June 2020 Babies - newborn snuggles, recovery, milk and night feeds!

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First post natal thread for June 2020 babies! Looking forward to seeing our birth club thread members here soon!

Oh I see! That’s good to know thank you @APD1981
Might need to give that a try then!

It is expensive for a tiny bottle but worth it if it works then can get a prescription for it. X

@Pegase I had a total breakdown around 4 too, just so exhausted!! He's not been much better today either sadly, he's 3 weeks today so could be a growth spurt or I'm starting to think it could be reflux as he coughs and splutters a lot and gets really screechy after feeding 😢😢
@APD1981 I might have to try some of that!!

We have not had a good day either. We have a feed which takes up to an hour off and on and then about 30 - 45 minutes nap at most and then lots of fussing. Too soon for next feed although she doesn't believe it and not enough sleep so lots of screaming and irritation in an endless cycle.

So we end up trying some more milk, she takes a little as really still full from last time and the whole cycle starts again.

@APD1981 are you BF?
If so how do you administer the colief ?
My baby generally pretty happy but she's throwing up ALOT and would like to be able to keep more down if possible

Yes I'm BF. I have managed to get 5 syringes from the chemist and I have 5 little pots. Ì have sterilised them all and I quickly hand Express a bit into a pot, put the Colief in, then use a syringe into his mouth. I got a few of everything so I don't have to sterilise in the middle the night. I will keep everything in a sterilised plastic container and use it throughout the day and night. Was the most effective and time saving solution I could think of to be honest!

Ivy gets really windy and I find it hard to burp her so it ends up coming out the other end very loudly and it usually wakes her and she becomes grouchy! I tried inficol but I think it disagreed with her as she was sick a couple of times and irritable after taking it.
She is however sleeping a lot better at night for the last week, I basically followed some advice from HV and kept her engaged more during the day and come evening got in to a routine of feeding, nappy change and in to grow bag before settling her on me before heading up to bed at roughly the same time every night. I keep the Bedroom dark as much as possible or use my phone touch as a night light if placed well. She now sleeps through with 2 feeds between 10-5 and I can sometimes get an extra hour or so if she goes back down after 5 until about 7.
This may be all luck and might not last but it's made a difference to my mood getting more sleep which probably makes her happier in turn.

Cool thanks if I go down that route I have loads of syringes think I'll shut suck up the colief through syringe and hand express a couple ml and fire it straight in her mouth! X

@mrssunshinexxx good idea. It's transformed the last 24 hours for us so far. I have my happy baby back and I'm not a sobbing mess feeling like a total failure anymore!

@Busylizzie85 does she settle after the night feeds as that is our problem- we do all the above but she can stay up for 90 mins after a night feed, repeatedly waking if we put her down.

Yesterday we went up to bed at 10 in Grobag etc but she kept waking up every 30 mins until 1am.

For Colief and bf why not just express a decent amount into a pot in the fridge and just syringe some of it and then some Colief. Saves you hand expressing before every feed?

How is everyone coping with their mood/anxiety?
Baby Grace is only 11 days old, and during the days I’m totally fine and can cope really well, but as the day goes on feel this bubble of anxiety build and build in my chest to the point where I struggle to eat anything in the evenings and my stress levels just go through the roof.
Anyone else experience this? Any tips oh how to help?

I'm afraid I don't have any useful tips but I do empathise. I'm not really coping well generally at the moment whether day or night. hoping when I have dealt with medical issues I will feel better. Spending a lot of time in tears just as so tired I think

So sorry to hear @gigitree and @Pegase. What you're feeling is quite common from what I gather. I too had episodes of crying over the last 2.5 weeks due to stress, sleep deprivation etc. Health visitor and midwives say to expect some tears, but to seek the help of a professional if you feel that you're not coping with the emotions. My mum has moved in and has really taken some of the pressure of. The main thing is to see if you're feeling better and coping better with time. If worsening or not improving, speak to GP or health visitor sooner rather than later.xx

@pegase that would be great except the milk has to be warm (room temp at least) in order for the enzyme to work so it would mean getting up in the night to go to the fridge and heating up a syringe full of milk. I'm lucky that I have tons of milk and can hand express enough in about 30 secs so it works for me.

Well little miss had her poo explosion 😂 3 nappys off the trot actually 😂
But now shes done it again hasn't pooped yesterday or today🙄
She's feeding well getting her wind out both ends so i really dont know

@APD1981 was yours super upset ? I wouldn't say mine is mega upset after every feed but she's very sick After every single one

Sorry to hear that @Gigitree but it is positive that you have recognised it x

My mum who was my best friend in the world died suddenly and unexpectedly 8 weeks ago so I have grief to cope with as well as new born baby and all emotions and tiredness that come with it
I was worried if I was going to bond with her etc was having very dark thoughts before and even in labour think that's why it didn't progress but as soon as she came out and I came round I fell head over heels I've completely bonded breast feeding is cracked I am very stubborn and was determined to do it especially as I didn't end up with natural delivery I had hoped for but every day there are tears but they are always about my mum and my husband cries with me it's shit

@mrssunshinexxx I'm so sorry about your mum - that is truly horrendous. She would be immensely proud of you and your new daughter. Grief is all consuming so you are doing extremely well to be bonding with your little one and I'm sure you will be an amazing mum. My dad passed away two years ago but still most of my tears of late are over him not being here to meet his grandchild. I can't really ever imagine not being sad about it, but as time passes it gets a bit easier. You are in the eye of the storm right now. Are you having any counselling?

Hope everyone is having a reasonable night and getting some sleep,

Thanks @SearchingTheSkies it feels abit cringe because I've never said this about myself before but I do feel really proud this could very easily of gone the other way and I know it's very early days but there's no way now I won't be present and want to give my daughter the very best I want us to have a relationship as close as me and my mum had.
So sorry to hear you are part of this losing a parent club that no one wants to be in I agree I can't ever imagine not feeling like this it's so strange to have the happinesss of a new life and my new family but to have this 24/7 feeling of true heartbreak dull but constant in the Back ground x

@SearchingTheSkies I'm on waiting list with cruse I'm abit pessimistic but open to trying it?

Missing you ladies ... hectic days...
Thanks for the new thread xx take care

Really hard when sleep is badly deprived. That's when I cry most. There are better days. The husband is back to work (wfh) usually is preoccupied and stressed. Feel it's an impossible mission and it's on my shoulders only.

@mrssunshinexxx huge hugs. I'm so sorry about your mum.....

We are having a bit of problem overnight too. Zach would fall asleep and looks deep in sleep most of time too but just a couple mins after we put him in his crib he'll start kicking and yelling (yup yelling like a wild animal not crying). He'd go on like this for a min and stop and then does it again. If lucky he'd eventually fall asleep but most of the time he'd wake himself up all red. He's a very windy baby so we are taking lots of time burping him. Not sure if it's still trapped wind bothering him. His sleep stretches are short too - over night longest 2 hours. Ironically he could sleep on and on during that day longest 3 hours sleeps.

@mrssunshinexxx I'm so sorry about your mum. Next week is the first anniversary of my dad's death. I was desperate to give him a grandchild but I was too late (my DH had his vasectomy reversed). I named my baby after my dad because he meant that much to me and him not being here is so, so hard. You're only a few weeks into your grief and it's still very raw. It's not as raw for me now but I'm not going to lie, it still hurts just as much. I try not to let myself think about it too much now because I would still sob with grief. I miss him so much and he has left a massive hole in our family. Hopefully my little Freddie is helping to fill that gap now. Things will get easier for you, I promise, but don't try to rush it. Ride it through and allow yourself to feel what you need to feel. Please let me know if you want to talk more xxx