June 2020 Babies-Newborn, snuggles, recovery, milk and night feeds! 2nd thread

[Busylizzie85]

New thread!

@Magpie21 Frugi seems to be biggest. POP and H and M do different month boundaries so that might work

@Magpie21 boots 0-3 is the biggest I’ve found , H&M do a 2-4 month size

Thanks for the new thread! I didn't post as much towards the end of the last thread but still reading and finding it so helpful.

DD is now 10 weeks and feeds roughly every 2-3 hours during the day and will sleep for one long stint at the beginning of the night followed by one or two shorter stints, which is so much better than those early weeks of feeling like I was constantly awake overnight.

Her worst time of day is from about 4-8. She can get overtired if her daytime naps have been too short/non-existent, but rocking her to sleep in my bed seems to sometimes work.

Breastfeeding is going better then in the early days. Less painful now, though not entirely pain free. DD will still move her bottom lip up to the base of my nipple on occasion or clamp down. She also can slightly lose suction. Not too bad overall, though.

Hope everyone's having a good day and that the little ones are happy and not overtired!

@Magpie21 H&M are my current go to for lush little rompers and onesies and they do 2 - 4 month size so bridges this gap perfectly! Also some of his m&s clothes are still fitting well. It's so sad when they grow out of clothes!!

Hey thanks for the new thread xx
Zach is 13 weeks today ! He's doing 3-4 hourly feeds during the day overnight he does 4-5 hours sleep then very choppy 3 hours or so sleep till 6am.. since 8 weeks we realised his fussy feeding is because silent reflux and he has been on Gaviscon. However it had stopped working and now we just started to use omeprazole which is supposed to be the best meds for it. It takes days for it to kick in and it breaks my heart to see him suffer.
I remember there were other little refluxers here. How are you LOs doing ? xxx

@Busylizzie85 @BabyBird20 @SRS1311 ah just saw your discussion after my post. Another silent refluxer's mummy here :-/it's so hard at the moment I could hug you guys and cry. Fingers crossed for omeprazole to work soon

Gaviscon worked like a dream for us for about 7-10 days. He guzzled down those 5oz bottles which was lovely. However if didn't last long and he started crying at every feed again. The husband had to hold him with one arm going up and downstairs to get milk in him, then he only fed in my sling... it was dreadful to feed him at one point. The GP was quite good we got omeprazole solution prescription after one phone call and started to use 4.2mg per day since 3 days ago (he weighs 6.3kilo at the mo) and we were told to double the dose two weeks later. Saw small improvement I'd say since yesterday but I can still see the refluxed acid bothering him. Hopefully it'll fully kick in soon. Xx

& finally 10weeks later Amelia is registered 😊
She has her first injections tomorrow and i am dreading it!

@Cornishbumpkin if he's going that long at night sounds like he's filling himself up through the day

Any first time mums can I ask do any of you think you will just stick with the one baby even though you love them so much you just no you won't have another?

I think I'm pretty chilled parent and we have bonded so so well she's everything to me but the thought of doing this and having a toddler fills me with actual fear

Me and sh have discussed long term foster or adoption even before I got pregnant so that is a route we may go down (I know that would by no means be easy but would skip the no sleep stage) honesty I am exhausted and don't get much help from partner as I EBF and he works away

@mrssunshinexxx Freddie is my one and only baby. We went through a lot go have him (DH had his vasectomy reversed) and I never thought I'd be lucky enough to have even 1 healthy baby. Plus my age, 38, puts me off having more and also practical things like needing a bigger house or an extension with more kids too. We have nearly paid off our mortgage so don't want to have to take on more debt.

Like you I also can't imagine doing this with a toddler. Massive respect to those on here who do have other kids. I genuinely don't know how you cope!

Ooo hi everyone, can I join? I've been following for a while as my little one was due in June but eventually arrived very beginning of July. Havnt had a chance to post yet though. Was there a Facebook group too?
We breastfeed all day but she has a 4oz bottle of breastmilk before bed and sleeps 9.30 till 5, has a feed and a nappy change and back down till around 8ish usually :)
We had our jabs yesterday and shes been up earlier this morning, think they've given her a little tummy ache :( x

@mrssunshinexxx I am definitely planning on having another... my DH and I are both one of 4 and I've always wanted 2 LO's. I just couldn't imagine DD being my only child.
I am an "older" mum as I'll be 38/39 when trying for no 2. I'm just excited to be able to fave a sibling for DD.

@mrssunshinexxx I think this will be my only baby I always wanted more than one but having her now in my mid thirty's i don't think I can go through this all again. I have found it very physically and mentally draining! I wish I was fitter before having her for sure but also wish this was 10 years ago but everything happens for a reason I'm sure and I love her to bits.

Welcome @NelliePig your baby sleeps so well! I'm jelly!

We would be definitely trying for number 2 when my LO is 2. That being said, I know it'll be a nightmare having a baby and a toddler! I'm from a family of 7 (including mum and dad), so the idea of an only child doesn't sit right. Of course it's difficult to predict the future, but as tired as I am, a part of me is already excited for the next baby!

@Missgemini thats when we plan on trying for no 2, she also turns 2!

Then if I fall pregnant straightaway there will
Just be a few months when I'll have them both at home every day before she turns 3 and gets more nursery hours. I'm lucky to have family close by to help too.

My brother has two LO's with this age gap and it works well

Hi @NelliePig. My DS is similar at night apart from one or two nightmare nights. Kept me up from 12:30 the other night!! I was on my knees with exhaustion. My DH, who was sleeping so soundly I actually thought he was dead, had the balls to say he was going for a lie down later that day he was so tired - I wanted to poke him in the eye.

Re:another baby. During the first couple weeks I said no way would I have another. Its really only in the last 2 weeks I think everything has clicked for me and I think i know what I'm doing. Now I'd love another one but we have been very lucky that we haven't had issues with reflux or colic, he sleeps well etc I think I'd be pushing my luck thinking it would be the same again. He is a velcro baby though and is only settling on me. I have no idea how I'd do it if I had a toddler as well. Now I have the luxury of being able to sit on the couch for hours while he naps during the day, I can't imagine him allowing that if we have another .

@APD1981 the thing is we would cope but I want yo do more than cope I want to be a calm and as happy as I can be under the circumstances for any child I have and I think having 2 would push this i manage it with 1 I find being a mum v easy minus the sleep deprivation I just worry when she starts sleeping through that's when I'll get broody! Maybe I will then need to start looking at adoption.
@Smiffette I don't speak to my sister so giving them a sibling for a friend personally for me is nonsense she will be smothered by my best friends kids her whole life 😂

Welcome @NelliePig x
Eeee this gives me hope I'm going to give her bottle of BM before bed tonight in the hope she sleeps longer isn't because they get more quicker do you think ? Has it worked since the first night you did it ? How many oz do you give / does she take x

There's nothing wrong with only children @Busylizzie85 annoys me when ppl say they will be spoilt.. yes she would but with my time love and attention not material crap

@babbafett mine is very sicky and also will not be put down but I think that's how it should be when they are so small x

@mrssunshinexxx I agree. Sometimes I'd love to eat my lunch with two hands or pee a little bit more often than I do but this time is a drop in the ocean compared to the rest of his life. Some day he will be 17 and will just want to hang around with his friends, definitely not cuddling on the couch with me - that's when I'll miss our couch and Netflix days. I love watching his little face when he sleeps, my phone has about 1000 pictures of him just asleep!

Thanks all,
@babbafett my other half spent his 6 week shared parental taking the baby upstairs for a nap and joining her up there.

I have a sad babe this morning, shes been up and down since 4am trting to poo after her jabs Tuaday. Shes just managed to go, but still seems a little unsettled :( x

Welcome @NelliePig we are at the same stage - had our jabs yesterday. We had them at 5.30 so he was due his second round of Calpol through the night but we left it as he was sleeping soundly - that was a mistake! He woke up screaming so much, it was heartbreaking. He seems a bit sorry for himself this morning

This will be our one and only child, we had pretty much decided that anyway but since having him its definitely been confirmed! It's a lot harder than I ever imagined (and I knew it would be tough) and I couldnt imagine doing it again but when I think of doing it with a toddler I'm ready to have a panic attack haha. Have so much respect for people who do that now!

@SRS1311 its awful watching them suffer isnt it :( luckily we had the jabs at 9.15 so calpol was 10.15, 4.15, and then half 9! I'm just glad she didnt get a fever.
Honestly the worst part was because the nurse put a cotton ball over her legs and stuck it down with masking tape. I tried to soak it off in the bath and it was still so stuck. Her little face when I had to rip it off. Both legs! I'm going to just put her in old clothes and ask for them to not cover them xx