Sept '07... I'm forever blowing raspberries and my cheeks ache from smiling so much....

[PurpleLostPrincess]

Here we go! (or should I say here wii go!?). I'll try doing a link too...

Incidentally, I had a dream last night that Cerys suddenly learnt how to blow proper raspberries! Don't know where it came from but it could be that she has been trying since she was about 4 weeks old and did it entirely by accident yesterday!

PLP xxx

Hello you lovely ladies!

Sorry I've not been on for soooo long! Cerys was a bit out of sorts and I took her to the doctors at the weekend; they said it was either a virus or croup. She seemed to be improving but very slowly when she suddenly took a turn yesterday and had a temperature of 37.7; then she was up all night long coughing bless her (forgive me but I'm really not used to her being up in the night so its a big thing for us but at least it will help me to lose weight as her bedroom is downstairs!). She has still been unwell today so I took her back to the doctors who has said that the croup has developed into mild bronchiolitis. Her temperature went right up to 39 earlier but I think the calpol is helping and I've left a bowl of steaming hot water in her room for now... On top of that I think she's got a touch of constipation so I've got some lactose on standby in case it seems to establish itself.

chatty - glad you managed to enjoy your birthday, was thinking of you! Looking forward to seeing your new hair-do!

hopey - thank you for your lovely messages on fb I've been addicted to the LOST trivia lol! Again, you must be so proud of DH completing that half marathon. How is DS2 now?

dal - well done to you (and hopey I think?) for booking yourself a holiday at Easter, I'm ! Thats great that you've sorted out work etc. I made the decision to not go back for the time being and rang them today to confirm it verbally. I'll be finding out soon what the next steps are...

arbensmum - poor you and big hugs!!!! I wish I could offer some sort of advice re sleeping. Hope you manage to get the most out of having your parents there and some well earned sleep - I bet they'll love the opportunity to spend time with Arben How is your tooth doing?

mrsbumblebee - How's it going with weaning Paul off his dummy?

Lolly - (mental note that you are kyala and not a newbie, still adjusting lol!). I'm a massive FRIENDS fan too!! My favourite line is when Monica and Chandler go to the house of the couple who adopted their son and the lady hands Monica a folder and tells her its alphabetised and colour co-ordinated. Chandler asks Monica if she just had an orgasm - THATS MEEEE!!!! (well, I'm not that organised right now but I would be normally). Also, I love the bubblewrap feature on fb, isn't it addictive! I totally know where you're coming from as far as having a DH who is 'meant' to be on ad's. Sometimes it can be like treading on eggshells! I totally agree that he should have sold the X-Box, my DH probably would have done the same thing. I swear some men are allergic to responsibility and convince themselves that they 'deserve' stuff that we as a family simply can't afford! Sorry, I'll stop before I really start ranting

MrsFish - good on you for doing the race for life - my DD1 is trying to convince me to do it so she can come with me but I don't know if I can muster up the energy, am I lazy?

hammer - yay, lovely to hear from you! Sorry to hear your house has been subject to the 'pox'! DS and DD1 had it together when DD1 was 3 months old (and therefore not allowed any of the medicines!). She scratched her nose and to this day has little pits all over it but it adds character to her lol! My bf has just had the same with her two kids and had we not been through everything we've had to cope with, I would have been round there like a shot so Cerys could get it out of the way!

sparkly - yay, I remember you! Lovely to hear from you and look forward to hearing more!

Well, I've written a mammoth post, sorry! I'm off to fb to get more points on the lost trivia and poke DH inbetween popping in on Cerys. Take care all and big hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx PLP

PLP Sorry to hear Cerys has been so poorly, as if she hasn't had enough of being poorly I did spot on FB earlier that you'd put that Cerys was poorly but have been dashing to and fro (online) so forgot to put a ((hug)) your way (here it is now for you. . . ready. . . catch it! ((hug))! )
"Chandler asks Monica if she just had an orgasm " ahem, hate to be pedantic (well, here it goes anyway) it's Monica who says "I think I had a tiny orgasm" (OK OCD dealt with, possibly at the expense of looking like the saddest freak in the world! Oh the shame of it all!)
Oh oh oh! You've got me thinking back to the darn Xbox again (oh btw he is playing it right now, like me being on the computer gives him instant permission. . . Well, I suppose I can't really complain but it's not deprived us of £200 odd has it now?!!! Mental note: stop now before you fly across the room, pick up the Xbox and batter him with it. . .)

I should really log off and go to bed (got an early one tomorrow, got to bath everyone quick before the oil delivery and then off into town for Lolly's weighing, oh the fun) but just don't want to now. . . Will drink my hot chocolate and see if I'm any more chilled. . . not very likely but there you go! I'm waffling now, later x x x

Lolly - you are not the only one I stayed in the same room as Ben (the spare room for now, he will go into his nursery soon) for the first 2 weeks and then I went back into my own room so I could get some sleep

My next step for Ben will be chicken soon, I need to make some stock first but he is liking everything he has had so far, even brand new tastes he doesn't make a face at all

PLP poor Cerys she hasn't half been through it in such a short time Poor you too, I really admire the way you have coped with it all

Morning all

Posted earlier. But crashed. Mnet is the only website that keeps doing this and it is starting to get on my nerves.

Recap

PLP - sorry to hear about little cerys, hope that she is ok. Yeah really looking forward to easter - am going to be getting myself some nice lingerie definitely. ha ha!

Sophus - thanks for the advice on the protein front, will be popping to waitrose in a bit to get a nice chicken to roast.

LollyPopz - nope you arent the only one - Ryan has been in his nursery since he was 6 weeks old. Think I would have gone spare otherwise. Co-sleeping and everything sounds lovely - but in reality I like my bed, my sleep and cuddles with DH. Ryan gets plenty of daytime cuddles, cant have mummy at night too!

Hope Amum is doing ok. Thinking of you and hoping things are getting easier

Well we hit a huge milestone last night. We didnt offer Ryan his dreamfeed and having gone down at 6.50 last night, didnt hear a peep out of him til just after 6 and that was because he heard me waking up. Yeah!! He has finally done it. Only took 6 months

He has also moved onto mashed food without too much of an issue (touchwood) - had mashed plum this morning with porridge and he polished it off.

Hello to everyone else. Have fab days.

Lolly, you are sooooo right!!! I haven't seen that episode for ages and when I was typing it last night I paused as I couldn't remember which one said it and I forgot to put the word tiny in. Not OCD at all, I'm like that with loads of things lol! Thank you for the hug, caught safe and sound xx

Well, we had our first proper sleepless night last night - she was up from 1am to 4am and I must have run up and down those stairs about 3 times all told! Her temp before having some calprofen before bed was 39 so I kept a close eye on her and it went down but at 1am it was 38.7... Her room is so cold and I would normally put her in a gro bag with a blanket over the top but I didn't do that last night as she was already too hot! Her temp this morning is 38.6 so I'm watching her closely. She has smiled a few times at DH and is sitting in her chair watching iggle piggle on the tele at the moment with her muzzy and her dummy (she sleeps with a muslin in her hand so I'm letting her have it out of bed while she is ill). The doctor said that this could last a few days so we're just riding it out for now. DD1 had quite severe bronchiolitis at 4 months old so I'm not as worried as I could be as I know that we got through it then so we can do it again now. Lots of cuddles and fluids and she'll be fine...

Big big hugs to all those suffering from sleepless nights regularly - I'm knackered after just two nights so I can't imagine what you must be going through and I totally admire you!!!

PLP xxx

Hiya dal, sorry xposted with you! Well done on getting a full nights sleep!

Forgot to say that Cerys has been in her own room since the New Year so I suppose she was about 4 months old. We never did really do any co-sleeping but only because DH and I are quite large and he goes into a very deep sleep so he was afraid of squishing her. I did have a few naps with her when she was tiny in the daytime but thats about it really - she slept next to me in her moses basket apart from that.

We now have a video monitor so I can see and hear her and run down the stairs if necessary (which has only happened these last few nights so good going really!).

morning! where is everyone?

ryan tried yogurt this morning - not a fan at all! But i reckon it was because it was cold. will try again in a few days.

we have pea and mint for our veggies with lentils for lunch, have no idea how that will go down!

Have great days all

xx

Hello dal, I'm passing through, but not stopping long. I'm feeling really down and don't want to bring the thread down with me. Can't shake off this feeling of being the worse mother in the world. My kids deserve better.

KINKI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!! YOU ARE A FANTASTIC MUM! What's been happening your end. I was wondering where you'd been as you hadn't posted for a while. Oh lovely, sorry to hear you#re feeling down. Please please post, you were such a support to me when I was goign through it. (((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))

kink - NOOOOO!! what is going on??

come back here and post! I demand it!

And trust me - you are not at all the worst mother in the world. Your DC's are an absolute delight!

Please post!

Well, that was fun! I woke up yesterday feeling a bit grotty, as the morning went on felt worse and worse, it came to DH having to pick me up from a friend's house and I came home and went straight to bed (feeling at the point where I needed to be sick so it was a case of finger down the throat), don't know where it came from but suspect either I poisoned myself with some salmon (which I had cooked on Tuesday night and eaten for lunch on Wednesday) or it was the morning after pill (taken on Monday), don't care either way! I'm feeling rather poorly and want much loves from all of you!

On a lighter note I've just had a bit of a break down at DH and he's just popped off to get himself a job! (one of his friend's boss is looking for someone and has pretty much said just drop in and we'll do an interview there and then!)

It still doesn't seem to have hit DH that in a few weeks the whole situation is going to catch up with us when the rent needs to be paid and we'll have absolutely nothing to pay it with , although, saying that, DH received a letter this morn from his last employer saying blah blah sorry to see that you've left blah blah you have had to cut your notice period short blah blah you shall be paid any outstanding monies owed and 13 hours outstanding holidays to be paid to you on the 4th April!! (It was my belief, and is in his contract, that if you walk out you don't get any monies owed Maybe they felt exceptionally generous that day?!)
I'm not pinning my hopes on this money turning up, as he's not really entitled to it in the eyes of the law and they might just figure that one out, but it'd make a nice change to actually receive money! lol

MrsFish/Dal: Well, thanks goodness! I'm not convinced that I'm a cold-hearted mummy afterall! lol

I made it to the clinic yesterday (before trekking up to my friend's and collapsing in a heap!) and Lolly didn't put on any weight last week so, regretfully, I've got to drop, yet another, BF and give her another bottle, and am definitely going to start giving her some more puree's on a more regular basis as of today (when she wakes up! ) and hopefully wont have to keep going to the HV every blardy week (it's denting our bank accounts slightly now, and our HV would come and see us every week but she's in such great demand, cos she's just soo brilliant, that she really just doesn't have the time , maybe I should invite her round for dinner or something and she can do the weighing then lol)

PLP: Sorry to hear you had such a crappy night, hope Cerys gets better soon, poor little thing big ((hugs)) for her.

Kinki: I'm joining the "NOOOOOOOO" brigade on this one Come on sweetheart, share your woes, that's what we're here for! x x x (((hug)))

Hi lolly

hope you feel better. dont think it could have been the morning after pill - think you would have reacted much sooner...who knows. Sorry to hear about the weight gain, thats simply why i havent taken ryan since he was 6 weeks - although may take him in the next few weeks. He is a happy alert baby - I dont need someone telling me he is over/ under weight...

Did anyone watch the wright stuff this morning? I caught the end of it with the nutrionist on and a caller came on who was saying that her 8 month old was really refusing food (having followed the newer guidelines of weaning at 26 weeks) whereas her older dc who had been weaned at 4 months had never been a fussy eater. The nutritionist indicated that since the new guidelines had come in - this had become more common.....just thought that was interesting is all....

Kink/ amum...am thinking of you both and hope you are ok.

Have fab weekends all...we are off to town tomorrow...i ventured into the baby section in Hamleys the other week and it is fab! DH and I are planning to get Ryan a few more toys (or at least check them out and then order them online, a toy that was £37 in there I got online for £23 - couldnt believe the huge mark up)

Oh kinki (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs) ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

I've never heard you so down before. You sound completely run into the ground. It's little wonder you are feeling the way you do, I don't think it would be human if you didn't feel crap. Before I go on, let's get one thing straight, WE'LL NEVER TIRE OF YOU. Naughty girl! You have been through SO much and been unwell for such a long time, I'm praying that you haven't got MRSA in your lung, that's v scary.

Is DH taking his meds again? Has it always been like this? Tell me to bugger off if I'm being too nosey. Is he the sort who would agree to counselling?

Liam is gorgeous and smiley and alert and IMHO perfect, (snotty, when I saw him, but perfect ). Please be kind to your self, you're an amazing Mum and a brilliant person and friend, please believe this, you are FAB FAB FAB.

Kinki please please please keep posting, am worried about you.

I've copied a passage from this website

Do antidepressants have side effects?

Some may cause nausea or an increase in anxiety at first, but these usually wear off. Others can make you sleepy or give you a dry mouth. Make sure that your doctor knows that you are breast-feeding. For many antidepressants, there is no evidence that they cause problems for breastfed babies, so breastfeeding is usually possible. However, such a decision is an individual one for each woman and your doctor can provide additional advice. Some people get withdrawal symptoms when they stop these medicines, so it's best to come off them slowly. For more information, see our fact sheet on antidepressants.

Bugger it, got to go, Niamh's woken up.

Take care of you kinki

Kink

Firstly two things

1. You ARE NOT a crap mother
2. We WILL NOT tire of you!

Now that those two things are out of the way..I don't really know what to suggest.

Is there no one who can babysit your DC's while you and DH have a chat about things??
He has to listen to how you are feeling and try and do something about it. You both just sound tired and stressed and overwhelmed. I second Hopeys suggestion - would he go to counselling??

Your DC's are absolutely lovely children and that is a reflection on how good a mother you are. Full stop. I know how difficult it can be to see the positives when you are feeling down, but please try and see them.

to you. Don't really know what else to say. But please keep posting and will try to help as best we can.

Kinki, my poor poppet ((MEGA HUGS))

In a rush with kids/pox and rubbish at advice but couldn't not post. Please, please read back your message and imagine for a moment that someone else on this thread had written it. I know you would not for a second think they were anything other than an amazing, lovely mum who has had 14 months of feeling crap, numerous horrible hospital visits, looking after three children often single handed, being undermined and confused by crazy HVs and a DH having episodes of plonker-itus. You have supported all of us on this thread, please let us be here for you if you need to chat, rant or offload - like Hopey says - don't you dare not post.

I know what its like when you are feeling so crap that it destroys your confidence in your own judgement and abilities, and it seems this is where you are now which is so shitty for you. Everyone at the meet-up was commenting on how lovely and well behaved your DS2 was - all down to you, and no mean feat to raise a well behaved toddler If you hadn't had so much other rubbish going on hopefully you would feel confident in your feeling that Liam is fine, it is only natural to worry about possible hypoxia during your pregnancy, but you know how clever little babies are, taking everything they need so it is always the mum who goes short not them.

It is easy to tell that you are an amazing mum, even just through reading posts, and I for one have always valued your advice and wisdom. I hope you can believe this again yourself very soon.

Not sure what to advise about your DH other than a swift boot in the bo*cks. I think you have to insist on him giving you a break when he gets home - my DH would also claim to be tired from being away and staying in hotels! I can't think a mum would ever dare even come out with something so outrageous!

Ohh sorry I have waffled on with a load of nonsense as usual. Please take care of yourself kinki and ALWAYS post when you want to. Must also thank you - as pox ridden children fallen asleep while I was typing this so I didn't have to go up to them, bless you xxxx Let us know how you are soon xx

Oops x-posts with dal

See thats three of us now who think you're top, and Hopey and dal have met you so they would know if you were crap.

Don't mean to be flippant, am a bit of an arse

love ya HHS

Make that four. I can't hope to be as eloquent as everyone else and of course I have not met you, but I think you are doing and have been doing a wonderful job under very difficult circumstances. I doubt I could have coped with half of what you have.

Girl Power {{BIG HUGS}}

Dal It's a very common occurrence for everything to be cheaper online, as instore they've got many sales assistants wages to pay, whereas on the end of their computer is one rather bedraggled woman trying to organise all those orders into alphabetical order, charge credit cards and ship items out all in one go lol (you know it's true) and she's bound to be on minimum wage too! lol

Oh Kinki all that contradicting info is really confusing (even just to read) these HV's don't seem to communicate/agree on anything, if only you could get them both in the same room at the same time and make them come to an agreement about what your LO really needs!! I've never even heard of giving vit drops to babes (they must be very naturalist round here)
As for the AD thing, my HV jumped straight on that suggestion after I finally admitted how I was really feeling after DD1 was born (PND), there's got to be less of an effect through BF, as PND is quite common nowadays and that's just about the only real treatment in effect. I suggest a second opinion as you need something to help you feel better, you've got all this stress, you're not exactly in the healthiest of places right now and, let's face it, you sound like you could end up harming yourself (I know it's not a good thing but, simply judging from your last post, you're not in a good place and that will only end in a break down or worse!), you may even need to kick straight into your DH as soon as he's home (don't give him the chance to start on you, "I know you've just got home but it would really help me if I could have some support from you", if it helps he may even need to read your last post here, it may make him realise just how down you are feeling right now (or copy/paste/edit out the bits he doesn't need to see!)

The best thing to do is to let everyone know exactly what's going on in your head right now (I've found the best way to do this is to write it all down, that way you wont get interrupted or forget anything or not be able finish because of crying/breaking down etc)

I'm sounding like a right nutcase now, but just remember we're always here for you to offload but you also need support in your daily life, especially with the health problems that you've been going through lately!

As for MRSA, seriously if you're suspecting this it needs to be pounced on right now, don't let them be tip-toeing round cos they might've mucked something up along the way and they're probably trying to cover it up, don't let them put your life at risk!!

Am a bit arsed off now that you've obviously got such a crappy health system where you are, come and move into my place and we'll get you sorted here
But [serious face] take some time out, write down everything and make a copy for everyone who needs to be told (i.e: HV, DH, docs etc) and just hand it over to them.
YOU ARE NOT A CRAP ANYTHING and don't you ever let anyone make you think any different.
We're all here for you and love you for your strength and courage, you've been amazing and are more amazing than you think, you've been through so much in the past and it's just catching up with you emotionally. Let it all out hun
xxx

WOW that was epic! My biggest yet, methinks (See what you did Kinki!! lol

You are all very kind. Thank you for your messages.

Predictably dh came home and made a fuss of the dc and practically blanked me. Didn't take long before words were had and the snidey comments started.

I tried very hard to distract myself from him. Ds1 is in his school's version of 'stars in their eyes' (he's freddie in queen). So we had a fun session of singing his song (don't stop me now) and learning some dance moves and rock star attitude! He has his dress rehearsal later today and the other lads are coming round later (complete with guitars and drum kit) to practice before they go to school. So that will be another distraction. Lolly, as an aside, I could have done with you yesterday - I discovered how tricky it is to machine sew a red stripe down the seam of kid's skinny fit jeans. It was a faff, but got there in the end. I was cursing that I don't know any dressmakers/seamstresses and then as I was finishing I thought of you! He does look good, he's got white jeans, white vest, biker's cap and moustache. He thinks he's going to get stage fright. Dress rehearsal tomorrow, then the real show is in 2 weeks.

Anyway I digress (?sp). I was rambling earlier. About my chest. I know I have the SA of MRSA (staph. aurreus). And it doesn't seem to be going away with various abs. That's why I'm wondering about mrsa (don't worry about meeting me, I would have to work very hard to spread SA, doesn't spread like a virus). I'll ask directly when I next go to see the dr. About ds2. Thank you for saying nice things about him. He's my little angelboy. Like any toddler though, it could have gone either way last friday! He has been known to do the throwing himself on the floor thing, screaming with flailing arms and legs. But haven't they all? About the hv. I'm not sure why I mentioned about this. I think I'm feeling stupid because I don't know what's best for him. I should have carried on with dal's approach and not gone to see them. I think he looks bigger so if he has a good weight gain I don't think I'll bother going back.

About feeling like I'm crap at everything. Everyone seems to be able to do everything so much better than me. And I mean everything. Just the simple task of getting to school. All the other mums seem to be so calm and relaxed. I try to get them all showered (if nec), dressed, fed, teeth cleaned, bags ready, reading done, Liam bf, etc etc, but invariably I lose the plot at some stage. And then poor ds1 has to go to school feeling miserable because I can't handle it all. Same for ds2 if he's at preschool or else he's let down at home because I don't have time or energy to simply play with him. Meanwhile liam practically gets ignored because I'm running around doing everything else. That's why I feel second rate.

But what really gets me is that I'm not exactly the only mum out there who has 3 kids. And lots of others deal with a lot more than I do. So why does everyone do it better than me? How comes everyone else seems to have a better relationship with their dh? Don't worry these are rhetorical questions.

Well the sun's up now. Another day. Another sleepless night. I don't even bother going to bed these days, haven't done in weeks. I stay up and doze a litte downstairs. Have a nice weekend everyone. And thanks for listening.

Hey Kink, good to see you, but blimey you are so bloody hard on yourself! I know I'm in insufferable bossy boots mode but please read back all the lovely things you did with your DS1 yesterday (his costume and routine sound fab , let us know how the dress rehearsal goes) and the list of things you get done every morning before leaving the house. How can you do better than that?

And how can you be sure the other mums are more relaxed, calm and doing things better? You only see the outside - I'm sure inside they all worry about doing the best for their DCs (don't we all) and I bet to them you are a vision of uber-efficient serenity .

I have three kids too and often feel I don't give them the time and attention they deserve and plonk them in front of Cbeebies to give myself a break when I should be playing with them, or shout at them for no real reason when I am knackered and get wracked with guilt - but even though I am not perfect they do still seem to love me and not be traumatised by my haphazard parenting, and I'm sure your gorgeous boys are the same. Do you think your DS1 will remember you getting frantic in the mornings on occasion or having a great laugh practising Queen with him? (Its the second one by the way )

As for your DH I think distracting yourself from him is a good tactic - I use it with my DH when he is in twat-mode and just focus on having a laugh with the DCs.

Lastly I don't know how you manage it all on not sleep you must be made of Kryptonite or something (Superman officianados Hopey or Purple would know more about this). Anyway I have clearly taken the same ranty serum I was on last night and will shut up now. Take good care of yourself and please be kind to yourself and give yourself a break xxxxxxx

Kinki Ooh stitching on kids skinny trousers! Even I would've given in and used fabric glue Well done you on sticking with it!
Well, as for these amazing women who majickally seem to be coping (they're probably on all the med's their money can buy) it's all a joke, they're probably not coping half as well as you but like to keep up appearances and revel in making other's worry about their own efforts at parenting. Even if they do look neat and well pressed whilst dropping their well presented children off in their 4 x 4 at the school gates, they probably spend the rest of their day in a drunken stupor due to the stress of getting those spoilt little brats off to school (before having pick Gilly up for horse riding/ballet, Tarquin for Lacrosse and baby Gerald from the nursery before dropping him off to the nanny so that she can get the dinner ready, which will, no doubt, contain 1 glass of red wine, but she'll get through 3/4 of the bottle and her DH wonders why the shopping bill is so frightfully high )
There will always be an aspect of parenting that a woman doesn't think she can cope with, but the fact is we're doing it, whether our hair's a mess or not, at least the kids are clean and clothed and fed and at school.
How old are your DC's? Is it possible to give the older one's their own small responsibilities for the morning routine? Is it possible get the breakfast stuff/toothpaste on the toothbrushes/clothes etc sorted the night before, just to ease things up a bit? I know that might clog up the evening a bit more but at the very least you could do this whilst they are in bed (rather than under your feet)
You can tell me to shut up now if you like (but this is giving me something else to focus on rather than the self pity that I'm wallowing in right now! lol) I just hope I'm helping.

In response to your rhetorical question (I can't help but answer those anyway), if other women do have a better relationship with their DH's it's probably because they're getting more support from them , from the sounds of it your DH is being very ignorant of the amount of stress you're under and completely selfish, he comes home and he is stressed (yeah, like you've been having a breeze! right?!) Gimme your address and I'll sit him down and teach him exactly what being a mother is about!
I do get sick of hearing that a lot of men do not understand what it's like, maybe we are at home all day but that doesn't mean we're having an easy time, does it?! When we do get to go out we've got these LO's to sort out (and more often than not I'm leaving the house looking like a flipping wreck simply to catch the freaking bus ), then when we do get to where ever we've got to go we find that there's just not enough time to do what it is we're meant to be doing because it's at that particular point that LO decides to do the biggest poo and leak it all through their clothes (and you know you've forgotten baby wipes/spare nappies/spare clothes) and if/when you finally get that babe sorted you realise that you've left the milk at home and it's feeding time RIGHT NOW!
ARGGGH! I want to come and beat up your brain dead husband! Why would anyone watch a woman go through labour, give birth (3 times?!!) and then treat them they way he's treating you? I suppose he's probably really nice in other ways but this is still really insensitive and unreasonable and is obviously affecting you in a really bad way. He needs to know how you feel to see if he can understand this, and if he can't then there's not a lot of options, but it's all down to him.
What's he like when the DC's are in bed? Any conversation or do you have to distract yourself throughout the whole evening as well?
If you're up all night you're not going to last very long hun, you need some sort of end to this to help get you back on track.
I'm still really for you and am going to go and lay into my DH now (just for funsies ) Now what subject to pick a fight in (best one can be the cleanliness of the house, I tell you I'm ill for one bloody day and the place goes to pot!) Boxing gloves on, hubby here I coooooooooome!!!!