February 2019 babies - thread 2

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New thread, ladies!

@Since2016 she's BF and in a side crib. It seems like i get three hours to start with and then an hour a go. The room is around 20 degrees. It's really hard to get it any cooler than that

This thread just popped up in active threads and I recognised it lol. I hope you all and your little ones are doing well xxx

Hi @AliceRR! Probably a silly question but how are you doing? X

I’m ok @maxiflump1, thanks for asking

I have bad days but we are in our new house now and we love it here. It’s in a really nice place with lots of greenery and a nice garden. DH left his job (his boss told him to “man up” when he was struggling two weeks after baby died so that contributed to him leaving) so we’re both enjoying some time together and he’s loving being in the garden and growing veg in the greenhouse 🍅

We’re thinking about TTC again so maybe there is a healthy baby for us in the not too distant future (I hope) but Ruby will always be our first and big sister

I really hope you are all well. I do think of you all and was thinking of finding your thread so was pleased it popped up today xx

@AliceRR you have been in my thoughts 😘 your strength is so admirable. Sounds like some time together is what you needed. Just a shame your husbands boss had to be so wicked for it too happen hey. Im speechless xx

@Notquiteagandt Thank you x Yes his boss was a tw*t. Despite an initial “take all the time you need” text they made it clear he was expected back after w. DH was then struggling to concentrate on reading emails etc (understandably). He was given a month sick note but wouldn’t use it and chose to discuss with his boss instead. Boss told him “man up” and “you need more steel”! He worked til about mid April as he had a big trial to deal with but he’s now taking some time off x

he was expected back after 2 w (pat leave) I mean

@AliceRR I have been thinking about you lots over the last few months and am in awe of have brave you are. Can't believe how your DH was treated but pleased that it's meant you can have some time together. I hope when you start TTC you fall quickly and have a happy healthy pregnancy and birth.

Ps I also see from other threads you're a new game of thrones fan! Can't wait for the next episode!!

@AliceRR. I’m so glad that you are enjoying your new home. Your DH boss sounds awful so I can understand why he left. Sure he will find something else soon (with a much more compassionate boss) but pleased that he is enjoying gardening in the meantime. Have been thinking about you both lots over the last few weeks and completely in awe of how brave and strong you have been. I hope that once you decide to TTC that you fall quickly and have a beautiful healthy baby in your arms. A little baby that I’m sure would make Ruby proud as a big sister xx

@maxiflump1 @bubblybrit You’re very kind. I don’t think I’m that brave really. We just got dealt the short straw this time around and have to carry on!

So excited for GOT tonight 🙂 I actually only started watching it after I went on mat leave and then had to quickly catch up with DH in time for season 8!

XX

DD now weighs enough to enable us to make use of the pile of sleeping bags that were kindly bough for her. Just wondering is short sleeved vest, babygro and 2.5 tog sleeping bag is ok for a room that fluctuates between 17-18 degrees overnight?

We were using blankets initially as DD was a little on the small side to safely use the sleeping bags gifted. However she keeps wriggling at night and ends up with no covers on her. Don’t want her getting cold so last night was the first time we had used the sleeping bag....now worried that she might be too warm or not warm enough?

What do you guys do?

@AliceRR - I have no words for DH boss! He's certainly better off somewhere else!

I'm also a GOT fan. We moved house recently and still don't have WiFi so had to go to my mum's to download it. Me and hubby watched last week's episode on the iPad lol. Going to do exactly the same today!

@bubblybrit - I put my lg in vest, baby grow and a 2tog sleeping bag. Room is approx 19 and she seems comfortable in this x

@Yakadee We moved here end of March and I downloaded GOT at parents’ too 😬 If you’re not sorted yet I recommend NowTV and NowTV broadband. We pay something like £30 for the fastest broadband and we get the Sky entertainment package free for 6 months which I think is quite good.

@AliceRR - that does sound good. We have nowtv just no Internet 😩😩

It should be done on Friday x

Thanks @Yakadee. She did seem ok overnight - checked the room temp and it was just under 18 degrees.

Argh! I'm a season and a half behind on GoT, but just can't find time or inclination to sit in front of the TV. I'm going to be spoiled sooner or later!

Question for anyone who has babies on regular medicine... any tips for taking some out and about? The bottle we've got is glass and huge, so don't want to cart it around in the change bag, but if we're out all day I'm late giving it.

DD still not sleeping more than 4 hours at 12 weeks, although she was two weeks early. So desperate for her to sleep for longer :(

Been struggling with my PND and now have a cold, I dread getting up every morning. We’ve managed to do some nice things this weekend but I’m so exhausted I’m finding it harder and harder to be smiley and positive and push myself to do what I need to do for her. I just want half a day to myself. We split the nights so I also hardly get anytime with DH and I’m usually irritable and snappy with him. I resent all the time he gets on his own when he’s working whereas unless I’m asleep I’m with her. He wants to wait to put her into childcare 1 day a week because he finishes a project soon but it still means that I’m basically with her half the day before he gets out of bed so I still don’t really get a break.

My mum has offered to come and help but she doesn’t stay with us and she has issues with sleep and general weirdness/OCD so even if she comes I don’t see her until midday, by which point I’ve been up 7 hours and have gone out so that wouldn’t give me much of a break either. She’s great at cleaning but doesn’t cook at all, so the things we really need help with aren’t massively helped by her coming up.

I don’t know how to get a break. I get so angry that DH just books hair appointments for himself and work meetings out of town and just takes that time whereas I can’t get a moment to myself because there’s nothing I have to do and anytime I take to myself stops him working.

I’m really hating it to be honest. She’s so sweet and lovely but I hate how I feel and I hate that I’m never alone. Maybe if she ever sleeps more than 4 hours we might get to spend some time together and time alone too, but it feels like it will never happen.

@powkin I really feel for you. I'm also struggling with feeling that I can't do anything for myself. I haven't brushed my hair for two days! DH does take LO when he can but she's been quite fussy lately and rejects the bottle. Any time I do get has to be napping ready to take LO again. I've been planning some stuff for the future and that's making me feel better. Like joining a mummy and baby Yoga class and a sensory play group. Even joining a board game night just me once a month (hopefully starting next Tuesday)

@powkin is there no way either your DH or mum could have your DD one afternoon next weekend so that you can have some time off?? Maybe just meet a friend for coffee, wander round the shops or go and get your hair/nails done? Obviously depends on if your breastfeeding but even a few hours would be something. When my first was 3 months old my DH paid for me and my mum to have a half day at a spa whilst he stayed at home with baby and it was an amazing few hours. Yes your DH needs to work but you need some time out too

Agree that you need to get some time for yourself. I had my first night out on Sat since baby was born - was just a meal out and then pub with the ladies from my antenatal group, but was such a boost! DP was left with plenty of expressed milk and when I got home at the heady heights of 10pm, baby E was fed, changed, massaged and in bed. I felt like myself again!

I also find the key is not to 'ask' partners for 'help'. It's not helping when it's their baby - it's parenting. If I need a break, I just hand her over to DP and say 'I'm going to take an hour or two to read' and off I go, close the door and leave them to it.

@mummymummymummummum keen to know to. Atm we just take the bottles. Not thought of alternituve way so keen to make mary poppins bag bit lighter too.

@powkin sorry you are suffering. I think sleep deprevation cant help. Have you told your dh how you feel? And what youve said here. I hear you onwanting sometime alone. I think its only normal to struggle to adjust at times

So we have ended up in hospital. Very poorly baby who just wouldnt settle or stop crying naturally is good as gold now amd sleeping best she ever has 🙄 her reflux been slighy better affer a horrific week of it. But they have kept us in for obsivation.

mummymummy notquite for ranitadine I take a pre filled syringe in a small tupperware container. You could sterilise it if you wish but I don't. Have done this for both DC. If you only have one oral syringe you can by them on Amazon or at the pharmacy so you can take more than one dose out for the day.

Powkin to be frank your DH sounds like part of the problem. Great that he's doing half the night time but you need to make it clear to him that you need a break during the day otherwise he won't think to offer. Unfortunately it's hard spending time as a couple with a new baby but being ships that pass in the night isn't forever. Yours and baby's wellbeing needs to come first so prioritise sleep and getting yourself a break over spending alone time with DH.

Notquite oh dear what do they think is bothering her? Hope hope she's better today and you get home soon.

@sunday38 ah good idea. Might try that. Shes on a few diff things so id need to work out how to label 🤔 I have so many syringes now I try to sterilise them to reuse them.

And they arent sure. Combo severe reflux, fever possibly from infection or reaction her needles. She has dodgey kidneys though so they always worry a little more when shes poorly incase water infection.

Keep us on our toes these babies dont they.

Those on ranitidene are you seeing any improvement? Im really not sure its helping. Infact think may even be making it slightly worse 😞

@sunday38 That's a good idea. I might have a look and see if I can find a sensible sized tub in town today.

@Notquiteagandt A couple of days in I thought the Ranitidine was really helping. But the sick started flowing again! I'm going to reserve judgment until I get her weighed again, as that's the important thing.

We've also got an appointment to have her tongue tie reviewed this week. It was snipped at 11 days old, but there's been no improvement with her latch. She doesn't open her mouth very much, so literally just sucks the tip of my nipple. It doesn't hurt me, but I'm concerned that she's not able to finish feeds.

She'd dropped two centile lines at her 9 week check last week, so finally got listened to on both potential issues!

Sorry to hear you're in hospital @Notquiteagandt. Hope you get some answers soon and can go home.