from now on I will be taking Pesha's advice and doing as the thread title says
I'm pmsl at the Telegraph writer and her "cold fish" quote, which was, of course, a comment made in jest to Cod, but obviously she didn't know that and has quoted it seriously
Well, anyone free on Spetember 9th?
I had planned to have Matthew's birthday party and Joe's baptism on the same weekend to make it easy for the family that would have to travel to be here (namely fran (formerly known as M.U.M. and sis). Then sis came up last week so I really didn't expect her to come again, as much as I would really have liked her to. But as fran had been invited in May I kinda expected her to be coming. Sis went home today. Skott rings me tonight, he thought I should know that the Swindon people won't be coming up as that weekend is graham's parents golden wedding anniversary (my mums new husband). so rather than texting or calling me, my sis has told my brother.
I ring fran to get it straight from her. "well i didn't know it was that weekend, i don't remember being invited, if i had remembered i'd have rung you to say i couldn't come". cheers. that means so much to me. she said they have to go to the anniversary party, i said no, he has to go, she could make her grandsons her priority, "no, we as a family have to be there, as do sis and bil".
oddly enough this upset me rather, so now people who are not blood relations are more important than me and the boys.
then she starts on how i didn't want her to bring the dog to the party last year (i have pet chickens ffs ) and how when she got here there was no food left (she was an hour late and i cooked some just for her when she got here), so it's my fault and why would she want to come anyway.
by now i'm bawling my eyes out (i had already done this on phone to gran between skott telling me and fran returning my call). she says they'll come up another weekend. i tell her not to bother and put phone down.
ring gran back, can hardly speak for tears. gran tells me to pack a bag and stay there tonight.
so i did.
except that I left Joe with her and went out to meet a friend for a drink (I needed a break) and then thought I'd nip in here on the way home so I could tell you all what had happened and pick up the hugs I knew you'd have sent me even tho I don't do hugs, but I secretly really needed )
so there you have it. I give up. I've tried to forgive and forget her walking out on me, adopting two other girls, continually doing things to upset me. This time she has gone too far. This I cannot get past.
so instead of having the baptism the weekend I was to suit her, I will now plan it for the weekend that suits us.
so back to my original question, does anyone think they might be able to come to Suffolk for 9th September?
only I need all the friends there I can!
(however, gran did tell me tonight that the fostering agency have turned fran down, so that pleased me rather )