Oct 2007 - This little piggy had pureed butternut squash and a slice of pear...

[alicet]

Well thought I should start a new thread in time to link it on the old one!!!

congrats Dal. I hope both mum and baby are doing well. They have picked such a beautiful name.
I can't wait to be an aunty, but am a long off that just yet !

After such lovely news I'm not sure I should post this, but I need to get this sadness off my chest..forgive me..but terribly sadly we have had the opposite news today...a good friend (s-i-ls bf)was told on Weds that her baby (32 wks gestation) wasnt growing and that they wanted to cs on friday, but as they couldnt guarantee a scbu bed in the same hospital until Monday; as she had been through it all before with her first child (a 27wk preemie due to preeclampsia who fortunately survived) she elected to wait until Monday so she could be certain to be with her baby...tragically when she went for a pre-surgery scan yesterday her little girl no longer had a heartbeat beyond words...
..........I have been cuddling Alex to sleep almost guiltily thanking heaven for my good fortune and so desperately sorry for our friend and her family....
..sorry to unload on you all ....

Thats truly awful news floria, I don't know what to say, your poor poor friend, I can't imagine anything worse , I don't know why in this world awful things have to happen to such nice people. So sad , we are all so lucky to have our healthy happy babies. Hope you don't feel too sad floria, take comfort from your cuddles with Alex, i'm sure that with friends like you she will get through this somehow, can't imagine getting over it but all I can hope is she gets through it somehow. Got to go to bed now, just wanted to reply to you, night floria x

Hi Floria - I hope yr in bed now and not reading this. That is very sad and shocking for yr friend. And also for you. I think stories like this really strike a chord now - cos of the love you have for yr little one but also because of the sadness and grief you've also gone through. Sorry if I'm not putting this very well.. but think I can empathise with what yr saying about feeling guilty. Our babies really are very precious and we should never take that for granted.

I'm sure you will be a great comfort to your friend. Heartbreaking.

Floria- thinking of your friend at this terrible time...I can't imagine anything worse. Things like this really emphasis how lucky we/I am to have my 2 gorgeous boys.
So sad for you all x

Dal - congrats on being an auntie! It's fab isn't it!! You poor sil but at least they are both safe and well. I agree with the others, what a lovely name xxx

Strawberry -nothing strappy fell out of the wardrobe but at least they sort of went with the dress

The Christening was fab, I am now officially a very proud Godmother to Charlotte Rose. Dh took photos so will share them when he's ab;e to put them on. He wasn't very well but Henry slept through the service (no doubt he will scream through his though and Oliver was wonderfully behaved (not like the little boy who tried to climb into the font!!)

WAs nice to catch up with all my friends family as not seen them since her wedding 5 years ago.

We all got home shattered so we had a lazy afternoon watvhin come dine with me -anyone else watch this? It's my time in front of the telly but I think I may have converted dh!

Today we are off to play at one of Ollie's friends and another friend this afternoon. He's got a better social life than me!

Love to all
x

Thanks for your kind words everyone, so late at night too...I really needed to tell people who would understand, I knew you all would,and writing it meant that I could go to bed and though I cried myself to sleep (for her loss and pain and for the memory of my own...ejb, you put it very well)I did eventually sleep.
I found Erins thread for bereaved mothers here on MN and there were some wonderful poems on there that I think I will print out for J and her dh....I'm just getting ready to go to the florists to get something to send her..What else can you do????[at a loss emoticon]except tell her that you understand and are there for her(says she who is bu*ing off to South Africa on Wednesday so wont even be here to support her at the funeal[guilty emoticon]). Life...sometimes...[shakes head in despair emoticon]

Muppet; Glad the christening went so well... Charlotte is very lucky to have you for a Godmother. Sorry H was poorly...there is always one who tries to climb into the font isnt there? Good on Ollie for not joining inHave a lovely day of play dates.

Floria - that is such sad news about your friend. I think the poems sound a lovely thing to send

Muppet - I love come dine with me too. It's on for an hour on thursday evenings now. It always makes me think what i would cook if i went on, and then i get very hungry, so it's not always a good idea to watch!

Well, I got up very early today, to do a practice run to see how easy it would be to drop DS off at the nice childminder I've found, and get into work. Having not done the morning commute for over 6 months now, it was a real eye-opener, and I think i may have to do everything half an hour earlier! So i'm going to try again tomorrow (and try and find a nice childminder closer to home... there was just something about this one I really liked tho....)

oh floria how terribly sad and heartbreaking for your friend.

a very wise person once told me that a child who is born sleeping is really a angel who paves the way for other special children to be born,

it didnt offer much at the time. (i just wanted my baby, didnt care about anyone else) but i always find that if i think of a sleeping baby as a angel it makes me feel a tiny bit better. because i know that i was sent george and that other women were sent there beautiful babies because of that special little angel. who didnt have a chance of life but who will also be remembered and loved.

dont know if this any help but its what made life a bit more bearable for me

So sorry to hear your news FT, how very sad

Newmama0 - you have put that across very well, its put me on the verge of tears. What a very wise person it was who told you that

oh flora i am so sorry for your friend. Its an unimaginable feeling, but i hope they'll be ok.
I love the idea of sleeping babies being angels Newmama, it made me want to cry. Very wise words indeed.
Hugs to you Flora
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A quick post as just as I have sat down Sam has woken (yes back to sleeps - long story). Had to send you great big hugs Floria. You are right that all you can do is be there for her if and when she needs you. And I'm sure you know from your own experience that she will need this support over many months and years so the fact you are off to SA is neither here or there - no guilt please!!!!

Newmama I wondered from your post if you have been through something similar - big hugs if so...

Muppet glad christening went well and yes I like come dine with me too - wasn't Brian Moore a classic!!!! Not sure he realised quite what a tw*t he was did he but dh and I were creasing up watching it!

Dal congrats! My sis was going to call her lo Mia if she was a girl.... Boy though and still holding in there!

Will be back later - dh out tonight so I can MN to my heart's desire! WIll catch up with the rest of you then....

Just quickly ... have just seen your news FT ... am so sad for your friend. I do agree with alice, though: just because you're not there for the funeral doesn't make you a bad friend for her - she will need your support afterwards too.

If it's any help, these are the words are wrote in the card to my friend whose baby died after 2 days in SCBU in November:

Words are useless.
I hope you and your family receive all the love, care and support you need.
It is so so sad that Finley won't be with you in this world.
All of you take your time to grieve, Shut out the world until you are
ready to begin to join in again.
With love and sympathy to you. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

p.s. exam is this Thursday, so studying lots (well, as much as Mairwen will allow!) ... finger is healing nicely, though it's a very odd shape ... and Madam is going mad for philadelphia sandwiches!

Dal - congrats on your news!

Rhaid i fi fynd dysgu Cymraeg! Hwyl fawr!

Hello crochet! Good luck for this Thurs...

OK so haven't had a chance to catch up properly - been packing parcels for ebay and drinking wine! And off to bed now lovely ladies so must love you and leave you...

hi all

still full of cold!!!!! and just done the biggest pile of ironing ever!

and stressing because one of the kids at the boys nursery has chicken poxs, so keep checking the boys

they are geting fed up with me getting them naked every 2 mins

also ds1 (3) has taken to wearing his superman outfit everywhere! i have to wash it everynight and he changes into as soon as he gets home from nursery

hope everyone is ok

crochet good luck for thur and glad the finger is on the mend [good luck face]

dal hows ur sis and mia (just love the name) my sis is due anytime now (another boy) so that means i will have 3 nephews no girls as of yet!

hi to everyone else

i dont think ive had chicken poxs does that mean i might catch it?

because i think if i get the chicken poxs as well as the nose blowing, sneezing ,coughing fits and the superman outfit. i may just never leave the house again!

mewmama0 - sil good thanks, understandably tired, she went a bit dizzy in the shower yesterday cause shes still a bit weak as she lost around a litre of blood but they say she just needs to rest, were going to give her a transfusion but decided shes ok now. Mia doing great, very alert and feeding a dream

Dal; I lost a lot when I had Alex, they put me onna drip for 5 hours but I passed out for the first time in my life in the shower (and again on the way back to my bed)I looked like the bride of dracula for a day but I was fine within 48 hours...I'm sure your sil will be back to normal tomorrow. Wonderful that Mia is doing so well.

Newmama;Thank you for the message from your wise friend, it made me cry....and sorry but,yes, if you haven't already had it you can get chicken pox. Having said that my Mum was a childrens nurse and nursed dozens of kids with chicken pox as well as my brother and I but never caught it herself.

Crotchet; that was another beautiful message that made me cry, thank you. And good luck on Thursday.

Thankyou all again for your support, You are right of course Alice, the time she will need understanding from someone who has been there, like me, is in a month or two when everyone seems to think thatt either you should be "over" it, or stops mentioning it as if it never happened, as if that makes it all better...(oh and it appears that I got the wrong story on Friday, it was the hospital that said they wanted to cs her then but couldnt because there was no theatre time free and the scbu beds were likely to be taken up with twins they were delivering that day...it wasnt Js decision, doesnt make the outcome any easier to bear though )

Well we are almost packed for tomorrow night (7pm flight Manchester to Frankfurt,10pm flight to J'burg, 11.30am flight to Durban)I probably wont be able to post tomorrow when I realise just what I havent packed and do a mad dash round..so have a good fortnight all....see you in May with a 7 month old!

Floria have a lovely lovely time and please try not to feel too guilty about missing the funeral - you will be a lifeline to her when you get back I'm sure but also in being there for her I'm sure it will also bring back a bit of how you felt losing Robyn... So try to really enjoy the break and your special time with Alex and dh. Lots of love xxx

Hello newmama and dal!

Newmama Floria is right you could get chicken pox. And I have to say if I were you I would be taking your children to play with every lo with chicken pox as the earlier they get it the milder it is! Sam (ds1) had it when he was 15 months and barely turned a hair

Oh and newmama pmsl at you washing the superman outfit every night!!!! Can just see me doing this for Sam in a years time...

Well I am off to post a lot of stuff I sold on ebay. I have to take the double biggy to fit all of it and Adam in!!! And this pm Adam has a 2 hour nursery visit so I have 2 WHOLE HOURS TO MYSELF!!!!! Not sure I'll know what to do with myself! The sensible thing would be to do some reading and sorting out in preparation for going back to work but f*ck that quite frankly!

ali im in big trouble forgot to turn the washer on last night so just had to hand wash the thing!!!! and now ive to try and get it dry before 11-30

dal poor sil i was quite lucky with both mine i didnt lose a lot of blood, but so that mia is doing fine, can i just say at a little girl i love pink but think i would scar george for life if i put him in a pink dress!!!!!!!!!

fl do try and enjoy yourself, yes it will be hard, but you and your friend both know that you will be around to offer support, for a long time. and so at your hols but not all the flights

big hello to everyone else

im trying to upload my profile (not a computer geek at all) but may have to wait for dh to get home then you can all have a nosy at my boys !!!!!!!

got to go and see if i can dry the superman outfit

Floria - really horrible news. I am so sorry for your friend and I'm sure as others have said it brings back the pain of Robyn and that you can begin to understand so much better than others. I agree that it's later that you will be most needed, when everyone else has moved on. Try and have a good holiday anyway - and tell me - did you ever get that cute as pie outfit for Alex? I saw it in Next - was lovely.

Newmama, oh dear!!! Supermother washes superman outfit in mad hurry um maybe you could buy another one to save some effort??

Alicet - spare 2 hours - caffe Nero????

Dal, great news on your niece! I love the name Mia too, wouldnt go with our surname though.

Crochetdiva, good luck with the exam!! and the finger!

J20, how was the weekend???

Out for lunch today. Have a good day, everyone!

morning all...
quick question... DS has a chesty cough that seems to be a little worse today than yesterday. Because of the whole thing abt over the counter cough meds for babies i'm worried abt what to give him to clear it up.

Any ideas...??

ps can't get an appointment at GP until monday by which time there is very little point.

Morning - should be studying ...

Mine - I've been giving Mairwen alpol and nurofen ... draping wet nappies with a splash of karvol / olbas oil over the radiators, and putting viks on her hest - good luk

sorry, my C doesn't work unless I hit it hard ... think I need to get the hoover on the keyboard! Probably a rogue sesame seed!