April 2007 - new thread for GMM

[StealthPolarBear]

Hello!

Hi everyone
Before I catch up, just to let you know CaptainDippy is having internet problems, she's fine, says hello and hopes to have them sorted soon

oh WCL sorry you're having a rough time.
right back soon, feedy time

morning! Pesha, i think i might do that survey thing, quite like filling in forms etc

I joined mums opinions which gives you money for completeing surveys. IT's only £1-2 for each one but there's a few rewards you can choose, everytime I get to £10 I get £10 worth of Tesco vouchers. here

I weighed myself this morning, should've waiting til tomorrow but couldn't But I lost 6lbs so pleased with myself hope this carries on as i REALLY want to lose weight.

eddas thanks for the link - have registered!

Morning. Thanks Eddas. I have also registered. They are going to be inundated!!

I hardly ever fit whatever profile surveys are looking for, too old I think! But I might have a look at that one.

WCL, sorry to hear you had a row with your friend. I don't know what you'd like to happen but whatever, I hope it does.

I'm pretty angry and upset as not very d at the moment p has just stomped out of the house after shouting and swearing at me for the 2nd time today. The first time was at 7 am this morning when he shouted at me to "get a fucking grip" and soon afterwards called me a bitch and said our relationship was over and he doesn't want to go on holiday. We sort of patched that row up and I tried to get back to sleep, but by 8 am it was a bit late to try and get back after being woken at 6.

He has his way of doing things and refusing to take any notice of suggestions I make on some things no matter what the logic. I find it irritating that sugar and coffee are always scattered across the kitchen work surface (and he wonders why flies get in) but that's really trivial. However, both rows today have been caused by me saying something about very small things which I would prefer him doing differently for the safety of our baby.

I really really really hate D seeing and hearing us shout at each other. I don't want him to grow up with this fighting. I feel really terrible about him.

oh elkie, sounds horrible I have to say I go nuts over small things, dh just kinda looks, and walks away, he knows i'll shut up after a minute or two! I hate arguing in front of dc's too but it's so hard not to sometimes. Do you think you will sort it all though in the end?

I've joined yougov! i'm a ucker for filling in questionnaires and forms

I've just spoken to a woman from work and she says everything's changing atm so wasn't sure what the boss will say. Mind you they HAVE to take me back if I do all the hours, don't they? BUT i guess they could get me on the not working them all in the office/not being suitable for them on the flexible working hours front? I was doing 2 full days. I'm now going to ask for 3 afternoons(1-5, so 12 hours) and want to do the other 3 hours from home. I'll set aside a specific evening each week and DH will make sure I do it! I'm normally pretty crap but DH will help til I get used to it. Better than working everynight in Tesco!

Oh why couldn't we have thought of all this on thursday so I could ring my boss!!!!!!!![impatient]

sucker not ucker

oh elkie
feel free to vent here, really hope you can both clear the air, it's horrible fighting

He's back and has said he wants to make up but I don't know. I think we will sort it out this time but it's that it happens so often and today's just more extreme. D has just cried his eyes out as well, and however much we talk about his teething I feel that it's because he picked up on the vibes around. And I feel like crap mummy again.

elkie, you are not a crap mum, trust me. we all have times we think we are but we're not i'm sure.

Can you talk it through with dh when D has a nap? Are you able to both talk about everything that you don't like and just clear the air? It always helps me and dh.

Like SPB says always come and chat/vent here as we're here to help each other

elkie obviously I don;t know you but unless you are very different to how you appear on here you are NOT a crap mum. You think about things and worry far too much to be considered a bad mum.
Yes, it's not good to argue around babies but it can't be helped - everyone does it (well apart from people who hire nannies ) and it's not that bad either. As Eddas says can you have a proper discussion where you both explain hat winds you up and how you can both make the situation better for all of you? Would you consider counselling if you feel that the situation is at the point where it would help?

sorry that both makes it sounds like I'm getting at you..I'm not, just meaning you both work on the same side...I'll shut up now

dts slept 6.30pm - 4am then after both feeding went 4.30am - 7.45am

so why do I feel so crap? I went into town with dts this morning and they screamed whilst dh stayed home with ds1 and cooked a lovely roast dinner. Everywhere I went I saw mirrors and I feel and look awful - didn't even have time to dry my hair before Iw ent out and I looked a mess I have no time to do anything for myself. I need new clothes and have vouchers from birthday to pay for them, I look so tired and haven't worn make up since pre pregnancy.

dh has just got both of them to sleep in their cots during the day - unheard of normally - why don't I have the patience to do that? I feel so angry and worked up and period isn't even due so can't blame that. I keep taking it out on kids - no their fault.

I feel out of control - I can't blieve I have just typed this

oh dear oogggs Does it make you feel any better to write it down? Don;t be too hard on yourself, you have 3 dc's who are all very young it's no wonder you don't have any patience. Is there anyone who can have the dcs for you one day so you can go shopping alone? It's so hard, can I give you a {{hug}}

spb and Eddas, thanks for the messages. Eddas, hope you get the working hours that you want agreed.

All's ok here now, I'm just panicking a bit about packing. Still, I've gone through the underwear drawer and my situation there is better than I thought, I think I can manage matching undies through the holiday

D's tired and teething, I do think he was upset by the fighting but he's had some very happy giggly spells this afternoon interspersed with the grizzles, but grizzles that he can be cuddled and distracted out of. We've also been watching the Top 100 Worst Songs on one of the music channels, and dancing to some of them with him.

Hi all.

Elkie, I am so sorry you have had a run in with (d)p and hope that you have managed to smooth things over a bit. I know it feels awful rowing in front of D, but he is too young I am sure to be aware of it, and I am sure it doesn't happen often. Also, there is no way you are a crap mum.

I hate rowing in front of B which is what happened yesterday. I ended up crying and B came over and gave me a hug and kiss. I felt so awful.

Oogggs, you sound so pissed off. A massive great hug to you. Sounds to me as if you are doing a grand job and today is just a blip. Can someone take the dt's so you can go off and get some new clothes?

Hi to everyone else.

All ok here. 2 tired dc's and crap weather. B's mouth has healed really well thankfully. Started K on solids today and are going to stick to it. Just tiny amounts to get her used to it.

Better head. See you later. x

oooggs, don't feel bad. You must be really tired, it takes more than one night's reasonable sleep to fix that.

I always look a mess, not the one to ask on that, but does the shop you have vouchers for have a website? Even if you can't use the vouchers there or need to try things on, you might get an idea whether they'd have the kind of thing you're looking for.

As for patience, your dh isn't looking after all 3 dcs all day on his own. It's only occasionally that I get D to have a nap in his cot, more often than not I rely on the pram to get him to sleep, or he dozes on my lap or on the playgym.

has anyone else's dc's become attahced to anything? I fear ds is becoming attached to a blanket[rolls eyes] he falls asleep pretty much instantly you put it over his tummy and against his face(when he's sleepy obv) DD hasn't so far attached herself to anything. Lukily though the blanket of choice is a £3 primark number, but is very snuggly, I tried it out when ds seemed to get so comfy with it

Eddas, thank f you mentioned blanket! B has had a favourite blanket from as far back as I can remember, and I had forgotten that I had washed it. Ruddy thing is now in the drier as still damp, so bed time delayed!

Hi Luce. What is the thread title you have started??

Hi folks,

Oooggs, sorry to hear you're feeling like this - I can't blame you with such young kids and DH doing shifts etc. I feel as if I always make an effort that the kids look nice, wear nice clothes etc then go out looking a mess myself.

It's six months in and frankly I think a lot of us are very underappreciated. We deserve spa days, diamonds....f*ckit - even a lie in would be nice.

WO did you get my email about the sleeping bags? I think my yahoo account is playing silly buggers. I didn't get Lucewheels email with the pics either.

sok, is it all sorted now?B in bed yet? I think ds will become attached to this one too, he actually gets excited when you put it on him, bless. I have 2 atm and he doesn't mind either. I will be getting a few more to rotate in so hopefully if he does get attahced he will have any of them!

that should be sol of course not sok, got so used to writing SOKL i missed off the wrong letter