Feb 08 "Sore nips & no naps"

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Sorry guys- it is better with the date non?

how do you lot do it?? i don't ever seem to get ANY time to myself just recently, feel like i have abandoned you all Haven't even read the thread yet so i ahve no idea whats going on with anyone! again.....

Just wanted to say hi and hope everyone is coping ok, its hard work isnt it, DD has turned into someone i dont know and i hate myself for seeming like i am telling her off every five minutes Still DS2 is a star and i couldnt ask for any better, he sleeps wakes for a feed, has a look about, brings up a bit of wind then goes back to sleep......can they have too much sleep do you think?

Right off to have a relaxing bath....(trying to sooth my labor induced piles.. anyone else in the same boat?) going to have to tell the doc when i go, they really are painful

Much love to all xx

Hi Jay-

You are doing just fine-!!!!we don;t feel abandoned we all understand how hard it is to get the time!!!! its good to hear from you though

Sorry you DD is playing you up more than usual i am sure she is just testing the waters!!!

i also have piles still- has then from bout 6mths preg and are agony!!!!!

Will be telling doc also next week!!!

Good luck with catching up with tread btw!!!!

Took DD to be weighed today she is 10lb7oz (ages 7weeks) so doing well- She was 7lb12.5 at birth!!!

Had a look at DS's weight chart- he was %lb8 at birth and at 7 weekd was 10lb 11oz- so he was a real fatty!!!!!lol I cannot believe he was so small once upon a time!!!!

Hope everyone is ok btw

Sorry should say DS was 5lb8oz at birth- that will teach me to not read before posting

just woke up with a start having crashed out on sofa. Can't believe I agreed to Tesco delivery between 9 and 11pm tonight - they couldn't make yesterday's slot that I booked - got to stay awake now for that before the blissful "dream feed" - can't start that and then get interrupted ... DH is out at a work do. Have to admit to dereliction of duties ... LO is in his moses basket wearing a tiny pair of jeans and still in his daisy roots shoes .. not sure if I should wake him up and put him in babygro or just leave him in day clothes till the morning...

Isn't it amazing how the fatigue just overwhelms you? Anyway just relieved that I can snatch the sleep where necessary rather than suffering from the dreaded insomnia which I have had in the past. It's true that sleep deprivation and depression are strongly linked and lying awake for hours on end is HORRIBLE. Hope nobody is falling into that trap ... just a killer.

Hopefully these LO's stomachs will start to be a little more satisfied at night over the next few weeks and the night wakings start to lessen. We shall live in hope!!!

Amen to that mutha!!

Right, am on the advanced course today - trying to get ds2 to sleep while ds1 demands my attention. Deep breath now...

Hi all, hope everyone;s ok and inside out of the miserable weather!!

Was sposed to be tidying bedrooms and cupboards this morning but got distracted setting up our new sky broadband and then obviously needed to catch up!!

Smithy - my ds1 is 3.5 and it is a nightmare and I've shed tears over how much I've thought I'm damaging him etc by having another but a few more weeks in I've calmed down and am just trying to go with it. I tell him off when he's particularly bad but the minor stuff I ignore as a lot of it is purely attention driven. I praise good things etc and the great thing is that he adores ds2 and loves looking out for him which is good. He has just started getting himself dressed in the mornings which is fab cause it gives us a chance to remiind him how clever he is and big boy etc. I think you just have to take a deep breath sometimes and remind yourself that you are only human and that he's not gonna remember a lo of this. Or as I keep telling myself - he can spend his trust fund on counselling!!!!

DS2 seems to have come through his jabs ok which is good. He's now 11lb 9oz so coming on smashingly!! He's smiling and gurgling lots now and gets into a bit of a paddy if ds1 and I leave the room!!!!

Egg - ds2 has 7-8 feeds a day but he only bf for 15mins at a time. He goes 2-3 hrs between a feed and had about 5 feeds between 7am-6pm and then 2-3 at night although he appears to have cut out his evening feed and the time between his night feeds is stretching out so hopefully we will be able to start cutting these out. As they get older they cut the no of feeds as they tend to have a bit more at each one and they start building up their fat stores etc. Plus a baby won't sleep if they're hungry!!!!

Hi all, hope everyone;s ok and inside out of the miserable weather!!

Was sposed to be tidying bedrooms and cupboards this morning but got distracted setting up our new sky broadband and then obviously needed to catch up!!

Smithy - my ds1 is 3.5 and it is a nightmare and I've shed tears over how much I've thought I'm damaging him etc by having another but a few more weeks in I've calmed down and am just trying to go with it. I tell him off when he's particularly bad but the minor stuff I ignore as a lot of it is purely attention driven. I praise good things etc and the great thing is that he adores ds2 and loves looking out for him which is good. He has just started getting himself dressed in the mornings which is fab cause it gives us a chance to remiind him how clever he is and big boy etc. I think you just have to take a deep breath sometimes and remind yourself that you are only human and that he's not gonna remember a lo of this. Or as I keep telling myself - he can spend his trust fund on counselling!!!!

DS2 seems to have come through his jabs ok which is good. He's now 11lb 9oz so coming on smashingly!! He's smiling and gurgling lots now and gets into a bit of a paddy if ds1 and I leave the room!!!!

Egg - ds2 has 7-8 feeds a day but he only bf for 15mins at a time. He goes 2-3 hrs between a feed and had about 5 feeds between 7am-6pm and then 2-3 at night although he appears to have cut out his evening feed and the time between his night feeds is stretching out so hopefully we will be able to start cutting these out. As they get older they cut the no of feeds as they tend to have a bit more at each one and they start building up their fat stores etc. Plus a baby won't sleep if they're hungry!!!!

Sorry guys!!! Damn new broadband!!!

DD1 has just gone down for a nap after a very pooey morning and I'm poking myself in the eye with half a flake egg. Classy!
We've been staying at my Mum's over the last week and it has been great having help with them both (and getting away from here for a while - we may move soon though!)
DD2 wasn't colicky there at all. She slept in the sling almost every night so that I got my food and she went to sleep fine next to me as usual.
Then we all caught a cold DD2's sleeping habits have gone right out of the window as everytime I lie her down she starts snuffling and choking, I've had to resort to sleeping upright with her on my front. Even then she is waking lots and last night was wide awake from 1.40am to 3am, something she's never done before.

What can you do to help a 7 week old with a cold? I am stuck as DD1 didn't get ill for months. I'm avoiding her first jabs on monday as she is already poorly and I don't want to make it worse. Her granuloma has flared up again but I'm not too concerned now I know what it is.
At least the screaming all night has stopped even if her vomit has got worse. She's very happy when she's not ill!

DD1 has stopped hitting her now which is also nice and DD1 is a changed toddler. She helps out with DD2, strokes her and gives her lots of kisses. It is such a big relief to see her back to normal again.

The person I know from RL who had the leap year baby is Arhian, she hasn't been having much fun as she got mastitis then thrush so her DD is a very sicky baby. We were hoping to see her over easter but they were too poorly to travel. Thrush on your nips is awful, it takes ages to go away! I even ended up sterilising my bras in napisan.

I'll stop boring everyone now!

My writing is awful today - must eat more chocolate!

Lucy we had this with ds2. Can you elevate the cib/cot as this will mean she's not sleeping on her back. Also we got nasal drops. You put them in each nostril and it helps them clear their snot - yuk!! Also if there is a plug socket nearby, you could get a plug in vapouriser. You can't use the kavol drops in or anything though.

Are steamy bathrooms quite good too?

Count - our 3.5yos sound very similar!! I also have to keep reminding myself that ds1 is still very little and I have to cut him some slack. The temptation is to assume that he is being unco-operative when he won't do something but really he just wants to know that his mummy will still help him.

Ooh hello Lucy, speak of the devil.

Have decided to come on quick whilst DD is sleeping in her chair, although she's making funny little noises, so she'll probably be awake soon, wanting her feed. Having a bit of a dull moment though, cos can't seem to remember which side I BF her off last.

Am gonna have to put her to sleep in her cot tonight. Up until now she's been in her basket, but the last few nights she's been waking herself up fighting with the basket. All I can her is her kicking the basket, or flinging her arms out. It doesn't even matter if she's swaddled or not, as she seems to be a proper escape artist at getting out of it.

Oh well best go, last nights washing up is still by the sink, and I best do it before DH gets home from work.

jays, am with you on the sore bum, but not sure if its actually piles yet. v v painful to go to loo and a bit of bleeding but nothing full blown yet. i've become obsessed with the fibre i'm eating and my diet consists almost entirely of alpen and dried apricots. my mum, bless her, brought up a morrocon stew of lamb and PRUNES on monday

feel v low. stopped bf and husband off work now for a fortnight and i feel like i never get a look in. i know that its wonderful that he's spending so much time with her, and that in a few weeks time, with him back at work, i would bow down and beg for the help he gives, but at the moment i just feel like a spare bloody part and that i never spend any time with her. thats such a hard bloody thing to write and i know its such a crap moan, but she's my little girl too, and i dont know how to tell him.

Count and Beany my DS1 is the same age as your two and he is really pushing it! I keep thinking that it won't last and that he is just being a little boy, i have felt like i am neglecting him as well so for the last 3 nights Dp has Been giving Ds2 a bottle of formula at 7pm, the cluster feeding was getting too much and i wasn't giving Ds1 his bath let alone me get chance to have one. Anyway Ds2 has his 6ozs of formula at 7 and sleeps till 1/2 and it hasn't affected my supply or caused nipple confusion so everyone's happy

Its nice to be able to read Ds1 his bedtime story again

hello all. managing to get some online time, looked for a postnatal thread and couldn't believe it when realised i'd missed so much already. Have read last few pages and wishe i could get on here more often as its SO lovely hearing everyones experiences of dealing with same issues - cluster feeding/colds/missing time with ds1 etc etc Saskia - glad op went well, its horrible having to watch them go through so much when they're little isn't it. Can't remember who said about the canula but brought back vivid memories of holding down ds1 when we had a meningitis scare when he was 4mo - after 3 nights in hospital and several diff drs turned out rash was form of eczma !!!
Am enjoying ds2 so much more than I did ds1 at this stage - am much more relaxed and just more aware that all these stages are so short that I am trying to enjoy all the cuddling and cluster feeding rather than getting stressed out like last time. Anyway, am still in pjs, ds2 is asleep so am gonna try and squeeze a bath in (ds1 at nursery) before he wakes up!

Just wanted to say Tyaca I think you have to tell your DH that you are overjoyed that he is loving spending time with your DD but that you want to cuddle and feed her too. Otherwise it will all build up and you will yell at him (if you are like me) and then he will be scared to ever help out again. Yes it's fab that he is so good with her but she is your baby too. Go and have a chat with him (over some wine now that you can drink more if you are not bf!!!).

Have put a couple of new pics on profile.

Hi All,

Thanks for your kind wishes regarding Marcus. I can honestly say that that was the worst weekend of my life. Nothing prepares you for the utter fear and desperation you feel when they need surgery. Thankfully we had an excellent surgeon and anaesthetist.

Sarah ? No it didn?t feel odd leaving him at home, but he did occupy my thoughts the entire time. I returned with lots of outfits and presents for him.

Princellama ? Do you mind if I ask you about your friend?s baby, how long was it from diagnosis to surgery? I hope that the baby is fine now.

Jo ? I hope that your LO has recovered, the need for 4 cannulas sounds horrendous. It was bad enough for me to see just one sticking out of Marcus?s little hand.

Egg ? Initially I bought the SMA gold bottles and teats from my hospital (The Portland). They have the teats in boxes of 100 and the milk in boxes of 24 * 100ml bottles. We returned home with what our boot would accommodate after the space needed for luggage and presents. We have a coupe and only managed to get four boxes in. Subsequent orders were placed over the telephone, and I used to send a minicab to pick up the milk. Hubby was in our local Mothercare one day (Weybridge), and to his surprise they had single boxes containing 12 bottles and 12 teats. This would be ideal for you if you only need them for emergencies. We used to get our supplies from Mothercare after discovering this as it was cheaper. I keep a couple of bottles in my changing bag as they are so convenient.

Yesterday was a traumatic day as he had his first round of jabs. When we returned home he just wanted to be held all the time. Although he would appear to be asleep at times, if I put him down he howled. I finally managed to eat breakfast at around 3pm. It was exhausting, and we shall be repeating this in four weeks time, I can?t wait!

Hmm, it seems that washable poster paints do NOT come off hands...

Am having a tearful day ..... What is it with these hormones eh???? Personally I blame bf, it is sending me a bit loopy! Every little thing sets me off - eg was playing cd of lullabies to LO (cos am crap and do not know any proper nursery rhymes) and there was a reaaly sad one about a baby whose mummy had gone away and the daddy was singing to comfort it........

..... oh no, it's making me well up again...

Sally - I haven't had a day since ds1 was born where I would have been immune to that. You should have seen the carnage here when we watched Finding Nemo and his mum died - waahhhhhhh!!!

Egg - love your pics. at the power to the people piccie!!

Ok here. Dh and ds1 still engaged in mortal combat though and am fed up with bailing out dh as he has started having a go at ds1 again and it's all gone into meltdown. Bah.
Have spent a lot of the day with a friend, slagging off our dh's, so feel a bit better. Therapy, innit?

Mine is the other way round in that DH rarely tells DS1 off (only when he hits the plasma tv ) and gives him biscuits for breakfast if he has a tantrum and refuses weetabix or toast.

Having a pretty poor afternoon. Feel cack with cold and cough etc, head hurts, babies crying for no apparent reason, DS1 spent all afternoon trying to poo, occasional tears etc and has finally managed it HALLELUJAH (been trying since last night). DS2 no poo for 48 plus hours.

Hope everyone is looking forward to the weekend.

This too shall pass, this too shall pass, this too shall pass...........

What a rotten day for everyone! I'm so sorry! May I recommend vast quantities of wine (if not breastfeeding), chocolate and prozac (again if not BF! )

Respect to all of you with more than one, breastfeeding and managing to get on here and post meaningful messages (unlike me who can't remember a name from the forum down to the message input! ) - hence, apologies for the generic stuff!

I can only say how much I appreciate lots of people being in the same, barely floating, boat as me...we are not alone!

I second a steamy bathroom for clearing snot. We were in there at 5 this morning - major achievement getting a huge bogey out finally!!

Hi all!

It's been fun and games here the last few days! Not only have I been puked on on numerous occasions but yesterday whilst I was changing a pooey nappy ds3 projectile pooed on me - oh joy! I can't believe the speed it came out of his behind - he was on his changing table and got the floor too but luckily hit his baby gym (which can go in the washing machine) and not the carpet. I'm currently sitting here with a black jumper on which has no less than 5 white milky patches - stinks a bit too - is there such a thing as a yummy mummy do you think.

Today, after reading some of your successes re putting babies in their cots for naps I thought I would bite the bullet and give it a go. No way!!! He was not having it. I'm comforting myself with the fact that my other two were sleeping in the pram downstairs for naps at this age and turned out to be really good nappers so I'm going to try that tomorrow. Andrew is however down for the night in his bed upstairs now so at least I can have the evening to myself. He's still getting up 2 or 3 times a night though.

I'm another one with a 3 year 5 month ds. He's actually been fine. However, I think because he already had a brother he's used to not being the sole center of attention and he has his brother as a companion. I am aware that it would be easy to neglect him - ds1 is quite demanding wanting to be played with, read too etc where as ds2 is quite happy to potter around by himself or play with his big brother. So I've been making sure to give him plenty of attention - he loves helping me - he's always bringing me breast pads when I'm feeding the lo which is sweet.

I hope everyone has a nice weekend - and if you're feeling down just think - at least we're not pregnant!