Jan '07 part 23: Is it a bird? Is it a plane? No! It's 2happy's flying shed!

[2happy]

Watch out cows, here it comes!

and I'll tell you something else if MN doesn't remove that fucking first choice advert with that fucking couple 'm going to report them for torture.

well i got a lovely card that ellie made at preschool and a card that dh obviously went to tesco's for at 7pm last night, it look slike a card you'd buy an 80year old with 'mother' on it no present except laughalot seems to realise how shit dh is at these things and she sent me a box of thorntons chocolates so i'm very about those and have hidden them

I went back to bed at 7.45 (after i had dressed and fed the girls) just woken up and house looks like a bomb has it and not sure where they are????

I agree first choice advert and that bloke reminds me of the bloke jennifer saunders is married to (he was in 'bottom' not rik mayall the other one)

Ok so who is trying for a baby and hasnt told this thread you know who you are its time to tell us .................................................................................................... .

Not me

Read all the news, and PMSL with the shed and earthquake stories !

DD made me a lovely card and bought me a necklace like hers and a hen doorstop (like a beanbag filled with wheat). When they get to a certain age its funny seeing what they choose to buy ......

Susie, I think you very eloquently put into words what a lot of us feel. DH and I to an extent lead seperate lives in that he always goes off and does his own thing (rugby on Friday night, football on Saturday all in the name of client entertaining ... and off to see his mother 3 and a half hours away today) and and just assumes its OK with me, whereas if I ever want to go anywhere by myself I have to book it in his diary otherwise I'd be stuffed !

TBH, this is just normal life for me and I maybe rightly or wrongly just accept it.

Anyway DD is looking over my shoulder which irritates me beyond belief and Ds has a smelly bum .... so all in all... time to go

Ooh and i think I've managed to stop the day time feeds now... just need to crack the night time and get him to sleep through, (Suzie, your DD sounds like an absolute doll !)

Morning all

Izzy gave me a lie in! I woke up in a panic, went into see if she was ok, and she was fast asleep at 9 am! Must have been all the middle of the night reading Maybe I will leave her books in her bed after all

She didn't wake up until 9:30. I heard banging, went to her door and saw all her animals and books on the floor, and watched as she was trying really hard to pull up her mattress at the corner. She was getting really frustrated it wouldn't shift! I pmsl

So we went for a walk, I felt horrible when all I could really see in the park were dads with their children. Still no further word from him, since his text yesterday afternoon. I am getting really worried that we won't be able to salvage it this time. I'm starting to feel really bitter and resentful towards him.

So, what have you all been up to so far today? Anyhitng nice? anything nice planned?

thanks for all your support. MAkes such a difference to be able to 'talk' about it.

HI Susie. It really doesn't help things for you that he works far away for long periods at a time. He sounds as though he is being an absolute ar$e, but you really need to speak to him face to face. Enjoy your beautiful dd's company today - she gave you a lie in - what a lovely mother's day present .

Hi all. DH has been pretty good today. He got a mother's day card personalised for me, and I got a lie in until 10am. Was woken up by P crying and came down and she just wanted me, which is quiite sweet on one hand, but on the other was that dh wasn't comforting her.

Eah hope you're feeling better later. Thorntons will help

Lal am intrigued.......

Hi all. Just got back from mums, went to the mothers day service Dad was taking and then had lunch with parents afterwards so have eaten a lot. Dairy Milk accompanying me now!

I had a card from Ellen this morning that was very sweet and DH had written it for her, he carried her downstairs as she had it in her hand and she gave it to me. It was me who got up at 5.30 though. Left her with my parents for usuall sunday night/monday and cos I'm in London Mon- Weds I won't actually see her until Thurs morning now.

Susie - bless Izzy giving you a lie in xx

Just about to write a complaint letter to southern electric as they have messed up our new energy accounts at this house and not kept me informed.

HI Vino . Bet you are great at writing complaint letters .
Hope everyone has had a nice weekend.

Evening.
susie - I'm sorry, but I think your dh is... well I don't know. To not only stay away, but to not even call you on your first ever mother's day? Don't let him make you feel like you're being the unreasonable one, you're not.

I got a lie in today, which was fab since ds2 was up at 4am!!! So I slept until 8.45, bliss. Then had ILs over for lunch, [insert adjective other than bliss]. Actually they were on pretty good form. And dh gave me some pants - hardly traditional mother's day present - guess who's desperate for some

Had a lovely day here too some nice flowers and some chocs yum yum ooh and a balloon.

Susie I hope you are ok what a pain these men can be. I guess it must be hard with the aspergers dident know much about it till recently when I statred reading up on it as we are having a few problems with ds. However it is no excuse for not being there on your first mothers day [sad. I think it needs to be a face to face thing maybe if someone could have your dd for a few hours whilst you try and sort it out.. Hope you are ok

evening -

its our 2nd mothers day (although still no excuse to be a shit)

2happy - at the pants!

Vin - how did the letters go, enjoy your e free night

Rgee - sounds as if you have had a nice day

Lal - a ballon ellie would love that (iirc I got a mothers day ballon 2 years ago obviously he attempted an effort that year!)

Cant remember who else has posted, had okay afternoon at my parents, came home late afternoon and insisted dh took girls out into garden for some fresh air and to leave me alone for 5mins, they were both a pita to put to bed tonight I ended up rocking H to sleep snuggled up in my lap (very unlike her)just making some tea and toast

Its my second mothers day 2happy, and he did the EXACT same thing last year. Only, it wasn't due to working, he went out and got pissed the night before, in Birmingham. I was so upset that it was my first ever mothers day. well, upset doens't come close actually. I went to church to see my mum. Turned on phone after service, and had 6 messages from him, saying her was on the way and how sorry he was... the last one saying, that he had turned round and gone back to b'ham as he didn't kow if i was at home or maybe gone to my brothers. I think this is why i'm even more upset this time round.

katwithkittens: I'm so sorry I overlooked your post earlier. I genuinely didn't see it above mine I got isobel to sleep through really recently. She'd never slept a whole night, well, maybe 2 or 3 since she was born. I still br feed her last thing at night, and first in the morning. the only way I could get her to sleep through was with some sleep training, and not feeding her in the night. we got it cracked in 3 nights straight. It has made all the difference in the world. the most ironic thing is, that she now has a really good long sleep after lunch now, which she's never done either! I put her down to day, and she put her head down, said thank you and went to sleep! I was gobsmacked! Sometimes, if we are particuarlily early, she'll sleep at about half 10 for half an hour or so, aswell. Do you want to stop feeding him completely, or, do you just want him to sleep through? Because it is possible to keep up the br feeds and sleep through.. as I found out!

Glad you've all had nice days MUm ended up taking isobel for a few hours this afternoon. I was just feeling so miserable and down, i didn't want her to see me like this so much, and I needed some sleep, as pain was bad. She's just back now, and about to go to bed.

oh susie I think I'd have been devasted (is your brother close to you distance wise or didnt he have his number to call and see if you were there?)

my brother is in north london. not actually far in miles, but you know what london is like, its only 13 miles but can take up to 2 hours to get there! He didn't have his number either.

I just thought we were past all this crap... he was terrible when i was pg. totally flipped and behaved like an absolute arse. He's been fantatstic since Izzy came along. He has only done this 3 or 4 times in over a year, so I really thought it had all stopped.

Good news again with Isobel, BTW. I put her down this evening and she again, just lay down, blinked a bit, put her music mobile thing on, herself, and said thank you again! She has just gone to sleep. No crying, no shouting nothing. I am the proudest mummy at the moment. When I think of the battles at bed time we've had since she was teeny weeny! uch a relief. I used to dread bed time, if it carries on like this, my life will be so much easier! ( am I counting my chickens too soon? )

my brother is in north london. not actually far in miles, but you know what london is like, its only 13 miles but can take up to 2 hours to get there! He didn't have his number either.

I just thought we were past all this crap... he was terrible when i was pg. totally flipped and behaved like an absolute arse. He's been fantatstic since Izzy came along. He has only done this 3 or 4 times in over a year, so I really thought it had all stopped.

Good news again with Isobel, BTW. I put her down this evening and she again, just lay down, blinked a bit, put her music mobile thing on, herself, and said thank you again! She has just gone to sleep. No crying, no shouting nothing. I am the proudest mummy at the moment. When I think of the battles at bed time we've had since she was teeny weeny! uch a relief. I used to dread bed time, if it carries on like this, my life will be so much easier! ( am I counting my chickens too soon? )

well done to Isobel (and you!) hope you both have a good night, hows your back been today?

Evening all. No mother's day stuff for me here either And you'd think after all the fuss I made about not getting anything on Valentines day he'd have got the message.....??

My Bf told me on Friday that her DP had proposed!! I am really really happy for her as I know she's been waiting for a while and is 29 this month and desperate to try for a baby soon. I would never admit it to ANYONE in RL, but i'm actually quite jealous as well. When she told me i was intially SO excited and then just sort of got a sinking feeling, which i immediatly felt awful about. So, no, i didn't propose on the 29th RGee... stupid optimist that i am i just keep hoping it'll come from him.

I have a bit if a dilemma actually.... let me know what you think....
Last Thursday I think it was i was using DPs computer and I sort of umm... accidently...looked through his History. Y'know, what websites he's been on recently. I know it was probably not a good thing to do, I'd like to think not quite on a par with looking through text messages, but close, but anyway I did it. And alongside lots of boring stuff there were quite a few pages of a site selling women's underwear... kind of sexy stuff, not OTT, but quite nice I thought. I actually thought at the time he had ordered me some underwear (some kind of late Valentine's or slightly odd mother's day pressie?) But I never got any underwear (or anything else!) Maybe he'd chickened out and not ordered anything? Maybe he was just looking at the cos he's just ait of a perv? Maybe he ordered them for someone else? I just don't know. And I can't ask him cos then he'll know i'd been though his computer. Damn It. Why did I do that?????? If you found something (vaguely) incriminating on your DH/P's computer/phone would you confront them and risk the 'why were you looking through my stuff' argument?

Sorry this is all a bit me me me. I am intrigued to find out who's TTC though!!! Lal if they don't tell soon you're going to have to spill the beans!

Also, Susie Well Done to Izzy on the fab sleeping! Whereabouts in London are you? I live near Russell Square. We're renting at the moment but are looking for somewhere to buy (another thing I can't get DP to committ to!)probably in South London cos I think you get a bit more for your money down there. Most of my friends live in North London though - round Archway/Finsbury Park/Crouch End.

hi Shimmer I'm in Hampton Wick,/Kingston upon thames. Its lovely here... you must pay a visit to the shopping center and have a look around. Schools are some of the best in London. hence property prices a little steep My brother lives in highgate village. I lived on Hornsey Lane for a year or so!

I know crouch end, archway and finsbury park very well
I also know Russell Square pretty well too, as I used to be a patient as Great Ormond Street Hospital. my best friend lives in Bloomsbury, just off Judd Street, really near to Euston and Kings Cross Station. We always meet him at the station on our way up to see Mr C. He buys me lunch, then puts me and izzy on the train. Then meets us off the train on the way back, nd brings us home on the train from waterloo. So lucky, it helps so much and make the whole journey possible. It wouldn't be otherwise.

Morning!

Lth - How is the buggy? Hope its ok x

Susie - I come from Kingston! And lived in Hampton wick for a while. I loved it. Soooooo many pubs! I used to live next door to the post office/newsagents, opposite a pub whose name has totally escaped me. Where abouts do you live?

I was in Kingston on Friday seeing my sister at that RANK play cafe in the rotunda complex. I hate it so much but its very useful for wearing out children. Have you been there?

Hope everyone else had a good mothers day yesterday.
xxx

Tis Fab lizzz, I came in to see you with it on saturday to say thanks (took it straight out of the box in teh carpark!!) but both times you were with a customer. Its not sky blue and brown though, its more lilac which I'm a teeny weeny bit disappointed about but I'm sure once G has smeared it with biscuit/choclaote/icecream/god know what else it'll look less lilac.
I tried to text you too but ran out of credit.....then forget to text when I topped it up

shimmer, I once found dodgy porn site on our history "hardcore jordan" and classy stuff like that. Dh was on lates that week so knowing he'd check his emial when he got in I sent him one say "Next time you wanttto look at porn and try to delte try and do a proper job.....Oh and how wpuld you feel if I was look at site of men with bigger cocks that you??"
AFAIK that ws the last time he logged on to them, and I have checked. I'm not bothered that he looks it was the fact he'd tried to cover his tracks and filed so badly.
So anyway I would confornt Dp if I was you. I pretty much stumbled across the history trying to do sometingelse.

Had lovely day yesterday. We dont really celebrate mother's day in our family other than cards normally but this year we all went round to mum's and she coked us a massive roast. Mmmm. Also DH gave Luke his card in his bedroom and told him to come and say Happy Mother's day to me and when he came in he said "Happy Birthday Mummy!" So cute.

LTH- TBH I thought I had been feeling kicks for a while but had just put it down to wind!

Shimmer- As LTh said, I would confront him saying you were looking for something you had been looking at and found the underwear site. I use our history all the time to find things I have looked at recently.

Susie- So sorry you had such a hard weekend. Hope you talk soon and get it sorted. xxxx

Ah yes, I forget how fast time flies

hi everyone!

Shimmer and Susie - sorry you had such crappy mother's days! do your dp's know how upset you are? Shimmer wrt to the website, i'd be inclined to wait and check the credit card bills as LaL says, then if there's something there you don't recognise ask him about it.

nothing much to report here - i'm loving being back at work, feeling a little bit guilty that i don't feel more sad at leaving Z, in fact i might start a thread about it elsewhere. must go as i'm off out tonight and need to get Z in bed. the sleeping through was a fluke btw.