August/ September 2019 babies #2

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Thread number 2 for our August / September 2019 due date babies.

DS is having a regression on nighttime sleep since moving over to combi - seems to want to wale at 1am whereas before would always go through until 3am...

Ouch, Dyra! They do know how to make us suffer!

Oh Dyra, hope you managed to get some sleep today. My worst ever parenting moment was when DD had a gastro bug while DH was on a work trip and then I caught it. Longest days of my life.

We're in the no sleep club too. He was fairly happy, but wide awake nearly all night. And now has a rising temp despite calpol, has been asleep all afternoon and his last nappy was bone dry. Seeing the doctor later, DD and I have both had high temps all day too and I am counting down until DH gets home.

We've been hit with no sleep too! I thought it might be teeth cos calpol seemed to help a little but today she has a slightly raised temp so unsure! So tired though, feels like the newborn stage again but with less support around to help with the toddler!

Ouf, get well soon @Stroan and @dyra! Grimness all round!

We have a tooth starting to appear and have just had half an hour of heartbreaking tears until the nurofen kicked in

Oh ive name changed again btw lol its decaf

Thanks everyone. ❤️

Alice is fine, occasional spot of diarrhea in her nappy still, but feeding well and frequently. I'm decidedly on the mend, and DH is... getting there. Hopefully this never happens in the same way again. We'd have been ok if one of us was healthy, but with both of us near incapacitated? Never again.

I did get some sleep in the end. While Alice was daytime napping on me, I was also dozing on the sofa. Didn't want to, but I needed something. Hopefully the cot strike is now over, and normal sleep patterns (such as they are) can resume.

Hope DS (and yourself and DD) are ok @Stroan. Also hoping your DD is feeling more herself now @Littlehouseinthebigcity.

Oh no! Your poor little guy @THATscurryfungeBITCH.

Well that's a positive @dyra. Hope everyone makes a full recovery pronto!

Shame about the tooth years @THATscurryfungeBITCH :(

Worried about Arthur. He seems fine and happy enough but head only feeding for 25mins ALL DAY. Like he was never a big eater and always just feeds for 3 or 4 minutes at a time but he'd usually make it about 40mins in total. Surely he can't be getting enough over 25mins in the whole day???
It does tie in with weaning although he isn't eating too much then either.

I think I read somewhere, that as babies get bigger, they feed much more efficiently, so they spend less time feeding. Tbh, so long as Arthur's putting on weight, I wouldn't be worried.

Cot strike seems to be back on. Alice managed to sleep in it for about an hour before waking for a feed. But every time I try to put her down (fed to sleep) she wakes up immediately and starts crying. I don't want to just leave her to cry it out, but I'm so tempted to switch off all the monitors and to do just that. I'm so tired.

@dyra thanks that makes me feel better. He is putting on weight although pretty slowly I'd say. We had my cousins baby round a few days ago and she is 8 weeks old but loads heavier.

Re Alice's sleep have you tried white noise? It works wonders for Arthur. Sometimes starting it up reasonably loud then slowly reducing the noise level helps. I'm not keen to leave a loud noise on close to him so I try to switch it off but if he needs it on I try to keep it at the most minimum level. Sometimes I just keep it on for the duration of a nap. The baby+ app has different whitenoise sounds. Arthur has a favourite...hairdryer. works every time pretty much! Good luck.

So sorry for late reply everyone, thanks so much for your advice re jobs and sleeping. Things seem much improved since I started going with the flow more, not expecting him to sleep through & just accepting we will have good and bad nights. Trying to see the night feeds as some bonus time with him before I have to get up for work even though he's asleep really & barely aware I'm there hope everyone with poorly little ones is doing ok.

Weaning wise we are having success with the puree but very hitty missy how much he will take. Again just going with the flow. Puke definitely minimised if I give it separately to a milk feed but this way feels like I'm feeding him ALL day scared to proceed to the lumpy textures - had one that gagged all the time and another who took it it like duck to water so we shall see! X

@Dyra that sounds tough. Maybe she's still a little poorly so a bit more clingy and it'll pass. I second white noise. Stars on the ceiling/projector? Also keep popping her in her cot for a play in the day so she learns to like it again then hopefully that will progress to sleeping in it?

@Dyra no advice I'm afraid but you are not alone! Catherine has always been a pretty good sleeper but the last two nights she has cried every time she's been put down in the crib! It's exhausting. We are keen not to cosleep but she's ended up in our bed both nights for my sanity

Thanks everyone (again). ❤️ March has definitely not gotten off to the best start. Sorry I've been such a moaner about it all. I'm ever more in awe of you ladies doing this with one or more other children underfoot. No idea how you cope.

Anyway, after a couple more failed attempts at the cot, I got Alice's Moses basket back out. Still took 2 attempts to settle her in it, but at least she did sleep. The next feed, she went into her cot. I think she was so tired, whatever causes her to wake up wasn't enough to force her out of sleep. The feed after that, I put her back into her basket. Partly because I needed more sleep, and it seems the basket is more of a guarantee. And partly because if she was in the room, and didn't sleep, DH could damn well get up to wrangle her for a bit.

Going to keep persevering with the cot. Just going to believe this sleeping blip is the result of her illness and won't be long term.

@Horehound Is your HV happy about his weight gain? If they are, I wouldn't be overly worried.

There's such enormous disparity between baby weights. One of my NCT group baby's was heavier at birth than Alice was at 5 weeks old. I think it was a few weeks more before she reached his birth weight! At baby groups, you'd never be able to tell Alice was one of the oldest babies there if you just went by size.

@dyra well I'm not too sure cause he seems to have dropped percentile recently and she hasn't been due to visit. I did call and left a message but not had a reply yet. But he actually had a good feed today so maybe he just wasn't feeling great before. I'm just going to carry on as I was.

@horehound I would only worry if it was a sustained change in feeding or if he wasn't getting wet nappies. DS is so efficient now, he can feed well in a few minutes and goes longer between feeds.

Thanks @stroan deffo plenty wet nappies. Not many poops but I think he's just saving them up for me at the moment

@dyra glad your well in the mend.

Nate not loving the cot either. Just constantly rolls onto his belly and cries at me. Have even tried sticking a pillow on my head as so desperate for sleep. Gave in as felt evil and he slept in bed with me. He is my most shocking sleeper. Would have remembered if my girls were like this.

Thanks @Geegrl19. Really sorry to hear Nate is still so bad at night. I genuinely have no idea how you're still functioning and back to work on top of it all. Huge kudos to you superwoman.

Unfortunately, we also had a bad night last night. 😞 Even the Moses basket didn't work. I feel so pathetic that I've found it so hard going when it's only been a few nights. Especially as I know I don't really have it all that bad. The HV even rang out of the blue to check up on us as well. Far too coincidental, so me thinks DH had a hand in that. Sweet of him. Just going to persevere and repeat a mantra of "tonight will be better".

In more positive news, Alice did her first back to front roll the other day. 😊 I missed it as I had my back to her at the time, but DH saw it. Made his day.

Not long until Mother's Day now. Any plans being made on your behalf ladies?

How old is your little one @Geegirl? Absolute sympathy from me, it's awful when you feel so tired. What have you tried so far, I'll see if I can think of anything. This baby is also my worst sleeper out of the 3, it's crazy how they can all be so different. We have had some better night's though this week - not sure if it's age (6.5 months now), the fact that he's over a bug now, the fact that he's on solids or (more than likely) a fluke and it'll all change, especially when I start work and his routine goes to pot but if there's anything I can think of that will help I will xx

Just a lie in will do me for mother's Day @Dyra 😂

@Spongeb0b Nate is six months now. He actually slept really well last night. Bed at 8 and awake for feed at 3.30 then 6.30 and settled between. Totally manageable and complete opposite to the previous night. I'm just resigned to the fact that his sleep is a physiological development and will happen at some point and until then I'll just put him in bed with me. I try to pat back to sleep and pop his dummy back in but if he's not in the zone he's not having it. He rolls onto his belly and cries. I always have white noise on, a lovely thunderstorm sound. Don't think I'd be able to sleep without it now 😊

I'm hoping once food is more established he might settle a bit better 🤔 I can dream!

How long till you're back at work now?

@Geegrl19 Glad To hear you had a better night last night! And also gives me a bit of hope because we've now had four pretty rubbish nights where I've seen almost every hour on the clock and she's ended up in our bed so I will cling onto the fact of but it might change again

@Geegrl19 excellent news you had such a good night last night. I always think even just one night is a sign of good things to come. DS slept from 7 until 5 last night and then back to sleep in my bed until 7, this is the best night we've had since pre Christmas and pre 4 month sleep regression! I'm back to work in 2 weeks so really hoping this is us maybe on the way to sleeping through 🤞🤞🤞

No Mother's Day plans here but also hoping for a lie in!