March 2007-Today our babies will mostly be eating.............

[KITTYmaspudding]

ok, new thread, old one full!!

Kitty could you sit him to Cbeebies is located to his right, so he turns to view the TV?

My DS1 walekd at 1 year, DD at 9 months.

Get ready, get set...who will be the first on our thread to walk???

All you LO's sounds so adorable, if not little handfulls now :D

I'm not sure Joe will be the first one to walk! He's just finding his feet when in his walker/activity station, but not too keen otherwise.

I'm hoping he will get the forwards crawling thing soon as I think Crawling babies look so cute!

Bit worried about his physical development listening to your stories, and I know each baby is different, but you can't help but worry at times.

I'm sure we will find out how he is on friday when he has his 9 month review (even though he's 10 months).

thx for all your kind words! i can't act like i'm not bothered piffle lol wish i could but that doesn't come easy to me i'm just not that kind of person / mum HOWEVER my kids know they are very loved and dd has been good as gold today. we've had lots of hugs and cuddles and i've tried really hard to give her lots of praise and not get cross with her for little things. we're all ill with horrible sore throat / laryngitis thing so not surprising she not eating yesterday and me at end of my tether

so tonight i did something i read about in a parenting book. set a timer at dinner then calmly told her that if she finished her tea by the time it went off, 20 mins, she could have desert and also finish her wotsits but if the timer went off and she hadn't eaten her tea, i would take the plate away and she wouldnt' get anymore food till breakfast. this is meant to transfer the 'control' onto her i.e. she feels she can choose whether to eat or be hungry. while she's eating or not eating, i don't mention it or give it any attention but instead we chat about our day or christmas or whatever. on her plate was half a ham sandwich, some tomato and some cucumber, so it wasn't a huge task to set!

she was getting there, i think, but then the timer went off so i stuck to my guns.

she said 'aren't you angry i haven't finished my tea?' i was like 'no, it's up to you, i'm a bit sad because i wanted to give you some ice cream, but maybe tomorrow you'll finish in time and get the ice cream'. think it may have sunk in!

hope it works . .

babies all so different aren't they?! i'm really not keen for my lo to start moving around,luckily he doesn't seem that keen either, he is so happy just sitting and playing. dd brings him everything he needs! she was walking at 10 months but i dont think he will be . .

AmieR some of the babies on this thread sound unusually advanced to me! (only to be expected i suppose ) specially for boys! most boy babies i have ever known weren't walking before a year so don't worry. i'm fully expecting ds to do everything slower than dd because that's just been my experience of girls and boys (LOL)

lol @ little bastard, fox ...

tris sounds like a good plan, it deflects the emotions and reduces your involvement and temper.
Good plan!!!

won't be my dd3 - she is not even crawling although she rolls everywhere to get what she wants. I guess she figures it is safer planted on the ground than up where older sisters can get you.

school holidays here - six weeks and then dd1 starts in our equivalent of junior school - her first year of education [sigh] where did the last 5 years go. She has her uniform and she wore it when we went up for an orientation day - she looked so grown up - even dh had a little tear in his eye. Me - I am sure I am going to bawl and make a right idiot of myself when the day comes.

Not a good week this week - we are off to hospital tomorrow for dd1 to get another set of grommets put in. She has had a horrid cough since early Sept and I have tried everything to get rid of it. Do not want her surgery to be cancelled. So fingers and toes crossed everybody please? Her hearing is so bad - she really needs this done.

Had a crap pre op appt with some arrogant junior docs who could barely look at me when they were speaking to me. Poor dh - I came out of the appt and ranted all the way home - almost an hour drive. Poor man was trapped Have written up in point form all the ways the two junior docs could improve their bedside manner - ready for them on Wednesday so so cross I was.....

Are we all excited and ready for christmas? All presents but dh bought, we are not hosting anything so no big deal where the food is concerned. We go to my aunts for christmas eve where dds get spoilt rotten and then to my mums for christmas lunch. Our babes first christmas. I have a naff bib for dd3 to wear at dinner and lunch!

Well better go and entertain monkeys before they tear the house apart. Dd3 is not sleeping and seems to have developed an aversion to her cot - I ended up sleeping on the couch earlier hours of the morning whilst dh and dd3 snuggled in bed!

Eids, really goods luck for dd1's op. Well done you for making a fuss about the doc's bedside manner. He should have known better than to mess with you .

I know what you mean about time flying. it only seems like yesterday that ds1 started school, now we have one more year after this and he is off to secondary, my baby, he's too young and chaotic
Ds1 was asking me today about Aus, he gets rather confused. He keeps asking me if it is June there and I have to keep explaining that it is summer even though it is December!!.
Amie, don't worry there are a lot of early movers on this thread!

Trixa looks like you have taken back the reins, good for you, let her know you're in charge, well pretend you are

I've just ordered a wheelybug for Kate for Christmas!!

It's the only present I have bought

I'm going into lewes today for a last minute push and shove around the shops. Actually no one pushes and shoves in Lewes they are too kind and polite that is why I don't go to Brighton where I would be mown down within seconds of getting off the bus

Eids I hope everything goes okay for your dd1.

You lot talk so quickly; I'm losing track again!

Things aren't great here. We are so out of money now; it's looking like I'm going to have to temp in the new year so could be problematic with finding somewhere that lets me express milk for Bertie too. After all the shit I went through to keep on bfing at the beginning and now... I'm just not sure my supply is good enough to be able to only bf morning evening & night and still have ample milk, as I've always suspected a slightly dodgy supply.

Feeling a bit sorry for myself! I can't help but be slightly angry at dh, too. I do feel like we could probably afford for me to stick it out a bit longer (i.e. until I got a permanent job) if we didn't buy such expensive food and wine all the time but he just won't entertain the thought of buying supersaver stuff, or going to kwiksave & aldi instead of Asda & Tesco.

Trix glad you've found a method that works with your dd.

Foxy lol at "little bastard" I bet you felt really !!

Bethoo I too am a bit at your dp! Sometimes that is all you want though isn't it?

Everyone else... hello and good morning!

I have nothing ready for Christmas yet. Haven't had the cash so am getting stuff off freecycle for Bertie (he's too young to know any different!) and me and dh have a tenner limit for each other. Finally put the deccies up last night and the place looks festive.

Bertie showing no signs of crawling except backwards, commando style. He can however stand unaided now for short periods and cruise along the furniture. Obviously he can't pull himself up there yet so I stand him up and he pulls himself along!!

Kiwi that wheeliebug is brilliant looking. A brilliant baby pressy.

I've seen those and admired them but Hasan is going to get a miniscule gift from me this christmas because he won't notice and there are one trillion gifts to give.

Kitty I know what you mean, I've been chosing my moments and shops to avoid the crowds too because I get utterly confused enough as it is!

Mossy, try not to worry about the feeding honestly people who feed longterm as you want to do are not feeding all day by that stage. Once you have got a nice wee job sorted it'll be fine. Hope something comes up soon for you. I know it is a bit stressful. But it is christmas and life would be very dull without yummy food. Has your dh got anything you could sell on ebay

bethoo this was me after reading your sexy post ......

Eids you are some woman. I know what you mean about them starteng school. I went through that 3 months ago with dd, now it feels as if she has been there for years!

Kudos to Eids for taking it to the docs. And hope dd is ok with the op, it will make such a difference!

Foxy dd had a similar moment with the F word once and it was DP's fault, F was one of the late sounds, so he/we had languished in relative safety with profanity

Now we are more careful and only swear when she is out of the house LOL

I love the wheelie bug, am thinking for Finns birthday maybe? - For xmas have got him a push along walker as he is pushing everything along now.

And a peek a block train and a squeaky hammer erm and that's it. He has gazillions of dds toys

If anyone wants an AWESOME toy for £30 can I recommend this SUPERB toy jumbo music block

hard to get in the UK but we bought one for dd 5 yrs ago and it is the only toy she has had 5 yrs out of, and Finn adores it, he can stand up on it, hit it, play with all the sides, a truly excellent toy and cheap at current US $ rate too.

Thats my 2p LOL
Have also bagged dd a superb mamas and papas large rocking horse from freecycle, am off to collect shortly

Mossy - have you thought about getting an evenign job so dh can look after lo so you do not need to pay for child care? also if you can drive go to Aldi etc instead and just see if he notices the difference!!

i bought Hayden lots of toys last weekend and tbh iat this age they do not notice if you get them pressies at xmas so i am not getting him anymore as i know my parents (well my mum!) has goen mad and i have to consider how it is all going to fit in the car home! i know she has bought a rocking horse, do not know where it is ging to fit in my house let alone in the car!!!

Trixabelle - i wish that Hayden was still just rolling around as now i cant turn my back for a second as he is standing up against things and only matter of time before he falls down and hits his head! he made his way around the bed this mornign whilst i was getting ready for work! he insists on following the dogs and cats all over the living room and even into the kitchen! i have a feelign that he will be walking soon but he will nto be the first on this thread. all babies develope at different rates. i know a 10 month baby girl who does not crawl, in fact she just stays sitting where you leave her! my friends baby is 3 days older than mine and is also a boy, he is over 2 pounds heavier and was clapping on his mums hand months ago, Hayden has more hair and is clapping so they are close yet there are some things Jack can do that Hayden cant and vice versa!

Piffle- i was given one of those VTECH walker things, Hayden bless pushes it and then has to walk as otherwise he would fall head first!

bethoo I got it as Finn was pusing his sit in walker after climbing up on it and he fair galloped, now he wants to do it all the time, so figured lesser of two evils would be the vtech one.
Finn has already started with the tumbles, he is a danger atm and needs watching 24/7

Piffle - tell me about it! since he has become mobile it is hard to do the housework! i have to wait til he goes to bed to wash pots, cook my tea (tonight i am having garlic mushrooms and prawns on a ed of salad!), polish and hoover and give my attention deprived dogs some attention!!! all in about an hour!!

I fancy my postman

Bethoo we don't have to pay for child care, mil is providing it almost free of charge. I did think about an evening job but that's only a few hours each day, I need to be earning at least £12,000 and no evening jobs round here pay that. And I can't drive, which is why we do the shopping where he wants, and end up paying a bloody fortune.

We pay over £70 a week on food / drink shopping in the Asda. There are two of us. Okay there's Bertie too, but really he eats very little and with blw he only has bits of what we're having anyway.

Dh does make lovely food but for the sake of just a few weeks longer to find a decent perm job surely we could go un-organic (oh, how awful! ) and un-"finest" for a few weeks. It puts loads onto our shopping bill. Plus he won't look at a bottle of wine unless it costs more than £4.

Oh never mind I'm just ranting. It'll all sort itself out in the end. I think tbh my problem is more with dh's attitude than anything else. Back a few years ago when he suffered with depression and wouldn't/couldn't work (and wouldn't make the effort to try and claim on the sick) I never pressured him into getting a job even though at the time I was on minimum wage and we couldn't even afford the rent some months and were sinking deeper and deeper into debt.

Whereas now, when just by making a few short term adjustments for a little while we could cope for a little bit longer until I got a perm job... but he won't even countenance that.

Ah, shut up Mossy you're coming across as bitter.

Rosy do you think I could sell my dh on ebay?

Piffle I'm having a freecycle Xmas too!!

Right off to wake the bairn, I'm off to our local bf support group even though no one ever turns up. I just want to be there in case as the usual peer supporter's a bit crap tbh and if someone turns up I don't want hers to be the only support they have iyswim.

God that sounds nasty. I'm actually a nice person in rl really, although I know today I sound like a moaning old sod!!!

oh yuck you wouldn't fancy mine!
how are you all btw?

mossy that is a lot
We spend just over £85 and we eat organic and free range meat and veg mostly.
We buy from farmers market and get veg box delivered for £8.50 per week with 6 eggs.
Make dp buy his own beer
and we eat bloody well IMO

What do I fancy
sleep
then if I get that, my va va voom might return

Mossy - oh dear. goodness i am on 10k a year part time! i suppose once we are set in our ways it is hard to change. maybe you should suggest not drinking anymore wine??? or do what i used to do when shopping wiht my edh and that was everytime he turned around or drifted off i took things out the trolley and put them on shelves, the staff must have hated me!!
Rosy - what is your postman like? some of the lads who do guard duty on camp are cute but like i said before they are all early twenties! woe is me!

I'm glad you think it's a lot too. Dh thinks it's normal to spend that much. I think it's ridiculous. I also think there's a lot of waste. I did think about the organic box thing but I can imagine those veggies lying at the bottom of the fridge unused. As they tend to anyway.

It's silly things, like, for example, he'll make a cottage pie, then freeze some... then never eat what's frozen. Also I think we have far too much meat in our meals; we have meat every day for tea in some form or another. The idea of having say a nice soup and some bread? Oh no. Gotta have meat.

I do think if I was any good at cooking then things would be different. Towards the end of my pregnancy I did all the cooking for a stint and all the food shopping and we did spend less, as I'd buy stuff that could be used in lots of different dishes, rather than buying each dish's ingredients separately in advance (iyswim). But dh just did not like my cooking - too bland apparently (was all from "The Dinner Lady" book; dh prefers Jamie Oliver which is all very well if you live in London with lots of little unique farmers' markets and the like but not up here where you have to buy your ingredients from supermarket) or too much veg (er, yeah, 'cos meat costs a fortune).

Sorry, I've ranted on again. I'm going to go to bf group now.

Christmascrackerboldy very well thank you just in a bit of a strop.

Bethoo I have suggested no more wine. No, no, no, he won't have any of that. He works an incredibly difficult job don't you know and it's his reward for a hard day's work.

You'd think he worked down t'pit.

I'm getting annoyed now thinking about it so I'm going to stop!!