JUNE 07...Starting thread!

[nannyjo]

Well i think i was the frist to 'pop' from the due in june thread so i thought it was about time we started the post-natal thread.

DS2 is 2 weeks on monday I had him 4 weeks early due to induction for OC. Everything is going really well and i think things are finally starting to settle down (i hope i haven't just spoken too soon!!)

He is really suffering with colic though and were getting about 4 hours sleep a night on average and with a 2.5 year old there is no chance of catching up in the day, but i shouldn't complain as i'm lucky to have got two wonderful boys. Thats it now NO MORE!!!!!9smile0

I know a few other june mums have had their babies so it would be lovely to hear from you to see how you are all getting on (when you get the chance )

hey
I always wondered, when you go to a BF cafe, how can you count on the fact that your baby will need to feed at that very moment? I always avoided going because I thought I'd miss the feeding window. Of course it's moot now as I'm FF this one but just wondered

Oh Daisy you sound like such a friendly person in RL I'm sure you'll have no probs talking to people! Just smile and ask 'so how old is your little one?' ... that is the universal convo starter amongst we mums I think

I'm having pasta for tea also. If I can only figure out how to use a leek...

mmmm chopped fine and sauteed with butter and tarragon?

Sliced and served with a cheese (and ham) sauce.

LOL Lilkel, my LO always wants feeding, so no worries on that score, but IKWYM. It shouldn't be that hard to make new friends really should it! As you say, babies are great ice-breakers.

obviously the leeks need to be sauteed!

My main leek worry was - how much of the dark green bit can you use? - am so I even have to ask this!

If it weren't for my LO's, I'd have NO RL friends at all here in London! Really they are like magic friend-makers. Which is amazing considering that they suck all your strength, beauty, and brains - guess we just find comfort in other (like minded and fatigued!) women!

ROFL lilkel, i too have NO IDEA what to do with a leek!!! i hate leeks though so don't really need to know.

I am tired and depressed
tiredness does me no favours

Its hard, isn't it?

TA....i'm sure your doing a great job.

talk to us!

Just feel a bit worn out, I have had my sister here all day so I couldn't grab any zzzz, plus she is hard work and insisted on holding Sullivan for the whole time she was here which cocks up his routine a bit.

And I am ok most of the time but of an evening I start to feel really down in the dumps and I doubt myself and my abilities and feel resentful. But the rest of the day I feel good.

Hoping it just tiredness/hormones, otherwise I don't deserve such a little angel

Oh and she calls up my mum after she leaves slagging me off saying I am not 'caring' enough because I don't hold him all day every day. It's true, I don't, but what about all the women that have more than one? Do THEY hold LO all day every day, singing, rocking, cuddling all day? I doubt it... so why am I a bad mother? (Yes that phrase has been used as well).

I feel bad. He has terrible nappy rash, breaks my heart

Helloooo Baby Blues! its perfectly normal and natural, and just means the adrenaline has worn off and exhaustion has set in.

Any visitors hold the baby, you go and have a long soak. Don't think you are a host, you are a knackered new mum. They make you tea.

Never, ever think you have to do anymore than you are doing for you and the baby.

How many children does she have?

you should have turfed her out. I'm that she wasn't more sensitive and left you to your routine.

i blame bloody unrealistic soap operas and crap slebs making people think that you can have a baby one day and be back on your feet the next...

I wondered if it was baby blues foxy. I am only like it in the evening though, so presumably I am at my most tired then.

She has no kids. She is 40 and having IVF but has been told she has zero chance really. I think that's one of the things that makes it hard, she desperately wants a baby and probably feels I am undeserving.

I don't feel very sorry for her though TBH, she made a lot of questionable life choices about 10 years ago which screwed up her body.

sweets, don't feel bad about the nappy rash. em is constantly sore as she poos all the bloody time. I'm sure she does it five minutes after being put down, no matter how long i leave it waiting for one.

get some metanium and let him kick his legs up bare arsed for a bit....they love that and the fresh air will help!

can your dh take over for a bit so you can get some sleep. this will pass, you'll get a decent stretch of sleep soon and feel like a new woman

Hi Daisy
We had some bare arse time today, it certainly helps doesn't it.

I have been using sudocream but I'll try this other one. It's so horrible as his little face gets so screwed up and he cries in pain every time he goes to the loo

He shits for england though, I daresay on account of the fact he is 5 days old and guzzling about 80ml of milk 6 times a day!

I've just written you a long post about your sis, and how similar she sounds to my older sister. But I deleted it because actually, you are a knackered new mum and don't need someone elses shit.

She hasn't been through this, she doesn't get it (much as she wants to). Its sad, but its not your problem.

I am SO impressed by you TA. I suspect that everyone else on here, like me, are proud of you for what you went through and how you handled it.

You are fragile and vulnerable right now. And fully in your rights to tell her to fuck off. I did with mine, didn't speak for a year, and actually, life was easier without her shit. We are very good friends now funnily enough.

I think everyone on here is doing brilliantly. And to be fair, I have it easy - I have a supportive husband and an easy baby by all accounts. I don't know how Daisy copes with more than one and a big sore and so on, or Pingu with her sleeping/feeding problems etc.
I can take no credit for my efforts when I hear what others are going through!

Sisters can be a pain, esp when they think they know it all or try to judge a life thay cannot understand.
I can't tell her to fuck off, she wasn't too bad today, but I tell you what, she puts a foot wrong and demon parental instincts will take over I can assure you

I called my mum today and asked her if we could go over there for a couple of days en-masse, including the pooch, she loves to spend time looking after DS and hopefully it will give me and DH time to find our feet.

I feel a bit guitly for whinging now - I have no problems really, just a bit of tiredness... but you girls have always been so supportive x

my sis introduced me to whisked up egg white....i've tried it before on DS and it works!!! a great standby for when you have no nappy cream to hand!

I think perhaps there's an element of jealousy going on there with your sister TA.....you'd think older = wiser, but unfortunatelty not always.

Don't feel guilty.

Good idea to go and see your mum for a couple of days. Give yourself a break, its hard enough.

Yes...go and get pampered for a few days.

sorry not much to offer here TA - my sis and I might as well be unrelated we're so different - my only thought is, perhaps my new DD doesn't need a sister herself as much as I like the sound of the idea....kinda puts the kabosh on the potential 4-LO family (2 of each!)

for you TA. i felt really low last week too, but it will pass, as Daisy said you really need some sleep which hopefully you will get at your mum's.
You're sister certainly sounds jealous which is understandable as you have a beautiful wee baby, but that's no excuse for slagging you off. (big meanie!!)
we all think the world of you and in the end that's what counts!!! who needs RL anyway?

oh meant to say, if nappy rash is really bad try just vaseline on his bottom for a couple of days, some babies are really sensitive to sudocrem. if you see a big improvement, put the sudocrem in the bin!