this head on the side cheeky grin at them which works everytime. Funny how they behave. He was a little wotsit this morning though. During the usual frenzy of trying to get us all ready this morning I took his nappy off up in my room and then carried him down to his, popped him in his cot (only place that he remains contained) while I grabbed a clean nappy out of the drawer next to him. As I did so he wee'd all over the corner of his bed like a dog urinating up a lamp post. Then gave me the biggest smile ever. Could have killed him !!

Hey what a coincidence - i am starting with a four letter brokers beginning with I!!! I'll be doing the same sort of thing - what dept does your DH work in?

Your description of Paddy grinning at strangers could have been written about Caitlin. She is at her worst in a high chair in a pub or restaurant. She lookes around until she fixes on someone she like the look of and stares and them with a small smile on her face. i always know when they have made some sort of contact with her as she wrinkles her nose and the small smile turns into a huge beam. She is the biggest attention seeker I have ever seen.

Ooh little monkey - they do know exactly how to pick their moments don't they?

ds is just the same too - i wonder how they decide which people they like the look of and who to fixate on, cause its not always either women or men, young or old.

Hahahhaha so they're all these little smiling show-offs then ! Paddy doesn't have a 'type' either. I think children have a built-in detector about people and know instantly who genuinely likes them. It's amazing how enamoured he can become with someone seemingly instantaneously, only for the person accompanying the object of his affections to comment how babies ALWAYS go for this person.

Good luck in your new role at I* then Hersetta. DH is indeed a broker. A gas broker at that, or I believe it's technically called 'UK Power'. They really are all the same though, x number of people (mainly men) round a desk, all with stupid nicknames. Exceedingly stereotypical!! He's been there a good few years now since they bought his company. Fed up with the job but loves the team he works with as they've been together for about 10 years almost and have no turnover of staff which is amazing.

Ds is motoring now with his speech. He is now saying ta, cat (ca), gone (goh) and mama. He still doesn't say dada though, I keep trying to get him to copy but he just looks at me.

UKI - v of you staying in bed til 8:30! 6am is a lay in for us these days.

TT - AF is due tomorrow at the earliest and 1st Aug at the latest. I'll keep you all posted.

Wow, am extremely impressed with your DS. We get Dada, Mama and I think Nana but definitely nothing else. I know he understands me as I can ask him where something is, his ball for example, and he'll go and get it but no sign of speech !

So, we've got another few days to sit out yet before we know if it's panic time eh? Either way, we'll try and hold your hand xx

It's come on so quickly. If you'd asked me 3 days ago I'd have said his only word is mama.

Thanks, I might need it. I'm getting nervous now.

Hope you get the result you want Gill, although life has funny ways of working out well whatever happens.

That sounds great with the speech Gill - Ds says baa when he sees (or hears) sheep - no problem with his hearing certainly, says naah for horses, and nah (i know not much difference but usually enough to know which he means) for no - for every time he sticks stones in his mouth or heads off up the stairs etc etc - i know we should have stair gates by now, but we had planned to move. and da/ma/ta - anything that ends in ah really seems to cover everything else he wants to say.

Changed ds over to his new forward facing car seat this week - what a difference. No more crying on longer journeys unless i sing non-stop - now he can see me so is a million times happier and sits and looks out the window and chats away. couldnt believe the instant improvement to car journeys.

i've always wondered how brokers actually work - think they should make a fly on the wall documentary about them sometimes for those of us who are curious.

Hahahahaah how brokers work ? Let me enlighten you...

Broker: "Oi Shag, got an offer for summer '08 at fours"

Trader: Done.

Broker: "Blinding mate, now let's go and get p*ssed"

Ingenious really....

(sorry DH !!!)

Hi folks sorry I've been a bit awol of late, not having such a good time these days, think it's pnd. Got that appointment at the docs later for those blood test results so should get some answers, hopefully.

James is doing fine, he took his first steps yesterday (to the fridge- must take after his mam) he now says go (gone) cuh (cup) etc, he can finally feed himself his bottle and his cup of juice. He drags all the cushions off the settee and falls asleep on them for his naps, rather than me holding him. Little steps to independence I'm encouraging right now.

Unfortunately his routine has gone to crap since I've been feeling bad, last night he was playing til 11.30pm. His appetite is huge right now, he's been having three huge meals, two bottles of milk, a cup of watery juice and several snacks of biscuits, ricecakes, raisins, fruit, and whatever he can scavenge from us when we eat too. But he's looking slimmer than ever (for him) he's still chubby but no-one's commenting that he's a BIG boy anymore, which is reassuring. He weighs an effing TON though, he's solid and scarily strong with proper palpable little muscles under his babyfat.

Hope everyone is ok, I just had a quick scan through. Gill, hope you get the result you're hoping for. TT glad everything's going to plan, love that pic of paddy in his tux. Conker, hope the kilts are bringing in some money now. Tasha, best of luck with your assingment, just do your best I'm sure you'll be fine. Hersetta best of luck with the new job, hope you're happy there. Uki, your lo sounds like a character, chicken drumsticks indeed, my god... Joe, violet, tasha, how are things with your respective dp's now? Sometimes I think men are more trouble than they're worth! How's lexie's walking going, Lizzie? is she doing any more than 10 steps?

Bye for now x

No sign on AF yet. Dh commented last night that he'd been worrying.

I need another safety gate while it's hot. Our living room is in the back by the kitchen and to get a good breeze through the house we open the back door and all the downstairs windows. At the moment we can keep ds from going into the hallway by putting the highchair (which has a toy basket underneath) between the armchair and sofa. It will only be a matter of time though before he works out that he can crawl through/underneath it. Might get that sorted out next week if I can persuade dh.

I found exactly the same thing with dd and car seats. I actually had her in the front passenger seat til she was about 10 months old when I had my old Clio. I didn't know you were supposed to put them in the back. Then when I got the CMAX I was told you can't disable the air bag and anyway you should always put kids in the back. She still easily fit her first stage car seat so when I put her in the back she screamed all the way home. It was horrible. As soon as we put her in a forwards facing she was fine. Ds has been in a forwards facing for ages cos he got far too wide for his first stage car seat and was squashed up.

Lol TT. BTW, wasn't dh a dp before? Are you married now? Apologies if I'm mistaken.

Well done to James on his first steps and feeding himself. Bless him for falling asleep on the cushions. Hope your blood test reveals something that can be treated. Have you been to the docs about your suspected pnd? Don't worry about James' routine, just look after yourself. Glad James is eating well. Alex would eat all day long if we gave him the chance. I'm going to get some bigger food tubs for his dinners at the weekend as I'm sure he'll eat much more dinner than he does now. Maybe it will help make him sleep in a bit later if he's fuller.

Gill, I'm with you completely on our Houdini-like children. Paddy can spot an open door/stair gate from a bloomin' mile off and heads straight towards it at warp factor... Can't leave the back door open as he's obsessed with the garden and will just stand at the french windows from the kitchen staring out and banging on the glass like a caged animal. Bonkers child.

Oh and DH is very much just that - has been for eight years now the lucky fella !

Must have been thinking of someone else

How's paddy getting on with the cm/nursery? BTW - do you have a bump yet?

Sagpuss - if you're lurking, hope work's improved and you're not too stressed. Let us know how you're getting on.

Just got back from the docs, apparently I've got both pernicious anaemia and pnd (I don't do things by halves, me) So at least it's being treated now. Yay