April 2007 - new thread for GMM

[StealthPolarBear]

Hello!

feeling a bit better just had a takeaway and a can of 'mummy' pop!!! Just feel like losing control of the situation and that time is always running away from me.

DS1 is attatched to muslin cloths........ he still takes one to bed at night and wants it when he feels poorly, he comes out of his room in the morning with a muclin cloth in one hand and a soft toy mouse in the other. The mouse 'joe' is irreplaceable and I can't get another one and oh have we tried.

Hi everyone, sorry to all those who seem to be feeling a bit low either for work/childcare juggling, partners, lack of ´me time´ and pampering etc..

Bit by bit things here are calming down, dad still in intensive care but they are hoping to move him to the ward next week and he can sit up for a bit now, talk, eat etc. so he´s doing well. First sign was going to see him yesterday and seeing he´s back to his normal difficult and stroppy self .. funny how quickly sympathy can dry up once you´re out of the worst of it .

BIL went home today and my sisters and aunt will go home sometime next week. It´s been lovely to have them all here but it´s been a disruptive and tiring time and I´m looking forward to trying to get back to some kind of normality. I´m not sure what that will be as it´s all change here.. on thurs dh goes back to work (poor thing, all his holidays for the last 2 years have been taken up with hospital visits either for his mum or my dad ) and then the week after starts only working mornings because he´s going back to school! He got kicked out when he was 16 and never completed any qualifications but by going to part time adult ed he can complete it in one academic year. I´m so proud of him for doing it but it´s going to be a lot of work and money will be tighter than normal. Then the same week I start work and mum is looking after N - not sure how that´s going to go now Dad is going to be home and needing looked after but hopefully if it comes to it I can negotiate a bit of time working from home with my boss.

Lots of juggling and finding our feet in new routines in the weeks ahead it seems but I´m looking forward to it, normality and routines do make me feel very safe and secure, boring as that may sound! Seems like a lot of us are in similar situations.

Another me me me post but feels like I´ve missed so much and had to bring you all up to date

Eddas, pmsl at sok!

B all fine now, and tucked up in bed. We gave her the blanket even though a bit damp, and also one of Katie's, so she is pretty happy now.

Oooggs, glad you are feeling a bit brighter. B wanders in to our room in the morning with blankie and rabbit bless her!

Keep drinking the mummy pop.

Need to go and phone a rl friend who I haven't spoken to for ages - she emailed to ask if I was ignoring her !

SBS, so pleased your dad is on the mend. Let's hope he continues to make good progress.

Fab news re your dh. I really admire people who go back to study later on in life. And good luck with going back to work.

As you say, lots of changes, but am sure all will be good. xx

Well OK I've been dragged in kicking and screaming.

Just a quick hello to everyone as I have come to realise that I am missing you all like crazy, sentimental old fool that I am.

Soo much to update. Tell a lie not that much of interest really. Like others I have felt that I have been spending way too much time on MN {{mummy guilt complex}}, so I have had some time away, but without the announcements.

Have to respond to oooggs' comment about the feeling out of control, cos I can totally relate to that. Also really feel as if time is running away from me and I do not like it one bit (control freak). Desperately need to very quickly get T into some sort of decent routine to give everyone a sense of normality, so far it has been eat/sleep/do what the hell you like until now really.

Thats all for now folks, though now I have had a bite of the poison apple .

One thing that I do want to mention though (think I deserve a little self praise here).

I have now lost just over 5 stone. .

pinions 5 stone bloody well done(excuse the swearing) but that is brilliant

well done Eddas, skiny days here we come..

my heart goes out to the mummies having a rough time, always because you care so much, work so hard, and worry so much. Maybe hearing a row isn't such a bad thing. I'll bet that far more times, they hear you relating to each other well. They see happy working relationships.

DH causes no end of probs, being from plantet ZOGG means he is somewhat different from your average, thinking human being. I could list his latest domesctic crimes here, but you'd all get a fright. I always find it hard to forgive him, because he usually does something else awful, before I have got over the last thing.

Bloody hell Pinions. 5 stone!!!! That is truly incredible. Huge congrats to you, and lovely to see you.

bloody hell pinions, what an acheivement...

thanks mmk, not quite 5 stone, but you've gotta start somewhere, lol

I have realised that I've pretty much been on here all day, i have done other stuff but 'puters been on all day and I keep popping back

sbs so glad your dad is improving
having a dreadful day - t has been screaming on and off since early afternoon, was like this last night as well

Elkie

Maybe this is my way of making myself feeling better but I don't think children growing up hearing their parents row is THAT bad (so long as it is not all day, every day and peppered with swear words and mudslinging). I think kids need to know that everyone has bad days, people do argue and for the most part people do patch things up. Seeing conflict AND resolution are good things imo.

Sometimes when parents wait until the kids go to bed and their is an atmosphere and bad feeling all day, I don't think that is particularly healthy or a good message for kids either.

Don't be too hard on yourself, we do want what is bet for our kids but we are also human!!!!

yeah my parents always went for the loaded silences and pointed comments type arguments, just made me worry more

sh*t he's awake again and after we just got ihm to sleep
Pinions good to see you back, it's Katy btw x

Oh SPB, sorry you are having a tough time with T. Any clue as to what is up?

I am feeling stressy for the stupid reason that we have changed K's routine a bit. Dh thinks I am ridiculous!!

Off to bed for an early night.

See you lovelines in the morning. xx

Medised??

Sound like a drug pusher!!!

BOO

Pesha is home safely, I think we had a fab weekend but you'll have to check that with her

Glad to hear it!
DH has rocked him back to sleep
He doesn't seem to be teething, can't feel any, don't know if it's the famous catch-all growth spurt (sleepsuits getting a bit tight on the feet again,, will have to get him some 6-9 ones).
Last night we gave him calpol and he settled immediately after it, (before it had even reached his tummy ) tonight we've just walked him about, hopefully this is the end of it
ramble over, sorry

hi folks!
sleepbaby - glad to hear that yr dad is on the mend. i didnt realsie you were headig back to work so soon! good on dp for makign that choice to go back to education!
eddas- hope it all goes ok for 2morro and work - let us know how you get on.
pillock / pesha - glad you had a nice weekend. any pics?? and pillock - juicy details on the date????????????
pinions - well done you on the weight loss. is that 5 stone since the baby was born??????????????????????
sol - gald b's moth is better. what changes have you introduced to k's routine??
spb - how is t now?? its hard when they have off days / times.
ooggs - glad the mummy pop worked its magic.
elkie - poor u. u sound stressed at the mo. love th image of you dancing with d to the worst tunes!!

sorry if i have forgottenother s but needless to say - i hope that everyone is ok and we all have a chilled week ahead.

can i ask - how many people are in/ on a routine?? i kinda feel we are flying by the seat of our pants / nappies. we dont have set times for things and i feel like we are the only ones around that seem to playing it by ear? i think we do ok most of the time and given that we are out and about most of ever day - i dont hav the first idea how we woudl get a routine going with set times. any of you managing htis and wiling to share ideas???

asleep
I am on the w(h)ine
No, no routine here, only what he chooses to do regularly. In the last week or so I've been thinking about it and I can see some sort of routine emerging in the mornings:
5am - feed (sometimes, sometimes not)
7am - wake
7.30am - feed
9.30am - feed and sleep
...and I'm still working on the afternoons!
(all those times can be half an hour or an hour or so either way, sometimes the sleep is 10 minutes, sometimes an hour and a half)
He tends to go to bed anywhere between half 8 and half 9 unless we have people over, in which case it's later. It's been a good few weeks, maybe a couple of months since he's woken more than once in the night for a feed.
Oh, and he usually handily poos in the morning, at which point I bath him! If he doesn't he can be waiting all day for a bath!

Yeah and pinions I meant to say 5 stone!!! So impressed and

Had a really good weekend, loved it! Have some great pics of d and j that ill post tomorrow. Am totally knackered tho so off to bed now that d's fallen asleep.

Wo, I never had a routine with dd she just kind of made her own one. With ds, he's sort of fallen in with dd's routine. I don't think you NEED one. If you are happy without one then stick to that.

SBS, missed you from previous posts am v impressed with dh going back to studying, it takes so much to do it once you've left. Hope your dad continues wll with his recovery. Good luck going back to work. Sure sounds like a very busy and changing time for you.

Hi to everyone i've missed, which is a lot of people as per usual. I do struggle with more than one post at a time

Pillock, did M have a good birthday?